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My dad used to take me to Karate classes after school every week when I was young to toughen my bones for fighting with fools in school lol. I was really a small guy in my school days . Just basic self defense techniques for defending yourself against any attack on your way home at night if you live in a kinky neighborhood: 1- keep moving . If you fight with someone don’t stand still like a fool because that is going to make you easier to get punched because you are stationary. Keep moving all over the place and this will make you more difficult to get punched . 2-punch the bully even if he is physically stronger than you . This sounds obvious but it is not . If he is really a buffed guy you might chicken out and be passive and let him punch you .. this is mistake ..you must punch him . Don’t just defend yourself. Attack him. Kick him in the testicle with the forefront of your shoes from downside to up . lifiting is crucial also if you want to avoid injury. Don’t become a gym rat but just get a little bit muscular in bare minimum way . You are a man at the end of day . You never know what kind of shit life might make you face .

Love includes denying Love. no but seriously.. it doesn’t matter what Ralston says about love or what Leo says about god . This is appealing to authorities. You should find out what is true for yourself . I think this is a central core pillar of Leo’s teachings as well . This word “sovereignty of mind “ is being overused in the forum where people say sovereignty over their own mind means you are epistemically responsible for what you hold as true or false . Leo isn’t saying anything new . The Bible said God is Love 2000 years ago . What matters is what you are conscious of .

I ask AI for information. Is there anything wrong about that ? But I don’t learn from AI . but I just read books or watch lectures on YouTube . I only use ChatGPT to edit my posts on the forum and organize them a bit like editing the grammar or things like this . If I’m looking for a fact or information I ask AI and I don’t see anything wrong with that. What’s the difference between asking AI or asking Google or any search engine ? The AI itself uses the internet database to generate its response or where else would it collect information from ? Being overly sensitive against AI is also extreme just like the AI slop . So balance is key .

It’s dismissed in academic philosophy and considered horseshit off the cuff because of two reasons: 1- it cannot be proved or disproved. Go spend eternity trying to prove something exists outside your bubble of perception right now . See how that works out. It is simply not possible by definition. Because you are always using your own consciousness to view the world and to prove the consciousness of others . Which is also just impossible. I don’t care how intimate and close that person is to you .. like maybe your wife ..go kiss her and stare deep inside her eyes and you find yourself inside her eyes ..not her . 2- it is dismissed also because it’s completely unpractical. Unless this truth of solipsism can be utilized like in lucid dreaming to impact the world to your favor then it’s pointless regardless of whether it’s true or not .

