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Even with birth control and condoms, there's a part of me that just can't relax. People are having sex in this era more than anytime in history .and the result is overpopulated poor dysfunctional society. I think there should be restrictions on having sex causally.

Women enjoy the feelings that go along with sex. Not just the physical part of sex. When women realize most men are only after the "physical" they get bitter on being just a piece of ass for a man's pleasure. But that's the truth of the matter. Men are after physical pleasure .women are after romance and connection .

I hate people who hate someone for thing that is not in their control, (Sexual orientation/Beauty/Skin colour/Body type/Financial status.)because,A person is gay not because he chose it , but nature chose him to be like that. A person is dark skinned not because he wanted it , but nature made him so. A person is born poor not because he loves being poor, but because nature chose to give him birth in a poor family. And moreover hatred for people like these should be more , because You are mocking a person for a thing that he did not choose himself. He cannot do anything to change it. So stop discriminating and start loving. Gays are also human beings

I have a love/hate relationship with sex. Not the actual act of sex but what many men have to go through to get it. It's the same feeling as being financially poor. On one hand the poor person would love to be rich but on the other hand that person is also often envious of those who are rich because it's easier. This is a problem for me because when I do get with a woman, I often mentally lose my want for sex because I keep thinking about the effort and energy it took to get to this moment. And it sometimes has little to do with the actual courtship of that particular woman and more to do with the general idea of what many men have to do, learn, endure etc to be worthy of that “sexual entitlement” from her. It turns me off. I've often had to apologise for not performing in the moment. I much prefer sex with prostitutes because I don't get that thought with them. I'm there for a reason and so is she, no bullshit in between. Never had a performance problem there.

Its hard to believe but there are many who consider themselves to be “Asexual”. From what I’ve gathered, they don’t actually “hate sex” but they find the prospect extremely “yucky & gross”. I’m not sure if any of these folks have ever tried it but I’m guessing a significant amount have & were supremely turned off by a bad experience. I’m also sure that some have decided to be this way since puberty. I subscribe to a few thoughts on this that are along the lines of: “Live and let live” and “To each, his own”.

I can quite easily sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it. It takes 0 effort on my part, there is not even a temptation to drink some random glass of water that’s been sitting around like that, if I even notice it in the first place. But if I were very very thirsty? Any liquid would start to look quite appealing. I’d look at that glass of water differently. It could become a kind of torture, to be forced to sit next to a glass of water, and not drink it, while slowly getting more and more thirsty. At some point, I might not be able to stand it, I’d drink the water, or leave, but not just sit there next to it slowly dying of thirst. If someone reaches out to me, I can quite easily shake their hand, and then let go. If I was falling, and someone reached out to me, I’d cling to their hand, potentially to the point of hurting them a bit. It’s possible for a man and a woman to be friends, if each one has an independent romantic and/or sexual life, and other friends, and family (blood or not), and so on. If their needs are generally being met. But if one of them is desperate? Then it’s going to be hard for them not to cling on to the only thing they have, or the only person they have. It’s natural for people to want more than just a friend.

What we fantasize about sexually doesn't always align with societal norms and values and this is why we get embarrassed and ashamed when we think about them or even think of discussing them. It is time that we as a society accept that sexual fantasies are absolutely normal and most adults have them.

I do want to get married one day. I think that's the natural course of life .even though I still haven't figured out how .it seems like a faint idea floating around my mind and I'm not sure how it's gonna happen. I mean I'm shy and struggling with dating. But having children is I big ass giant ass NO for me . And that's for ethical reasons. I feel that giving birth to a human being to live in this horrible world is horrible enough. No one asks for your opinion if you want to be born .

Trying to exit the coomer mentality It is so easy these days to succumb to our primitive instincts and fall into a routine of eating, sleeping, jerking off and messing around. I know so many people who just fill their bored time with being horny and jerking off/having sex or wanting to have a girlfriend. It is kind of sad how millions of people just make that their daily life and are satisfied with it. It seems like if you do not attempt to give your life meaning you just fall into the same spiral. What is worse is when fucking society does not help you give your life some meaning. I have been applying for research positions for the past month or so and I am waiting on their reply and it is killing me. It is so hard to prove your self worth to people these days, that you genuinely care/ trying to care about something bigger than you.

