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As I grow older..I’ve begun to notice something that feels increasingly undeniable: with age..many experiences seem to lose their freshness. Perhaps this is simply part of being human. The longer we live.. the more familiar life becomes..and familiarity often dulls excitement. Things that once filled us with anticipation gradually lose their spark. I remember how much music meant to me as a child and during my early teenage years. Listening to my favorite songs was one of the greatest pleasures in my life. Today I still appreciate music.. but it takes much more to move me. Unless a melody or a song is truly exceptional.. I rarely experience the same excitement I once did. The same happened with football. During high school and my early years in college..I would eagerly count down the days until my favorite team played. A match felt like an event worth looking forward to. Now..that enthusiasm has largely disappeared. The games haven’t necessarily changed (although it did because the players who are the superstars now like Mbappe are lower in quality than the Messi & Ronaldo era )what has changed is my relationship to them. As I’ve grown older..many things that once brought me joy have gradually lost their intensity. Another change I’ve noticed is a kind of mental fatigue. As we age…our minds accumulate years of memories..experiences..disappointmens and responsibilities. Carrying all of that can become exhausting. A child often appears lighthearted and carefree partly because they haven’t yet accumulated the psychological weight that adults carry. But An older person carries decades of memories that shape how they think..feel and experience the world. (Alongside the natural physical changes of aging)there is often an invisible emotional and mental burden as well. I sometimes feel that this process is reflected in people’s faces. Youth often carries a softness vitality. With age.. faces become marked not only by wrinkles but also by the experiences of a lifetime..the struggles..the sad experiences ..responsibilities and moments of hardship that have left their imprint. What I’m describing is in many ways the ordinary process of aging. It isn’t something most of us like to acknowledge. We naturally want to preserve our physical vitality and the sense of wonder we had when we were young. We hope to remain mentally fresh and emotionally alive and physically strong for as long as possible. Yet aging inevitably changes us. It asks us to let go of certain forms of excitement and vitality while confronting the reality that nothing remains unchanged forever. Perhaps the challenge is not to resist aging itself ..but to discover whether there is another kind of youthfulness…one rooted not in novelty or physical energy but in presence and in inner peace that does not depend on being young.

Three days ago.. I experienced what I can only describe as a breakthrough after few glimpses of what felt like ultimate peace. It wasn’t the first time I had encountered this state..but it was profound enough that it made me reflect on the other moments when I had touched it. If I could somehow stabilize this experience and make it my ordinary way of being…I believe I would live with a deep sense of well-being for most of my life. The first glimpse came while I was meditating in a temple. I had been reading a simple phrase that served as a kind of mantra: “God is peace…and from Him peace comes.” As I quietly repeated those words silently (without voicing it ) I became completely absorbed in the present moment. For a while..the past no longer existed with its regrets..and the future disappeared with all its imagined problems. There was only silence ..both around me and within me. Then without effort I entered a state of profound stillness and peace. It was so complete that I didn’t want to leave the temple. I wanted to remain there forever untouched by the noise and complications of ordinary life. That was the first glimpse. The second glimpse happened at home. I was standing by my window.. looking at the trees outside. There are a lot of beautiful trees near my house .Birds moved between the branches..resting on the leaves before taking flight again. The street was quiet and the sunlight illuminated the entire scene with divine light . I love sunlight and for some reason I feel depressed as soon as the sun sets and the darkness comes. For a few minutes..as I was looking at the birds and the tree I entered the same peaceful state I had experienced in the temple. Every need..every question and every worry simply dissolved. I felt completely at home. Not a physical home .I was already inside my house ..but in an existential sense. A physical home is temporary. One day this house will no longer exist. It will be destroyed and another building will be built in its place .Even the body I inhabit cannot be my ultimate home..because it too is temporary and will eventually die and disappear . What felt like my true home was not a physical place ..but a state of consciousness or a state of being ..a profound and unconditional peace that seemed untouched by time or circumstance. Of course the meditation eventually ended. The sun set..the birds went to sleep in the evening and ordinary life resumed. Those experiences made me wonder: if peace can reveal itself so completely why does it vanish? Is it possible for such peace to become permanent rather than something that appears only in rare moments? The third glimpse came three days ago. That night..I slept more peacefully than I had in a long time. I think it was because I had spent much of the day simply sitting on my couch in quiet meditation… allowing myself to feel grounded and settled. The stillness I cultivated during the day seemed to carry naturally into sleep. What these three experiences have in common is that they point toward the same realization. Ultimate peace is formless presence ..a silent awareness that exists before thought..before desire and before fear. Whenever I briefly rest in that presence..everything else loses its urgency. The challenge now is no longer discovering that peace exists..but learning how to live from it consistently until it becomes not an occasional glimpse but the foundation of my life.

