Lyubov

imagine saying "you traveling to get water" and you in the desert. western countries suck donkey balls for dating. it's a matter of opinion and value but from my POV and most warm blooded men would agree, we want feminine, beautiful women who follows us, not try to cuck us, I can't think of anything more demeaning to oneself than to grind self help stuff and try to make a shitty situation work when you could literally go abroad and not only find more women who are interested in you, but literally are 100000% more desirable in beauty, education and mannerisms. This kind of exposure to female energy and beauty transforms a man. You rethink your entire belief system about yourself. I'd fly to the moon if it meant getting out of a shitty environment. You think I have shame going abroad? That's like feeling bad about leaving gaza cause you want a safe place to live. The usa is shite for dating. My entire life is upgraded 10x fold. it takes bravery to take this leap to move abroad and learn a foreign language. you know how many guys are wasting their time watching videos in the OP and getting no where? work smart, not hard. It's called the path of least resistance. My standard is that of a Eastern European or Latina model now. I have an appreciation for beauty and intimacy, these women, especially the eastern euros are very well educated, and incredibly feminine, wellkempt (nails, hair, everything). I have no idea how that goes into defining whether I'm a man or not? Are you a monk? Do you sit in your crappy environment and try to just make peace with it? Fair enough but that's def not for me. I'm following my heart abroad and beyond. I'm writing this for any guy who is having thoughts about going abroad too. This is information most guys in the USA / UK if they read this post would change their life, hopefully guys in here can read it. DM me if you need any info on Russia or Brazil.

I'm talking logistics here. I love to travel so I would hope it would be online for example. I'm also OPEN MINDED to discovering new things and finding out I'm open to new lifestyles, so for example I have been open to the idea of doing something in nature to earn money. So by supports my lifestyle I mean I want it to support me while I travel. I don't want to have to go into an office ever or be tied down by my job to one place. My dream actually is to make travel content and content for youtube and earn money from anywhere making videos. I have a channel and over 10k followers but I still haven't figured out how to monetize it or build it in a direction that is creatively authentic and is set up in a way which supports my life and is adaptable.

You are valuable and whole already. I'm sorry you're having issues. Go take a break from this discussion. You'll find out one day that no one here, including me and including the owner (but especially me!) really hasn't any clue what they are talking about It's just some fun and it's good for book recommendations and complaining about how it's difficult to date as a man in 2024. The health forum also has some good advice. Find what's true for you and works for you and follow your flow. Whenever you wanna come back if the site is still up, I'm sure you will be welcomed back. Feel better bro

It's not really for me, but there are plenty of cool people who are new age and I do like to go to new age retreats sometimes. I'm just me, I try to avoid labels. I don't really like the new age label because I don't want to build into my identity that I'm all spiritual. I also generally don't like the aesthetic of it.

Drink what you like. Be you. I will say there are women though who do get suspicious when a man doesn’t drink, especially if they have had a boyfriend or two. Women are very picky and they wonder if the man is a recovering alcoholic. and when you been around a violent / reckless alcoholic you will know why they are so suspicious when a man doesn’t drink. For me, a drink or two is fine, but I don’t like to get drunk.

There’s many different ways to look at relationships and sex. Some people reach an age and stage in their development where they will choose to write these things off as less important to them. It’s always the old gurus and teachers who are less concerned with dating. I enjoy relationships, sex feels great, doorway to inner love (but not the only way), I see benefits in having great and honest relationships. Also for starting a family which I heard is incredibly rewarding and meaningful for many people. Do we place over importance on them relationship though? Yes. Find a balance that’s right for you.

You have a passport? Move to Latin America, Eastern Europe or a place like Bali or Thailand. Learn the language, make international friends. Start filming travel content and your journey and building an audience. Look for ways to get your work online. This is one of the best lifestyles that won't cost you so much $$$ if you value women and want sex with beautiful women in your life.

Man it isn't about value, I agree. I don't believe a man can earn value from another person. Every person is inherently valuable no matter what. Many of us do have a deep appreciation for loving relationships, sex, intimacy and beauty. I know it's easy to preach and try to just hit men over the head with this truth that women don't complete them. Fair enough. I try my best to live by what's true daily. Do I mess up sometimes and put my value in women? Sure. I recognize and correct that. I know what I desire and I want to have easy access to beautiful women who want to be with me and who we both are able to have fun, intimacy, and share ideas and do amazing things together like traveling. It's easy to tell people to find peace/value and connect with this peace that's always here but it's another thing if you are born in Gaza or Ukraine and to preach this to them. There's tons of great guys who simply aren't attracting anything in their life and I do believe environment plays a part, so change it. My tone in here has been childish and inflammatory, I will work on that. My sentiment about dating in the west being entirely too difficult and entirely against what I believe and my value system still stands. I don't see the point in doing all this self help grindy shit to get laid by women I don't see as feminine, beautiful or traditional.

