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Understanding masculinity and femininity. Self-Love & Self Acceptance. Managing habits and addictions .

If this means there is no actual boundary between perception and perceiver , then I agree .

Recently I’ve been contemplating what seeing is , as in vision . According to science ,the eyes take the light which is reflected off the objects and then displays it inside the brain . But where exactly inside the brain ? Is there like an TV screen inside the brain ?? And who sees the screen? Where is the perceiver ?

There is an important principle in life that I’m learning recently: Never give up. If you fall a million times, rise up and try again. No matter how many times you fail, no matter how long the struggle continues, you have to find the strength to get back up and keep moving forward. Falling is not the end. Failing is not the end. The only real end is when you decide that you are no longer willing to try. I get it , Constant failure over a long period of time can make us lose hope and convince us that success is impossible. When we keep trying and nothing seems to change, We naturally start thinking of giving up. But this is precisely when the attitude of never giving up becomes most important. The best thing we can do is adopt the attitude of never giving up. Keep trying when things are difficult. Keep moving when progress is slow. Keep believing when doubt becomes loud. And when you fall, don’t spend too long asking why you fell. Learn from it, get back up, and try again. As they say ,Succeed or die trying. Not because success is guaranteed, but because giving up guarantees that we will never be successful and happy . There will always be obstacles. There will be moments when our efforts fail over and over Again and then we feel exhausted from starting over. But we cannot allow temporary failure to become a permanent decision. We have to keep the door to success open by continuing to knock. Why ? Because there is no other alternative. You are either successful or you are trying . Don’t let failure be an option. Failure is not an option. This does not mean that every attempt will succeed or that every goal must be achieved exactly as we imagined it. It means that we must continue until we have given everything we can give . If you never give up, you can never truly lose. You may fail many times. You may have to begin again more times than you ever expected. You may take a longer road than you wanted. But as long as you continue, the possibility of success remains alive. So fall a million times if you have to. Rise a million and one times.Try again. Learn again. Begin again.Keep going until you succeed or until you have given everything you had in trying.Never give up.

Every morning, before doing anything else, take a moment to ask yourself: How should I spend this day? Make a simple plan. Begin with what you need to do : your responsibilities, duties, work, and anything important that cannot be ignored. Give these things your attention first, especially while your mind is fresh and your energy is high. Then think about what you want to do. Once you have fulfilled your responsibilities, allow yourself time for the things that bring you happiness: reading, meeting friends, pursuing a hobby, enjoying video games or music or any form of entertainment that you like or simply quality time. Don’t let your day happen by accident. Decide what deserves your time and attention, do what needs to be done, and then enjoy the freedom that comes from knowing you have fulfilled your duties. Start the day with intention: do what you must, then make time for what you love.

Kids’ talk .

Kids’ talk.

Interesting. I think the only purpose of life is to love myself as I am . Self-Love. Self-Acceptance. it should be natural, but it isn’t because we’ve been conditioned to judge ourselves and get judged by others.

@Nemra was it that the distinction between dream vs reality realized experientially to be imaginary? Whereas in the past it was just theoretical ?

So , you had a dream …aaaand ?

I’m really not in a hurry at all regarding sex or marriage or any kind of a relationship with a girl currently. I’m currently pursuing other stuff .

No it’s not like that . I just don’t have that itch “I want to have sex with a girl this week”. I welcome it if it was available, but same same . obviously you are not me and you are experiencing the urgency. Good luck !

The urgency is unnecessary . Don’t set a time like “this week “. This puts unnecessary pressure on you . im honest as well . I want to have sex with a girl asap too if possible , it’s just not bugging me .

Then why so desperate?

Are you a virgin ?

Today spend time meditating , contemplating, relaxing ,praying , just grounding. Not too much noise and toxicity.

