Lyubov

Wouldn't you like to find a shortcut that actually works? You don't believe those exist? It can appear that way if you are running on faulty knowledge or methods. It's like trying to build your house on the wrong foundation for so long that you start to believe X or Y isn't possible but it's not that there isn't another way which exists which solves your issues for good, and is actually as easy as I am saying it is, it's that you're still looking through the same belief system that doesn't work in some way. Just be open to the idea there is a shortcut and it is actually this easy and has been all long. My standard of a therapist is someone who can lead someone to their inner greatness and the unity of reality because that is exactly what a highly developed spiritually aware therapist does. There's just so few of them and most people teaching spirituality have very half baked methods that don't actually work for most people, or bizarre esoteric woo woo teachings which only work for a select few that are seeking. I agree that trips and meditation retreats don't usually resolve inner issues because these methods and actions aren't designed to fully understand and resolve inner issues. I don't believe it's natural to persist in painful emotions. It is a choice that if you are to become aware of why you are choosing to do it, you can choose otherwise and let go and experience the love that is here. Most people just have a number of beliefs in their way from seeing this and experiencing the love that is always here, always now. It is not possible to experience the love if you have created a belief for yourself that says "I am unlovable because ______." I don't believe changing them is in within reach for only a few and I don't think the structure is difficult to change. Those are beliefs as well created to protect the structure, usually out of frustration from not knowing how. This is why so few therapists aren't actually able to lead their clients to resolution or awakening. They don't understand.

Therapy helps a ton but there’s a stage you reach when you’re ready to leave talk therapy and resolve your issues from truth within. There is almost a sort of conundrum most people run into in therapy. They never resolve issues they have. They go to therapy because they are in emotional pain. Most therapists and people don’t understand emotions are self generated, they have very nuanced stories for emotions and the mind. You create them through your beliefs. You aren’t conscious to how but you do it. They are created by beliefs. Most therapists sort of discuss the emotions and stories and start to chip away at the beliefs by doing this but the issue is you haven’t glimpsed at what is true and integrated that into your belief system. So they are sort of running on faulty methods that don’t resolve the core issues. You are only going to therapy because you believe you have a problem, and all mental problems always culminate in a belief system that denies or clouds one’s own inner greatness. Usually some belief at the core that does like “I’m bad, I’m not good enough, I’m not lovable, I’m not capable, my life is lacking.” Something like this. If you can work with a therapist that is conscious that emotions are self generated by belief and entirely your responsibility and they are aware of the inherent spiritual value within, call it being god if you want, then they can lead you back to wholeness and give you skills to constantly reapply this way to your life whenever challenges arise. If you are just talking about feelings and your therapist is not aware of the spirit within being closed by false beliefs, then you will stay stuck. Some can be aware of this but not have a well developed method to lead you back to oneness. https://youtube.com/@wuweiwisdom?si=F9_J2Xcl8hJ8a5Ib Check out this channel. This guy is a therapist and Taoist monk and the best therapist I’ve ever spoken to and probably one of the best on the entire planet. Such a person would never be recognized by modern academia and mental health institutions because he’s just too advanced for them. His method isn’t about sitting in therapy for months or years at a time but giving you a few sessions which resolve all your inner issues so you no longer need a therapist and can do self inquiry on your own. He basically teaches you how to do self inquiry without all the woo woo and poor developed teachings so you can awaken even if you aren’t intentionally on a spiritual path.

This is what that poster meant earlier in the thread. Date rape is very common and should be called something else or not compared to violent assaults. 99% of rapes aren’t just guys running around attacking and assaulting women everywhere. Something will start out consensual and then the guy will be pushy and in a very narrow masculine / dominating frame and the woman will feel rushed cause women get turned off when they feel easy. I wonder why this topic is so highly contested and almost like walking on egg shells? Why is there this inherent dynamic present in sex? It’s because there is a baked in element of masculine overcoming and dominating the feminine when it comes to sex. Forcing its will on the feminine. Post modern liberal mind doesn’t like to recognize stuff like this and tries to hush it up. So in this sense I wouldn’t call Russel Brand some violent rapist but yeah he definitely is corrupted and wasn’t conscientious enough to look after his partners when having sex. It’s a fine line between being conscientious and looking after how a woman feels vs taking what you want which paradoxically is what turns women on. We should be treating date rape and violent rapes as separate things, have different words for them and discuss them differently because roping them all together in a way does sort of makes it difficult to have an honest discussion on what sex is, what turns people on, why sex is the way it is and why dynamics are the way they are. Liberals want to impose their ideals onto the dynamics of reality. And there are liberals who would see so closed minded and “triggered” by my post here they would say “why are you excusing rape.” This whole way of discussing things will not make sex more conscious for humans, its shined some light on some issues but we need to inquire further and stop imposing ideals on these dynamics.

