Terell Kirby

Conformity is a key ingredient to the functioning of human society. An extreme example- some of us are less inclined to murder someone in broad daylight because of social consequences. Anything that we do that is influenced by the opinions of the groups we identify with is conformity in a nutshell. Non conformity may not look like going out and murdering someone in the face of social pushback, but it does start the process of asking why we put value in social acceptance in the first place. To do this- we have to start identifying less with social groups in which we belong to. This is risky depending on what degree we are attached to such groups. Participating in conformity can be done from a higher plane, but first requires questioning why we do the things we do.

On the heels of the latest Actualized.org video on conforming, I'm now realizing how empowering it feels to say NO. Saying NO to unhealthy things, is saying YES to healthy. This entire year, I've been assessing what has worked for my personal development and growth, and what hasn't (includes people, activities, ways of thinking, etc). It has become all too clear now the ways in which I limit myself and my growth for the sake of being liked and approved of. Saying NO is one powerful, under utilized tool in this work. I hope to get better at it as I age and develop.

Sounds like you may have been unsure of yourself whilst setting boundaries. When you’re a doormat, some friends and family will certainly get offended when you start setting those boundaries. It’s a shock to them. But kudos to you for doing it. Takes practice.

Yes- Absolutely speaking, God is Formless Emptiness. This is separate from relative states of consciousness, in which form and non form are temporary depending on which state precedes the other- this relativity is a feature of Formless Emptiness. Absolute must include all relative states of form and non form

Emptiness (or Nothingness) is the backdrop of all form. But then again, there is an illusory boundary between the two (form and non form)-two sides of the same coin. The coin itself is permanent- yet at the same time unidentifiable and can’t be conceptualized or spoken about- making it Eternal. Recognizing and coming into contact with the coin leaves you speechless, as it should. How do we come in contact with something that can’t be perceived or conceptualized? No answer is satisfactory I’m finding- it’s an entire process of self discovery. Awakening is a pointer to realizing never ending unfoldment of reality & Consciousness

how long is long term? Of course there’s trade offs, stability and comfort of existing LTR vs new challenge in dating younger (exciting but not easy starting over)

Good for you

Filtering will always be a challenge as hetero men are visual more than anything. She can be a great woman with integrity and character but we put emphasis on hotness before anything. We go for the highest degree of hotness we can obtain before anything else

Imagination is a common term used in this work- very easy to misinterpret. The name of the game is becoming conscious of how the mind constructs reality. The process of construction is what is referred to as “imagination”. Becoming conscious of this process is no easy feat as it requires to some degree going beyond Leo and Actualized teachings. Only you can validate it — possible but daunting. When you do, you’ll get it directly, and you won’t need validation from anyone on this forum

35 year old here. It certainly changes as you get older, but the fundamentals still apply. Building an active social life is essential, finding places where attractive people congregate and setting up yourself up to meet a lot of new people on a weekly, monthly basis. Easier in big cities- nightclub, coffee shops, yoga/pilates classes, run clubs, exercise clubs, parks etc Local events with DJs, dance floor are always good.

I’m sure we can find them on your booklist, but can you mention any specific books that help obtain with cultivating this kind of mindset? That would’ve useful for the sake of this forum post.

Hetero male here- Most (if not all) my struggles were a result of the inability to flirt and build attraction with the opposite sex. The only cure for it at the time was practice through socialization with more women (people in general).

First time was in 2020 during COVID. Learned a lot, and it was helpful- but feel as though my values and direction have changed (given newfound sobriety and awakenings). I'm at a different place and life i think taking the course again could help redirect. Anyone have experience in taking the course more than once?

@Hojo not sure what planet you’re living on dude. 18 is considered legal in the US. What about 19 year olds who think 18 year olds are attractive? Are they pedophiles as well? What about the 18 year old men who have fetishes for Grandmas in their 80s? Reverse pedophilia?

Simple, they haven’t had a direct experience of it. God is REAL, but the only ones who can justifiably say that are those who have had Awakenings. The issue is most people who believe in God do so through hearsay and groupthink, with no reference or understanding of what God actually is (requires significant degree of intelligence and cognitive development). God held as mainstream dogma and belief is what has created modern atheism and anti-theistic skepticism that we see in Western culture today

That’s what growth is all about. Challenging yourself by stepping outside your comfort zone. Also be wary of who you share your plans with back at home. They may sow seeds of doubt when it comes to you growing beyond the version of you that they are familiar with. Find a friend or two who will support and provide encouragement during the transition. Best of luck

Gosh just reading this makes my skin crawl-yuck

I see your point. Difference between creating something that people will buy off the strength of the product vs. employing certain skills to help people advance their survival agendas. Is this why you stopped life coaching?

NYC is probably my favorite city, but recently visited Seattle, WA and was blown away (nature, water, cuisine, arts, culture). Only thing with Seattle is lots drug addicts and homeless roam the streets and shoot up drugs in public.

What business doesn't involve clients and customers though?

Thanks Leo- love the passion and looking forward to parts 2 & 3.

Lmao I’m glad you said this. People are trying to turn her into some benevolent martyr for justice- is laughable

Going thru a similar situation. I consider myself an ambitious person, not to the level of a Steve Jobs or Walt Disney- but I noticed I feel quite unhappy when my work feels meaningless and doesn’t contribute to my growth- professionally, creatively and spiritually. As I become more interested in living by spiritual principles like Truth and Love mentioned in Actualized teachings, I see that there is still much more work to do in developing financial independence-and plan to spend the next 5-10 years setting up my life to be more autonomous and independent from living paycheck to paycheck. Much of it involves keeping expenses low, making sound investments and spending time developing skills and creative projects I find meaningful.

Wishing you a speedy recovery, glad you made it out alive. We all fall into fantasies and self deception-even the most “enlightened” of us. God Realization and Awakening can turn into their own unique set of self deceptions. Seems like you’ve made great progress in many areas of your personal development and spirituality at 27-it’s ok to incur some unexpected hurdles along the way. Take care of yourself

Vibin out to this one. Playlist is 🔥