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Because we are conditioned by society to do so.

question: if some toxic person causes rage and anger in you ..what is the correct way of reacting instead of fighting them? thanks .

I don’t hate people. I’m not angry and grumpy all the time nor is it my default. I’m actually a very nice guy . I never started a fight with anyone. I always wish to live in peace but The world is not peaceful. most people are not peaceful..at least in my life . That’s the issue .

India . I answered you in PM.

@Leo Gura edited the title and OP. Please check. I understand your concern.

I’m going to . That’s what I’m trying to get help with . You are just telling me stop and that’s it . Ok fine but Let’s liken it to a bully messing with you on the local street ..like he leaves you choiceless but to engage in a fight . I don’t want to beat anyone ..but some situations force you . There’s no way to undo what I did. But I promise that that’s not a regular thing and not gonna happen again. the general question is how to deal with toxic people of behavior in a non toxic way? We all do things we aren’t proud . I bullied a classmate too in the 5th grade for a while. I can’t change the past. But I can make sure that I never create that pain in another person for the rest of my life. But I really don’t know HOW?

Of course very bad behavior. I regret it. I don’t beat her regularly. It was one incident. I’m looking forward to hear healthy ways of dealing with anger and toxicity .

I’m running out of temper lately and my tolerance for human bullshit is starving thin. What I mean by human bullshit is this mentality that ordinary people have believing their personality is something fixed.. they have a self image ..they engage in drama to protect their character. Nothing wrong with that since that’s the majority of people . Let’s not assume that everyone are high conscious people or aware of some egoic behavior. I have anger issues and I am losing tolerance for dealing with people especially toxic people with toxic traits..I immediately scream and insult and get into fights. unfortunately I went back to smoking and drinking caffeine because the stress is just disgusting. It seems to me that that’s how people are and how life is..people can’t love each others and respect each others. People like to protect their overutilized self image. I don’t know how to put up with people anymore.. if I leave them go to hell with their toxicity they step on me and if I beat the living hell out of them I feel regret .

Yes some porn genres do. forget the crappy porn which is 100% focused on penetration and women screaming unrealisticly. There is ASMR porn and Roleplay audio porn and these can give you the intimacy you’re seeking . Also live cams when you can chat with the model and make her do what you want her to do if you pay her.

for me personally the objective part is that porn is obviously unhealthy and toxic but let’s not pretend that we are angels because almost everyone watches it. the subjective part for me is it makes you feel like you don’t need to find a girlfriend or wife because you can have an infinite harem at your fingertips..so why bother?

@Eskilon It’s a non issue . The mind is trying to survive by thinking creatively when you try to silence it . good luck.

How long do you meditate each session? And do you have such short memory? Can’t you meditate in times when the mind is naturally less active like first thing in the morning or before sleeping ?

Write them down after you meditate . Obviously don’t stop your meditation every minute to write something. sometimes the fastest way to do something is the slowest. if you have to find your car keys to rush to work cause you’re late you might mess some Coffe on your suit .. you can find them if you slow search for them.

Yes you are going through the nihilism phase realizing of those insights . it’s temporary . You can look at the same truths in two different ways. An example would be the realization that you are 100% NOT responsible for anything in your life …..you can look at this as a depressing fact or liberating fact . as we get older we start feeling cooked because we gain more life experience and maturity. We start growing sick of certain things in life . The phase of losing mojo for life is over here. If you have your daily food and shelter and hopefully good health then really what is missing ? What are you expecting from life ?

Thanks Leo .