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you need to be enlightened to be able to know who is enlightened. Like an old saying: "You need to become saint, to know what is a saint".

My relationship with Masturbation has many bad effects on my health. I feel guilt immediately after masturbation. This increases my stress level. My mood is always nervous after masturbation. It increases negativity in my mind. It decreases my self-confidence. l feel tired the whole day. I feel energyless. Still haven't figured out why or how .because doctors say that it's perfectly harmless activity and all mammals do it .

nofap no-PMO(or no-Fap) is by no means a easy feat. Its incredibly difficult and takes insane control at least for the first few months. And even after those few months, its still incredibly difficult to make sure you don't fall for any temptations and unknown surprises while watching movies and stuff. I am doing it for a few reasons: 1. Motivation: I have insanely low motivation to really do anything in the past few months. And this low motivation is a result of certain beliefs. And no-PMO helps me increase my motivation. So, I will continue no-PMO at least until I rectify my beliefs and become naturally motivated. 2. I love to challenge myself: Being able to say no to temptations is my latest(by that I mean its 2 year old) addiction. It feels good each time I do it because It makes me feel in control of myself. 3. I notice that I don't fear things the way I used to before when I am on no-PMO. 4. I feel attracted to girls, even if they are not physically attractive. (I am not sure why because logic dictates I shouldn't be). My thoughts on Porn: The issue with porn is, it increases your expectations about sexual experiences to unimaginable heights. So, after a while even when you are married, you will prefer masturbation and porn to actual sex. Which is unhealthy for your relationship(I believe intimacy is a huge part of healthy romantic relationships). I think this is the only and a fundamental reason why I avoid porn. If you are naturally motivated, in good shape, already have a healthy romantic relationship, I see no reason why you should avoid porn and masturbation. Don't follow no-PMO(or no fap) like a religion. If it serves your interests, well then follow it. Otherwise don't.

I don’t believe in sexual orientation anyways .The type of sexual experiences or fantasy leads us to believe that we are this and that. I have had dreams where I am fucking a guy and also where I am fucking a dog. I also remember having an erection while watching a lioness in youtube. Just search “beautiful lioness”. I can look at this animal and fantasise about having babies with her all day. At the same time I have had huge embarrassing erections while watching a saree covered ass. These are nothing but associations made by mind i.e, I want to pour this semen somewhere. I know right, funny. Mind is a strange thing. The people who say that they are gay or lesbian or straight they are controlled by mind. Let’s be honest who on earth has not dreamed about having sex with their similar gender but we don’t do whatever mind says to us. We control our mind. There is no orientation.

Im not 100% straight but I'm not 100% gay either. Sometimes I’ll be in a grocery store, or just watching a movie, and someone shows up on screen and my brain is like, “Alert! Alert! The curves and lines of this figure (face) in front of you are appealing for some reason your conscious mind can’t comprehend!” Nice full beards add a lot to this alert system. I’m also a fan of the recently trendy short sides long combed top haircuts. (secretly a fan of the hipster style… shh!) But that’s where it ends. Beyond whatever underlying thing causes me to notice and appreciate the appearance of these physical forms, there’s nothing in my mind or heart that desires to go beyond that into “I want my mouth all over that!” territory. On the other hand, I’ve met females here and there, and we’ve chatted, and connected, and then she says something cute, or there’s that moment where we just look at each other in silence and the body language is pretty clear, and my brain says, “Alert! Alert! For some reason unbeknownst to your conscious mind, you suddenly want to smush your face into their face! You don’t even know what purpose that serves! But it just seems like the best thing in the world!” That’s where the difference is. Some guys are physically attractive, based on whatever unknown standards are in my subconscious making those judgments, but there’s no desire for a deep intimacy with them. On the other hand, the attraction I’ve felt for some women has grown to a point of desiring intimacy. It has gone beyond outward attraction to “Gosh dang it! I want to know everything there is to know about you!” That’s how I got over the cultural taboo of complimenting other guy’s physical appearance. Some dudes look good! They have great style! They carry themselves in a very confident way. It’s attractive! I’ll say it to some people (not necessarily random strangers). “Man! You look good with that beard!” or “You look really nice in that shirt!” I can say it confidently because there’s no secret desire under those compliments. It’s purely innocent and complimentary, through and through! With a female, I might say, “You look really nice today!” but there might also be an underlying flirtatious tone. Still innocent and complimentary, but also hinting at something deeper. So why am I not gay? I’m not gay because, while I can appreciate the physical attractiveness of the same sex, 0% of me desires to have an intimate relationship with another guy. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

my gay side I thought I was a straight boy until puberty hit. Not that I wasn't attracted to girls, more like that I thought girls were useless and stupid, the way many little boys do. And I kicked a lot of ass, could outrun and beat up all the boys. As soon as puberty hit, I fell madly in love with an inaccessible man, and have remained attached to him ever since, only slowing down a speck when I met the Love of My Life at 21, who was also a man. But I'd still remained "one of the boys," in many ways more easily able to join in guy talk than girl talk. In fact, I spent numerous years in scenarios where there were no women to speak of, which I think was what kept me from realizing my attraction was now exclusively for women. For nearly my entire adult life I've only been sexually attracted to women . And here's the next twist. Although I doubt I could actually fuck a man, post-menopause a slight sexual attraction to the idea of some men has crept in. I'd never have guessed sexuality could be so fluid for one who has never felt bisexual.

