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No matter how many times someone else insists on imparting something important, we can’t really understand it. When it comes to the big life lessons, we cannot be taught. We learn only through our direct experience. When we go through it we are quick and eager to offer it to others. “Look, look” we say, heart open, hands open like an offering. “I have this great insight that I think can help you” and no one listens. No one listens, and no one believes you, until they are receptive and ready to listen. Do you know what makes people receptive and ready to listen? Going through their own experience.

@Kksd74628 I didn't understand. Say it again in a different way.

Why is it ironic ? I know It is not easy to stand on your own, on your own path. It is not easy to walk it on your own, by yourself. There is no one standing between you and yourself, and you have to face yourself squarely, uncompromisingly, with ruthless honesty, with merciless clarity. There is no one to hold your hand, to support you, to help you manage, to make it easier, safer, nicer. There is no one there to tell you what is happening, what you are seeing, what you are experiencing - you must see it for yourself, and that means you must be willing to see what is no matter how much you don’t want to, no matter how much you wish to hide from it, no matter how much you don’t want it to be, to exist. This is what walking the spiritual path by yourself looks like.

@Consilience Consider a human experience of life: from birth, a human learns from other humans. Parents, teachers, priests, guides, counselors guide a human from birth, through childhood, through teenage years, through young adulthood and into adulthood. There is no time in the human life when a human is considered taught, guided, counseled and coached and mentored, and is expected to take his life on by himself. It is not surprising that, inside of this way of being, this way of living, one needs a human to guide one on the spiritual path. After all one has a human to guide one on all other paths. Consider gurus ..most of them had gurus, who had gurus, who had gurus, who had gurus. Teachers who had teachers, who had teachers who had teachers. Lineages of teachers going back for hundreds of years. Humans learning from humans who learned from humans who learned from humans. Teachings written by humans, followed by humans. Do you need all that? No, you don’t. Your spiritual journey is YOUR journey to YOURSELF. You. No one else needs to be involved. No one else is necessary to you being you.

what men want from women and what women want from men. 1).Beauty. It matters. You should always strive to present yourself in the best way possible. This will maximize the potential suitors you can choose from. The idea that “what's on the inside matters most” is true….BUT…people have to like the OUTSIDE before wanting to explore the INSIDE. Take the time and effort to maximize your looks. 2)Realistic. Many women these days have a hundred point checklist for what they demand in a man. But many of these women would fail their own checklist. If you want a handsome, wealthy, interesting man ..ask yourself this: am I the kind of woman the handsome, wealthy, interesting man would go for? If not, then either change yourself into the kind of woman they'd want or else check your expectations.

I agree . Doesn't contradict my point .

@Breakingthewall Your self is in the mind. Your idea about who you are is in your mind. Your thoughts, beliefs, convictions, hopes, dreams and plans are in your mind. Your memories are in your mind. Your knowledge is in your mind, and your opinions are in your mind. Your relationships are in your mind. Your feelings towards others, your needs, attachment, are all in your mind. Your love is in your mind. The only aspect of you that you are aware of that is not in your mind is your physical body. When you remove the mind from the body, when the body is all there is, it is called a coma, or a vegetative state. Pretty much everything that you mean when you say “I”, “myself”, “me” is in your mind. The “real you” is in your mind as well, and all the spiritual stuff also.

Why? What's the difference?

Look..From a philosophical standpoint..which I think is the necessary one in this situation, since it is likely you are afraid of the philosophical implications of these thoughts and such..let us analyze your situation. You are likely the only existent being within a universe that only exists within your mind, as this is the technical definition of solipsism. First, you know that you exist because you have conscious awareness of your thoughts and have logically considered what it means for other people not to exist. So we can surely agree that you exist, based on this logic. Now prove to me the existence of others?

A spiritual guru can only point to the truth. The seeker has to remove his ignorace himself. Unlike other fields, spirituality is so much dependent on the individual than the Guru. A true Guru allows you to find your own truth. No Guru should tell you what he “sees” with the minds eye. Even if he does he should give a disclaimer “what I see may not be what you see, but we revel in the same truth”, else it would be academic. A Guru is not sought. He falls in your lap, when you are open to the ever present Grace. I am so lucky Gurus in the multitudes of names and forms kept falling in my lap. My current external Guru is aligned with my internal Sat Guru, so there are no contradictions. He is a Scholar as well as a Jnani. Someone referred him to me on my Facebook page, when I had already done plenty of Scriptural reading and full of 'Spiritual Ego'. I consider myself so lucky, I wish the same to every seeker.

it really is impossible to verify anything but your own consciousness. Don’t you believe me? Think a moment and think of all the possible dreams that you have experienced in your life. Is it not possible that everything around you is nothing but an incredibly intricate dream? But we have people and things around us that we cannot doubt, because we can hear, see, smell, taste and feel them, right? Yes, and no. People who take LSD, for example, say that they can touch the most convincing hallucinations, but we do not claim that their visions are “reality”. Your dreams simulate sensations as well, after all, what you perceive is what different sections of your brain tell you to. As a result, which parts of existence can we not doubt? None. Not the chicken we ate for dinner or the keyboard beneath our fingers. Each of us can only be sure in his own thoughts.

