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@King Merk I will simplify the job for you ..what makes Scarlett Johansson beautiful and Donald Trump ugly ?

Some of Schopenhauer's best insights were his ideas about the centrality of boredom. Boredom sits at the heart of the human condition. If we were in a survival situation, that is all we would be consumed with...the means to putting food in our mouth, getting hydrated, and finding comfortable shelter from the elements. In an industrialized, complex network of production and consumption, this is all atomized into our little "work" pursuits. On the other side of the spectrum, waiting for us is boredom. Boredom lays bare that existence isn't anything BUT striving-after. We strive to survive and be comfortable. Then, if we do not have any entertainment pursuits to occupy our mental space, we may get existential. "Why are we doing this repetitive upkeep, maintenance, and thrashing about?" It becomes apparent about uselessness of existence. Then we start looking for an ounce of pleasure.. we all try to submerge in these entertainments to not face the existential boredom straight on. That would be too much to dwell in for too long. We design goals, and virtues and reasons, and entertainments, and standards to meet, and trying to contribute to "something". We cannot fall back on the default of existence.. the boredom. So what is one to do? If suicide isn't a real option, there is only the perpetual cycle. The illusion is that it can be broken. Schopenhauer deigned freedom by asceticism. but it's simply training the mind to live with the existential striving-after more easily. That is all .a mental technique. It is not a metaphysical escape hatch.

Here's one of his videos. I usually watch his videos for entertainment and fun . Never really thought of applicating his advice.

It’s much about modern life's stress , as life in a society. Unless you start with advantage, you will be some sort of wage slave. Standards of living are higher than they once were (in certain regions) but many people feel like their life isn’t their own, and they are correct. The system that is in place now is putrid and it is unsurprising that many people despise it, and therefore despise their existences. The work situation has been getting steadily more awful for a long time and that is where most of us have to spend most of our existences. It's either pain in the ass or boredom or distracting ourselves with mediocrity.

That's a pipe dream. In our modern world today, everyone is caught up in wage slavery and their dreams and ambitions and even their meditative peace is crushed under the stress of being a member of society in this era. And it's not nesscaily bad. We have learned important life lessons when we give ourselves over to hard work: determination, attentiveness, responsibility, problem-solving, and self-control all come to mind. These lessons, in turn, serve us in other areas (health, relationships, hobbies, etc.)

@Michael569 thanks for the info . I wish I could..it's my drug

@Gesundheit2 it give me goosebumps . Her voice is from another world. It gives me emotional orgasm.

Just mere talking isn't enough . I've been talking to women every single day for the last month or so. Still not working. Its because I don't know how to act confident and non-needy . Then I try finding something else to do that brings value my life . By keeping myself busy with activities i enjoy. And that’s how you can come across as “not desperate” because when you occupy your time with doing something you enjoy, it shows your focus is on doing something for your own wellbeing. It shows that your whole life isn’t revolving around getting laid or comparing your status to someone else. We all hear the cliche of "Be yourself". What if my authentic self is not attractive to women ?

edging is bringing yourself to the brink, or edge, of climax, then back off for several seconds or minutes. You can choose to climax at this point, or you may back off yet again. The number of times you stop ejaculation is up to you. The goal is to maintain masturbation or partner sex for a longer time. I've been practicing it for few months now and when I do it ..I don't ejaculate. I just edge for half an hour and get sexually excited but then I end my session without ejaculating . Some sexologists believe that edging is effective in preventing premature ejaculation and good for lasting longer in bed . I'm curious..is there anyone here who edges ? Or is it just me ?

@flowboy I appreciate your advice bro . My core problem is I'm unexperienced and desperate for women Girls can tell if a guy is desperate when he uses pick up artist strategies and when he tries so hard to hide insecurities that they end up standing out even more. Women can sense when a guy is using these insincere techniques and games on her. They know the mirroring body language, the negging, the lines that are meant to put us in an insecure state to put guys at a psychological advantage. They know when you try to erode confidence. The ladies who fall for that scam won’t be attractive to you for very long, even if they look like a model.

