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What happens to you if your parents die ? what happens to you if you lost a child or a spouse ? what happens if you become Broke or homeless or get cancer? better not think of these possibilities. Because they are opened.

@Jirh yes , these are analogies. in your direct experience, where do you see objects , inside the brain or right where they are ? btw Leo has explained this topic a lot in the past . I just haven’t reviewed this inquiry in a while .

Insightful. Thanks for sharing.

There is an explanation for that . The same thing would happen in a dream scenario if the dreamer chose to dream that the dream brain is responsible for generating and/or producing the qualia of the dream world . imagine designing a video game where you program a rule that damaging Super Mario’s head with a hammer leads to “Game Over “. That doesn’t actually make the video game world produced by Mario’s head .

exactly. That’s correct. there is actually no perception process happening. Consciousness doesn’t see objects via the eyes . The boundary between subject and object is completely imaginary.

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If this means there is no actual boundary between perception and perceiver , then I agree .

Recently I’ve been contemplating what seeing is , as in vision . According to science ,the eyes take the light which is reflected off the objects and then displays it inside the brain . But where exactly inside the brain ? Is there like an TV screen inside the brain ?? And who sees the screen? Where is the perceiver ?

There is an important principle in life that I’m learning recently: Never give up. If you fall a million times, rise up and try again. No matter how many times you fail, no matter how long the struggle continues, you have to find the strength to get back up and keep moving forward. Falling is not the end. Failing is not the end. The only real end is when you decide that you are no longer willing to try. I get it , Constant failure over a long period of time can make us lose hope and convince us that success is impossible. When we keep trying and nothing seems to change, We naturally start thinking of giving up. But this is precisely when the attitude of never giving up becomes most important. The best thing we can do is adopt the attitude of never giving up. Keep trying when things are difficult. Keep moving when progress is slow. Keep believing when doubt becomes loud. And when you fall, don’t spend too long asking why you fell. Learn from it, get back up, and try again. As they say ,Succeed or die trying. Not because success is guaranteed, but because giving up guarantees that we will never be successful and happy . There will always be obstacles. There will be moments when our efforts fail over and over Again and then we feel exhausted from starting over. But we cannot allow temporary failure to become a permanent decision. We have to keep the door to success open by continuing to knock. Why ? Because there is no other alternative. You are either successful or you are trying . Don’t let failure be an option. Failure is not an option. This does not mean that every attempt will succeed or that every goal must be achieved exactly as we imagined it. It means that we must continue until we have given everything we can give . If you never give up, you can never truly lose. You may fail many times. You may have to begin again more times than you ever expected. You may take a longer road than you wanted. But as long as you continue, the possibility of success remains alive. So fall a million times if you have to. Rise a million and one times.Try again. Learn again. Begin again.Keep going until you succeed or until you have given everything you had in trying.Never give up.

Every morning, before doing anything else, take a moment to ask yourself: How should I spend this day? Make a simple plan. Begin with what you need to do : your responsibilities, duties, work, and anything important that cannot be ignored. Give these things your attention first, especially while your mind is fresh and your energy is high. Then think about what you want to do. Once you have fulfilled your responsibilities, allow yourself time for the things that bring you happiness: reading, meeting friends, pursuing a hobby, enjoying video games or music or any form of entertainment that you like or simply quality time. Don’t let your day happen by accident. Decide what deserves your time and attention, do what needs to be done, and then enjoy the freedom that comes from knowing you have fulfilled your duties. Start the day with intention: do what you must, then make time for what you love.

Kids’ talk .

Kids’ talk.

Interesting. I think the only purpose of life is to love myself as I am . Self-Love. Self-Acceptance. it should be natural, but it isn’t because we’ve been conditioned to judge ourselves and get judged by others.

@Nemra was it that the distinction between dream vs reality realized experientially to be imaginary? Whereas in the past it was just theoretical ?

So , you had a dream …aaaand ?

I’m really not in a hurry at all regarding sex or marriage or any kind of a relationship with a girl currently. I’m currently pursuing other stuff .

No it’s not like that . I just don’t have that itch “I want to have sex with a girl this week”. I welcome it if it was available, but same same . obviously you are not me and you are experiencing the urgency. Good luck !

The urgency is unnecessary . Don’t set a time like “this week “. This puts unnecessary pressure on you . im honest as well . I want to have sex with a girl asap too if possible , it’s just not bugging me .

Then why so desperate?

Are you a virgin ?

Today spend time meditating , contemplating, relaxing ,praying , just grounding. Not too much noise and toxicity.

