Lyubov

I see you’re unable to give a proper response 🤷‍♂️

I’m sorry but this is victim mentality. it is your beliefs. You are not a slave or victim of your emotions, you create them through the beliefs that you choose. Make them conscious and make sure they’re helping, not hurting you. That feeling comes quickly because you are choosing the belief about society’s value in the blink of an eye and it’s a choice you can choose to no longer make if you so wish to examine and understand those beliefs and see through them as false. I’m not claiming awakening deletes body circuitry. Nothing I wrote here contradicts you have a nervous system, but you have to be careful because I’ve found most people want to blame or find ways to not take responsibility for awakening as the creator. There’s also gaps in people’s knowledge on what’s true and what isn’t that needs examining, which there are plenty of members here that are sharing paths that lead to clarity. Not believing a lie is not disassociation. You’re playing games with yourself. You either align with what’s true or you don’t. I’m not disassociating from anything, I see what is true and do my best to live in accordance with that, do you?

Well, no you don’t agree because you are choosing to align with what society thinks is valuable. You just said you think a doctor is innately more valuable than a Reddit mod. Now you are flip flopping and saying you need to un align with society. Which is it? You have to hold yourself accountable. This is why your head is buzzing. You’re splitting yourself in two fighting to hold onto contradictions and falsehoods.

Why do you believe someone’s place in society determines their value? That means you believe society gives life value? Who gave this value to society to give? Did someone one day just give society this value to give to its members? Where did it come from before that? Who said society is hereby anointed to give value? At what point is this value anointed? 5 years old? 10? Does a doctor hold a baby up and yell “Quick society! Give this baby value!” ??? Reread my example on gays. If you align with society you align with falsehood and you will always be searching for ways to love yourself because you’re overlooking what you’ve always had, which was never given to you and could never possibly ever be given away or leave you.

Yes I can tell you that, honestly. No it is not idealism. It is you resisting truth.

You are aligning with what society believes which will never work. it was once illegal to be gay in England, now you can fuck a whole stadium of men there if you so desire. What society thinks is always changing. You are right, Society may see you as less valuable, so what? Who in society? Which person? Can you name them? You’re giving your power away. You’re building your house on shifting sands. All that matters is that god sees you as valuable which I’ve found to be what is true… what society sees as valuable is always changing, god’s value is eternal. Align with god, not society. You’re valuable as you are regardless of what society thinks.

I never really stayed at hostels but if I was single and younger I would. I am in cheaper airbnbs with my wife, I need a quiet place to work alone in since I have a full time job. If you want some space but still want easy access to socializing, sometimes some hostels have a bar that opens in the evening or offer events that you can still attend even if you aren't staying there.

What hypocrisy? Europe has always aligned with the USA's actions in the middle east Honestly you took the bait like his maga followers and have no clue what you're even talking about.

Looking back I think the one real regret I have is I was very unkind to myself and lived far too aligned with fears. I spent a lot of time alone and closed off. I wish I spent more time taking risks and being more responsible for my life and not as harsh on myself for my mistakes.

Of course this new pyramid is corrupted. Not a single thing can be trusted by the Trump administration. Right wingers are not good scientists, they taint it with their ideology.

Careful with your judgements. That video you posted uses footage of a right wing grifting cretin to advance its argument. This sort of argument or point gets tainted when you have to rely on right wing stooges to do part of the talking because these judgements then come from bellow and not above. You know how many right wing incels send money to kick streamers, onlyfans models and Christian churches? It’s just as destructive if not more so. But yeah, Disney adults of course are another addiction.

Yeah man adjusting here can be rough. Im in Vietnam and it’s super overwhelming. Careful with your caffeine intake. Coffee is so damn strong here. It’s so good but I almost feel like I’m constantly on a low dose of shrooms here, there’s something about Asia that awakens crown chakra energy. Try to find a balance. Don’t overdo it. Let yourself adjust. I was pushing myself hard and got super overstimulated a week ago. I’m doing much better now.

Very cool, I’m in Vietnam now working remotely. Digital nomad. Headed to Thailand next.

I think society is valuing looks now more than recently. Competition seems really high. You have to max everything now if you want to do well in some places. There will probably be a looksmaxxing bubble and it will collapse and then something else will be seen as more attractive that men will focus on.

Beautifully put Which all that arises even that which we judge

I can’t say introverts or extroverts are worse off than each other. Introverts will have to put more effort in to getting their social needs met and when big life changes come and people move it can be harder to find people to socialize with. Extroverts make friends easily but this comes with a lot of drama. Extroverts have as many fallouts as they do friends.

Sales, finance, real estate, law, hospitality, etc. These are more extroverted jobs and usually what more extroverted guys do. Science, math, tech, almost every guy getting funneled into PUA does a job like this.

Don’t judge others

Nick Shirley is a lying maga fool pretending to be a journalist

Well clearly it’s not easy if like half of men are reporting not having sex in the last year. You just said it yourself that you consider yourself pretty decent. I’m talking broadly speaking accounting for every guy and every foundation. Most guys can’t pull and it is difficult for most guys. If you’re not established in a decent city then chances are you ain’t getting any action of course. You basically said “I’m pretty well off so it’s easy lol.” Nah dude most guys today are awful with women an a growing percentage don’t even go outside or talk to them. The guys getting no play of course or black pilling it or taking it to extremes like I said.

Always something with these scientists... every ten years they change something on this shit...

I never did well with a direct approach either, because it's largely robotic and forced. I'm too conscious for that, I can't pretend to be someone else or do something out of alignment with my energy. Everyone is so different, coming from different backgrounds and have various unresolved issues and quirks. There are decent guys teaching this topic but they don't go viral like streamers or influencers who do this stuff. Most PUA products are really expensive too. It's largely a parasitic and exploitative snake oil product. Self help has a shadow side to it with lots of scams and marketing that hypes desperate guys up who want women to validate themselves. I would say transcending PUA and learning to date without it is perhaps the best thing you can do for yourself. You may even still take some lessons from a guy like Owen but it's risky, I'd say given the nature of this site most guys here can discern but just a rando looking for videos on YouTube is the target for being sucked into the marketing funnel and scammed.

The only certainty we get in life is god. Align with this truth, grieve the change, and allow for a new chapter to begin

The truth is relationships and women you want are not a guarantee in life and you aren’t entitled one bit to them. I think the narrative is really off about the whole male loneliness epidemic. Maybe most of these guys don’t have women because they offer nothing in return in a relationship? I think men need to step into their value as being fine as who they are. This PUA and looksmaxxing stuff is largely a distraction from that.

Looksmaxxing is the logical outcome for western incels from a generation that socializes mostly online. Everything has gone hyper x or y because you have to operate from extremes and be functioning at a crazy high percentile to sleep with pretty women in the USA. There is massive hoeflation so now every guy rightfully sees that you have to maximize everything to get results. Tate was about money and now you have streamers about looks. Obviously there is a sustainable balance but it likely means living by that means a trade off in other areas you’ve been priced out of.