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I'm just venting right now because I'm in a fucked up mood ATM. Don't take me literally or seriously.

We exist so that that existence can be conscious of itself. Feeling meaninglessness is an emotion that everyone has experienced. Yet, there have been moments when you feel things are meaningful. Importance is subjective. Don't tell Donald Trump he has no importance. People who get stuck on this idea about meaningless keep living because the body forces it to do so, therefore, you might as well enjoy it. The "world" is your creation. You can make it as small or as big as you wish. Make it small like just you and a couple of your friends and close family members and you'll see you can make a difference. It makes no sense accepting the world stage if you can't be a player. You don't have to be in the NBA (or the world) to enjoy some basketball (or power play your friends.)

Yup. We're here because we're better at it than than all the other species before us, and the things we create (artificial intelligence) will burn up the galaxy. (We are the spark)

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@itachi uchiha where you from ?

@Preety_India world cup is a competition between national teams (teams of the country) like Brazil,France, Italy, Germany Argentina etc. Not clubs like real Madrid or Barcelona.

Would like to see that too .Argentina has a good squad .it will be a dope final. Isn't Monaco a club team ? We're talking about national teams.

I guess for women it happens less intensely. Because they can have multiple orgasms in a short period of time. Whereas us guys ..we are just one and done ?

Yes it happens because once you finish the peak of the sexual activity (the orgasm ) you crash down to zero . Your body release prolactin and other hormons that makes you feel sleepy ?tired and dizzy . my eyes get dark circles and I become more tired and fatigued. I'm guessing sperm is testosterone and losing that would tire me . I'm not a scientist, nor an expert on the subject but I feel tired af after fapping. Because when you cum you are expending a lot of energy, which will leave you feeling deprived, especially the next day. Also you are desensitizing and saturating your neurochemical receptors, which leaves you with a lack of mental energy, focus, and motivation. But worse than making you feel tired, porn use is physiologically similar to drug addictions such as cocaine, heroine. It has destroyed many people’s lives in the same way. Yet the mainstream hides the fact the porn addiction is an epidemic and has nothing but praise for the industry.

@Benton do women also experience this ? Do they feel a bit low after having an orgasm ?or is it just exclusive to men ?

I know. Tell that to preety .

@Preety_India alright..then there is clearly a problem with me.

you don't know as a woman. As a man I can tell you 100% it's a thing. there is a physical reaction that occurs in people whilst sexually aroused that raises your tolerance for things that you would normally find unpleasant. perhaps when you finish it's no longer being maintained and you feel icky. @Preety_India yoo see ?

@Preety_India @soos_mite_ah so is it just the religious upbringing that taught me that something natural is unnatural. The problem isn't me, The problem is that i was raised in mythology? On top of possible guilt of shame from your upbringing, for guys, there is a hormone change after an orgasm. This can result in a feeling of disgust toward things that do not seem disgusting when you are turned on. The psychological term is "operant conditioning". Maybe I have internalized messages that associate masturbation with negative outcomes from friends, family or the mass media. My behaviour has been modified so that I can experience discomfort as a result of a behaviour that otherwise would not produce such feelings.

Yes and my own direct experience is it's bad for me .there is no question about it.. What's wrong then with checking whether it's bad for others as well to be more certain? And the dilemma I'm facing is that the majority of people i talk to say it's not bad for them .so I'm curious to know WHY. Is it something about Me specifically (like genetics or upbringing) or what exactly is going on ?

@Preety_India @soos_mite_ah thank you girls for stepping in such a sensitive topic I know masturbating is okay, it's apart of everyone's life, but why do I feel weird afterwards as if I kicked a kitten or something? What's going on psychologically speaking? I guess Depending on your upbringing, feelings of guilt or shame could be the cause. They may not feel particularly strong since i know that it's okay so my guess would be that i feel bad afterwards because some part of my mind believes masturbation to be "bad" while my conscious rational mind thinks it's perfectly normal. That causes a psychological conflict since I am , in effect, trying to believe two opposite things at the same time. Similar things happen to people for other reasons as well. Most people would feel guilt if, for instance, they killed someone even if it was the only option they had to prevent themselves from being killed. They've been brought up knowing that murder is wrong, yet that's exactly what they had to do to prevent someone from killing them, which society and common sense says is perfectly acceptable, so they have an internal conflict over what they believe which causes the guilt.

