Terell Kirby

@bliss54 @Snader @gettoefl @Kshantivadin thanks for the responses guys. True!

Love this example. I am wondering if these stable meditative states could actually lead to physical fitness and resistance training being more enjoyable. Guess I’ll have to put it into practice to find out. Thanks for the feedback.

The more conscious you get, the less you want to participate in shallow social games. However, socialization is essential for finding a mate. Pursue your materialistic cravings if you must, but do it consciously and remember that it will never truly satisfy you. Doesn’t mean you can’t partake though.

Hmm .. may be good to acknowledge that looking at certain life situations from a God perspective may do more harm than good … in a relative sense. If you care about your relationship, I would throw all of this metaphysical stuff out of the window. You most likely will suffer once a breakup happens, unless you’ve completely transcended your attachments to your gf .. which I highly doubt.

Yes, beyond infinite Love, is infinite Love :-)

When it doubt .. take action. Make a list of things you want to improve, then come up with 2-3 immediate actions you can take for each. Nothing will change without deliberate action. You don't have to get it right the first time, just do something so you can get out of your funk. Momentum is key.

When someone expresses an opinion, just ask "can you tell me how you came to that conclusion?" Keep asking it over and over until you get to the bottom of their epistemology and worldview .. then they might be able to see as just that .. a partial worldview, not absolute Truth.

Yes, mainly through destroying your old paradigm by exposing yourself to new paradigms.

@Tudo By posting a question like this on an online forum .. that’s a pretty good hint that you’re most likely toxic and in denial.

Seems like you are making a straw-man out of what it means to be authentic .. by associating it with toxic behaviors. Being authentic is actually a highly conscious act that challenges the ego to dissolve irrational, self-centeredness through overcoming fear. It may be an authentic desire to improve one’s behavior from that of a toxic person, to a healthy person. It may be authentic to express love genuinely to a partner, friend or family member. It may be authentic to stand up for your core values and to not tolerate being bullied. These are healthy examples.

Seems like a nonsensical question..the truth is, we always know when we are being inauthentic vs authentic ..there is no set mechanism to it, rather it’s an internal feeling that everyone is familiar with. it’s like asking how can we know when we are in pain .. you know you’re in pain because you’re freakin in pain. Same thing with authenticity.

Why waste your time with girls who have boyfriends, when there are so many attractive, single women in the world?

The point of the dream, is the dream itself. Nothing is required, you can do whatever you want within the limitations of your human existence.

Very true.

Heterosexual guy here. After sex, I either feel: 1. Average sex - "meh, I'm ready for her to leave (or time for me to go)" 2. Good sex - "I wouldn't mind cuddling for a bit." 3. Great sex - "Let's move on to round 2".

Creating lasting change is difficult. In my experience, having the willingness to make a deep commitment to the change, but also being willing to forgive yourself when you fall short.

By recognizing the illusory nature of the ego. A healthy ego is one that does not exist in the first place. Have you ever contemplated that you might not be your body or your thoughts? That these are just appearances in source consciousness? Deep contemplation is key here.

What are the challenges of doing it solo, and how to overcome? Pick up buddies may not be readily available for some folks here .. at least for the time being.

The past doesn’t exist. What exists eternally is the present moment, which constantly transforms itself, bringing in new forms .. and getting rid of the old.

I typically go with whatever the girls preference is. Receiving oral with a condom on feels very different than vaginal sex with a condom. Most of the girls I’ve interacted with were comfortable doing it without a condom .. I sure as hell didn’t mind as well.

You assume girls think like guys, in which physical appearance alone is enough for them to want to have sex. But it’s not. They may be attracted to you physically and to aspect of your personality, but ultimately they want a deep emotional connection prior to being open to intimacy/sex.

@RMQualtrough sounds like you are desperately looking for excuses to not take any serious action in improving your sex life. Just be honest and admit that you are too fearful, this stuff isn’t for everyone.

@Antor8188 have you approached 1000 girls? If not, then all you’re doing is engaging in speculative BS.

Seems to me like you are getting dates, but not able to close. You mention "slight mistake", but that isn't what the girls you are talking to see it as. Not sure if you are becoming pushy/attached/clingy to girls once they show initial interest. You have to be detached throughout the entire process of seduction, all the way up until after you have sex. Sounds to me that are you getting too attached to end results which is preventing you from closing. The mind-fuck of it all is that You won't even be able to get average / below average girls if you are clingy and needy. ALL WOMEN ARE REPELLED BY NEEDY MEN.

There's no need to feel guilty about consuming alcohol. However, if it is negatively affecting your life, and the lives of others, then it is a question of relinquishing a destructive habit. A lot of people are in denial about the problems that result from their drinking. It does not sound like you've reached a bottom, but do be mindful .. as alcohol is an addictive toxin that develops high tolerance for some people.