The realization of emptiness is both liberating and terrifying. Emptiness means the true nature of all things is devoid of any substance. It doesn’t mean things do not exist or are illusory or that existence is like a black blank dark silent empty room . Everything in existence exists exactly as is right here right now . But the substance of all forms is formlessness. When you experience a restless mind or uncomfortable stream of thoughts and you can’t sleep because of that then here is what you gotta do . Don’t try to silence the mind . The mind can’t shut up. Thoughts flow like a river. It’s silly to try to stop the river . Instead you should sit and watch the water flowing and watch the thoughts moving without reaction . Why is this difficult? Because the voice in your head is not you . It’s what’s been programmed into your mind since you were a child being displayed on repeat . When you observe the mind thinking and you just watch thoughts come and go you will experience difficulties. You will want to engage with thoughts . Why ? Because what remains when you leave the mind alone and just exist as you are as awareness? You see emptiness. You see inside of your being emptiness. There is no one there inside of your being . Just a silent nonpartisan awareness. And its nature is empty . Try this right now :sit in a silent room comfortably and still your body completely and ignore your mind chatter completely. But remain alert . What is found in that space you just allowed ? Literally emptiness. This terrifies you because it’s boring . Your true nature is total blankness. And you can’t stand hearing the sound of silence. You want to engage with the thoughts . Because if you didn’t you will be empty and bored . This is just the tip of the iceberg of the emptiness.if you stay in that meditation long enough just being empty you will fall asleep and enter into the core of your being and the absolute nature of existence which is pure emptiness or pure formlessness which we call deep sleep. In deep sleep there is no mind chatter and there is no sensory experience of any kind .it’s not dark or black . It’s literally complete empty void . This void can be liberating when you realize it to be who you are or it can be terrifying. Here is how to cure insomnia: When your mind is restless and filled with uncomfortable thoughts and when you can’t sleep..the solution is not to try to silence it. The mind does not simply stop. Thoughts flow like a river ..and trying to stop them is as futile as trying to stop the flow. Instead sit and observe. Watch the flow of thoughts without reacting to them. the voice in your head is not truly “you.” It is a collection conditioning and programming accumulated memories since childhood repeating themselves automatically. When you begin to observe your thoughts without engaging you will feel a strong urge to get involved again. Why? What remains when you let the mind be and rest as pure awareness? You encounter emptiness. There is no solid “self” at the center only a quiet empty being . Try this: sit comfortably in a quiet room. Keep your body still. Let the mind chatter continue but do not engage with it. Stay alert. What do you find in that space? Emptiness. Isn’t it ? Nothing . This can feel simply boring. The mind resists silence. It wants stimulation ..distraction..involvement..music ..food..doomscrolling ..anything. Without these things you are left with a sense of blankness and this can be uncomfortable. But here is the key point: this emptiness is also called Nirvana. Absolute bliss and happiness. Not pleasure or excitement but serenity and blissfullness . Consider Deep sleep . It’s pure effortless serenity. That’s nirvana . That’s what you are at the core of your being . If you reject it or don’t accept it or find it boring or terrifying then you will suffer . If you accept it and fall in love with who you are then you will be happy. Stop fearing sleep as if it’s non existence. ..deep sleep: it is completely free of struggle. There is nothing to desire ..nothing to resist. It is pure rest. Like I said If you reject it if you find it boring or frightening you will continue to suffer constantly seeking distraction. But if you accept it and come to recognize it as what you truly are it can become a source of profound peace which nothing else in this world of form can offer .

By doing serious spiritual work and raising awareness beyond materialistic things. What would it take to make you finally happy and worth it ? Look at the richest people on the planet..I don’t see them losing sleep from the happiness overload . stop seeking the illusion of completion in a future state. See the more you seek the more you reinforce the illusion that something is lacking. What could be lacking in wholeness? What is lacking in perfection? Yet you always believe that something is wrong somewhere. Why you do that? Because that's what motivates you to take action. To accomplish. No attainment.. no accomplishment.. no goal.. no matter how many hoops you jump through.. no matter how well you do in the rat race ..nothing’s going to fix that sense of inadequacy. Cause that sense of not being good enough cannot be fixed by anything…Because this sense of worthlessness.. is not true. But unfortunately you were brainwashed into believing it .

If I am God.. then there is no rush..because sooner or later I will return to my ultimate state. The religious creation stories describe God as an eternal essence which is uncreated and indestructible and perfect and omnipotent. People ask why a perfect god would relinquish its perfection and completeness in order to appear finite and vulnerable as a human. But perhaps that is the wrong question. Perhaps the opposite is true: of fucking course God would do that. Imagine existing eternally with unlimited power.. able to create anything instantly out of nothing. From a human perspective..that sounds desirable because we experience life through lack and limitation. But from the perspective of god this perfection might become hell itself . In that sense limitation itself becomes meaningful. So god created Struggle ..uncertainty ..growth and drama to kind of add spices to the meal . So perhaps God willingly veils His own limitless nature (not truly losing it .. but through self deception and illusion) in order to experience limitation . so Existence is like cosmic play: an oscillation between the unlimited state and limited form ..between unity and separation ..between Godhood and individuality again and again. So there is no becoming god in the ultimate sense you are already that eternal existence. But you appear human right now but you will merge back to your ultimate state . But you have to experience this life here first with all its diversity .