Some claim that women have it easier than men when it comes to sex opportunities. But I call that BS. People are arseholes. You have a lot of sex, they’ll call you a slut. You have none, they’ll call you frigid and a prude. So fuck what people think, do what makes you happy.

A few months ago I met a beautiful girl at a camp, unfortunately we lived on opposite sides of the country so after camp we would probably never see each other again. But I didn’t really care, I wasn’t going to let that ruin my time. Fast forward to the end of camp, we both go our separate ways, yet still stay in touch. We both probably know we couldn’t make anything work, but I wasn’t ready to give up, because this girl was absolutely amazing. So we talk all the time, but quickly it hits me that this girl is way out of my league. If she was too good for me and I loved what we had, and did not want it to end, then to extend it I decided to make myself better. I started exercising to look and feel better, I started reading and thinking to be more interesting, I started singing and playing piano to be more artistic and musical. I started studying and working hard to be less of a loser. Despite my best efforts it did not work out. She simply did not want anything long distance. A part of me was disappointed that all of my efforts didn’t help me achieve what I wanted to achieve, yet eventually I realized that she pushed me to be a better person, that through my love for her I channeled it to better myself. So yeah, it didn’t work out. Oh well. I took the love I had for her and instead of sitting around fantasizing I did something about it, and I don’t regret a minute of it. A couple months ago I met another gorgeous girl. This one, however lives near me. She is also out of my league, and I’m doing everything I can to change that .

True. The issue though is that I got rejected plenty of times before I actually found a girl who accepted to sit and talk with me.that in itself is a huge achievement imo. And I'm not sure if I can easily find a similar girl. Although I agree with you .she clearly rejected me .so there is no point being her doggy.

It depends on one’s own interests. Some girls perceive a guy who smokes as hot and sexy while some think as badass person. According to me girls usually prefer guys who doesn’t smoke. But There are rare girls who are perfectly fine with their boyfriend or husband smoking. Because girls are usually future oriented and they would like to secure a husband’s future health wise. So guys, if we want to marry someone, then the answer to smoking is a big “NO”. For dating, it’s up to u.

@Tyler Robinson @Adamq8 thank you guys for the comments. I actually forgot to mention how exactly did we meet each others which might be illuminating as to why she rejected me after the successful date ...which I still haven't figured out why. I met her online. In India the only way to meet women is through dating apps. Chatting to women in the pub is basically impossible. They're immediately on guard, they make snap judgements based off your body language, and they're always in packs of friends, so shy people like me are immediately chased off. This is what she said to me: "Hey I just wanted to say I had a really good time last night and I think you are honestly such a lovely guy, I just don’t think that I have feelings for you and the last thing I want to do is waste your time. I’m really sorry and I hope there are no hard feelings! You did absolutely nothing wrong! You were so sweet and easy to chat to. I don’t have a lot of experience with relationships either so it’s a learning curve for me too. I just didn’t feel that there was chemistry between us."

The topic is all in the title. What went wrong with communism? My answer is that nothing went wrong with communism. The fault, if there is any fault, is in humanity. Yes, we are social animals, and we live in group, and act together in social groups of all sizes, from families to nations. But we also want stuff for ourselves, maybe stuff that others don't or can't have. The streak of greediness in us is as strong as the urge to socialise, and that is what went wrong with communism: human greed. Morally, communism is far superior to Capitalism, but communism asks us to behave atypically, while Capitalism panders to our greed and baser nature, and so is more successful. That's my take; what's yours? What went wrong with communism?

Yes of course. And it bringed me results. This is almost the second date in my entire life . I am a simple dude. Basic bro. Who would be more attractive, me as I am now? or me if I became famous with lots of money ? Same dude, same demeanour, same height, same 6 pack, same tattoos, but two total different paths That's how female attraction works imo: It's hard to explain what sets them off in a woman, it's simply something like the tone of a mans voice,his personality, body language, etc which triggers the attraction mechanism which is inside of a woman. I was talking to this woman I met & started to smile, now she's the sort of woman who I can make smile in my presence,so a woman whose like her is interested in a man whose like me & certain feelings come up inside of her when I'm in her presence. So,anything can set them off inside of a woman,I have just met a woman who feels that attraction towards me,they're not all the same either. It seems like her attraction to me was fake . She made it up to not embarrassing me .because the very next day which is yesterday she texted me and said she ain't interested in a serious relationship with me . I'm still able to talk to her as a friend though . So what you recommend me to do ? Look for a new girl or try again with the same girl?

