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@Joseph Maynor I’m not sure what’s the end game here for you. . Articulate your thoughts in a lengthy paragraph and stop posting vague one-liners . You are free to write what you want of course..but I’m telling you what I’m going to respond to and what I’m not .

There’s a human being called Joseph. I’m not denying that . What I’m saying this Joseph is not intrinsically independently existing . Air from the outside environment entering your body 24/7. The food you eat create the very physical tissues of your muscles. The podcasts you listen to shape your way of thinking . I’m Indian yet listening and reading content with English has made me literally thinking in English instead of Hindi . Do you see ? “I” am not the creator of what I utter or do . It seems like I’m the emergence of things which are not me . I can’t be blamed 100% for my convictions or emotions. Reality is doing me . I’m not doing reality .

Yes I do.

What I was saying that “the human self “ doesn’t actually exist in reality as a fixed thing that has its own independent existence or at least it’s an emergent phenomenon which other external factors construct . I’ve talked plenty of time in the past that I easily get angry and triggered when toxic people provoke me .. and people here told me in a Ralston’s style “you are creating the anger . The other person can’t make you angry if you don’t allow them to “ . And I explained above why that doesn’t make any sense to me.

@UnbornTao I don’t believe personality is something fixed or intrinsic. In many ways we are not our personality at all. Every action.. reaction..thought and emotion we experience is shaped by countless factors that lie outside our conscious control like our genetics.. upbringing ..environment.. diet..sleep quality..hormone levels..blood sugar.. and even seemingly insignificant events from the previous day like what I ate for dinner last night . All of these variables influence our mood, and behavior. When I’m in a bad mood and someone provokes me..I’m not convinced that the anger I feel is something I consciously create. It seems more accurate to say that anger emerges from a chain of causes and conditions that were already in motion before I became aware of it. From my perspective..what we call “personality” is not an independent entity that freely chooses how to think..feel..and act. Yeah I know the good ol’ determinism vs free will thing again .If you disagree.. I’d be interested to hear why.

@UnbornTao here goes the first one today lol 😂

Every morning I decide to not get angry and spend a quiet day but then I meet a bunch of stupid people who make this impossible “ -Charles Bokofosky

@Sugarcoat thanks. Good to see you back btw .

@Sugarcoat sorry if I misunderstand you .

Its not the realization that there is no separate self ..as that would be a realization or Aha moment..which means it was absent at a certain point and then it occurred to “you “ or well ..it just occurred “. Either way any knowledge or insight of any kind would be limited and impermanent which means it’s not the absolute truth . It’s not like there’s some grand “Aha!” moment where the separate self suddenly vanishes. That would imply it was missing before and then showed up later..just another event..another piece of knowledge with an expiration date. And if an insight arrives hangs around for a bit and then fades then congratulations lol you’ve just met another temporary guest …not Absolute Truth. Robert Adam’s says you stop seeking . What keeps us ignorant is the seeking . What exactly are we seeking or expecting to get to ? When you drop the seeking that’s it. You are home . And this doesn’t mean the person is perfect and doesn’t experience negative emotions like envy or frustration or jealousy etc life continues on but with the exception that inside you you are really unshakable and have profuound peace .

@Sugarcoat "Enlightenment " is not a realization that occurs in your mind..Any realization couched within your mind is limited.. relative and impermanent. If enlightenment was a particular realization it would be limited…Relative and impermanent. Which makes it not a big deal. Just another realization. Another experience and there is always more to come be sure of that. How I see it .. Enlightenment is NOT the realization of the absolute truth.. Enlightenment IS the absolute truth. And since absloute truth is all that there is.. Enlightenment is all that there is. And therefore you are not enlightened because you are enlightenment itself. And that makes the questioni Of " is X enlightened "a very funny question .

You ask where “you” are? Cut open the body and keep zooming in. Cell.. Molecule..Atom..Quark.. Then deeper..And deeper. There is no throne room where a little self is sitting. No pilot in the machine.So maybe you point to the body itself.Fine. Then zoom out. .Room..City..Planet..Star system…Galaxy… Cluster… Beyond.. Keep going..The universe has no center waiting for you at the end of the journey. Inward: infinity. Outward: infinity. Dude..there is no “where” in infinity. There is only perspective pretending to be a location.

What happened in your childhood?

Please tell us more. From what you’ve shared so far..it’s hard to understand what has brought you to the point where you feel there is absolutely no other option except ending your life. And honestly..my answer is a firm and heartfelt NO. please don’t do it. I know you must be carrying an incredible amount of pain to even be thinking about suicide. But pain can convince us that there is no hope when in reality there are still paths that we simply cannot see in our darkest moments. Please don’t isolate yourself. Try not to spend long periods alone .Go outside if you can.. be around kind and caring people even if it’s just for a little while. I also strongly encourage you to seek professional help. Talking to a therapist and if appropriate considering antidepressants can be life changing. You don’t have to carry this burden by yourself. Most importantly.. be gentle with yourself. Love yourself even if it feels impossible right now. Accept yourself with all your scars..blind spots..mistakes..fears..and wounds.Give yourself the love you’ve been longing to receive from others. Nobody can love you more than yourself . And if you feel comfortable please open up a little more about what’s making you feel this way. What is causing so much pain that suicide seems like the only answer? Right now it’s not entirely clear from what you’ve share and understanding your situation better might help others support you more effectively. i wish you happy long life with peace in your heart . If you need someone to listen my inbox is open . You don’t have to go through this alone .

We are not living in the 1970s anymore .. it’s 2026. There are countless outlets for dealing with pent-up sexual energy like prostitution..escorts and easy access to pornography in most parts of the world. Because of this a man harassing a woman is not always driven purely by sexual lust. it reflects a deeper desperation for love and Emotional connection and also validation. You want to love and be loved by a woman ..not just fuck her and run away or harass her. People should not assume that satisfying sexual urges is equivalent to having a successful marriage or a deeply intimate relationship with a woman. Human relationships involve emotional needs as well as physical ones