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Yes I can relate . It depends on how happy or sad you are . When you are sad you sleep more to escape from facing reality .and when you feel happy like when you fall in love with someone or win the lottery or somethin' ..you find it difficult to fall asleep .but I think it would be nice if we can appreciate sleep regardless of our mood swings. I love to sleep. I am terrible at it. I have had insomnia since I was a little boy. Sleepless nights run in my family. While night sleeping has always been a challenge and a full night of uninterrupted sleep something I long for and seldom experience ..I am particularly gifted at taking naps. I used to think sleep was a waste of time and now believe it's one of the ingredients of a happy life. An afternoon spent napping is to me an afternoon well spent. P.S good to see you

It's literally the highest form of joy possible. To exist as pure void .no colors ,no sounds, no perceptions of any kind . Just empty dark silent nothingness. Sleep takes you home to your true nature effortlessly. If it wasn't just for the dreams that we don't know where and how the fuck they occur ..sleep would be my favourite activity in this whole world . I know I'm just being silly lol. Any other sleep lovers here ? ?

Agreed . I believe that if i keep doing it, i will get used to it and have fun but i then feel awesome from approaching instead of anxious.i need to step up to grow. So I step up and it is why I approach extremely attractive girls because I am pushing myself and go into situations and doing what most fear doing/saying because they worry if they offend girl etc. There will come a time when i won’t give a shit anymore. There will be a time i have dated so many extremely attractive girls and even get sick of them. I will find they are predictable, boring and scared, insecure than i can even imagine with all their facade and put on confidence.

I'm doing a one girl per day challenge since late April. I talk to one girl at least every single day .I usually do it in malls and restaurants. I find a girl that catches my attention and then I rush to talk to her .my opening is always" hey ,I saw you passing by and I think you are beautiful ". The usual response I get is "thanks ". But I have a problem..is I quickly run out of things to say ..and I don't know how exactly to guide the conversation towards saying that I like her and I want her to be my girlfriend. Should I even do that In the first date? Or just get her number and go on many dates before explicitly saying that I want her to be my girlfriend? Another problem I have is I always approach girls who are not so attractive..on a scale from 1 to 10..they usually are at 7. When I see a super attractive girl ..like a 9 or even 10 I completely lose all my confidence and drive to go talk to her .its like she will never be my girlfriend. I'm not worthy of dating such a high quality girl (appearance wise). I'm left completely speechless when I see a super hot girl and I don't even try to approach. Then I go to home and jerk off thinking about her . So I want to know two things ... 1. When and how to start talking to a girl about being my girlfriend? 2. How to have the balls to go talk to a 10 ? Thanks .

OK. I think i get it . Walk up, ask her, walk away or move forward. Life is short and there are plenty of women, even women hotter than the one i want to approach. I should Truly believe in myself that she is lucky to have me..not the other way around . I have a lot to offer and if she doesn't see that then she it's her loss. I should believe that inside, then my outward confidence will be all i need. But I always have fear. I approach many girls and have been doing so for months now. The fear doesn’t go away. What happens is it doesn't stop and I'm not able to calm my nerves down and enjoy the process. I cannot remove fear because my brain's primary function is to detect threat, danger and so depending on my experience the fear will be big or it will be small . Any tips on how to overcome fear of rejection which is a very big obstacle for me? For example women fear approaching men due to the invention of modesty, invention of shame and this the shame on sexuality. Women do not approach men because they believe in the social myths and traditions that men are suppose to chase women.

Good one . I will try this out today .I'm going out to a mall this evening .I hope I don't come off as a simp .thanks Leo. One last point...many times I’ve walked up to a girl who didn’t even notice me, who looked all pretty but also all grumpy. There sometimes happens this magical moment when you see a big smile appear out of nowhere on her face, just because i walked to her and said “Hey, I saw you and I thought you were cute so I wanted to say hi…”. She didn’t notice me, and I gave her the chance to get to know me. is smiling a signal that she feel comfortable being approached by me and she doesn't find me annoying, creepy or unattractive?

Is it important to strategise in most cases, before approaching? Like should I memorize specific lines so that I will be ready to any twists and turns during the conversation with a girl? I'm asking this because I'm failing in speaking off the cufIf. I just don't know what the fuck to say besides "I like your dress " "I like your eyes ""I think you are beautiful, "etc. I'm always atoo worried about the aftermath and start out on a super defensive note, i don't come across as a friendly guy. And i know that women like men who are easy to hang out with and who can talk about random things with as much ease as they would with their guy friends.