The way I understand reincarnation is through the cycle of nature itself. Water evaporates upward..forms clouds..and then returns to the earth as rain. The rain seeps into the soil..and with nutrients from the earth and energy from sunlight..plants begin to grow .for example a corn. A chicken raised on a farm eats the corn. Then your father eats the chicken..and over time that energy and matter become part of his body then contributing to the creation of a drop of semen. He mates with your mother..the sperm meets the egg and you begin to form as a fetus. you are born as a baby and the process continues again in one form or another. In this sense reincarnation is simply the transformation of matter and life from one state to another. You are not separate from the universe ..you are part of it and in a way you are made from everything that came before you. So to me reincarnation is not necessarily something mystical or woo woo . It isthe natural process of existence continuously changing form.

it can be tested directly. Right now existentially ..what is your true essence? What are you ? 1- the true essence is always the case because it is true . It isn’t true conditionally. 2- you can’t collapse something which doesn’t exist . If you collapse the subject-object duality you are saying this duality was real in the first place .

Thanks for your perspective. I honestly don’t know what you are describing or haven’t experienced it . I’m describing why is it insanely difficult to even meditate for 10 minutes for newbies .. it’s because when you stop engaging with thoughts and put them in front of you and watch them flow while you remain as a witness to them like sitting on the shore of a river and watching it flow without interference.. I say when you do that you experience your true essence as pure awareness. This awareness is empty in the sense that it is just pure being . It is not big or small . Not intelligent or dumb . Not happy or sad. Not a male or female . Not a person at all . Not even a self . Not even a thing . It can’t be said because if you say it you are back to thoughts . You put a barrier between your true essence and thoughts . What I mean by “inside my being “ is metaphorical. I don’t mean it literally inside my human body . I mean the core of what I am . Pure being . Pure witnessing. Pure watchfulness . Pure consciousness. And pure emptiness. And this emptiness feels boring and terrifying which is why you feel like going crazy if I locked you inside a room with nothing to do staring at 4 walls for 6 hours .im not denying your point but I’m just describing a different realization.

Yes and "Me” is pure emptiness. There is nothing there at the deepest core of your being . And this terrifies you.

@No1Here2c that’s irrelevant to OP and the insight I’m sharing . Thank you .

@No1Here2c the river cannot be stopped. You swim with the current in total surrender or you attempt the impossible by trying to stop the flow .

I would like to add that as Buddha taught we should not even waste time by discussing suffering or evil in relation to a perfect god because what’s the point ? The Buddha dismissed the topic of god completely and erased him from the equation. What matters is there is suffering in this world which everyone must go through one way or another. So Buddhas main concern with how to put an end to this suffering if possible instead of speculating about why would a perfect god make me suffer . And I agree . it is unproductive to spend time debating suffering or evil in relation to god . set the concept of a creator god aside entirely. His central concern was the reality that suffering exists and is an unavoidable part of human life. Instead of engaging in metaphysical debates let’s understand the nature of suffering and more importantly if there is an end that we as humans can put to it .

The problem of evil says that if there is an all knowing ..all benevolent..and all powerful God then He would not create anything evil. But since evil exists ..at least one of these three attributes must be false. This means that either God is not all knowing or not all good or not all powerful. If any of these are true then He would not be considered God in the first place . I am not sure whether there is a creator God with such attributes who created the world as it is portrayed in Islam and Christianity. I tend to lean more toward the Buddhist perspective. The Buddha taught that there is no creator God with such qualities and that life is dukkha orsuffering. Pleasure is kinda overhyped ..exaggerated.. temporary and fleeting .. whereas suffering appears to be more constant and dominant. I mean We are literally born crying while our mothers endure intense pain and screaming. So what does that signify? After that we continue to suffer and even if we become millionaires we die and death hurts like hell . So Buddha will just deny his own human hood to exit this suffering completely through total indifference towards the world . He said the root of all suffering is desire or craving and we can add attachments and expectations. Apparently even Buddha himself didn’t slay the suffering bitch because he is a child with bone cancer somewhere .

I’m not sure whether this has to do with gender identity ..sexuality..or simply your role in life. Being afraid to take responsibility for yourself and your life isn’t necessarily the same as feeling like a woman in a man’s body. I understand that as experiencing a conflict between your identity and your physical body.. a desire for hormonal changes or gender change surgery. If that’s not what you’re experiencing.. then it may not be about gender or sexuality..but rather about personal development and maturity. Maturity can’t be forced.you grow into it over time. it develops when life challenges you ..rather than when you try to push yourself into it prematurely.