Lately I’ve found myself slipping back into old habits: smoking cigarettes…overusing my smartphone..doomscrolling..watching porn..staying awake until sunrise.. and relying heavily on caffeine through dark coffee..sweetened coffee and tea. Too much of these that I might drink three or more cups per day . I’ve been trying to break these habits for a very long time…yet I keep ending up in the same place. It feels like I’m treating symptoms rather than addressing the underlying cause. I’m becoming convinced that if I don’t understand the root of these behaviors.. I’ll continue repeating the same cycle. One of the biggest struggles in my life right now is insomnia and a constant sense of restlessness. It creates the perfect conditions for every unhealthy habit. When I can’t sleep..i end up reaching for cigarettes to kill the stress in a masculine manner .. too much caffeine to refresh my tired body and mind .. watching pornography even though I’m not horny but just to get a kick of dopamine to stimulate myself..or endless scrolling simply to fill the long hours of the night. At the same time… I know these very habits make it even harder to sleep. So do these habits lead to insomnia and restlessness or does insomnia lead to them? It’s a vicious cycle where I can’t always tell which came first..because each one reinforces the other. My intuition tells me that if I could genuinely overcome my insomnia.. many of these cravings would lose much of their power. I’ve noticed that the insomnia itself is usually fueled by an overactive and restless mind. My mind is so active and tired and restless. My attention has become conditioned by a constant stream of online content.. information and stimulation. Even when I consume things that seem intellectually valuable..like philosophy podcasts..educational videos..or spiritual content which is genuinely useful..I often realize that they are simply another form of mental noise. Deep down..I know I’m not really seeking wisdom anymore.. I’m feeding an addiction to constant stimulation. The difficult part is that my mind always wants to be occupied. Whenever there is silence there is boredom or emptiness..then I instinctively reach for something to distract myself. It feels as though I can’t comfortably exist with reality as it is. Instead of being present.. I constantly seek another thought.. another video..another cigarette.. another cup of coffee. For nearly a year I’ve felt torn between two different ways of living. One part of me longs for a quiet.. minimalist life rooted in meditation..simplicity..and inner peace. The other part craves excitement..intensity..novelty and constant stimulation. I keep swinging between these two extremes without fully committing to either.. and the result is that I never feel settled. At this point..I’m beginning to believe that the direction I need is not more information..more theories.. or more intellectual analysis. What I need is to learn how to relax my mind and body..to become comfortable with stillness..and to experience the present moment without immediately trying to escape it through distractions or unhealthy habits. The challenge is that I’ve tried this many times before. Sometimes I’ve had brief periods of success. Like three days ago I almost spent the entire day just resting in the stillness and peace of the present moment and I almost had an awakening to peace which I want to talk about distinctively..but eventually I fell back into the same noisy..overstimulating lifestyle. My question is no longer whether meditation or mindfulness can help .. they can. The real question is how to make those practices deep enough and consistent enough that they become my new way of living rather than another temporary experiment.

The way to heaven passes through hell.

Life has opposites. You appreciate the good because there is the bad . You appreciate the light because there is darkness .

Addiction is one of life’s deepest traps. It doesn’t begin because someone is weak. Or because they want to destroy themselves. More often it begins because they are searching for something every human longs for. Peace. Happiness. Relief. Love. Or even a sense of the divine. As someone who is addicted to nicotine myself. I know it is more than just an emotional escape. There is a real physical dependence on the substance. That makes walking away incredibly difficult. People often say. Just quit. But they don’t understand the battle happening inside. Many who struggle with addiction carry invisible burdens. Chronic illness. Emotional pain. Childhood trauma. Depression. Loneliness. Or an existential crisis that leaves them searching for meaning. The drug. The cigarette. The drink. It offers temporary comfort. For a brief moment it quiets the storm. But eventually you awaken to the painful truth. The very thing that promised relief has been deepening your suffering all along. Breaking free isn’t always as simple as making a decision. Sometimes life has to teach us through experience. Sometimes karma has to run its course. Until you finally see that the addiction is no longer easing your pain. It has become part of it. Those lessons are often learned the hard way. So before judging someone trapped in addiction. Remember that every person has a story you cannot see. Don’t condemn people for the wisdom they haven’t yet gained. Or the experiences they haven’t yet lived through. Compassion reaches places that judgment never will. I believe that at their core. Most people are acting from what they believe will bring them relief. Peace. Or happiness. We may choose the wrong paths. But the longing beneath them is deeply human. What people need most isn’t condemnation. They need understanding. Patience. And hope.