I believe it is a very valid philosophical stand but it will never be the norm. I've had ideas about reproduction and not bringing new lives into this world for almost 3 years now,and I was almost always ridiculed for that by my friends and family. I didn't know back then that philosophers old and new have spoken along the same lines. Now having read the works of Schopenhauer,Cioran and Benatar I'm more than convinced that I am right,but I also do not want to impose this view on anyone else. If someone wants to bring a child into this bleak and mostly hopeless world,they should do it and let their most prized creation suffer. Even Jesus could not avoid the excruciating misery of this world so a mere mortal will most certainly face very serious hardships here. I also do not believe that it is right for parents to bring an entity to life to bear the weight of their dreams and expectations.The three main reasons that people given in justification or necessity of reproduction are; 1 .It is the norm 2 .The child will further the family lineage 3.The child will support the parents when they are old. All three according to me are thoroughly ignorant and very selfish. If they're doing it because it is the norm, they're sheep, with no brains or reasoning of their own.. if they're doing it to further the family lineage, then they're narcissists..and if they're doing it so that the child may support them when they get old,then they're highly self-centered. What are your thoughts on antinatalism ? Is it ethical to bring a human being into this life without his/her permission to experience the inevitable suffering that is baked into the fabric of our existence?

No I am not advocating war or fear mongering . Just accepting the truth.Man is a war-like species that ALWAYS finds a reason for war. Let's go back five, six thousand years and cover history since biblical times. War, war, and more war ...Supposedly in the name of God. I will not blame it all on religion, that is only one reason .Point is there is always a reason .Man reasons for and contrives reasons for war. Many wars, including current wars, are held in the Middle East in the name of God .But then you have other wars, WWI, WWII, the Korean War, Vietnam War, etc. not held in the Middle East and not having anything to do with religion or God. Apparently war pays more than it costs . Why we have a huge for profit arms and war industry. So let's be honest and face the truth and decide ahead of time where they should stage the next war. Any suggestions Can you think of a new place to stage a war .We are probably not ready to have a space war, so pick some region of the planet where war can be most beneficial .political causes have become redundant and stupid .Let's make war pay How about, let's say a war between India and China to reduce World population . We can call it the Indo-Chinese War of 2022 Better still since we are supposedly a civilized species, why pick on any group of peoples or any particular nations. Why not have a lottery, which you can also bet on, and the nations that win can immediately start a war with each other ? So are we ready people, ready to show any alien species that may be watching us, that Man is indeed a civilized species and is quite democratic in choosing its peoples and zones for war.

Thanks Leo for the response . I will try to apply your advice . But shouldn't I just stay away from 10s for now and go for mediocre girls at first because I'm still a newbie? And then when I get good with less attractive girls ,I can proceed to approach the hottest ones ? Another problem I have In short, its because im desperate. And very shy and introverted. So I have to act out being confident and alpha .Those who are desperate do crazy, unwise things in order to get her. If ihave to become something I'm not in order to impress someone, they aren't interested in me anyway.

Is human potential really limitless? Can we travel through space and visit another galaxies and maybe find aliens or intelligent creatures out there ? I'm sorry, I don't really know much about it, but here is what I think. I think humans can be limitless if they believe they are. There was a moment when we thought chatting with people far away is a joke. Now we all got phones. There was a moment when we thought flying is against the Laws of gravity. Now we can ride on an airplane. I don't think it is a good idea to say science researches are untrue. The tricky thing is, they might have missed out some possibilities. In the days when the Laws of gravity was published, saying that people can fly would be ridiculous. Have people in those days consider that planes can be made? Science is indeed subjected to change, which already can change human limits. I think the thing that greatly limits people is the lack of faith. Since God is limitless and so he could make us limitless, we could be limitless! I believe if that's God's will and we believe that God is on our side, we are limitless. I guess this is part of what we called 'faith'. Even if you don't talk about it religiously, believing that we are limitless might make us limitless. I guess this is what people call is faith. Faith that we know we can make it. This perhaps gives us a chance to be limitless.

Not sure if a genuine compliment or trolling..but thanks anyways

I had a new insight that I felt sharing with the community. Now I don't understand the whys and the how's behind it ..but it just hit me out of the blue .its something I've been noticing since I was a little kid . Chasing material pleasure like sex and money and luxury items will not make you truly happy .the more you do it ..the more you feel empty inside and actually starting to slip into depression. But the more you abandon those things and live a simple sober life ..the more happy and truly satisfied you become . So I want you to throw away this whole paradigm of chasing stuff that you think will make you happy .and just simply back into being itself. Focus on relaxation.. Sobriety and live a simple clean life devoid of all the luxurious stuff that is tempting you all the time . And that paradoxically will make you more happy and content with your life . Just keeping it short and sweet . Let me know if you have any questions. Cheers ?

I will play the leo role here and say : Only YOU can become enlightened

Well..solipsism is both true and false simultaneously. Let me clarify.... The Self is the only thing that exists .its all of reality . But it all depends on how you define the Self . It's not the human self. The human self is a subset of the infinte Self . Don’t say “I am Alone,” just say “I Am” and be satisfied with that. Every human is an island unto themself, solipsism or not. The fear at the core is loneliness, rejection, shame, etc. Solipsism is uncomfortable because the emotions that were secondary nuisances are now the core component of your reality. This sudden shift can trigger psychosis (as it did for me few months agon) so make sure to seek help if you need it. At the very least have someone to talk

Good . It will take time to integrate. As it did with me . I'd suggest just socializing with someone you don't usually talk to that often, going for a jog, taking up meditation , etc solipsism is interesting but I find the anxiety that comes with thinking too hard about these things is pretty confusing. feel free to shoot me a PM if you want some references, want to talk about something in particular, or just need someone to scream your frustrations at. Just please don't one-track-mind the conversation into a circle, philosophy actually requires learning multiple points of view on the same subject, even if you cant believe them yourself . Have a nice day /evening ?

