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What do you mean lol? That me acting desperate and needy will never get me laid ? Because I kinda agree with that.

Thanks for the detailed post . First of all about my addictions..There is no single personality type that is more prone to addiction. Anyone can become addicted to substances like drugs and alcohol or certain behaviors like gambling. While certain traits are sometimes shared by people who develop addictions, these traits are not consistent and not everyone with an addiction has these traits. Like my addiction to smoking and watching porn . I think those two are so common today and it has nothing to do with my personality traits . And no I'm not bipolar and don't suffer from any "official" mental illness. Except maybe some anxiety that I take medication for. About marriage or a relationship that involves children, the man is “usually” expected to be the major breadwinner, contribute in cooking, cleaning, raising of kids, and on weekends maintain the car, house and garden. On top of this he is expected to be a mind reader who is completely tuned into and taking care of the emotional and physical needs of his women. You are right. I'm not in a position in my life that I can stand that. I need to build myself and my life first .

Nowadays I value : Achievement Balance Creativity Curiosity Faith Honesty Humor Justice Knowledge Learning Optimism Peace Responsibility Self-Respect Success Wisdom

Hard to tell because my values change and shift all the time due to life experience. Values are usually fairly stable, yet they don't have strict limits or boundaries. Also, as you move through life, your values may change. For example, when you start your career, success measured by money and status might be a top priority. But after you have a family, work-life balance may be what you value more. As your definition of success changes, so do your personal values. This is why keeping in touch with your values is a lifelong exercise. You should continuously revisit this, especially if you start to feel unbalanced... and you can't quite figure out why. As one go through the life..one should bear in mind that values that were important in the past may not be relevant now.

@Carl-Richard please move this to the dating section. thanks

Is it better to save one to let a thousand die? Every law is for and against some. Should the majority or minority be the one against? Are a hundred rights better than a thousand rights? In the ideal government, should the majority or minority be the dominant political influence? Whose suffering is greater by restricting laws, the majority or minority? In the USA today, who has the most political influence, the majority or minority?

It all depending on the choices being chosen by the government. As a matter of statistics you cannot make everyone happy all the time. For instance, if I were king of the forest, I'd redistribute the great wealth/resources, there in equality among all. Everyone would have sufficient food, housing, clothing, education, medical, etc... Yeah, the super-rich will be unhappy that they no longer have it all. Tough. Thety can move if they don't like it, but they cannot take it all with them. Violent crime would be severely and summarily dealt with. The bodies of anyone found with a gun would be spinning in the breeze as examples. There would be less 'freedoms' to harm others. But it would be much more peaceful. Some would be unhappy that they can no longer victimize others. Tough. And if it's perceived by enough people as bad enough, there is always revolution. It is human nature to take things for granted. Give em food, housing, education, medical, etc... and eventually they will be unhappy that they all do not have Mercedes rather tha Hyundai. And the wheel turns again, perhaps to reinvent democracy and avoid the 'wrong turns' that has finally brought it to failure.

I contest your supposition that 'intelligent' and 'informed' individuals are more inclined to vote. In fact, in the recent special elections regarding tax hikes in California, the majority of voters did not show up. The consensus theory was that the only voters who showed up were the ones who were informed and did care. Additionally, who's to say the shepherd is always the best choice for his? Consider the misled, benevolent shepherd, who does not know his way but has the best intentions. He leads his flock to their death even with their well-being in mind. Even the most wise King has met his demise as a result of fate.

For society to exist, the majority must decide, but also consider the ideas of the minority, this is democracy. In USA ..The States are left to their own devices within reason, they are limited by a set of base governances/guidance laws that can be "adjusted" when properly taken before congress and agreed upon, they cannot be a fully "United States" if they are not at leaste base unity set up.

No group of citizens ought to have more power than any other group of citizens. The government should be striped of its domestic abilities through constitutional restrictions that put the States, Cities, and Towns in charge of caring for the needs of the people.

I would assume most agree that the law should neither exclusively go against the minority nor the majority, but that it protects each in some respects and goes against them in others (except perhaps the small few who believe in true popular sovereignty, that would subordinate their own definition of the good to the popular one, regardless of what it be).

