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question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? thanks .

I don’t hate people. I’m not angry and grumpy all the time nor is it my default. I’m actually a very nice guy . I never started a fight with anyone. I always wish to live in peace but The world is not peaceful. most people are not peaceful..at least in my life . That’s the issue .

India . I answered you in PM.

@Leo Gura edited the title and OP. Please check. I understand your concern.

I’m going to . That’s what I’m trying to get help with . You are just telling me stop and that’s it . Ok fine but Let’s liken it to a bully messing with you on the local street ..like he leaves you choiceless but to engage in a fight . I don’t want to beat anyone ..but some situations force you . There’s no way to undo what I did. But I promise that that’s not a regular thing and not gonna happen again. the general question is how to deal with toxic people of behavior in a non toxic way? We all do things we aren’t proud . I bullied a classmate too in the 5th grade for a while. I can’t change the past. But I can make sure that I never create that pain in another person for the rest of my life. But I really don’t know HOW?

Of course very bad behavior. I regret it. I don’t beat her regularly. It was one incident. I’m looking forward to hear healthy ways of dealing with anger and toxicity .

Yes some porn genres do. forget the crappy porn which is 100% focused on penetration and women screaming unrealisticly. There is ASMR porn and Roleplay audio porn and these can give you the intimacy you’re seeking . Also live cams when you can chat with the model and make her do what you want her to do if you pay her.

for me personally the objective part is that porn is obviously unhealthy and toxic but let’s not pretend that we are angels because almost everyone watches it. the subjective part for me is it makes you feel like you don’t need to find a girlfriend or wife because you can have an infinite harem at your fingertips..so why bother?

@Eskilon It’s a non issue . The mind is trying to survive by thinking creatively when you try to silence it . good luck.

How long do you meditate each session? And do you have such short memory? Can’t you meditate in times when the mind is naturally less active like first thing in the morning or before sleeping ?

Write them down after you meditate . Obviously don’t stop your meditation every minute to write something. sometimes the fastest way to do something is the slowest. if you have to find your car keys to rush to work cause you’re late you might mess some Coffe on your suit .. you can find them if you slow search for them.

Yes you are going through the nihilism phase realizing of those insights . it’s temporary . You can look at the same truths in two different ways. An example would be the realization that you are 100% NOT responsible for anything in your life …..you can look at this as a depressing fact or liberating fact . as we get older we start feeling cooked because we gain more life experience and maturity. We start growing sick of certain things in life . The phase of losing mojo for life is over here. If you have your daily food and shelter and hopefully good health then really what is missing ? What are you expecting from life ?

Thanks Leo .

If you view a specific section like this one then go to the forum index you will appear logged out temporarily unless you refresh the page . is that what you are experiencing ?

Its just pure imagination shape-shifting substance. This doesn’t mean I know what is that substance but words point . Here's some interesting notes about dreams: 1- they don't have a beginning or context. Its instantaneous "lights on "and a whole scene is there . 2- it's often related to shit that happend in the waking state .so watch out what you input into your so called brain during the waking state cause your mind will create dreams out of that..because what else would you dream about other than stuff you already have in your mind ? 3- the whole solipsism thing is still a hard nut to crack for me. Because obviously you know the entire dream is you imagining the dream world .I don't exactly (yet) see fully why is this so farfetched to be the case with this experience right now.

Give an example . link a conversation. It works so well for me regardless of the topic about spirituality or otherwise.

We basically did . Religion started off as primitive methods of raising consciousness and promoting good values through rituals and sermons and worship. we now have way more advanced techniques than that .

oxymoron.can’t work. religion is a set of spiritual beliefs.

Who is the I that gets it ? what is meant by “self illusion “? Either there is a self or there isn’t..not a self that is illusory . you keep saying there isn’t a me or you while All the time using the pronoun “I”.

Why is there nothing rather than something?

What would stop nothing from becoming something 😂 ? If the primordial state is literally lawless nothing then anything can happen including this universe .

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The kingdom of heaven is within you." (Luke 17:21) "You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also." (Matthew 5:38) “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that?" (Matthew 5:43) "Don't worry about tomorrow. It will take care of itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." (Matthew 6:34) "Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others, and you will be forgiven." (Luke 6:37) "Do not judge, or you will be judged. For with the same judgment you pronounce, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." (Matthew 7:1) Feel free to share yours 🙏

These two videos totally shattered my anxiety and worry about sleep and immortality and such topics. It's a matter of understanding what sleep is ..and what the real self is ..and what is mortal and what is immortal.

I don't remember anything prior to when I was 6 years old. Let alone prior to my birth . Have you experienced directly the birth of yourself ? The moment you came into existence? The moment you jumped out of eternal oblivion into a world ? All I remember past a certain point in childhood is like a Television's buffering. It isn’t that there must be a little observer sitting inside your head watching everythin...it’s that “obviousness” itself implies some form of awareness . I'm not saying what is the origin of life .I'm saying the origin of consciousness.you are a conscious being .what is the origin of consciousness ? It doesn't matter ?yes it doesn't matter but that's a separate issue . Either answer the question or say I don't know . No problem. Or ? Life is just :wake up..go to work .. sweat ..eat ..drink.. piss ..shit ..fuck.. reproduce ..die..and then nothing ever happened ?!