Honestly I think the only way to get really enlightened is to abandon society and meditate in a cave . Enlightenment retreats are good to some extent though . online enlightenment is just entertainment.

Most women are attracted to emotional intimacy and romance . Actually the more feminine and beautiful she is the more she is attracted towards Emotional guys . Let me explain what I mean by emotional guys . Women aren’t actually( in real life )attracted to super masculine dudes who are just like lions in terms of physical strength and personality . She wants a “cute guy”. Not necessarily very handsome but they do care about looks to a bare minimum degree ..the guy has to be good looking . She is super attracted to Witt and sense of humor..they find that irresistible in guys . And finally romance . Most women are attracted to romance and sweet romantic talk . And romantic cinematic Situations..like kneeling down to her and presenting a rose to her and calling her “darling “. They are super attracted to these things . They are actually not attracted to super masculine and emotionally crude men . I feel like I want to share this since a lot of young guys are struggling with figuring out what attracts women and how can they become a type of person who is attractive to a woman . This is my opinion of course. And I don’t have any issue being disagreed with from guys who have lots of experience with women .In my opinion ..many women are drawn less to emotional toughness and more to emotional connection. By “emotional” I don’t mean being dramatic but I mean being warm..expressive and funny..And especially romantic. Despite all the jokes about romantic movies ..I think many women genuinely enjoy thoughtful gestures and affectionate words. A flower..a heartfelt compliment ..or simply saying “You look beautiful today” often has more impact than trying to act like an untouchable alpha male. Ironically ..many men think they have to become colder..tougher ..and less expressive to be attractive. I suspect the opposite is often true. Confidence is attractive..but so are kindness and emotional intelligence playfulness and the ability to make her laugh.

What is Love ?

One of the strangest things about being human is realizing that there is always more. More things to learn…more ideas to think about… more books to read…more people to listen to…and more ways to spend your time. At first this seems exciting because it means life is full of possibilities. But after a while…all those possibilities can become overwhelming. Instead of feeling free..you start feeling lost. If you spend enough time exploring your own mind…you begin to notice that it never seems to end. One thought leads to another…which leads to another…and before you know it you’ve spent hours.. days thinking about the same subject from different angles. Your imagination also has no clear limit because there are always more possibilities..more questions..and more ways to look at something. You could spend your entire life exploring a single idea and still never reach the end of it. The same is true when it comes to knowledge. Every subject branches into more subjects. You have physics..biology..chemistry..psychology..sociology.. anthropology..history..economics..and hundreds of others. Then each of those has its own smaller areas that people dedicate their entire lives to studying. No matter how much you learn.. there is always another topic waiting for your attention. The internet makes this even more obvious. There are endless communities..ideologies..lifestyles and belief systems. You could spend years following New Age spirituality..veganism.. the black pill community…NoFap..pickup culture.. politics.. or any number of other movements. Each one claims to have figured something important out. You could easily spend your whole life deeply involved in one community without ever seriously looking into the others. Language itself is endless. Every word is explained using other words.. and those words are explained with even more words. If you’re curious enough you can keep digging forever. Every answer creates another question. The same problem shows up with books..podcasts..YouTube videos..and courses. There are millions of them covering every topic imaginable: philosophy..science..psychology..spirituality..art.. healthcare..self-improvement..religion..business..politics..and much more. You start asking yourself questions like: Which books should I read? Which YouTube channels are actually worth watching? Which subjects matter the most? What should I learn first? Eventually all these choices become exhausting.. You might spend ten years studying spirituality only to wonder if you should have spent that time learning psychology or science instead. Or you could become an expert in politics and later wish you had focused on your health..relationships or creativity. Every choice closes the door on thousands of other possibilities and there is no way to know for certain whether you picked the best one. The same thing happens in everyday life. Right now you could go to the gym..meditate..read a book.. watch a documentary..improve your English or any language..call a friend.. work on a project..hit on some girls …etc .There are countless ways to spend the next hour and every option has a good argument behind it. The difficult part is that there is no perfect formula for deciding what you should do. What seems like the best choice depends on what you value. Do you want happiness? Knowledge? Success? Peace of mind? Health? Wisdom? Even the way you decide what’s important depends on beliefs that could always be questioned. This can leave you feeling confused an and uncertainor even depressed. It can seem like no matter what you choose you’re missing out on something else. But maybe the point isn’t to find the one perfect path. Maybe the reason life feels so overwhelming is because reality offers more than any one person could ever experience. No matter what you choose there will always be other interesting paths you never get to explore. Once you understand that the pressure begins to ease. The confusion doesn’t disappear but you stop expecting yourself to figure everything out. You accept that no one can experience everything or learn everything or make the perfect decision every time. All you can do is choose a direction ..knowing that countless other possibilities will always exist .and that’s simply part of being alive.

