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Im not trying to make excuses but this is the harsh reality of my situation.. How dating works in Western culture: 1.You approach a girl. 2.Ask her out. If she says yes, you go out with her. If she says no, you don't or you try again or you go for another girl. 3.If she says yes you go on a date and have fun. 4.A few more dates and you call it a relationship and after you get into a relationship and then have fun blah blah... Indian dating: 1.Approach a girl. 2.Basically there is no term called "Ask out" in India. If you go to a girl in your class or office and ask her for a cup of coffee, she'll give you an angry look or punch you in the face. 3.Since there is no term called "asking out", you become friends with her, because that's the only way you will get to know her. Let me introduce the term "Proposing" What proposing means in other countries: Permission to marry What it means in India: Permission to be in a relationship with her by saying "I love you." 4.So you take your time and you propose (Indian way), there are chances that you get friendzoned mostly, but if you are lucky she'll get into a relationship with you. If you get friendzoned you'll probably feel really bad that you wasted your time as you didn't know that the girl you liked didn't like you back in the same way. So unlike in Western culture, you have to probably do a lot of hard work to date an Indian girl in India

Yea I'm thinking of that actually.

No.im not exaggerating . They are pretty rare and difficult to even find .let alone to date . I've also experimented with dating apps . I've been through most of the dating apps. I'm not an incel, nor a simp, nor a horny creep. I wanted something meaningful, but there's none to be found. Not all Indian men are creeps, even though the reputation's corrupt. We can be as romantic as a French dude, but we are never given a chance. Maybe I'm bad at socializing, but I've seen this happen with most of my friends too. The most charismatic of dudes had to swipe 400 times before a match came up. The rejection stings a lot. Then we wonder why the arranged marriage thing is still on. It's kinda hard for a decent Indian guy to survive online and offline too. This is not to invalidate the experience that women go through, it's much worse than ours, but the constant rejection does take a toll, and makes a guy wonder if he really does matter in the grand scheme of relationships.

@Elton Marriage is a more legal and socially-accepted form of relationship between couples. There is a social validation that has its own appeal and satisfaction. However, live-in relationships are the new and on-going trends among the youth that gives them the freedom to live with their partners without any pressure of arranged marriages. Both of these socially-constructed institutions of love and relationships have their pros and cons. In context of the Indian society, living with someone before marriage is still treated as a taboo, especially in a man-woman relationship. It corresponds to the idea of virginity, especially of women, which is considered violated, if and when she engages in a physical relationship with a man before her marriage. She is then seen as someone impure or unholy, which is a traditional thought but widely accepted. This is why a live-in relationship is highly criticised by the society.

@Tudo cool

No .I know very well that I'm bisexual. I do appreciate a handsome dude just as I appreciate a beautiful girl . And like I said I do prefer the physical appearance of a dick sexually more than a vagina. I didn't discover this before I got into shemale and tranny porn .it turns me on to see a girl with a dick . Idk but if you haven't questioned your sexuality before then you know 100% that you are straight .but for Me I did question my sexuality a lot .

Oh that wasn't my own opinion. It was an idea by Sigmund Freud. And not mine .so I didn't pull it out of my ass . And most women in that thread reassured me that they are okay with having a vagina and they don't really want to have dick. And in any case I'm willing to apologise if I hurt any woman's feelings here . And it was overall a thread just for the fun and the giggles. A tangent question tho: why do you remember every thread of mine? Why are you focused on me ? I myself have forgotten about those threads you mentioned. What's the difference? Dating leads to having sex imo. You cannot Separate the two . What's the point of talking to girls and asking them out If you don't plan on having sex with them ?

Could you explain how? Well what if you live in a country where there is not that much dating opportunities? What are you gonna do then ? The first thing that comes to mind is travelling to a country where relationships between opposite sexes are a bit more loose. Whats wrong with that either?

@Tudo yes I like dicks .and I like girls also. That makes me bisexual. Is that wrong or something to be ashamed of? I thought folks here are open-minded.

Trust me Leo..the dating situation is so shitty in India. That's why I moved to Thailand. But I have to come back to India next month for university. Our society as a whole lacks maturity to deal with issues of dating or flirting or even talking with the opposite sex!!! Sad but true!!! We, while wanting to break norms and inculcate the lifestyle of the West are unable to break the mold completely . So yes, it's difficult to date an Indian woman... She is taught by her parents, teachers, family members, well-wishers to be dependent on them for all decisions... how can she then take as big a decision as date? She is guided by her religion and society structure to follow a set of rules and not deviate from the path... how can she break her oath? She is influenced by dreams of 'true love' that happens on first sight or other cliches... how can she date when she hasn't fallen in 'love' yet? She, in other words, is a brainwashed doll... who even while living earning or being highly educated in caught in the tangles of being unable to think for herself.... I'm not gonna date an Indian girl. I must travel to a stage orange society and date there .