Just to make this clear : A child molester is a person who molests a child. A pedophile is a person who is attracted to prepubescent children (specifically ages 6–10). As you can tell by the definitions of these two words, the former is a sex offender and the latter is merely a person with an attraction. Most pedophiles never offend, and the vast majority of child sexual abusers are situational offenders (non-pedophiles). Attraction is a rare motivator for abuse.

There is nothing morally wrong about pædophilia. On the other hand, there is a great deal morally wrong with child molestation. Unfortunately, a pædophile cannot act on their urges without committing the crime of molestation..so those urges must go unfulfilled. There can be no forgiveness for those who sexually exploit children, who are neither intellectually nor emotionally mature enough to meaningfully consent, and who in addition are always in an inferior social-authority role. Thus a pædophile, though they cannot control or help and therefore shouldn't be blamed for what they find attractive, is trebly unable to enact their desires. I'm drawing a sharp distinction between pædophiles and child molesters. Am I just being pedantic? No. I think it's very important. Those who are pædophiles but not child molesters should be regarded perhaps with pity, not contempt. Through an accident of birth¹ they're doomed to feel urges they can never ethically act on. They should be supported and provided what care we can give. Whereas child molesters are those (sometimes pædophiles and often not) who most intimately violate those least able to defend themselves and most liable to suffer life-long scars.

i genuinely don’t have any friends. at all. usually when people say they don’t have friends they actually do, but they only occasionally talk to them, but that’s not the case for me. i don’t have even one friend. for almost 5 years now i will go weeks without leaving my house. i don’t speak to anyone whether. I do have some online friends on Discord and Reddit but that's about it . And of course my imaginary friends in this forum . i go days without even speaking a word. i’m so tired of it all. the only interaction i’ll have is with the person i’m staying with who i don’t even have a good relationship with and works the entire day so we don’t really ever talk. i’m so far gone that i think i’ve lost all social skills i previously had before my isolation started because i’m not speaking to other human beings. i have a severe amount of social anxiety and have for most of my life. nothing ever seems to help and i’m hopeless at this point. i hope this doesn’t sound like i’m just trying to be edgy because i swear i’m not. i don’t want to be like this whatsoever. i want to have an actual life.

What can I do to become more masculine? I've never had a strong father figure growing up, I won't get into it but I was raised by women. In school I was the lowest on the totem pole and picked on a lot. I've improved a lot since then but I still feel I'm a weak man. Does being manly just come with age or will I always be like this? I was wondering what sort of tips you guys can offer so I can become more masculine or manly? I'm not competent with many things. I'm not handy. I have soft hands and I don't know how to fix things. I don't have many hobbies. I'm a bit indecisive sometime because I like to weigh my options. I'm bad at sports, yes all of them. I want to feel masculine and I'd like to learn how to become more manly. I'm not aggressive enough. I'm not competitive at ALL(because I was always the weakest link). I Just want to become a better man. If you read this and your instinct is to tell me to be myself or say something nice, or that it's alright, I thank you but I'm looking for solid advice on how to better myself and be a better man. Maybe I have issues but I'd always like to be on a path of self improvement. Thanks ?

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Thanks everyone for the advice. I sincerely appreciate it . Although I wanna add an additional note that I've realized within me about this whole balancing feminine VS masculine. I'm not in touch with neither my masculine side nor my feminine side . I'm kinda in the middle. It’s difficult to describe. It's the similar to Asexual people. They are not attracted to anything regarding sex. Also, Men have become more feminine as a result of new wave societal ideology. The radical me too movement has brought in irrational notions such as toxic masculinity and since most men these days don’t have a backbone believe it and fall into this by being agreeable. The fact of the matter is, if you stand your ground and have an opinion, women will respect you more, even the radical me too’s. No matter what women say, they are not attracted to anything but masculine men. Women are feminine by nature and want to remain feminine and submissive. So no women would like to date a coward like me .

I'm not sure . Why does it seem so unbearably difficult to get a girlfriend these days? I just don’t get it anymore. It’s bizarre that anywhere I go I constantly see guys with girlfriends/wives & a lot of the time these women are attractive. But it just seems like no one even bothers to talk to one another anymore unless they know them already. Online dating is a huge disaster unless you have an amazing job or top tier looks. So what is it that women are even looking for these days? Why is it so difficult yet I always constantly see people together. It’s like I feel like I’m in some sort of Matrix or something where things are just meant to happen for others when I’m not around. Yet I never ever see anyone get asked out in person or anything. If it’s so difficult how do so many people find it so easy? I’ve heard of people getting out of relationships than finding another in like 3 weeks time. I just don’t get it at all. Thanks bro ?.