I see myself as masculine enough, I disagree, and my direct experience goes against your assessment. I pull often and have no shortage of intimacy at hand, 3 year serious relationship ended recently. Sad, but onto the next. I don’t have to worry about whatever incel desert you’re in or having to watch boring videos in the OP in order to get laid. It’s like paying to breathe air. Things are great in Brasil. See you on the beach with the beautiful women if you get your passport.

You make some good points, fair enough. I know we all want to have fulfilling relationships that work with our belief systems and are in harmony with the rest of our lives. I don’t deny there were problems then with power imbalances in the “good old days.” I can’t say things are equal now either though. Maybe unfairness and injustice are just a natural feature of relationships we have to accept, ever changing. Because it is dishonest to say things are somehow better now. I’m tired of the feminist dialogue trying to play the victim and rewrite history as if every woman was suffering in their relationships then. There is no possible way to know things are somehow better now. It had it’s challenges then and men have their challenges now. Seeing how year in and year out more men are committing suicide, lonely, incels, twitch tv viewers, but men are told to suck it up and there isn’t an issue here. I’m pointing out its way better to date abroad for the majority of guys, and be desired for just being a normal fun guy on a continuous changing path of transformation. I’ve checked out. I’m not dating on western terms and no it’s not because I want a sex object. I want an actual feminine woman. Different powers but balanced and equal in harmony. Yin Yang ☯️ I am tired of seeing continuous info that this is “just a man problem” where they just need to hit the gym and better themselves. This is something everyone should be doing regardless. This is a society problem where things are now out of balance in the other direction.

I don’t want a mannequin. I want a woman that is reasonably traditional, beautiful and feminine. The USA does not have this anymore. The majority of women have strong feminist ideals and no longer see any value in having a man in their life. The new generation of men have been so gaslit there that they don’t even know what it’s like to actually be considered attractive and have a balanced chance at finding a woman. Those women who are conventionally beautiful, the vast majority have commodified it to such extreme degrees that they are all in Miami or NYC trying to get with some rich guy. This video is trying to help guys in these countries and what I’m saying it’s a waste of time. Digging for oil in all the wrong places. Not saying it’s impossible to find fulfilling romancing love in the USA anymore as a straight man, I would clear my field of beliefs and join a run club, and probably find someone pretty cute, but to me it’s not worth it if I can go elsewhere where the women look so much better and are way more interested in making themselves available. Their world view is actually built around this yin and yang for forming a man / woman team. This is no longer the case in the USA. The average woman in the USA is like the real-estate there. You have the most busted mediocre houses going for a million in some places. It’s madness. Economics and all the culture wars and ideas spread did this, the society has denigrated so much there’s really no going back. We are headed towards a world where only 10% of men will be stable and seen as able to start a family while the rest of the incel army works away providing labor to fuel the late stage capitalist hellscape, competing for the most mediocre women on earth. Meanwhile they could move to Argentina or Russia or Poland or a country like this and literally find a woman that would be a super model in the USA who I well educated, feminine, unbelievably beautiful and is very interested in getting married, and you can then work online like I do, get dollars and live a life in these places and basically have the dream that was shown to us growing up with a traditional family where everyone is in balance and harmony. Or should I be in the USA agreeing to letting my life partner open our relationship so they can have sex with someone else? Hell no, you guys can stay there and enjoy that crap Most men are fish that never been out of water there, especially gen z, so they have no idea what it’s like to be valued just for being a man and what this traditional type of environment inspires you to do with your life.

Nice hyperbole, nothing but beautiful traditional women in Russia Leo. Enjoy dating a man in a dress though, which is what is considered a woman now in the USA (no hyperbole needed)

I see it as silly garbage, but I enjoy shit like this sometimes just like I enjoy a bit of McDonalds every now and then.