I also want kids . My sister recently gave birth to a baby . He is beautiful and cute .I'm a little bit jealous. Why not me ? Why can't I be a father? Well I guess that takes work to achieve.

So I need a fresh start in my life . I need to take shit seriously more . This journal is to document my process of becoming a man of principle .basically I'm trying to get my shit together in life . Somethings need to change . I need to quit : Smoking. Porn and masturbation. Junk food . Mental masturbation. Procrastination. spending too much time in this forum mentally masturbating. University's new semester begins in mid June . My plan is to finish my business degree. Find a job so that I can afford myself buying a house and finding a girl to marry. This will require time and effort and dedication. It's not a one night deal. Its a life long journey to my dream life. One of my goals also to work out an build a strong body . I can't go to the gym for reasons I'm not going to mention here. But have some basic equipments in the house so I can workout at home . I won't be posting a lot in this journal because there isn't enough micro details to report everyday. To notice a macro significant change will require years of dedication and work towards the right thing and avoiding the bad stuff .

Reminder about quitting bad habits : Why should I stop smoking? -because its affected my lungs severely. I think my lungs are severely damaged after years of hardcore smoking. It's gives me low energy. Why should I stop porn and masturbation?. -simply because I feel like shit after doing it and it robs me of any motivation to succeed in my life ..

I need to first be fulfilling the basic needs on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Then I can move on to something higher .like seeking god or awakening.

The obstacles I have to find a girlfriend or to get married: I need to fix some issues about my appearance . This can be done in the gym . I need to finish my business degree and that's gonna take few years since I'm still in first grade. Finding a way to earn money to afford for buying a new house and escape mom's basement . Actually finding a girl to marry and that can only happen through social circles. As I'm not expecting that I will attract hot girls from clubs and whatnot. But I'm determined to change my life to the better ..

So day 2 nofap . Day 30 no smoking . No workout for today . Because I haven't eaten enough calories. I wish I sticked to nofap from the beginning of the year. But hey..we can't change the past .let's do it until the end of the year .

So I'm on day two in nofap .and about a month or so no smoking. I will begin to workout starting from tomorrow. Each day I will document my nofap count and no smoke count and whether I did work out or not .

But that tiny little creature doesn’t seem insignificant in the cosmos than other animals. He went to the moon .he went to the edge of the galaxies. He figured out the origin of the universe (the big bang ) and built technology and computers and other such great things . We are God's perfect design. At least that's what I believe in.

@gettoefl it's not that you are a broken record . It's that what you said has nothing to do with the topic at hand.

@Max_V why are you depressed? Any specific reasons?

I'm not against psychedelics. I never tried them before so if I speak about them I'm at risk of having no clue of what I'm talking about. However I would say..if brain used all of its potential all the time, we would notice everything and the mind would have a constant influx of thought. Over time we would be able to modulate this to optimize functionality, but that would be after we place a certain limit on our potential once again, reintroducing inhibition. The best way for us to exist is at a controlled state where we are free enough to interact with our surroundings, but limited enough to not lose track of ourselves.

enlightenment is simply you becoming directly conscious of the absolute Truth of existence. Absolute clarity about what is Truth and what isn't. Do you want to become enlightened??? Take out your hand and look at it.. And recognize that your hands are actual. They are Real. They are the absolute Truth. And recognize that all your concepts about Truth in your minds(thoughts) are not the Truth. Compare all your thoughts and concepts with the sensation of your hands.. Notice that your hands are Truth. While all your thoughts (without exception) are bla bla bla. That's it. Its really that simple .stop making it complicated. All religions..all science..all spiritual teachings are not the Truth. The truth is the entirety of your direct experience right now . And that's all that exists. What is the context of this experience you might ask ? Of course the answer is nowhere. Reality is just your field of consciousness right now floating in nothingness.

But in order to do that you must use construction. Which is the opposite of moving to annihilation and merging with the singularity like what Leo suggested in the video you linked. Humans possess the Free Will to make conscious or unconscious decisions. The use of this ability can have positive, negative and every gradation of outcomes in between for the individual and those around or connected him/her. It can lead to us fulfilling our potential in this Lifetime, or to limiting that same potential.