Yes Girls actually care about your personality more than looks . It doesn't matter much if you are not a handsome Chad as long as you have a rough masculine personality. You heard the phrase "nice guys finish last". I don't know what the actual meaning of that phrase is but what I do know is that being nice never got anyone anything. Social expectations from a guy is be chivalrous, be a gentleman, be funny, be kind and caring and you will get someone who you could think of spending your life with. But real world doesn't work like that. You can be all of those things and single forever. Because you are not alone, in the end she would have her pick from a dozen of guys, while you had just one. The one. Because all the qualities you have WOULD be held against you if need be. “Aww he's so protective about me.” becomes “Why are you so protective?” Opening a door for her becomes “kiss-ass”. Holding her hands while crossing the road becomes “clingy”. Telling her that a guy is hitting on her becomes “jealous”. Nothing you do or you are is ever good enough if she doesn't want it to be good enough. Point is no other person defines you. A girl is not a object which defines who you are. You might be single till you die but you could be better than those who are in a relationship, if only you stop letting the fact that you are single, turn you into a failure. Men and women are two distant poles of society. Neither of which defines the other one's success. Not everyone can find love. That's the harsh truth. The silver lining is, that's not the ultimate target you were born to achieve. A relationship requires two people, but love? Not necessarily. so keep falling in love. Care about people, be kind to everyone. But don't expect anything back. If you are lucky, you will find someone someday and not a day sooner. Expectations hurt.

From my experience with talking to one girl per day I can easily come to the conclusion that desperation and neediness will decrease your social value. A guy that hungrily go after women and tell them they are attractive will be treated as a pariah, unless he is extremely gorgeous. And those guys rarely do it, because they don't have to. I should Start talking about something she does instead. A guy that shows interest in personality or current events is incredibly attractive. Sure, every girl wants compliments. But given randomly, they are just a sign of hunger. Attractive women know they are attractive. Most women, attractive or not, have had desperate guys literally following them on the streets, telling them cringey things ("Your eyes are like stars" and other nonsense). The woman smell the desperation and pity them. Have you ever seen the dream boat guy do this in a romantic movie? No, because it sends chills up the spine for most girls, and we don't consider it alluring. High quality men read the situation. They say something witty about it. The woman will secretly think "does he find me attractive?" She will automatically want him to be drawn to her and work towards that. She will feel a little insecure; "why doesn't he comment on my looks like the other 99 percent of fools?" She will wonder if he already is interested in other women and feel slightly jealous. He obviously doesn't need sex from her, he is too confident. Now that sparks interest. Most women can have as much sex as they want really, basically at any time. There are tons of men willing to give all kinds of compliments out there to get laid, even if the girl looks like Shrek. So be the gem among all the gravel.

Some guys are desperate because they're not physically attractive.Others because they lack confidence.Girls like guys that are confident,because it makes them feel secure around them.They want a guy that can protect them,not someone who is afraid to talk(like me for example).

@flowboy he doesn't teach you how to ask her out or how to communicate effectively with the other sex. Movies, TV shows,,YouTube channels ,advice from friends ..that’s all you have to rely on. Which in the Indian context, as we all know, justifies creepy-ism. What did you expect to happen? All we can hope for is a strong creep warning to be put out by people who know when it takes place, call them out, and ask them to STOP

@Carl-Richard you are the skinny one

@Mason Riggle you might like this one too

I think you make a valid points . Yes many boys in their teenage years become more masculine as they age to late 20s . And that can be explained only by increasing in testosterone level . However what's confusing me is I didn't find a single study that says testosterone increase as you age past the age of puberty . There are rises in testosterone during a boy’s development, which coincide with major brain development. But these don’t happen at the age of 20.

So Many men in their 40s and 50s and above are taking exogenous (synthetic) testosterone or over-the-counter supplements ..is there any harmful side effects if not administered properly? And what is a healthy alternative? I know a few like a balanced clean diet ,hitting the gym ,getting enough sleep and sunlight ( vitamin D)etc...but is there anything else ?