@LSD-Rumi If anyone was capable of thinking through the likelihood that a God exists, you would think it must be Steven Hawking. Some Christians like to remark that you do not see atheists in foxholes but here you see a man long aware of his mortality and equally long convinced that God does not exist. But I believe his atheism wasn't for mere scientific reasons .his disability made him angry at God. Why would an all loving god (if he even exists, ) let them suffer for the rest of his life from such a horrible situation. That played a huge role on his rejection of God imo more than any scientific reason.

I always wondered how come an intelligent mind like Stephen hawking was an atheist even though he knows very well about the fine tuning of the universe Stephen hawking was atheist based on psychological reasons not scientific reasons. You can't just be that intelligent and knowledgeable and deny God with such superficiality. On the other side you can't blame him.. Imagine that God created you to live life disabled in such a horrible way as him.. You would have every reason to believe that if God existed he would be the actual embodiment of the word cuck.

There is no such thing. Don't get fooled by what you see in bollywood movies. There is so much close mindedness in all regions of India. because most of the times, you need to offer a commitment before you get to date a girl in India, which in the first place violates the very own meaning of dating. We Indians never really understood the concept of dating.

I agree with all you mentioned. Which is why I don't wanna marry an Indian girl . The situation in India is so messy .unlike on Thailand or other neighbouring countries.. I think Indian women are difficult to date since Our traditional values say it is wrong We are more family oriented than other countries. , which is why in a lot of cases, family comes before love. This applies to men as well. Indian men don't like the idea of a woman being free thinking and independent, but when it comes to marriage, even the guys ditch those women for homely, family oriented women whom their families would approve of. Society brands sexually experienced women as sluts. If women are not married by the age of 28, it is a matter of shame. This limits the independence even of those career oriented women who do not really care about marriage. Of course, we have exceptions, but for the common Indian woman, this is the truth. Indian men still are not very good at asking girls out. It takes practice, and in a few years, they might be as good as their western counterparts.

@Preety_India in India and in every place in the world....Guys want attractive girls, girls want stable/strong guys. This is the human nature that we evolved over 1000s of years. In modern context, the strong guy is one who can run the family well for decades and able to look after the family, both financially & psychologically. This is the type of guy women historically want. At 20, girls could show their attractive ability, but there is no way for the boy to show their financial/mental stability. This means that while guys chase girls in the college, the girls have very few data points to validate whether you will turn out to be the stable, family guy who can take her through the tough times of her life. In many work environments, attractive, single girls are an endangered species. This occurs due to: 1.Many geeky places are not female friendly, leading to lower women recruiting and there is a strong feedback loop here. 2.Most girls get married/engaged within 2-3 years after graduation. 3.Divorce and remarriage is uncommon in India.. Thus, by the time they get to your workplace, they are no longer single. In programming, finance or research, where Indian guys frequent, girls are rare. Thus, a single & attractive girl in such a market can display monopolistic tendency. This can substantially affect the pricing structures of interpersonal relationships. Just like how Apple fanboys wait in lines for their newest iPhone, Indian guys are desperate to court this rare breed of girls. In India, if you don't date you stay single. There is a pressing need to date. In Western countries dating is an option. If you don't date, you can still get the girl with the same probability of "with dating". Thus, there is not enough incentive for many people to date. Without enough liquidity in the market, the market can get crazy.

Im actually living in Thailand at the moment. The major reason is to get laid here. I had a girl sucking my dick in a night club . But I felt regret after it .I'm really big on soulmates,true love ,deep connection etc all that cool shit . I will have to come back to India next month to start my new semester in uni tho.

I'm basically thinking about that. That's the only option I have. But then again I need to find a job ,a way to make money first. No one is gonna marry me if I don't have my own house and I can pay the bills . So it's definitely not a over night thingy. It does take time and effort .and that's what I hate the most about this whole thing .

@Knowledge Hoarder A few years before his death, he has publicly admitted to being an atheist. But it’s funny how the most learned of people can miss the obvious. According to cosmologists, there was nothing before the big bang. How can something so beautiful and so well organised as our universe come out of nothing and without any ‘intervention’? This is hardly scientific thinking, and shows that some scientists are selective in applying the rules of science , and common sense is discarded under a maze of scientific jargons. These scientists seem to lack the humility to say ‘ I don’t know if there is a God because we are not able to prove God scientifically yet’, that would have been nice and a true mark of an educated person. PS: Before people misinterpret my musings above, I have only praise for Stephen Hawking as an individual, he was a great soul, a fighter and a superior intellectual, his contributions to science are priceless and may his soul rest in Peace. My note is more a digression on the related topic of how modern scientists in general view God .

