Lyubov

Well this is some crazy shit for sure

“A week in politics is a year in normal stuff.” This is what my dad used to say to me during the bush years. I think it’s sped up even more. A couple days is now a year. Same applies to tech now too.

I’m noticing two extremes here. I see guys swinging from one extreme to another. I think there are a ton of young men who have been red pilled but are equally as childish and take on some ridiculous beliefs. At the same time they are basically getting scammed and financing the lives of the social media guys they look up to. You then have the liberal millennial type guy who gets called soft for wanting human rights but he falls short in taking responsibility and taking account for himself and what he actually wants. So you can label one worse than the other, one side espouses violence and scamming while the other espouses unrealistic ideals that lead to confusion in identity, both have unique problems.

J6 is possibly the biggest mental gymnastic these people have to put themselves through. They are so wrapped and dishonest it’s sickening and the crazy part is most of the people who voted for him probably even forgot about J6, that’s the attention span of the average voter.

Damn, sucks that we have that organge fucktard basically because our old guy went down hill before their old guy….

It’s been said but in the USA we have had lower literacy levels across the board. I struggled a lot to read growing up coming from a broken family and needing emotional help I wasn’t given. It’s common for many kids in this country to struggle with reading. At my time they had a Bush law called “no child left behind” which didn’t help much and then they did the whole “common core” thing which also got a ton of criticism. So yeah eduction in the USA has always had its problems. As for focusing, I’m not sure the iPads are 100% the problem. We had academics and pharmaceutical interests poking into education and pushing for ADHD medications for kids. I was given this for not focusing. A lot of scientists and pharmaceutical interests look for problems to solve sometimes that stem simple from living in a society that pushes white collar and education as a means to an end. In fact they used to say if you flunk school you will have to go be a plumber or something like this, which now due to labor shortages is an incredibly high paying job. So I’m sometimes skeptical when someone yells “think of the children.” How about we don’t hoard wealth and pour money into raising our kids, healthcare, free education and infrastructure? That will help kids more than any sort of special interest fear mongering which wants to sell some pills.

Yeah, it’s ridiculous attention whore behavior. He has been doing it for years but he has had to do more and more unhinged stuff to keep in the spotlight. He literally sounds like a teenage boy when he talks. He’s probably autistic (he’s always been this way) but he’s had no incentive to examine how unhinged he is. He just gets more cash the crazier he acts and he’s very stubborn. Bro lost his kids and he is not getting them back. He’s a very lonely sad man.

I know exactly how you feel. I've had the same experience as well trying to learn a second language... two years, hardly any progress, thought I would at least be reasonably proficient at this point yet was lacking tons of vocabulary, couldn't understand what anyone native speaking to me was saying in 75%+ of situations, etc. It can be hard to accept this and we need to really accept ourselves even if we fall short of what we had hoped to achieve. There's a lot of things you haven't been told about language learning and over these two years I've reflected on it a good bit and have had quite a few insights, I'll list them off for you. The language apps don't tell it like it is and language learning is a lot like the fitness industry, they show off the best when marketing products, when it reality many people take a lot more time and effort to learn a second language. Everyone learns different and at a different pace - you cannot compare yourself to others ever when learning a language, we all learn differently, some just have a knack for it, some move slower. Knowing a similar language or already speaking two languages is a ton of help - If say you want to learn Italian or Portuguese, and you see someone crushing it after 6 months, pay attention, most of the time they already speak Spanish, French, etc. If you know similar languages already, learning a third one or another one that is similar speeds things up drastically. Even just knowing two languages can make you keen on different patterns, different phonetic sounds. If you only speak one, you not only need to learn the language itself but lay the entire groundwork for a container and mind that comprehends language differently, thinks differently. It is mentally taxing and on top of that you need to put yourself in all sorts of unfamiliar social situation with different people who may not understand a word you say, may not have any patience for you, learning a language for many is a slow journey up a huge mountain. Timeframe - it doesn't take 1 year or 2 for most people who only know one language. If you only know English and are then trying to become proficient in another that is quite different, it can take 3+ years of consistent learning to actually really nail it. Not for everyone, butt it's not uncommon to need double the time as someone else. Again, everyone is different but it really depends, it is not uncommon to need to be immersed for 4 years to actually be proficient in the language and understand what people are saying to you You need to have a reason and a heart for it - this is perhaps one of the most challenging things that you can't really fake, you need to actually have to learn the language or you wont, you need the motivation and you need a genuine reason to remember it and use it. You need to work on your emotions and sense of self to integrate it and create a identity that incorporates this language, or else it's just a bunch of silly gibberish which can be instantly dropped for what you feel comfortable with. The thing is if you know English, maybe have an English partner and work in English, you aren't exposed as much to the language you want to learn to get good at it in the time frame you expect. In my opinion you need to have a genuine heart felt reason to learn the language and the language is kinda like a person you date, you need to wanna be with them and work at it daily. If you are just studying because you are trying to prove something or there is insufficient motivation, or you aren't having fun, you won't wanna use it or remember it and you will have huge gaps in your studying because it's just being seen as useless gibberish. If it a boring to study, uncomfortable to talk to strangers in it, stuff like this, it isn't going to stick because you just see it as a burden, you need to have genuine reason and enjoyment. This is why someone will learn a second language easy when they for example have a girlfriend who speaks Spanish or they absolutely love TV or music from a different culture. They have a genuine reason to learn the language. You have to find things about the language that inspire you to use it, things that genuinely interest you in the language. Case in point, I remember more Russian words because of my girlfriend than I do any Spanish that I studied in school, because I actually had a need to know these words and there was a genuine reward seeing my girlfriend attracted to me knowing her language, yet I barely studied any Russian, maybe just a couple months of classes. Basically you need to create reasons and have intentions you genuinely believe in for learning the language. Check out immigrants in English speaking countries who maybe lived in their community for 20 years and never learned English, they didn't have a heart felt need to learn it. So here is my advice, don't force anything, find a reason to enjoy studying, maybe watch netflix in the language, movies, tv, music, maybe try to date someone who knows the language native, create a reason to actually know it. Then from there, take some private lessons with a tutor (can take time to find one you like), this is just ot build confidence speaking. For me, it's all about netflix, I can really only stomach netflix and enjoy watching TV in the language I'm studying (Portuguese), I don't like Brazilian music and don't want to date a Brazilian woman, so my motivation has to come from something else.

