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But there can be degrees of purity to the love. If you can get all the love you need from your own self rather than other people that would be of a higher value, right?

That's a nice way to put it.

@Jakuchu a theory is a theory and not everything. A theory about everything is not everything. I get this. But why can't we have a map /theory That comes close to describe the fundamental nature of reality?

@Jakuchu The map is not the territory. But some maps are more inclusive than others. Do you believe it's possible for scientists to make a map that explains everything (theory of everything)?

Chop wood and carry water.

@Terell Kirby If anyone here is deluded it is you.

@Terell Kirby if the forum isn't that helpful why are you hanging out on it?

What do you mean? No I'm not.

Is peace different from happiness? How do you find your 'peace of mind'? Asking because I'm not experiencing peace in my life.. Rather I'm living on the fire of worry and anxiety.. How is peace connected to detachment? Is it true that the more detached you are.. The more peaceful you are

@Terell Kirby asking humans can be helpful to a certain extent.

My motivation is fear.

Interesting. Thank you.

One thing that has really helped me abstain from smoking, porn , alcohol, junk food, is accepting reality, and the reality is that these things give pleasure but for a moment and then it is gone, and in return they slowly steal away your very life. Eat a bar of chocolate, how long does it last, it tastes good for the 10 minutes you are eating it but then what happens after all the pleasure passes your mouth, it goes to your stomach and poisons you. Stop living life for temporary pleasures, embrace something real and lasting, maybe that is God who never passes away and will always be there, just something for you to consider.

@EmptyVase what do you mean by thought detachment?

@Preety_India okay thank you for the advice.

@Preety_India I didn't ask about anxiety. I asked how to find peace of mind?

@Gesundheit2 what is the source of questions?

For example, does a highly enlightened person feel grief after someone close to them has died? Are they actually uncondtionally happy, or in denial about how they actually feel? Can you still feel grief and stay happy? So the more enlightened the more insanely happy you become lol. Can we actually be unconditionally happy despite the circumstances? Is it a privilege only for highly developed people?

So can we actually be unconditionally happy despite the circumstances or do we need certain things to be happy?

We aren't meant to be happy 24/7 are we?.. Isn't it natural to feel sad when you are supposed to? Like when losing a loved ones. How can you avoid sadness ? To me it seems like an inherent part of reality.

so enlightened people still feel sad and grief when things do not go their way?

@mandyjw @Natasha are you unconditionally happy in your life or do you believe that circumstances need to go your way in order for you to be happy?

@Judy2 is that possible for ordinary people? Or only for enlightened ones?

What distinguishes genuine inquiry and fruitful contemplation from mental masturbation??

But where do you draw the line?