Yesterday I could not sleep without repeating the Islamic mantra, La ilaha illa Allah :“There is no god but God.” I had been feeling afraid and deeply sad, carrying a heaviness within me that I could not easily explain or remove. I deal with this almost every day:a feeling of uncertainty, vulnerability, and fear before the vastness of existence. In that state, I began repeating La ilaha illa Allah. At first, I repeated the words almost mechanically, simply because I needed something to hold on to. But gradually, something inside me began to change. The repetition gave my mind a point of concentration. Instead of allowing my thoughts to scatter endlessly, I returned again and again to the same declaration: there is no ultimate reality, no ultimate power, and no ultimate object of worship except God. As I continued repeating it, I began to calm down. I felt less alone within my own thoughts. A sense of tranquility began to replace the agitation, my mind less chaotic, and eventually I felt a kind of serenity that allowed me to surrender to sleep. It was interesting to me that such a simple phrase could have such a profound effect. The words themselves are short, but their meaning is enormous. They contain a whole worldview: that behind all the changing things of existence there is one ultimate reality ..that I’m not abandoned in an indifferent universe..that everything I encounter from fear, happiness, suffering, beauty, uncertainty, and death exists within a reality ultimately governed by God. Eventually, I fell asleep. Yet the sleep itself was not particularly restful. My dreams were extremely disturbing. They were chaotic, strange, and at times almost disgusting. They seemed to contain fragments of fear, confusion, and images that did not follow any coherent logic. I woke with the impression that my mind had continued struggling even while my conscious awareness was asleep. Recently, I have also found myself thinking increasingly about my origin and my ultimate fate. These questions have begun to feel more important to me than many of the ordinary concerns that occupy human beings from day to day. every human being encounters those deeper questions. Who am I? Where did I come from? Why am I here? What is the meaning of my existence? Where am I ultimately going? What happens to me when this life ends? These questions seem almost unavoidable because human beings possess an awareness of their own existence. We do not merely live…we know that we live. We are capable of looking at ourselves from a distance and wondering what our existence means. We can contemplate our birth, our consciousness, our mortality etc.. Every human being, in one way or another, seems to confront the mystery of existence. Even when we do not consciously ask these questions, they can remain somewhere beneath the surface of our lives. Sometimes they emerge during moments of happiness, sometimes during grief, sometimes in solitude, and sometimes when we become aware of our own mortality and especially when we feel lost and depressed. For me, these questions have gradually led toward a particular realization. I came from God, and ultimately my destiny is God. Full stop. This does not necessarily mean that the journey from beginning to end will be simple. I may encounter suffering. I may experience happiness and sadness, fear and tranquility, confusion and understanding. There may be trials whose purpose I cannot comprehend while I am experiencing them. There may be realities beyond my present understanding. Perhaps I could pass through heaven or hell. Perhaps there are possibilities that I cannot even conceptualize from the limited perspective of my present human existence. My understanding is finite, while God’s reality is infinite. Therefore, I cannot claim to know every detail of what lies beyond this life. But beneath all those possibilities, I find one idea that gives me a sense of coherence: my ultimate origin is God, and my ultimate destination is God.Everything else may be part of the journey. Islam talks a lot about heaven and hell as ultimate destination for people. If God is truly God, then His power cannot be confined by the limits of human imagination. If He wills to create heaven, He can create heaven. If He wills to create hell, He can create hell. If He wills to create realities beyond anything human beings currently understand, His power is not limited by our conceptual boundaries. This doesn’t mean that I must go through them , just that they are possible. When I was afraid and repeating those Islamic mantras during the night, . My mind was searching for stability, and the remembrance of God provided . There is no god but God. Human beings suffer because they want certainty about things that cannot be made certain. We want to know the future. We want to know exactly what will happen to us. We want guarantees about our relationships, our health, our success, our survival, and ultimately our fate. But existence does not give us complete control over these things.At some point, we have to surrender. If I truly came from God, then my existence is a return toward its source.From God.Through life.And ultimately back to God.I do not know .But perhaps it answers the most important one. I know where I came from.And I know, ultimately, where I am going.

If you start with romantic and sexual love, there’s an attraction between the masculine and the feminine. What keeps them connected is love. Maybe it’s the same with existence itself. Something is holding everything together, something that connects everything to everything else. Maybe that something is love. Love is like the glue that holds existence together.

All knowledge must be relative . Had it been absolute, it would be eternal .

If you are into Actualized.org then you are into these things .

Complete ego dissolution happens when the body dies . But you can see through your own ego while alive as human . At first it will cause you suffering but then you realize that the ego was the very thing that caused your suffering and that getting rid of your ego makes life easier and less serious because you are no longer constantly trying to maintain an illusion or a house of cards .

One of the deepest things Nisargadatta Maharaj keeps pointing to is that consciousness is not the Absolute. It’s difficult to understand for me because consciousness seems to be the most fundamental thing i know. Everything i experience appears in consciousness. The body is experienced in consciousness. Thoughts, feelings, sensations, memories, people, and the whole world are experienced in consciousness. Without consciousness, there cannot be any experience at all. And his point seems to be that “no experience at all “ is precisely the ultimate condition or the Absolute. the fact that there is consciousness right now is absolute. But Nisargadatta says no. Consciousness itself has appeared.There was a time when this consciousness was not present. Before the body was born, there was no experience of being this particular person. There was no sense of “I am.” There was no world being experienced through this body. There was no experience of space and time.Then the body was born, and with the living body consciousness appeared. Suddenly there was the simple feeling:“I am.” Later came:“I am this body…”“I am this person.”..“This is my family.”..“This is my life.”..“This is my world.” And the whole experience of existence unfolded from there. Before the body was born there was nothing at all . Similar to deep sleep . Then The body appeared, and consciousness appeared with it. Therefore consciousness cannot be the Absolute, because the Absolute cannot be something that appears and disappears, I guess is his point. The Absolute was there before the body, before the sense of “I am,” before the experience of the world.And when the body disappears, the consciousness associated with that body also disappears. He completely associate the body with consciousness. He is saying that what we take to be our entire existence like the body, the mind, the sense of being, the world we experience is something that has appeared. And what has appeared cannot be the final reality.This is why he says the Absolute is prior to consciousness. “Prior” here does not mean a long time ago. It does not mean that there was a period in history when the Absolute existed and then consciousness came later. The Absolute is prior even to time itself.Before consciousness appears, there is no experience of time.Before consciousness appears, there is no experience of space.Before consciousness appears, there is no experience of a world.So when he says the Absolute is prior to consciousness, he means that consciousness itself depends upon something that does not depend upon consciousness. The Absolute does not depend upon the body.The body depends upon consciousness for its experience.Consciousness does not depend upon the personal mind.The mind appears within consciousness.The world we experience does not exist for us independently of consciousness.But the Absolute does not depend upon any of this. I only listened to half of the ultimatum. Will add more .

If you read any spiritual tradition..you will find that the founders of those religions have awakened when they abandoned society and isolated themselves. Take Buddha. he left a luxurious life of being a Prince and went to the woods meditating until he either wakes up or dies there . Take Muhammad.he awakend in his 40s after he became fed up with his society's worship of idols . He used to meditate alone in a cave before he awakened one night. When the enlightened person dies , people turn their teachings into rules : “You gotta walk like this , talk like this , eat like this , shit like this , have sex with your spouse like this “. Stage blue religion is all about morality and god-given guidelines. the religious institutions’ functions nowadays is organizing society.

Yes they can be helpful . Stretching your jaw daily helps with getting wider jawline. I’ve done it before.

Yea , totally. I was curious about these kinds of topics since I was a little boy . Always wondered about big and difficult topics.