Timur

It is a very interesting discussion and sensible topic. People do usually not like to talk about genetic advantages. The majority of people would rather live in denial rather than accepting that a tiny fraction of humans have won the genetic lottery and are highly privileged in that regard. I would like to give you two of my personal experiences with genetic advantages and disadvantages. During my last three years of high school I had a very disciplined lifting phase. I lifted four to six times per week, had the right diet with a caloric surplus and gave my best. After three years I looked better than the average person who does some sports in his life. But guess what, there were some guys who looked better than me after one year of lifting. I never understood why, till I came to the conclusion that it had nothing to do with my diet not being good enough or my training not being hard enough. It was simply my genetic disadvantage in building muscle. After finishing high school I started my studies in chemical engineering in one of the best universities in Germany. In the first semester there were almost a thousand college students sitting in the lecture hall and listening to the advanced maths I course. Guess what, in the second semester over the half was gone, even though a lot of them studied non-stop. To be honest I studied less than half than the average college student and I still got my Masters of Science in eleven semesters and got straight B‘s, while gaining 1,5 years of internship experience. Did I achieve these results because of my time management skills and productivity. Yes, that was sure an important parameter to success in my university days. But ultimately it came down to one thing…Genetic advantage.

It is from Netanjahu's perspective. He claims that Haj Amin al-Husseini had a major impact on the Holocaust.

I do not want to change the subject, but everyone on planet earth has forgotten about the war between ukraine and russia. Zelenski is probably shitting himself.

I can confirm that. I work as a Scientist in a pharmaceutical company (mostly biopharma) in europe and most great innovations come from our manufacturing complexes/R&D departements in USA even though the headquarters and biggest R&D and manufacturing facilities are in our country. Leo do you think that ambitious people who strive for innovation should try their luck in USA, simply for environmental benefits (smart people around you etc)?

Very well said! Thank you for taking your time and answering my question.

But isn't it the same for everything else? There are some people who are gifted in certain skills like engineering ( Nikola Tesla, maybe Elon Musk ), IT ( Bill Gates), Investing ( Soros, Trump) and esspecially physics ( Einstein, Feynman, Bohr). Those people are also the 0.00001 Per-cent of gifted people on this earth or maybe even of all the humans who ever existed. Does this realization not further proof that the only thing you have to do in order to become super successful, is to find this one thing where you are super talented ( Caveat it does exist for you) ? And how do you find it? Trying out hundreds or maybe even thousands of things may take a whole lifetime. And then most people are already establishment in some way. The 28 year lawyer is unlikely to try new things out, outside his profession.

But how many girls did he approach? Let us say he approached five times as many girls as you did and got laid 1.5 times more than you. How can he than claim to be good with women or better than you? Approaching hundreds of women and then sleeping with a handful of them should not be a definition of success with the opposite sex.

The people here, who are supposed to have spiritual tendencies, tend to have zero spirituality in them and 100 per cent delusion and irrational and ridiculous arrogance. But Mr. Guras answers to the questions here are very well written and quite helpful ( at least if the questions are practical ).

Can you recommend some basic self help habits, Mr. Gura? I implemented... intermittent fasting ( +- 4 hour window ) healthy diet ( no sugar/fast food etc. ) meditation reading right now trying out affirmations in my daily life. What are some other good habits to put it into your daily life. One thing I have to do more is socializing PS: Sports, some hobbies ( improv theater, attending the synagogue etc. ), university are obviously also implemented in my daily life

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You spiritual people are so arrogant for no reason. A psychologist with a PhD is so far ahead of you, Mr. Gura. In a debate you would have no chance whatsoever against a serious academic. You trips and mind games are irrelevant. I study at a Top University myself and know for a fact that the great Professors are thousands of miles ahead of you. Sometimes I think that you spiritual people pretend/try to be successful in the online world because you failed to get a good degree from a great university. Same thing with Cold Approach monkeys. These monkeys know for a fact that they do not have it in them to live a "player" lifestyle and as a result cold approach five thousand chicks and sleep with fifty of them and then lie to themselves that this is how a real player lives.

Thank you for your tip, Sir. But Okcupid and all those other dating apps besides tinder are not established here in germany. I tried tinder multiple times and just can say that the algorithm is fucked up! On day one I usually get +-5 matches and +- 5 likes. ( most girls average/above average looking and one out of ten or twenty matches is usually pretty hot) But day two crickets... Day three crickets... and so on.

Read what I wrote above. If you approach lots of girls, then you are doing something fundemantelly wrong. A guy who cold approached 500 women and gets one cool and attractive girlfriend, failed the dating game. 99 percent of guys having cool and attractive girlfriends never had to cold approach anybody. And no they also did not have to "socialize" with hundreds of girls. A good analogy to cold approaching and then getting a girlfriend out of that is this one... Imagine a girl or guy would come up to you and say: " Look at me I have a masters degree in physics from this great uni." But then you find out that this person needed 28 semesters for his/ her degree instead of 6 semesters. That is the same game with cold appraoching. Even if you get a cool and attractive girlfriend out of it ( equivalent to masters degree ), you are still the freaking moron who cold approached a thousand women to get her ( equivalent of 28 semesters). You just did something fundamentally wrong and invested waaay too much time for something which obviously was not for you.

Really? Kinda doubt that high number to be honest. Eloquently said.

Same here... study at a prestigious uni, do intermittent fasting, am pretty advanced in meditation, look quite well, did impro theater, do boxing, livevin the center of my city, read + 100 books ( on spirituality, personal d. science, business),... and still cannot get laid.

Most guys having cool and attractive girlfriends never had to cold approach anybody and they still have cool and attractive girlfriends.

What is your opinion on frozen berries? I would like to buy fresh berries everytime but frozen ones are much cheaper.

If "I" am the goodness imagining then why do "I" not imagine goodness? If "you" are a source of goodness then only goodness/love can follow and not the opposite as a consequence.

You say there is no evil because we construct it in our mind. But if this is true then there is also no good because it is imagined by our minds. Where do you draw the line between what is and what is not?

Enlightement is right with his statement. Just imagine you are a lawyer and live in a city with a population of 200 000. Are you really advising this lawyer, a person who is doing a well respected job and has a lot of responsibility in his life and needs to maintain a professional image, to cold appraoch 3000 thousand girls in this city? Cold approaching is less harmful for a college student scenerio. Guy goes to a bigger city for couple of years to study and while trying to succeed academically, he also approaches some girls everyday in order to learn how to flirt. But even then this kid will feel stupid, because this kid is approaching hundreds of girls for getting a cool girlfriend whereas others just have girlfriends without ever doing this time wasting habit.

It is not really "confidence". Men who think that a woman is better looking/ has more "value" than oneself will feel insecure. Men who think that this woman is equal in looks and worth to them will feel/think it is possible to get this girl. Men who think this woman is below them in looks etc. will feel entitled to get her or just plainly think:" I can get her".

I never understood this arguement. How can a guy who approached 5000 girls and slept with lets say a hundred ( 2 per cent success rate is by the way a realistic overall ratio in cold approaching ) claim to be successful with women? We do not even know whether a significiant majority of those girls you dated were attractive and/or cool. 99 per cent of guys being in relationships got their girlfriends without " hitting the streets " and wasting hundreds of hours for cold appraoching.