I watched this entire video and it was incredibly interesting. I definitely think he’s right about his theory. Their language and world view does not allow for a sense of time.

Having good game and being a celebrity doesn’t automatically remove the obstacles when it comes to sex. He probably peaked a ton of attention for being a celebrity but then he’s on a date with a girl who is maybe not in the mood, or he treats her like she’s easy because he has a big ego and then gets a no. Celebrity makes getting sex easier but it doesn’t turn it into an automatic all you can eat buffet. Look how many celebrities got rape charges.

From Claude

I'm 20 minutes in and this is incredibly interesting. Language shapes reality.

Boys are no longer coddled by society when they grow up, much less so compared to women who get help from others much easier. Women deal with many of the same cold truths but when faced with hardship they tend to be supported more through it.

The thing is though people try to stay on just one side of this duality and in doing so turn it into a pendulum at their expense, swinging radically from one side to the other. Masculinity / femininity are fluid qualities not absolutes about how one must live moment to moment in order to live good. It's not really possible to live aligned with truth from my experience if you try to live just as a totally feminine woman or a totally masculine man. In real life you have to find a balance of both and be able to wear both hats at times, it's like a dance or juggling, there's a rhythm to it in relationships. I've found the feminine values truth just as much as masculinity does. Men will not understand how women communicate and also lack experience in life, impose their expectations for how things should work, so they see women as less honest. I don't believe that to be true. Expecting someone else to see the world the same way as you and communicate in the same way as you is a form of self deception and not aligned with truth itself.

It’s because many women have been sold a dream where they believe a man will come and save them and relieve them of responsibilities. But this in general does not lead to a sustainable life and it also falls apart when you meet reality and you have all sorts of considerations like money, life path and how to raise kids. It’s a slippery slope to hand wave this away. It’s the girl equivalent of “boys will be boys” when women don’t want to be responsible, just like how men don’t want to be responsible for their destructive behavior, women don’t want to be for their careless behavior. The guy in the video does make some good points but I’d probably use different language to describe the points he made.

Not exactly

Apparently the emperor has no clothes in Washington. Everyone against this madness (tariffs) is afraid to speak out. https://www.politico.com/news/2025/04/04/trump-tariffs-fear-lobby-business-congress-00006608

I think this is why the only way to really navigate living in the unknown like this is to greatly value ourselves and recognize our intrinsic worth but also be open to all the possibilities that can unfold without attachment. Most guys are so attached to the idea of how things should be or how they wish they were that they almost sort of cut themselves off from opportunities.

What you’re describing is very common with many people. I’ve done this as well. Let’s speak frankly, it’s called people pleasing. We look for value outside ourselves and almost sort of break our integrity by putting energy into relationships that aren’t as aligned as they could be with our path or values. You sound sort of regretful or resenting of these mistakes but I don’t think you should be. I’ve done this before and I’ve even managed to turn a relationship around from being out of alignment with my spirit back to being on a path towards greater authenticity. We have to honor our human side here that just wants to share love with others and it’s a learning opportunity every time we forget our own inner greatness even when there isn’t someone else there to reflect that back to us.

Can anyone else relate to having a conservative parent who is simply just unenjoyable or not relatable? My dad is in the USA and is conservative (self proclaimed independent) and he is just a very unpleasant person to talk to. Not always but maybe 75% of the time. He constantly references immigrants coming over the border, he wants lots of control, he has a lot of very negative and limiting beliefs. Half the conversations we have end up referencing USA politics in some way. He isn’t fun to talk to at all but he isn’t like an entirely rotten person. He does say supportive things about how I live my life and how I enjoy to travel and he has his moments where you can see he’s aligned with the way. I got off the phone with him today and I was reminded why I only go back once every other year to visit. On top of that it doesn’t seem like he has put so much care into me coming to visit because he doesn’t have a place for me to stay. I can see now why my girlfriend will have an inner child / ego reaction when I don’t think of her. I also had a talk with him about my videos and he thought it was cool but he had very cold comments like “so many people are doing it so it’s flooded and difficult, you have to have some other talent than just making videos.” Which I do agree with, many too creators show off some skill they already have or some amazing body they were gifted with which they can then use to sell diets programs. I’m making videos on travel which requires authenticity and allowing stories to tell themselves, you see all the best travel content creators just focus on the people and being genuine and honest about their interactions and just having fun while the videos are sort of an afterthought. I think I’m rambling a bit but it’s definitely my inner child. I know I have to love and look after myself when I’m around my 74 year old dad who only sees negative things and rarely acknowledges all the possibilities and the authenticity in taking risks and doing what we are passionate about even when it’s unclear where it will lead us. I do agree with him though, I’m not quitting my day job until my channel is so big I can do it full time. Can anyone else relate to this? Having an older parent that is just very closed down and living through all their past problems? I don’t want to live my life like this, I want to embrace each challenge and still keep my joy.

