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Hey I'm not really looking for a quick fix, rather i'd like to hear your perspectives/thoughts. So lately i'm experiencing that i'd rather sit alone than meet other people. Maybe there are like 10 people overall that i'd like to meet and spend time with. I get nearly no satisfaction or positive feelings when meeting people. It's quite opposite actually - being around people (outside of professional cases) stresses the shit out of me. I guess it's like that for some time, but i came to this conclusion lately being open with myself. As i'm pretty ok with that i'd like to hear your thoughts. Maybe in my current life-time i did not find "the right" people or i just don't need it? I don't know. Please share your experiences, i'll highly appreciate it. Thanks.

Thank you. Why do you think it's such time for you now?

@snowyowl "@" me too bro, good luck.

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Dear guys and lads Im open to hear about how do you keep the flame burning in your romantic relationship. Context: Im with my girl for 3 years now. We're not ideal duo, however what is pretty cool about our relationship is that we grow together and learn new things from ourselves. Im pretty confident in my role as a man in the relationship, i lead and im decisive. Im also pretty horny guy. Its like 95% of the times me that initiates sex and im pretty cool with it. However id like to know your ways how do you keep the romance going, how do you keep sex full of emotions and making it great thing.

@Zeroguy I really try to get the meaning of your posts. But i think that's not the way.

Brilliant! Good job mate.

@Nahm I got it. Anyway adding medidation to my day program is crucial to me. May i message you?

Yeah classical Nahm.

And i'm really teared apart. One one hand - i really don't give a fuck about other people. Their silly things they talk about and say to me, some fucking stories, lies, bullshit and just unimportant thigs. I get it, maybe they like it that way. But it tires the fuck out of me. i mean i like to engage in some spontanous conversations or ask people about something that interests me. So yeah on the one hand i really don't feel a need to socialize. I'm up to sometimes meet my friends and maybe do some stuff. Apart from that i'm seeing my gf 2 days on the weekends. But, on the other hand - i feel like it takes value out from me. Me not wanting to talk, to socialize, i feel like a weirdo sometimes. I imagine myself being on a wedding with my gf (i hate those events) and being fucking forced to sit at the table. Unbearable conflict rises. I really don't want to force myself into some contact with other people, but i feel like it's stripping me out of some social power and social proof. It's tiring. Feels like i want to eat the cake and also to have it.

Yeah. There are many elements of social exchange that appear disguisting to me now. I try to bullshit others less and be more genuine so i'm really conscious about this now. It backfires tho. Thank you for those words. I have 3 friends which i can trust and be able to talk with them freely. That's really important for me.

It's called limited space. Listen - i work at a shop. I've got plenty of clients and some of them want to talk just for the sake of talking. This is tiring for me. i think you would understand that. And that's the great one. I 100% agree with you. Well: 1. this is a place where i can talk with people that have really something interesting to say and i can listen to them happily. 2. I can close the tab and the socializing ends. Do you mean the complexity of other people? I don't really get it. Yeah i'm really happy of myself and how many changes i apply to my life. However sometimes i'm really lost.

Where would you draw the line? Between being needed and desired. Yeah probably that's how i see the world generally - projections. Okay. This is hard but i think i know what you mean. But how do i implement what you said? What is the context?

Well @Nahm if she's my only sexual partner (at the moment ofc) how the heck am i supposed to not need her? I mean - i'm not needy. I don't really think i am, but i'm pretty horny creature that craves sex. Now what? Play the game of acting like i don't need that? Literary how? What does it even mean? That i don't do things that i think will make her need me? If that's the case it's kinda counterintuitive. Big one. Noted. Yeah i gotta say i got better at it lately i guess. What do you mean? Great one.

Thank you @aurum for your response. I've got to agree in the case of novelty and moving into higher consciousness forms of love. I'm interested if you have any tantric love practices/books/materials to recommend?

Aren't you thinking too much?

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Why not feel and embrace unhappiness? That's what i try to do lately and as counterintuitive it sounds - you learn to feel and accept unhappiness and simply live with it.

@hamedsf A chocolate blowjob! I haven't heard about this one. Does it include putting your dick into nutella or some kind of chocolate cream? If so - tested with my first gf. It wasn't that pleasurable at all. Btw she (my first gf) was the one that pushed for some new things, like giving me a bj with ice cubes in her mouth and i was like - yeah pretty cool, but i like the classical bj more.

Yeah we are kind of vanila when it comes to sex. I implement my fetish sometimes, but it's just for the sake of my own pleasure. I didn't discover yet my girl's fetishes. I know how she likes to be fucked, she likes anal play sometimes but that's all i know. I gave her space to open up with her fantasies as i expressed mine but i have gotten no real answer beside that she likes "being taken care of". And i LOVE that!

That's really good perspective. I'm looking forward to adapt it. Yeah the one with communication and unresolved conflicts is massive.

Okay cool, that's needed perspective change for me.

Ok i didn't expect this one. So fine - my gf insist on me to do some things, like start to take care of my nails on my feet (i dont cut them but i somehow scratch the with my fingernails, a cringe thing to do but yeah) and some other shit like that. My response is something along lines of - yeah i dont care (i really take that as a shit test from her, maybe thats a mistake). Some time ago she insisted that i should bring her flowers sometimes. The only time she gets flowers from me is at our anniversary (she gets 1 rose then so its 3 by now) and when we are walking somewhere and i randomly pick up some flower and give it to her. I like the idea of GIVING to my girl, but not really giving just becouse im ought to. So what you are saying is - do the things that she wants?

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