Men have different tastes, and it usually involves a certain body type. If the overall figure clicks with their taste, they will linger. If not, they won’t give the woman a second look. But let’s be real here. Men don’t look at woman for the purpose of determining a longer term relationship. They are just checking out the package. What’s inside is what determines if there is any long term potential.

What traits or characteristics are common in successful people? Like, let's define success as someone with very high income and social status, (not actor or sportsmen, please), a Harvey Specter like (or a female equivalent of him) person in my mind. So, what are the traits that are common in this type of people? Very high IQ and high Conscientiousness? Luck? or other traits that I don't know What traits or characteristics are common in successful people?

Just think of it. Women are wizards. They get wet without water, bleed without being injured, make boneless things hard, and bring new souls into this world from a portal between their legs… Pure magic!

Since the age of 2, about 98% of the people in my life have been women. From an early age I learned a shit ton that most guys learn about women as teens or young adults, and for that I will always be grateful. When I’m around women, I feel at home. I don’t feel judged because I don’t watch basketball or football, nor do I really ever feel like I’m being sized up or competed with. I can just sit back, relax and tell them why Jason Momoa is hotter than Henry Cavill. And yes, I’ve actually had that conversation several times. The answer is and always will be Momoa. Now, this isn’t me trying to say that women are better than men, not at all. Men are fucking amazing and I love being a man myself, but I truly, genuinely, with all of my heart, love the fuck out of women.

If one has a girlfriend and still watches porn ,is it considered cheating ? I know I want to have a girlfriend. But I don't wanna give up my porn habit for her . When you see someone doing something, or imagine yourself doing it .. your brain does not know the difference between reality and fiction. It should be treated as cheating. But many porn addicted men get defensive, feel guilty, and call women insecure prudes.

Same here .They didn’t teach us about same-sex relationships. I had to explore my gay side with a random dude who I met on the street. Here In India there is a lot of homosexuality going on and the government knows about It but doesn't do anything about it . Because the guys are sexually suppressed.so they end up having sex with each other . We had human reproduction taught as part of the biology syllabus back in 2013 when I was at high school . Although they taught us the ‘mechanics’ of the act, nothing was said about contraception or gay relationships. I learned about contraception a few years later, when I got myself into pornography I went to middle school in white, rich beachside town, full of kids who thought they were better than others because of the way they looked or dressed or because their parents’ divorce was not as bad as the alcoholism and marital issues of everyone else’s parents. But like I said They didn’t teach us about same-sex relationships. But i remember vividly: I was in a class in high school .. and the professor was teaching us Reproduction. I'd always been a bright biology student, kind of a teacher's favourite, which gave me the license to create all the ruckus I wanted in class. Sir was discussing spermatogenesis, and asked us if we had any doubts. Not sure how, but I ended up asking him how can we increase our sperm count ? . And The whole class burst into laughter. But wait there's more! This mischievous friend of mine answered the question before sir did. “Eat toor dal.” Not sure how legitimate that is. But the class sure was fun. Even sir couldn't stop laughing.

In this video some neuroscience experts claim that we don't have access to the real world as it is . "The thing in itself " as Kant calls it . We don't have access to that. But only our senses that give us a distorted filtered perception of reality behind the scenes. This is completely foolish and precisely backwards . All these first person experiences (colors.. Sounds.. Smells.. Etc) are NOT secondary to some underlying explanatory models that you imagine underneath them (photons light.. Frequency or math equation etc) these are just explanatory tools to help navigate the experience and create technology etc. But they are not the reality. The reality is the so called naked perception exactly as it is. And it's not other than exactly what it appears to be.

The "observable universe " is certainly finite, and indeed we know approximately how large it is. It’s very large ..literally incomprehensibly so to human intuition, in fact but still finite. Current cosmological evidence suggest the entire universe is isotropic, spatially flat, and infinite. One thing can be said for sure, what ever is out there is MIND BENDING All along we are trying to put bounds on infinity . Can't be done .

Let us suppose the universe is infinite in size. This is certainly possible given certain facts we know about the universe and its origin. It is often said that the universe started with the Big Bang 13.7 billion years ago. There is substantial evidence for this event. But you asked how it can be infinite? This gets into the realm of speculation but Einstein’s theories say that our universe is a manifold which is just a fancy word for a shape with certain mathematical properties. This theory admits that our universe could be just one part of a much larger cosmos, a bubble in a much larger cauldron so to speak. This is mathematically possible while there is no evidence for it. We cannot see into that outer cosmos by any known method. That outer cosmos would be outside of what is called the observable universe and thus not observable to us. Because of that the universe could be infinite but appear to us as finite

May i ask you in what context are you saying this? (To whom are you saying this or as a response to which post )?

Yes I agree. When you die ,the whole world will die with you. Eternity is a blink of an eye .

@Breakingthewall yeah, well, so we both are having an experience simultaneously and not that I will live your POV in a different lifetime?