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How long do you think that a couple should be together before getting married? I am thinking as to the time when you would think that the marriage was a sensible well thought out decision .. and not a too quick and frivolous choice. The question is for both guys and girls on here .

Yes .I'm definitely a creep . I stare at women in public. With only one intent which is to get into their pants ...that's me OBJECTIFYING women..I need to fix that . I've had plenty of sex with my ex . I masturbate twice a week .get nocturnal emissions every other day . Maybe I need to get chemically castrated (jk lol ? ).

Would you believe that girls feel exactly the same way ? They are concerned about how to find and meet guys. They are concerned about their first kiss. They are concerned about whether some guy likes them..how to stop feeling awkward around guys. Etc So i must acknowledge that im being "normal". And learn to accept myself as i am without judgment. There is nothing "wrong" about me . If you can't accept yourself as you are how can you expect others to accept you?

There is something true about what you are saying. Desperation arises when i start to prioritise the perception of significant other over my own life. I will be 100% open about it . I'm like a horny desperate dog . Dunno why maybe I have abnormal levels of Testosterone in my body ..but I get aroused easily and quickly when I see an attractive girl . I'm also addicted to pornography. I'm working on correcting that . Thanks for being blunt and honest with me.

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@Bazooka Jesus whatever,brother.

You are always angsty with me ..that's something I've noticed over the months ..at first you were responding to my threads in this section and we had a lot of fun conversations..but since I posted that thread about me falling in love with a pornstar you just ignored me ..I thought you've put me on ignore list but I'm happy that that's not the case ?. So ...what exactly do you mean by fixing the mess that I am ?

What ?! 4 years before deciding to get married from a girl ? I will already be bored of her and hitting on other girls ?

@NoSelfSelf why you Mad bro ?

I get you man..I TOTALLY get you. I spent years in this frustration of trying to reconcile what I heard from teachers about life BEING love and happiness and peace and would get so hateful and angry and frustrated about these exact matters your pointing to. Who the fuck is this god or life that would do such things? this is NOT a loving god.. this is at best a chaotic god..massively imperfect..and far from love by any meaning I then understand. What helped me was to see leave room for what I didn't understand or see.. to not assume what I was seeing and deducing was "objective"..not to assume life/god had volition and caused such things with intent.. to see the non-objectivity of things..to peer into and see the oneness of suchness without filters or idea's and feel the reality melting love and peace in it all. Forgive life..forgive god..forgive yourself..this helped to. If you assume god must of done such matters in the way you see and feel them to be..rhen you've already jumped many conclusions about life and see this as objectively so..and its result is your hate and frustration of something you believe to be true.

@Gabith why do you want to die ? Can you open up a little bit? Maybe I can help you out because I was suicidal in the past . Also btw Once you die the whole of reality will die with you .(not to Encourage you to commit suicide but just sayin).

I agree that some people we find difficult to deal with have been put in our path in order to teach us something.. even if it's only how to deal with difficult people like you .but .. Unfortunately.. the presence of A-holes in positions of spirituality is extremely common..so the skill of talking respectfully to your followers can be very valuable. please try to bite your tongue with this rudeness and you may be glad you learned this kind of restraint at some later date whenthe stakes are higher. So...❤

@Leo Gura why do you have to be rude and profane about it? You totally don't need that. Most people here have enough IQ to understand you since they are followers of your nerdy content . Like I said to you before...you are my role model in life ..and I truly hope that you work on your insensitive style .

If you are so sure of that and you are suffering then why not contemplate suicide?

I already explained that to you. From the absolute perspective..everything..absolutely everything is nonsense..only this moment exist and full stop. But..from the relative perspective..you need stories. Try to live as a agnostic nobody and see what's up. Its like asking which makes most sense to you out of Santa Claus..tooth fairy.. and Pinocchio. ? lol "Sense-wise" ...Christianity(and the trinity bullshido)is out. It’s trying to put a nice face on Yahve who in Old testament is vain..vicious creature that torments and tests people in disgusting ways. And God can only be one and invisible .if there is three entities that are fully God ..each one of them would be lacking.

Well..I would say I'm awareness itself rather than a thing which has awareness. So in relation to my point about thoughts ..they don't seem like they are being willed by awareness .they just arise .I mean you can try it ..close your eyes ..get into meditation and try to think of nothing ..Notice that you can't. Why Is that?

@Arthogaan When you experience a thought ..it just arises in your awareness..you don't literally will it into existence. And that's something you can notice especially when you are meditating. You've got what Buddhists call "the monkey mind " which is simply another way to say that thoughts run rampant in your mind and you can't really control them .all we can do is observe them .become the awareness that is aware of thoughts instead of identifying with thoughts.

Really? Is that ⬆️ honestly how you consider to be yourself ?

Dude you are fucking hilarious. ?

Define "you ".

Yup .that's my current stance at least. Perhaps as I grow older my perspective will change. Who knows

@Arthogaan I'm not gonna start citing the scientific studies that were done in the last century that shows that the brain takes a decision 10 millisecond before your conscious decision. So for example..I decided to take a cigarette..putting it into my mouth and smoke .what happened here ?the brain decides before I have the thought of smoking and then it appears that I made the decision consciously .while in fact it was completely inevitable. Let's try this simple experiment: Get a piece of paper and pen.. and write down the first movie that comes to mind.. no deliberation. Notice how the content of whatever movie it was..was completely unanticipated and random..It just happened. perhaps it was related to a recent memory.. or experience you had today. Notice how that was also out of control. Now extend the realization of this experience of happening..of thinking of a movie.. to your entire existence. Free will ain't there. It's all just pure happening.

The proplem is I fall in love with every attractive girl I see or interact with .one girl is not enough for me . I like variety. That's why I have so much porn on my phone lol. I will NEVER EVER bring a child to this world .for ethical reasons.

Listen. .go study the scriptures. Read the bible and read the quran and see which makes more sense . the Bible is a collection of books written by over 60 writers over a period of 1500 years.. while the Quran is supposed to be direct channelling from God to Mohammed.

I'm just going into a melancholic bad mood recently .it will pass . But still ..death is one mofo of a thing that makes me piss my pants . There is no denying that death is the ultimate fear. Dog shit makes infinity bigger