@puporing I'm not halfway there..I completely integrated solipsism . I struggled years with solipsistic ideas . Probably most important advice I can give you , stop thinking about life. You cannot prove nor disprove solipsism, so taking it as a serious philosophy is pointless. Its just an interesting perspective. One of the things I took comfort in, how there seemed to be other people that had things to offer intellectually and otherwise that I could not provide for myself. It made me feel like I wasn't alone, despite that not really proving such. You'll be fine, just dont pick at the scab too much. there will be people on this forum that will try to philosophically flex on you, try to sound smart, explain solipsism to you. Ignore those fucking losers. Itll make your problems worse. You do you. Look up derealization / dissociation. The right therapist could help but not all of them are knowledgeable on the subject. Make sure to interview / ask questions on what they’re knowledgable on in your first session / consultation. I used to feel this intensely when I was younger but now it happens so seldom. It changes over time with overall wellbeing. Apologies if that’s not fully accurate to your situation, as I’m speaking from my own experience / knowledge. Hope it helps regardless.

@puporing I know this will sound weird, but I will give it a try. Since I was a teen I used to feel like I was the only real person and everyone else and everything only existed when I saw them like in a dream. I am 25 now and feel that way again. When I leave a room I feel it no longer exists. I feel that nothing existed until I was born. This means no real person won the 100 million dollar lottery last week and at the same time nobody died in an earthquake last week because neither of them really exists. Sometimes I feel I created the universe and made myself a part of it but purposely forgot so that it would be more interesting. I am just your average person. Maybe this is how I wanted it. I feel the answer will be revealed when I die, as if my life is just a long dream. Does anyone else feel this way? Even the guy who bullied me in 8th grade, did I create him ? I just ask myself are there really 7 billion souls on this earth plus the 20 billion that ever lived or just one: me. Sometimes I really think hard about this. When I see someone leaving work, do they really go home to a family or do they no longer exist til I see them the next day. I am not mentally unstable and would like to share your thoughts. Thanks.

Yeah yeah i agree with you Antinatalism is the way, the truth, and the light. Nobody chose to be born. We were all rudely and selfishly forced into this horrible world to have to endure this horrible thing called life. Our parents did not have us for our benefit, but theirs. And it is for the worse. Procreation is the supreme act of evil. Life is horrible and it would have been better never to have existed.

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the majority of people are slaves to adhering to social norms and would never think to question themselves on such matters. Are far as they are concerned all life is precious regardless of the misery incurred. More people are becoming childless for a variety of reasons, however humanity is far more likely to become extinct through more violent means rather than logic.

It came to me because I was a hardore seeker for happiness for the whole of my life . I tried porn,junk food ,cigarettes, sugar ,caffeine, luxury items etc and none of it ever make me happy. In fact every time I do these things i end up feeling a mild existential crisis where there is a deep void or hole within me that just doesn't get enough of things and keep seeking endlessly. So I changed my mentality and my paradigm to meditation and just accepting existence as it is without running around chasing after stuff ..and that did actually work in enhancing my overall happiness and well being.

I think that some languages are objectively more beautiful or less beautiful than others. My impression of a language is heavily linked with what my mother tongue is(Indian), and what other languages i already speak(English). For example, many people say German sounds very “rough” and generally don’t like it. I started learning German a while ago and the more I studied, the more this “roughness” disappeared. Now that I somewhat speak it, it actually sounds very pleasing But still, German sounds rough compared to French. French is the most sexy and beautiful language in the world . I don't know why honestly lol There also might be a psychological factor in this. People from the Anglo-sphere stereotype Germans as very orderly, cold and serious individuals. And so naturally their languages must reflect that, no? So, What makes some languages sound more beautiful than others?

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And I'm ready to discuss all of these assumptions. But it's gonna take a lot of time and effort . Let's just start with suffering. Suffering is a fact . Everyone suffers in this life .there is no escaping it. Suffering is part of life. Just like birth, growth, and death, suffering is an unavoidable part of life. One way or another, almost everyone suffers from something throughout one's life. The degree of suffering differs depending on the cause of our suffering; It could be a swing of mood from a good one to a less desirable one..or it could be a degradation of our health.. it could be the demise of our loved ones. Etc As long as we age, get sick, and will die eventually, and as long as we have loved ones, we will suffer someday when our body's conditions deteriorated or when we lost our loved ones. Buddha became enlightened when he finally understood the source of suffering of man kind. Even if we have happiness, it only means that we would suffer when our mood swings from the happy one to a less happy one. That's why Buddha advocated a simplistic life that helps us to maintain a smooth and calm mood. That's also why Buddhist monks and nuns don't get marrie.. no offspring simply means less suffering or discontinuation of suffering.