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@Cherylann Amazing. I remembered once Leo said in one his videos, that the most difficult decisions to take are the ones that are emotionaly difficult for us, however we know are the best. Keep going and thanks for sharing your experience !

Hi @Sarah_Flagg this is exactly what I am going through right now, I've been married for 10 years to a wonderful man who I really admired, and we have 2 kids. Our marriage has been complicated, because we moved to a new country recently married, and we dated for a short period of time, and the year after that we had our first child, so everything happened too fast. We were the perfect match, and care for each other, we value a lot family. However because of the pressure of work, adapting to a new country, being parents and not being able to go out a lot because of the kids, it seems that we've been missing time to spent together. In an effort to not just live as surviving and in a stress routine is that I looked for help and came to the path of meditation, which I just recently started and also the path of eating healthier, exercising and enjoying more with the kids outside. But he is more of a stress and tired guy who just wants to rest and watch TV. I have had the same concerns and I've been scared to think that he is not my perfect match, but to be honest I haven't talked to him straightforward and same as you I don't want to push him to do meditation or other things like me, so I think we tend to judge them so hard, but they don't even know about it. I would invite you to talk to him about it, share your feelings and look for common hobbies. That's what I am planning to do as I am writing to you and is giving me peace of mind. Let's try to enjoy simple things together and doesn't have to be so complicated. Simple things as walking outside for few minutes, or sitting in the backyard by the window, perhaps having dinner with wine, anything you both like to share in the present and look for opportunities to reconnect, of course not watching tv together. But let's commit to try, and if after this you still feel that the connection is not back,then you will see that event though is scary, inside your heart and your mind you will feel what is the best for you, either to continue or to split paths, which I think is to extreme to think for now.

@Ayla Thanks Ayla for you answer, so simple and so truth, I am just starting to meditate and it can be scary at the beginning when things I thought were really well supported, are actually falling apart.

I am currently experiencing difficulties with my husband, since I started meditating. And this has made me wonder if I choose correctly or if I did what society told me to do, that is get married, now that we've been married for 10 years and have 2 kids I am start thinking I did a mistake, but it might be too late to correct, in this instance polyamory might be the only one that will save our marriage, but I am scared to ruin it too. Any help?