You guys just need to leave these shit holes like the USA and UK. There is absolutely no reason to ever start a family there or date an American or British woman. Their values are completely incompatible with what men actually want in a woman and the only women guys actually want in these countries like USA have commodified their sexuality and time so much and want a materialist life so much that the average man has been priced out. Hoeflation. The women from these feminist countries aren’t even pretty. And the ones that are have so much power in the dating market the vast majority of men have turned into simps. It’s unbelievably sad and dark to see. We used to have men that knew how to date and could get a pretty girl. Never have I seen so many men struggling. It’s fucked up. Russia, Colombia, Brasil, throw in something from Asia. These are the places is where you find a wife. Throw in the rest of Eastern Europe and Venezuela too (but it’s not a safe place). Not these post feminist shit holes.

This. Life is about being responsible and using the law of attraction to create ones life aligned with one’s beliefs, desires and what is true.

I liked RFK because he seemed to be moving the discussion away from party politics and I liked that about him. Him giving an endorsement vindicates his original message. In my point of view it breaks his integrity. I respected his campaign originally and what little I knew about him because he actually seemed like a real alternative away from the political division. Him endorsing trump does a disservice to his original message.

If you’re true, you’re therefore then always right, so why not just be true?

That’s really long. Are you prepared for it? I used fasting to lose weight and change my life. I was doing 2-3 days at a time. I was kinda fat too. I would not eat for 1-2 days in a row then eat normally for a few then do 1 day without. I did this for 2-3 months. I wouldn’t do that 30 day thing unless you have really prepared and trained for this and are an expert. Just be careful. Tell us how it goes. With fasting a little goes a long way, at least for me. Try fasting 2 days a week for a month or two and just sticking to your normal commitments. Your whole life will change. You don’t need to go to extremes to make big life changes.

I’m learning from life that learning to live in one’s zone of genius, aligned with the god in them, to be at peace and to overall have those deep relationships we all want and have a really meaningful rewarding life… is not hard. It’s actually quite easy if we are able to clear the field of limiting beliefs and lies we have aligned ourselves with. And probably one of the most important aspects of this is having integrity. Really living with integrity and being honest from moment to moment. Use your emotions to tell you if something you’re doing is honest or not. It’s usually easy to differentiate the more you practice being honest and having integrity. Are the actions you taking dishonest? Are the things you are believing about yourself dishonest? Is what you are doing and saying honest? This is the way it really come back to oneness and use the law of attraction to attract or desire into reality what you prefer. The wellbeing is there for all of us! Don’t worry about anything, just stay committed!

I’m not sure there is a point. I’m not sure it’s possible to really put a point on this. The point of life is to live it. To learn new things, to go with nature and the flow. It’s hard to put into words. I think there’s a natural desire for people to want to create. To me these are the things I like to engage with in life and of course to expand my capacity to love and experience joy and wellbeing.

It’s just a practice to make one aware of how mind build reality and being in these states can help you choose beliefs that serve you better. Your mind evolved over the course of millions of years. It’s a blessing, a tool and a gift and it’s meant to be lived with in harmony of the other aspects of life. It’s not meant to be removed.

Yes it is true that feminism and all these dating double standards can’t really coexist. It’s because there’s a lack of integrity in this belief system. You either believe you’re to be provided and cared for or you believe you need to do this yourself. This is why I’m against feminism. In my belief system I do not believe the work force needs women in it and I do not believe they should be funneled through society the same way men are in this capitalist system we have built. But I also have no clue what the solution is. I think so higher order system beyond capitalism that makes room for the uniqueness both men and women have, where there is room for everyone to be themselves but not putting men and women against each other in the work force.

I’m going to read this book. But I’m going to take it with a pinch of salt. This is the second time I’m seeing this book mentioned so there is some lesson I believe in it that I need in order to strengthen my character: I’m choosing to constantly people please my ex. I heard there is an element of loyalty us men have that is easily exploited:

I reread what you said and I would really question why you believe your window of opportunity is closing. This right here I think is the thread you should go down and do self inquiry on.

I’m in a similar situation. What am I doing? I’m really prioritizing authenticity and integrity. I think these kind of things resolve on their own if you really put your energy into the right places. You sound very contracted. I think in situations like this we have to prioritize expansion. Look into the book “the big leap.” Look into resolving any inner issues you have and make an effort to live in your zone of genius. If you have the time and ability to date, then do it, but do it in balance and with respects to these other elements of your life that need attention. Everyone is different. Maybe you dabble in extremes and just want to grind. That works for some people. Unless I see that as what’s needed in the moment, I don’t do it. Basically what I’m saying is look to resolve any issues fogging your clarity in terms of questioning yourself and doubting yourself, and basically you will then come to a clear answer on your own over questions like this. I don’t believe the best relationships are so involved as you say. I don’t see how it would overly get in your way from walking your path. Find someone on the same path.