But I have read some studies suggesting that Testosterone decline is not inevitable with age. Older men in excellent health can maintain their hormone levels. when you consider all the possible influences, age had no effect on testosterone levels in these very healthy men. It's a separate issue when you consider unhealthy habits like smoking, drinking,eating junk food and never exercising etc. By itself, age does not cause a lower testosterone in healthy men, it's more likely that lowering of testosterone is a consequence of illnesses men acquire as they get older, like cardiovascular disease and obesity. What do you think of that ?

There are no enlightened people. Nor people.

Everyone is afraid of death. Dying is a terrifying thought to the individual, and it brings sadness to that individual's close ones. And there are many that become like 'vegetables' (technically speaking 'vegetative state') and live a terrible life before dying. Latter is more tragic than the former. But I always felt like life is the real tragedy. We always struggle to keep our lives, maintain our bodies, keep our relationships, to be happy, etc. And we have to put a great effort to fulfill all these, yet at the end if we do not achieve what we expected we feel sad. However, death is not like that. It is a peaceful state in which you can stop all the running and struggling, and be calm and quite. So I feel like life as a tragedy and death as a gift.

@WokeBloke You are the Now. When you get down to the very bottom of what is it that you actually are.. what you’ll find is that what you are.. is not any of the concepts you attach to yourself.. but that all you are is raw consciousness itself. Your consciousness and my consciousness are not similar.. but PERFECTLY identical. Not talking about the contents of consciousness.. but the consciousness itself.. being the feeling of felt experience.. the very sense of being. That is absolutely perfectly one hundred percent identical across all things. And despite all the perceived differences within our consciousness.. the one thing that it all has in common is that it is all happening right now. Your now and my now are the exact same. For a while I thought Leo is not awake and he is far "gone".. Lost in solipsism and there is no hope for him. But I became precisely aware of what he means by "everything is imaginary". This is my own interpretation after all. "everything is imaginary " is pointing to something. that term only makes sense in contrast to it’s opposite. So if we said that your mother is imaginary.. you have to ask “as opposed to what?” What is imagined aka what is experienced is as real as real can be. The duality of real and imaginary collapses into a unity as do all dualities. Your life is true and real. It’s just not ULTIMATELY true. It’s relatively true. The ultimate truth is that all there really is is consciousness/the present moment.. and everything else is concept which can be interpreted differently from view point to view point. Your life is conceptual. But that doesn’t mean it’s not real. When Leo says the "everything is imaginary” thing.. he doesn’t mean what you think he means. When he says that everything is imaginary.. he’s saying that everything is merely appearance without substance.. and that how we interpret those appearances is relative. Consider that whether I am a real person or not is relative. There is no factual truth about it because it's conceptual. Unlike THIS.

Good video from her.

edging also gives you a greater understanding of your body and what it likes. It provides you with increased control over your own pleasure, helping you determine when and how it happens. It also keeps your mind from wandering. Edging is a good time to practice keeping the mind completely focused on the now. Not only will this concentration and focus help make edging easier, but it will allow a person to fully enjoy the pleasurable feelings,so its actually good as well as a meditative technique

Im so tired of living life. I'm physically exhausted and I view living as a chore . Even the basic stuff like eating ,showering, shittng etc all of it feels like a burden. I don't really understand the feeling but I will try my best to explain it . It really doesn’t seem worth it anymore. Nothing brings me happiness or satisfaction. I have no goals and no ambitions. All I do is play video games, mentally masturbate on this forum , smoke, sleep. And repeat. I’ve got no lover and probably won’t have one for a long time. I’ve got no real passions or hobbies that I look forward to.except maybe philosophy. But I can't be a philosopher with a business degree . I have friends, but I struggle with intimacy and I’m always wrapped up in my insecurities that I’m always worried I’ll lose them eventually. I don’t go out. No one invites me anyways. I don’t have any confidence in myself to go do things alone and even if I did, I don’t have the money. I’m sick of living life. It seems like nothing but stress and competition and pain. I wake up every morning feeling like shit. I go to bed feeling like shit. I’m just going through the motions waiting till I die. Nothing seems like its worth it anymore. Nothing brings me happiness or satisfaction. I have tried so many different things. I am so done with trying. I want to give up.