Making love is an art. That's why I became disgusted by 90% of the porn out there . Where its done mechanically and robotic. In real sex you don't just insert your penis in a vagina ..you touch ..get touched ..in all areas of your body . And that brings most of the pleasure of sex imo. Not so much the fucking.

Tip for future masturbation sessions which are expected : 1-Never bite the sensitive parts too much till it pains worst, it may affect the future of relationship and you may not get laid again. Pleasurable pain is okay but not too much. 2-Don’t rush, take things slowly.build up to the orgasm .and that way the orgasm will be more intense .

We are sexual beings . Everything revolves around sex . A man thinks of nothing but his dick all day every day .

Easily debunkable . Go outside your room

No such thing. Anyways ..Surrender resistance to your reality. Keep telling yourself nothing is fundamentally wrong and there are no wrong decisions. Living is about continuous learning, growing and becoming. Human suffering is nowhere near what it used to be. As tough as it maybe to accept, the truth is..misfortune, disasters and disease have always served to elevate humanity as a whole. We must keep expanding, and resistance is futile. Expect everything will work out in the end. You attract what you expect, it’s a universal truth. With that also remember there is always an unseen all-knowing consciousness at work. Patience is required.

Then why can't you do it (if you have the capacity)? What's preventing that ?

You can't. You are a human. Life has ups and downs . Sometimes it just plain sucks .and there is nothing you can do about it .

@OBEler did you actually read my posts on this thread ? I'm arguing AGAINST solipsism. Not sure I understand your commemt.

Solipsism begins and ends with the assumption that your senses are faulty (purposefully or not) and do not provide information to your brain that approximates existence. The only piece of data that you can “observe” that is 100% verifiable and absolute is your own thought. Everything else has some measure of doubt or mere probability (and perhaps even your thought does as well). But we have learned from quantum physics that reality itself is probabilistic, not absolute. Solipsism is a possible configuration of the universe, just as is the possibility that you’re in a computer simulation, or that unicorns exist, or that you can walk through walls. But based on the all of your (possibly faulty) observations over your entire lifetime and the collective shared knowledge of our society the probability is exceedingly small. Solipsism suggests that knowledge that is not 100% absolute is worthless, but then offers no explanation as to why you even have senses, much less explaining all of your hallucinations. It’s a model that very poorly fits the (admittedly incomplete) data

You are limiting yourself to a great degree . You are simply imposing the dichotomy of either solipsism or an objective reality. Not realizing that both can be true at the same time . . To me it's If I were the only consciousness in the universe why am I not in full control? In my (lucid) dreams I can fly and throw fire balls at bad guys. Why can't I do that in real life? If the entire universe exists only in my imagination how is that there are people who know things I don't? As far as I can see answering these questions in a manner consistent with solipsism makes conspiracy theories seem logical. If your method leads you to solipsism you need new methods.

Solipsism is a reality check: there is, it suggests, at least a possibility that objective reality is just a highly structured delusion, the sort of thing that you would expect if we don’t really exist and our consciousness is all just a computer simulation. I will use the simulation theory here as an argument of solipsism. the complexity and consistency of what we perceive as outside of us is such that you have to counter speculate that solipsistic computer simulation is just one of an infinity of speculative possibilities. If you are a solipsist, you have no way to assign a probability to each possibility of what reality might really be. As a result, you can only assign equal probability to each case and this is vanishingly small for any one case such as the solipsistic simulation. Ie, reality is overwhelmingly likely to NOT be a solipsistic simulation. In which case other people do exist just as we perceive them and we are, at the very least, able to share communicable experiences with them. The sum of these communicable experiences is an approximation of objective reality. In other words, with just an infinitesimal shift from solipsism, objective reality bounces back into existence. Therefore, my take is that you should ignore solipsism as an anomaly, although you can never be entirely sure. Your comfort should reside in the fact that if solipsism is true then there is no point in doing anything, so you might as well assume that isn’t true.

I guess Chop Wood and carry water

Solipsism is a relatively well-defined term; it refers to the belief that the believer (the self) is the only entity with some important property, like existence, or knowable existence, or subjective experience, or something like that. For instance “because the Problem of Other Minds isn’t solvable, the only mind I can know exists is my own”, or more radically “the only mind that exists is my own”. Enlightenment, though, is a much more complex concept (or non-concept). we won’t even delve into the million meanings of the word, but even Buddhist enlightenment is not easily pinned down. In general, enlightenment does not lead to solipsism: that is, being “enlightened” does not lead one to conclude “I am the only entity that exists”. If anything, enlightenment leads to a … different perspective on the idea that one exists (at least as an independent self-originating entity) at all. I made a post a few months back about my awakening to solipsism .but judging by what I understand now it's false . Other people can be simultaneously fragments of your imagination and real people at the same time . It just takes a radical shift of perspective to realize this.

@Vladimir how did this awakening happen ? Also ,what changes have taken place within you ,that you could say it changed you in a positive way? And oh congratulations ?