Any negative effects? Is it all white ? You don't experience any decreasing in energy and sexual appetite?

I'm not sure what are you trying to imply . My issue shortly put is that I feel a lot of negative shit after fapping and especially fapping to porn. And ironically when I ask people whether online or in real life .. they just say "nah ,it's all in your head bro ". So I lack clarity .and I wanna make sure that my sexual lifestyle is healthy. I understand that posting a lot about it can be annoying. But for Me its a very important topic that I'm seeking to understand and get to the bottom of

I used to edge few hours a week . But I noticed that I get blue balls (pain in the testicles) and frequent urination .I go to the toilet all the fucking time .because I fucked with my prostate and pelvic muscles through edging. I will never ever edge again .

At least mental masturbation doesn't cause me negative side effects as physical masturbation does

I used to have wet dreams almost every week back in my teenage years . I don't anymore. I didn't have a single wet dream this year .even though I abstained for a long time. Not sure why. Overall my libido is decreasing than what I used to 4 years ago . certain methods of masturbation leave much more sexual energy behind. For example, If I masturbate without touching my penis or if I have a wet dream, I still have much more sexual desire left over. And also, depending on how long you abstain, your sexual energy wont go back to 0 after doing it once. You still maintain the effects from abstaining even after doing it once. This is just my experience of course, seems like yours might be different. I also noticed this. When I have a hands free orgasm whether through wet dreams or some hands-free-orgasm porn ..I still feel horny afterwards . The longest I went without fapping was 90-100 days .and when I relapsed I didn't immediately feel down. But usually what happens is called chaser effect. Is that one relapse leads to another one .and I end up doing it multiple times per week .and that really fucks me up . I guess sexual energy or libido as Freud calls it is the main driver to all out other activities. When you lose too much of it in extreme masturbation..it will naturally affect your motivations.

I don't know if it's a thing .my own evidence is my own direct experience .I do feel POIS after fapping but like I said when I ask people whether in real life or online ,they can't relate to me and it's very rare that someone tells me he feels down after fapping. i didn't have real sex before...As in full penetration . I just had a quick blowjob from a hooker ?. Not so surprising that I also felt extremely bad about it .not just physically but emotionally because it's the first time I do something dirty like that .it's probably linked with feeling of guilt and regret. And that pays and manifests itself as physical symptoms as well . Yeah I agree .that's why I'm considering no-fap seriously. I made a commitment this year to stay clean for the whole year .but i already relapsed 4-6 times .but I'm determined this time to quit cold turkey .and my ultimate goal is stop all forms of porn and masturbation and only use my sexual energy in marriage

I didn't know what POIS is. But I just Googled It .and I can relate. I do feel dead tired and in a depressive mood after fapping .Still have no clue why . Some of my friends who are married have sex 3-4 times per week and they are so energised and active .they hit the gym etc . Is it Really different from person to person? Can real sex also have the same impact? If we take into consideration the real sex requires more energy than fapping .because your whole body is moving in sex ..whereas in masturbation just your hands and your dick

Yeah same here. Perfect description. I also feel like I don't wanna do anything in my life after I do It. I lose almost all motivation to achieve and conquer big goals. Why do think that is though? What's the scientific explanation for this? Why do we feel low after nutting?

I notice that the more I grow up ..the less "real " things seen to me .this results in an extreme fascination of reality .like I am walking in the street and everything seems blurry and mysterious and dream-like. I guess I'm going through a Derealization period. Although it's mild. Not so intense. But basically I feel that something fishy is going on here with this existence .like I might be stuck in a cosmic conspiracy against Me . When I walk down the streets..I can't hold eye contact with people because I'm afraid that all these people are conspiring against me. I know these ideas have underlying causes that I have yet to work on them. But for Me right now just sharing an update in my path . Any advice or thoughts appreciated ?