Yesterday I could not sleep without repeating the Islamic mantra, La ilaha illa Allah :“There is no god but God.” I had been feeling afraid and deeply sad, carrying a heaviness within me that I could not easily explain or remove. I deal with this almost every day:a feeling of uncertainty, vulnerability, and fear before the vastness of existence. In that state, I began repeating La ilaha illa Allah. At first, I repeated the words almost mechanically, simply because I needed something to hold on to. But gradually, something inside me began to change. The repetition gave my mind a point of concentration. Instead of allowing my thoughts to scatter endlessly, I returned again and again to the same declaration: there is no ultimate reality, no ultimate power, and no ultimate object of worship except God. As I continued repeating it, I began to calm down. I felt less alone within my own thoughts. A sense of tranquility began to replace the agitation, my mind less chaotic, and eventually I felt a kind of serenity that allowed me to surrender to sleep. It was interesting to me that such a simple phrase could have such a profound effect. The words themselves are short, but their meaning is enormous. They contain a whole worldview: that behind all the changing things of existence there is one ultimate reality ..that I’m not abandoned in an indifferent universe..that everything I encounter from fear, happiness, suffering, beauty, uncertainty, and death exists within a reality ultimately governed by God. Eventually, I fell asleep. Yet the sleep itself was not particularly restful. My dreams were extremely disturbing. They were chaotic, strange, and at times almost disgusting. They seemed to contain fragments of fear, confusion, and images that did not follow any coherent logic. I woke with the impression that my mind had continued struggling even while my conscious awareness was asleep. Recently, I have also found myself thinking increasingly about my origin and my ultimate fate. These questions have begun to feel more important to me than many of the ordinary concerns that occupy human beings from day to day. every human being encounters those deeper questions. Who am I? Where did I come from? Why am I here? What is the meaning of my existence? Where am I ultimately going? What happens to me when this life ends? These questions seem almost unavoidable because human beings possess an awareness of their own existence. We do not merely live…we know that we live. We are capable of looking at ourselves from a distance and wondering what our existence means. We can contemplate our birth, our consciousness, our mortality etc.. Every human being, in one way or another, seems to confront the mystery of existence. Even when we do not consciously ask these questions, they can remain somewhere beneath the surface of our lives. Sometimes they emerge during moments of happiness, sometimes during grief, sometimes in solitude, and sometimes when we become aware of our own mortality and especially when we feel lost and depressed. For me, these questions have gradually led toward a particular realization. I came from God, and ultimately my destiny is God. Full stop. This does not necessarily mean that the journey from beginning to end will be simple. I may encounter suffering. I may experience happiness and sadness, fear and tranquility, confusion and understanding. There may be trials whose purpose I cannot comprehend while I am experiencing them. There may be realities beyond my present understanding. Perhaps I could pass through heaven or hell. Perhaps there are possibilities that I cannot even conceptualize from the limited perspective of my present human existence. My understanding is finite, while God’s reality is infinite. Therefore, I cannot claim to know every detail of what lies beyond this life. But beneath all those possibilities, I find one idea that gives me a sense of coherence: my ultimate origin is God, and my ultimate destination is God.Everything else may be part of the journey. Islam talks a lot about heaven and hell as ultimate destination for people. If God is truly God, then His power cannot be confined by the limits of human imagination. If He wills to create heaven, He can create heaven. If He wills to create hell, He can create hell. If He wills to create realities beyond anything human beings currently understand, His power is not limited by our conceptual boundaries. This doesn’t mean that I must go through them , just that they are possible. When I was afraid and repeating those Islamic mantras during the night, . My mind was searching for stability, and the remembrance of God provided . There is no god but God. Human beings suffer because they want certainty about things that cannot be made certain. We want to know the future. We want to know exactly what will happen to us. We want guarantees about our relationships, our health, our success, our survival, and ultimately our fate. But existence does not give us complete control over these things.At some point, we have to surrender. If I truly came from God, then my existence is a return toward its source.From God.Through life.And ultimately back to God.I do not know .But perhaps it answers the most important one. I know where I came from.And I know, ultimately, where I am going.

If you start with romantic and sexual love, there’s an attraction between the masculine and the feminine. What keeps them connected is love. Maybe it’s the same with existence itself. Something is holding everything together, something that connects everything to everything else. Maybe that something is love. Love is like the glue that holds existence together.

All knowledge must be relative . Had it been absolute, it would be eternal .

If you are into Actualized.org then you are into these things .