A lot of issues men face in dating is they have unrealistic expectations, this is not living aligned with truth. A lot of men will find out the women they are taking to aren’t as aligned with them as they believe and they then label everything as “misleading” or they realize that the dynamics between men and women has aspects of a pay to play system, needs and value exchanges, with no real oversight. But that is dating. Dating isn’t rules based order. Having realistic expectations about women, how you want to live your life, your boundaries, how money will be handled, how different paths between both people will be discussed. And in addition to that we aren’t given guarantees on anything. That’s life. We can live in accordance with reality and when we do that, that is being honest, not imposing our ideas of purity on reality.

What do you mean by “if you dare tell women the truth?” I don’t understand this. I think you can be honest and truthful and still do just fine dating. A lot of people believe that being honest is confessing and almost like exposing themselves to constant reproach by making themselves an open book. But having your own personal boundaries isn’t being dishonest. The thing is a lot of men were raised and told they have to be good, and their idea of good is almost sort of sacrificing themselves. To me this is not being truthful, navigating life of a way where you subject yourself to being split apart by competing interests is not being honest. You can definitely have a very balanced idea of honesty and integrity in your relationships and consider all factors when making considerations. Truth is not exactly pinning yourself to a cross like Jesus. The thing is many guys that get red pilled thought things would go their way, they had expectations that were untrue. So when they find out a woman is human and is alive and has her own needs and values to help support her own life and ambitions, they are shocked when they don’t necessarily align with that can can’t find someone who wants to be with them. I think we need to really define what we consider honesty in relationships, which I consider open and balanced communication that is appropriate for the relationship itself. Many guys do not make appropriate decisions and it’s equally a part of being honest as is saying what’s on your mind and not lying. You have to build up those skills and they require many considerations. The problem is guys just expected things to be their way even if they are just a wallflower who hasn’t worked on themselves.

Why the fuck is the USA still writing checks to Israel

I’ve been to China and as a foreigner I found it incredibly interesting. I think living there is very different. There’s a lot of people who really don’t take the time to understand China. I can also tell you that the USA has lost a ton of credibility and integrity with its criticisms of China considering who is president now. We are just economic competitors and we are intertwined as well so there is no getting rid of the other.

https://www.actualized.org/insights/facebook-corruption-exposed

Some of y'all are crazy but that's ok, you gotta be a little crazy to value spirituality and make it a central focus of one's life. thanks!

Claude is amazing for this and self inquiry. I have a whole project set up I use to understand my beliefs and so self inquiry with.

I’m not saying there isn’t any nut jobs on the left but this is a false comparison. Right wing brain rot and conservative ideologies are far more combative, oppressive and destructive to relationships, people and the planet by a wide margin compared to the nut jobs on the left Well yeah, of course. Like every child deep down wishes from their parents. But I’ve accepted I won’t get that from him nor should I build my life or perspective around being reliant on my dad’s support or approval (or anyone for that matter). He’s stuck in his ways and no amount of talking to him will change that. He has to want to change himself if he wants to change, all I can do is accept life for what it is.

All this doomer crap everywhere. Yea things will change and it will be very hard. Humans are incredibly resilient. Koreans are very proud of their country. They will survive. Bet on it.

Yes, this definitely is part of it. I think this may be one of the reasons there is a such a disconnect between generations these last several decades. We just see the world so differently. I wonder what a few generations from now will think as well? It’s so easy to see our beliefs as some truth about reality when they are just like sunglasses which can be taken off in an instant. The thing is I don’t want to bridge this at all, he is a miserable person to talk to and my energy only goes so far. Yes, every single person in the family sees him this way even my mom but she loves him and the odd thing is she is much more stage green, votes blue, quite liberal. Yet she makes a relationship work with him. I don’t not understand this. My dad is a miserable and controlling boomer conservative who is unsupportive of me. I just accept this, which is a bit of a hard pill to swallow sometimes for my inner child, but I know god is in me Andy true value so I allow myself to align with this and know regardless of my relationship with him I’m still valuable and life is beautiful. The funny thing is my dad was a hippy, I swear to god. He was born in 1950, went to Woodstock, smoked pot, protested the Vietnam war and studied to be an artist. He even did LSD a few times if I’m not mistaken. Thinking though old stories he told me about himself and how he used to live life, he used to be more moderate by comparison to now, he was more open minded. Somewhere along the way he shut down. He’s not like a totally miserable person but he is not pleasant to be around, very difficult to relate to and have a relationship with when literally every conversation culminates in something about Trump, or immigrants, or guns or some typical conservative fixation. He has talk radio blasting all afternoon. It’s not exactly possible to enjoy a relationship with a person like this even if they are your parent, it’s reality 🤷‍♂️