This is not a scientific term . It’s not meant as a technical definition or a rigid category but just a practical way of grouping common habits that many people feel like to consume time in without adding much long-term value.

People who are not so developed and wise .the average Joe you meet on the street .

It’s only after you waste so much time and energy being engaged in these habits like Scrolling social media feeds without a clear purpose…And Comparing and measuring yourself against others instead of living your own live.. . And Overthinking and over analyzing endlessly instead of deciding and acting. And especially Arguing and especially online debates that rarely change anyone’s mind. And doomscrolling constantly checking notifications on email or even this forum. Also being obsessed with knowledge and constantly jumping from one video to a book to a post etc …I say only after you are consumed in these things and exhausted were you able to step back and see that that very lifestyle is what is making you miserable. So yes the average person doesn’t see this complexity taxing until he’s already stuck in it and unable to unplug from it .

There isn’t really any contradiction between what I’m saying and what you’re saying . The average person is caught up in endless pursuits..believing they’re making progress without realizing they’re trapped in the endless maze of modern life. Escaping that mindset requires a level of awareness and wisdom that most people never develop. The ability to step back and see the bigger picture of how dysfunctional many aspects of the modern world have become is indeed for advanced people.Many people are absorbed in online communities..internet slang..and constant debates and experiencing stress and anxiety without recognizing that these environments may be contributing to those feelings.

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@AsafTheMagniv thanks for your advice my friend. I was just expressing something I notice with the modern world that almost everyone in today’s society is stuck in . I’m not personally overwhelmed by it because I’m able to take a meta picture and realize what is going on . And I wanted to express my observations. thank you for the practical steps you listed .

Was my love life written by you… or by someone with a strange sense of humor? 😅

Being okay with dying reflects maturity and wisdom and lack of attachments . But “wanting to die “ reflects suffering and misery. I don’t want to die .

Man I’m only 30 and im already getting sick and tired of carrying my bag of flesh and bones already . Lmao. you are 48 and you look like an elderly grandpa already lol . Stress makes age faster .

There is no contradiction between the ultimate answer is unknowable or incomprehensible (which it is ) and that still we can approach more and more accurate understanding of reality which is NOT just beliefs taken on blind faith like religious dogma. Knowledge is possible even relatively speaking . Even the notion of there not being a separate self was introduced to you at some late point in your life . Even the idea that reading and thinking and learning should be dropped was acquired by learning and reading about it . Again I don’t disagree that in the most absolute sense we don’t know shit but at the relative level knowledge is possible. Look at something like AI. Who would design AI..Elon Musk or Tony Parsons ?

@Breakingthewall is suffering funny though?

Not to realize you are god but to remember that you are god . For me it’s not in the future as discovery . It’s a remembrance found in the past . Do you think it’s hard to remember that you are god ?

I don’t remember where I read the factoid but they say the body keeps building and growing and getting stronger increasingly up to 40 yo(granted that you take care of your health ). And then past 40 your body begins to weaken and decompose and starts reversing and slowing down and basically starts deteriorating and aging . Not sure if it’s true .

To me there is no openness from your side to genuinely understand these perspective. You’re coming off as a debunker. I hope I’m wrong here . We can agree to disagree .

I don’t understand. I tried tho.