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@LastThursday hey bro ..long time no see ? Thanks for the comment. There is a lot to unpack. I'll speak from personal experience. When I was younger, I was very insecure, skinny , and quite a bit of a push over, a huge people pleaser. I would avoid conflict with people I feel I would have conflict with. I would secretly compare myself with other men and what I thought masculinity was. I at times would look at others and wish I were like that, but something in my code wasn't the same, so it seemed. I was lazy, I had no skills, I had no physical, athletic capabilities. I was scared to approach women and did not date at all, although I wanted to. I asked my therapist..he told me Usually, when you want to become more manly, you will have to make yourself uncomfortable and perhaps be around those you consider “more manly” or who are what you aspire to be similar to. Imo it's hard to understand the definition of what that means (manly )and it is very subjective (Are we meaning nature wise, physically, relationally, etc.. etc.). There are “manly” men who do things we would consider unmanly, perse. It may be uncomfortable at first as are most things in life when aspiring to make positive changes. I Started working out to get into good shape. Something about working out and lifting weights helpe with my mindset and help build confidence sometimes you may not appear or be as manly because of harmonal problems. I mention this, because I may need to have some blood work done to check my harmonal levels and make sure they are balanced. Some men, have high estrogen levels, especially when overweight, and these estrogen levels without a balanced testosterone levels can affect the way in which you think about yourself and those around me. I don't feel feminine. I feel like a guy. Totally. But not a tough guy who can take responsibility of his life and build a family or anything from that sort.

@Carl-Richard I get it .you will do anything to justify your porn and masturbation habit to be healthy even though deep down you know its bad for you. And I'm not judging you. This is the case with every addiction .I do the same with my cigarettes addiction.

It would appear so that the earth is conscious. But think about the geological timescale. The earth is billion years old. The lifespan of a human is but a moment to the perception of the earth. Thus, if we develop an actual scientific method to study the consciousness of the earth, it would be in a much different manner than studying our consciousness or the consciousness of the animals and plants around us. The microorganisms within us are living very quick lives to our perception, how would they understand the consciousness of the organism that they are supporting? It would be very hard to prove that the earth is consciousness, but the evolution of organic life on earth makes it seem that earth consciousness is a real possibility.

Suggest to me books that talk about the origin of our universe,and how existence came into being. It can be from scientific perspective or spiritual perspective. It doesn't matter .as long as the main topic of the book is the origin of reality. An example would be "a brief history of time " by Stephen Hawking .and "a universe from nothing "a Lawrence Krauss. Thanks.

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These politicians..They don’t trust the American people. The arguments I’ve seen all boil down to, “popular vote means the votes of inferior people (people in cities, many of them not white) will count as much as the votes of people in small towns and country places, where righteousness resides The United States is a Federal Republic, not a democracy. It balances the interests of big states and small by splitting Congress in two, giving proportional representation in the House and equal representation in the Senate. The system prevents a few states with big populations from imposing their will on all the others, while still giving them power commensurate with their size in appropriating federal dollars preventing them getting robbed by the smaller states. Democracy has failed just as all preceding forms of government have failed This is because the job of the government is to distribute available resources to the most people in the most efficient way It can never do this because a government without opposition will make decisions that benefit itself and its supporters A government with opposition will waste time and money deciding what are the priorities of its actions In so far as there is always hard work, dirty work, and dangerous work to be done, no one will want to do these jobs if their needs are catered for Such jobs create a situation where a stratum of society is deliberately kept poor so they will do these jobs, or ways are invented to do these jobs In a slave economy, slaves were expendable and obviated the need for machines, which is why machines were not developed even though they were needed .

I'd ettle for electors proving that they know the different functions of different levels of government. Not in detail, just to have some semblance of an idea to demonstrate that they can make at least a somewhat informed vote.

Because I want to double check that It's not just "in my head " by asking other people about it . There has been studies that show that watching porn causes decay in the grey matter in the brain which is responsible for your sense of control or making choices. Have you visited www.yourbrainonporm.com yet ? A lot of eye opening studies there. Also take a look at the nofap forums and see how thousands of guys reporting that porn has negatively affected their sex lives. BTW. I do like porn . I'm not gonna pretend to be not who I am . But I'm also being honest . Just like I like smoking but it's bad for me . The same way I like porn but I know it's bad for me in the long run .or if I happened to escalate into more extreme fucked up shit.