Bro you just don't know the Indian society very well. I don't agree with calling it imaginary. We are not living on our own like our ancestors or like animals in the jungle. Each society has its own cultural norms . You can't for example equate the values and cultural norms of American society with Indian society.thats just absurd. in our society a young woman or even a man can never find their life partner on their own. Hence, parents take up this responsibility even if no one has asked them to do so. They decide the fate of their kids’ dating lives even though their kids have grown up and become adults. This lack of belief amongst parents in their kids’ choice for their life partner, coupled with the security issues and fear that their kids, especially daughters, would end up marrying someone from another community/religion, has affected the dating environment in India. That’s why dating in India, unlike in Western countries, never got its space to become acceptable like arranged marriages. Many consider it a part of Western culture, even though dating doesn’t have any nationality. The middle-class blames dating on rich people’s timepass and expect their kids to stay away from dating in order to focus on studies and thereby become successful in life. And among many rural populations in our society, dating doesn’t even enter their dictionary. It’s often a taboo for them, even assuming it to be a sort of hidden prostitution. Hence, even though there are dating sites and apps available for people to connect and meet, due to the above reasons, finding a date online becomes difficult. In fact, unlike in Western countries, dating sites in India have added boundaries of caste, religion, language etc. that make the app almost a rehearsal for marriage. It isn’t surprising that many dating sites have become matrimony sites. This doesn’t happen in other countries, where dating often involves meeting, understanding and liking each other in person without such superficial barriers. That is what dating should ideally have been in India. So I guess if I ever want to get married or get laid ..I need some girl not from India. I guess yes. I want to marry a blondie

Yes I know. But trust me there are lots of singles here in India for cultural reasons. not everyone wants to be single though but Many want to fall in love, date someone and thus find a soulmate for life. But many realise that it’s difficult to find that in India. We see thousands of desperate questions being asked on Reddit and Quora on why it is so difficult to find a date in India. Why is Indian society so obsessed with arranged marriages? I find there are many reasons for this harsh reality of dating in India. One of the important reasons is the strong influence of family, caste and religion in Indian society. The roots of family lineage and traditions have deepened over centuries in India. That’s why for any family, it becomes a matter of family status to marry their daughter or sister into an equal status family. The same logic applies to caste and religion. The trio of these superficial concepts has destroyed the dating fabric in Indian society. One finds it difficult to go against their family, community and religion by dating or marrying someone who does not belong to the same community. You are right. Im obviously not ready to marry at this current life situation. But what are the alternatives? I feel needy and desperate to find a girl with whom I fall in love with. I also can't use porn and masturbation as I have decided finally that it's not healthy for me . I guess I will just have to spend some time and effort before being able to achieve my dreams .

Lol .if you are attracted to girls then you are not gay. If you like dicks..high chance that you are bisexual

1. Is there a way to have an orgasm without ejaculation? I always feel drained after I cum .some people here opened my mind to the possibility of having an orgasm without ejaculating semen . I'm curious to know if that's actually possible..and if it is possible..how do I do it ? 2.women can have multiple orgasms that last for 15 minutes. While men can only orgasm for 9 seconds . It's just "one and done, she has way much fun ". Is it possible for a man to have multiple orgasms that last for quite few minutes. And without ejaculating. 3. This one is rather embarrassing. But I find a dick more attractive than a vagina. Idk why. Something about a long hard dick arouses me . I don't think I'm gay. But I know for sure that I'm bisexual as I experience sexual attraction to both males and females. I like girls more .from head to toe.but the only part I find more attractive in a man is his dick. Looking at a pussy doesn't turn me on . Its just a hole. Whereas dicks seem arousing and attractive to me . That's why lately I'm watching tranny porn (,girls that have dicks),. I don't understand why is that . I know this part is a bit embarrassing and emasculating. But please guys mo trolling comments or I might delete this thread altogether if I get trolling comments about my sexuality. ?

Lol I also thought the same. It wasn't until I started seeing naked women on porn that I knew they had different genitalia than us men. Good old days .?

Yes i agree . I would day 80% of porn has absolutely nothing to do with how real sex works . The major focus is on the penetration. No focus on intimacy, kissing, eye contact etc

I hope this topic is not too controversial lol Let's be honest...... It's near impossible for a guy to stop scratching his dick or looking into hot stuff online every now and then .. Sex is a natural desire like food and water. But one should be mindful in using it because it can easily turn into addiction or a substitute for the real thing. I still from time to time feel an urge to go solo . But .. Most porn is actually fake robotic boring sex that has nothing to do with real sex lol.. Real sex =intimacy and playfulness not just in and out robotic exercises .. I wanna touch my girl.. Smell her.. Feel her..etc. Recently I discovered a audio porn site that is focused more on intimate sex.. Not going into details but it focuses more on the intimacy part and the foreplay.. I thought wow that's really what I'm looking for.. Then I wonder why most porn companies don't produce scenes that are actually real-like instead of this fake boring shit lol?????? also men want intimate sex. My point is what I see in let's say 70 % of porn has nothing to do with what real sex is about.. I mean ofcourse it's sex and all but I mean I don't want to just insert my penis in a vagina while staring at the wall and the woman is staring at the window or something.. wtf is that l? Given that the content is almost endless.. It's a shame that you have to spend some time searching fot something that actually grabs your attention.. At least that's how it is for me .