@eTorro Is it physical or mental ? Do you eat because you feel hungry or just to enjoy food ? It could be either physical or mental as Natasha said . If it’s physical..try to eat only when you’re truly hungry. Waiting until you feel really hungry can make food more satisfying and delicious which may help you feel full with smaller portions. also stop eating before finishing your entire plate. If you find yourself getting hungry too often eat more filling foods in your diet like Complex carbohydrates like oats because this can help you stay full for longer periods of time. If the habit is more mental or emotional then the approach is different but you need to clarify that first .

The only model of truth that can work is one that defines absolute truth as all that there is..therefore it would be prior to knowing. It is not something you can come to know as a specific piece of information in the future after reading a thousand books. It is both the journey and the destination..not just the destination. If you assume there is an absolute static truth in the form of a piece of information that you will eventually come to know ..you also have to account for the constant changes in your experience..thoughts..worldview..and convictions. How many times in your life have you believed you had found the absolute truth only to later change your mind?

What matters is whether that aligns with your level of development or not. From my understanding..both mentalities have their own role and utility.

Technology and luxurious lifestyle play a huge role in this as much as social conditions and upbringing. One reason we feel boredom is that we are not sufficiently occupied …or there isn’t much going on in our lives to put it as it is. If you lived in nature and had to hunt for your food every day ..you likely wouldn’t experience as much boredom. There would be little room for it, because you would instead be dealing with a more intense emotion like stress. You don’t feel bored when you are stressed right ? in practical terms one possible solution to boredom is to take on a demanding or tiring job. Or purposely creating more challenging lifestyle for yourself .

Another issue is that meditation is based on quieting the “monkey mind” and its constant chatter.. or at least being able to observe the mind from a third-person perspective ..as if there is literally a monkey blabbering inside your head..and you create distance between that monkey (the mind) and yourself as awareness. The problem is that we are so accustomed to identifying with the mind that we believe the voice in our head is important. But when you try to silence or calm the mind..it often grows a hundred times stronger and more chaotic. This is especially true for me because I’m addicted to stimulation ..constantly doing something like listening to music or playing video games in my spare time. Because of that I struggle with insomnia. It’s difficult for me to lie in bed in complete silence and darkness without being occupied by something. I need to cut certain habits from my life and start living more meditatively.

I think there are two sides to my answer to this question: the mental side and the physical and physiological side. Mentally… I understand that not a single atom in the universe is out of place. Everything is exactly as it should be :right ..okay and perfect in its own way ..no matter what is happening in my life or in the world. Physically the body will still experience pain if I am being tortured or harmed. The goal is not to physically tolerate everything that happens in life because that is impossible by design. For example ..if you ignore hunger your body will eventually die. Instead.. the goal is to lessen mental suffering by becoming more conscious of the neutrality..inevitability.. and indifference of life. This awareness can reduce suffering and eliminate the unnecessary layers of suffering we add on top of what we experience.

I’m running out of temper lately and my tolerance for human bullshit is starving thin. What I mean by human bullshit is this mentality that ordinary people have believing their personality is something fixed.. they have a self image ..they engage in drama to protect their character. Nothing wrong with that since that’s the majority of people . Let’s not assume that everyone are high conscious people or aware of some egoic behavior. I have anger issues and I am losing tolerance for dealing with people especially toxic people with toxic traits..I immediately scream and insult and get into fights. unfortunately I went back to smoking and drinking caffeine because the stress is just disgusting. It seems to me that that’s how people are and how life is..people can’t love each others and respect each others. People like to protect their overutilized self image. I don’t know how to put up with people anymore.. if I leave them go to hell with their toxicity they step on me and if I beat the living hell out of them I feel regret .

Obviously it has . If not the main factor then it plays a part no matter how trivial it is . I don’t see women bullying other women on the street .

Which is the whole problem.