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One of the biggest harms of pornography is that it twists your view on sexuality. It makes you think that sex feels like a trip to other world!!. When you actually have sex(if you did have sex then you know ) that sex isn't that good!. You will be shocked..it's boring and not that pleasurable in comparison to porn !. In sex ..The physical pleasure that you will feel in your penis is far less than masturbation..beacuse when you masturbate you can control the tightness and the grip on your penis and the speed..in sex you have a certain vagina with a fixed tightness which is way more soft than your monkey fapping death grip!. In sex you probably gonna have one person to have sex with..unlike porn when you can have sex with 100 woman in one fucking hour!. Your partner is more likely not going to be that perfect plastic goddess !..her teeth are not going to be all white and semetric!. Also ..sex requires more physical effort ..your whole body is at work..whreas in masturbation ..just your hand and you dick . I think sexual desire and lust is one of the most important and mysterious phenomena in nature . It feels so good but it's never enough..we are forever chasing that orgasm. In fact..there will never be such thing as enough ..even if you have one zillion orgasm with one zillion different women ..You will ask for more. It drains us, we know.. yet we can't help but desire it. Don't think that when you become old ass man in his 80's that you finally gonna be done with sex ..the lust in your mind will stay just the same ..you will just grow tired of chasing nothingness . This is why I truly believe that overcoming sexual desire is nessciarly to achieving happiness in life..true happens is not in sex..its in overcoming this endless obsession .In fact ..sex brings misery if you have noticed..for some reason In the hell ..you feel kinda sad after sex which is the exact opposite of what you expected ..yet you keep falling at the same trap.!! It remindes me of an experience they have done on rats..the rats push the button and they get a hit of heroin.. those rats keep pushing the button until they overdose and die . I don't want to sound weird..but sex can literally kill you if you don't control it!!!. PS :by no means I overcame sex.. i understand all the things mentioned above..yet if you open my skull you will find nothing but sex in there.!

@Michael Jackson just curious...are you an old forum member with new account or is this your first acccount ?

@Bando she is probably triggered. Freud might be right after all . Damn..life is so simple when you are not a woman ?

Right. The rules might be to reduce my posting frequency. Like one post per week instead of two or three posts a day

This thread is hilarious ?

I agree. Also..we guys like it when a girl compliment us . Compliments help guide your conversation through any awkward silence. Instead of pressuring yourself to think of something fun and creative, put the focus on him. A kind comment or compliment can help reinvigorate your conversation You might say, "I was really impressed how you finished that math test so quickly!" or, "I thought no one could pull off wearing a football jersey, but you really proved me wrong." Or anything else from this type.

Oh did you really mean that ? Or the sexual "value " of a dick is higher than a vagina? Lol P.S lol it feels weird talking about this. Freud was certainly a nutcase?

You gonna trigger the ladies here

I see. Look for ways to connect your conversation to something you’re really knowledgeable or familiar with. Good luck ?

I think you should first figure out a way to attract a partner first before you worry about what should you talk to him . Once you do that you can proceed into learning communication skills . Here's few suggestions: Ask open-ended questions. Open-ended questions require a longer answer than just "yes" or "no." Try to tweak your questions so he’s more motivated to talk out something in-depth, which will get the conversation going. Pretend to ask yourself the question first—if you can answer the question within a word or 2, it probably won’t keep your conversation going for very long. For instance, "What are your plans for the weekend?" is a better question than "Do you have anything exciting planned over the weekend?" If you’re feeling adventurous, ask a fun question, like "What’s the weirdest corner of the internet you’ve stumbled across?" or "If you had a budget of 1 million dollars for a party, how would you spend it?" Find and plan interesting and juicy topics that guys care about and talk with him about it .

Conversations with men tend to be more effective when there’s a clear purpose – addressing a problem that needs solving or making a point. Many men tend to fall into the ‘fixer’ mindset when communicating, preferring to tackle problems directly rather than discussing at length. If you’re talking about a sensitive topic, don’t make it into a big conversation – this can be overwhelming and make the bloke shy away. Tip: Keep it casual and low intensity. It may take a few short talks, rather than one epic conversation, to get him to open up. If I may ask ..are you even dating a specific guy at the time?

@Galyna Fantastic. Thank you for sharing . Awesome post .I felt goosbmups while reading it .

That's mindblowing lol

@Loba relax .that's not my opinion..its an idea by Freud as I mentioned in OP.

Yes .that's definitely something that porn is missing. The intimacy and emotional connection. You don't see that on porn .you only see the penetration process.

Dude ..don't fap using soap ..it will make your dick sore and it will burn. Use your spit or olive oil for safety. But since you don't like using lubes at all ..then whatever floats your boat .

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So you can't know what happens when you die unless you actually die ? I knew it .

Why do you think that is ? I'm open to positive criticism

It can hurt your penis if you fap without lube .and especially if you are using a tight grip .

What else? And would you explain how exactly can you extract that from having sex ? Especially the "healing, " and "success " part .

Pleasure. Obviously.

The problem is it comes out in such low quantities. Its not enough to lubricate the penis .so i need to use a lube like my spit or some olive oil .

Are you talking about precum? When I fap I notice it oozing ..but it's low in quantity ..not that much to give you full lubrication. And I think yeah..it depends on how intensely I'm aroused . No .semen come out when we cum (have an orgasm). There is fluid that comes out of the penis called precum. It comes out when we are aroused .and it helps with lubrication. What do you mean by other dimensions?

When girls are turned on ..their pussy becomes wet . So they have natural lube . But we men ..the dick just erects. I think it needs some lube to feel more slippery and pleasurable .and also to protect the penis from overstimulation and friction.