Terell Kirby

Decent - not the best nightlife for cold approach (at least at high volume) but lots of stuff for social circle and day game. Most women here are working corporate jobs, recent grads from college. Yes, they all have dogs lol. Depends on what you are into. We have a good metropolitan district .. lots of craft breweries, coffee shops and food. Our parks are decent as well .. you get all four season in NC (winter, spring, summer, fall). We're also not too far of a drive from the mountains and coastal beaches. Everyone loves the White Water Center in the summer.

Replace weed with DMT

Turquoise / Spiral Dynamics - conceptual model of human cognitive development. Mysticism / Non-Duality - first person phenomenon that cannot be conceptualized or understood outside of one's own direct experience. @Leo Gura is that an appropriate summary of the distinction between the two?

Definitely. Hopefully Austin is liberal enough s that its fairly unnoticeable. Not a huge fan of rednecks. Good to know. What kind of women have you run into in Austin? Texas has been blue already for years lol. Austin is a green city located in a blue state. Quite an odd setup. But it’s similar set up to where I live now (Charlotte, NC).

I’d start by not denying sexual cravings and urges. You are human at the end of the day, dating is a survival strategy (closely tied to the need to reproduce and experience crude forms of love). Don’t overthink it, don’t judge yourself. Find a way to satisfy these needs while not causing harm to yourself or other. It’s that simple really.

Is it possible to make the sober mind illogical and dumb for better verbals? (in reference to night game).

Sad news .. his spirit will live on, and I hope at some point he can overcome his deep seated hatred of women in another life.

By fully understanding your reasons for wanting to stop. Is fapping really harming you in any tangible way? or are you projecting blame onto fapping due to some underlying truth you are avoiding? I find this is the case with most people who are critical of fapping. Indeed, jerking off doesn’t lead to any level of personal /spiritual development…so does not jerking off.

Death is being imagined. You can’t tell yourself about anything outside of the present moment. Rule of thumb: If it’s not in your present experience, it ain’t real.

Lines up with what I read. Ok! Hopefully I can visit before making a decision on the offer .. It's pretty good in tech .. definitely do some searching online for openings.

Spiritual bypass or spiritual bypassing is a "tendency to use spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks". How many of you have experienced this, and what did you do to avoid it?

Haha good one ;-)

Hmm .. maybe, but i dont think thats a bad thing? It's not that we can completely avoid spiritual bypassing .. it happens. My goal is to be able to notice it, and its limitations.

Thanks for sharing .. I should probably consider the same, for other social platforms as well

+1 +1 Yes, from my understanding .. psychedelics allow the uncomfortable feelings to bubble up to the so that they can then be processed.

Totally agree, I think many seekers fall into this trap. I believe it’s better to look at spirituality as one of many tools to enable a better life, not the sole tool. This was deep realization I had. Yes. Totally, for a while I was subconsciously hoping I could outsource all my issues to spirituality, only to find that my problems didn’t go away, it just made me more conscious of them lol. thanks!

Never had a bpd girlfriend (i think), but was able to observe the relationship and marriage between my parents (where Dad had some form of bpd). What I got from it is that it creates a very hellish dynamic ... simply due to the inconsistency of emotions coming from one partner. It leaves the spouse of the bpd person very confused and emotionally distraught. The bpd partner may actually love their spouse and kids, but they have an alter ego that is hell bent on destruction. Constantly leaving them picking up the pieces of relationships, only to tear it down again. Ultimately, if no treatment / therapy / healing is sought ... those relationship decay and eventually collapse.

Such a good question. For me, it's the level mastery in spotting your self-biases and survival mechanisms ... at least the ones that pull you further away from Truth and create a low vibration in your everyday existence. It's kind of complicated, but lots of spiritual work (meditation, contemplation, psychedelics, yoga, etc) .. will get you back to being present to what IS. This will open the doors to expand your consciousness, and be more attuned to spotting self deceptions. This is the recipe for an authentic, satisfying life.

Entertainment I guess The why really doesn't matter as long as I'm awakened to Truth that Leo and I are God/One (this includes you too).

Thanks much for replying, I've always wanted to ask you about your "why" in this dream ... mainly because I am doing the same thing these days as my awakenings get deeper. I call these God problems

Jerking off / porn isn't the problem .. it's the lack of taking action to develop yourself into an attractive man that women would want to sleep and be in a relationship with. As far as how to do that, there are plenty of learning resources available .. Google is your best friend.

@Leo Gura I take it you have realized, as God, that every user you interact with on the forum is imaginary. So why continue to play this game? You are essentially spending time telling imaginary “people” (ie. Yourself) that they are imagining.

Sounds like you have waved the white flag. yes indeed .. awakening is not for everyone, but those that it is for are bearing some pretty awesome fruits of their labor. Feels good not be human

Seems as though you are overthinking. The answer to all this theory, is taking action .. getting outside a socializing. You won't meet like-minded friends or romantic partners without being social. Ignore any negative self-talk on this front.

You haven't interacted with enough women to make such a generalization (kudos to you for realizing that it is a generalization). When you do, you'll realize that looks don't count for much in judging the character of humans ... for men, women and everything in between.