I don’t think manipulation is necessary for everything. Why not call it influence? Why not go about it with the intention that you will seek out what you believe is right for you and in exchange give something in return to the other person. We are sharing a lot of resources and our lives are intertwined with society. Of course we may need to rely on other people sometimes and influence their decisions. You can do that honestly, no problem.

Notice how you have free will to choose to believe whether or not there is or isn’t free will. I would ask yourself why you resonate with what you do. Also notice how you can choose to perceive it as something happening out of your control vs something you choose. I don’t believe in addictions. They are a choice which you choose to leave on auto pilot. Why do I believe that? Because I at one point chose to see addictions as something happening to me, giving my power away. You could choose to be addicted to gambling if you wanted to and have many beliefs to justify this choice as do many people who chronically gamble their savings away. Or you can choose to not believe in the beliefs that hold an addiction together(nothing but belief). I say this with compassion and consideration for anyone struggling with an addiction and I am not dismissing what it takes to practically clear up an addiction for most people nor your perspective on your will, if you want to believe you don’t have free will I won’t try to change that. I’m talking about this issue from higher order thinking on what fundamentally is occurring.

I would flip it, why are you creating confusion on this issue? Is not living your life and recognizing your own greatness enough. To me those things are spirituality. Being, the journey. What answer are you hoping for your question? I think there is just being and our value and we can connect to that or we can’t if we so choose, from our own unique experience, since there is no one else like you. Spirituality just is, recognizing this. That’s nice, that is living life when done with consideration for our responsibilities as a living human with a body.

He’s completely brain rotted. Maybe bi polar. He would be the crack head on the street if he didn’t have money.

Me too some, I think it's because I've been with my girlfriend a long time and we are facing financial challenges and life changes, I also think I'm withholding self love. I want to work on bringing it back.

Those are some interesting questions and I myself don't have entirely complete answers to them. I think it's really a process through living this sometimes challenging, sometimes beautiful life which maybe gives us some wisdom into this. I'm sure you have pieced some unique insights together from some of them and we are always learning every day. This is the mystery. I don't see an end to learning and I'm not sure we would ever want it, I mean it means th end of learning which is one of the most meaningful things about life, to learn and change and evolve. There is this spirit, some call it god here, many people bring different labels for it here, it's indescribable and it's like you follow it but we never know where it leads, we just experience, know it's right in some strange but right way. 1) we were born here, this life exists now 2) we are on our journey that is unique to us, we are responsible and accountable for this, our soul's journey, we can go against it, nothing judges us for it, but that is just our choice if we so wish to swim against. I don't really have answers or really know anything. I maybe know just a few things that seem to make my life increasingly beautiful and peaceful as this crazy world changes day by day into something so unrecognizable from when I was a boy.

Watched the DW doc… unbelievably brutal and hard to live in Haiti. Perhaps the worst country to live in.