Terell Kirby

No one is denying biological needs. Humans can get those met in exclusive relationships or through screwing multiple people. Your statement makes absolutely no sense. You want someone to validate that monogamy is not good for the human species, which is your biases again. Get it through your thick skull that there isn't just one way to live life.

@Harlen Kelly You are missing the point. It's not about marriage rates, I am conveying to you the large numbers of humans that have chosen to be monogamist through marriage. They can also choose to be monogamist without the institution of marriage as shown below: There are 112 million unmarried Americans, representing over 47% of the adult population (ACS, 2012). Since 2005, the majority of US households have not been headed by married couples. The number of non-married-couple households continues to grow (ACS 2005-2007). There are more than 51 million households headed by unmarried Americans, representing roughly 44% of all households and the majority of households in 23 states, plus the District of Columbia (CPS, 2007). It is quite arrogant for a single human to claim what they feel/value is inherent to all other humans. The reality is it's all relative, humans have the capacity to be monogamist (in marriage or not), or not monogamist. One is not more inherent than the other.

Happened to a few of us today, I think it's a site wide issue that will hopefully get fixed soon. @Leo Gura any update?

Physical attractiveness (relative to the woman...but good hygiene helps in all cases), and confidence.

Then why are you posting about your worries in losing freedom to exclusive relationships? If you were truly satisfied being alone, you wouldn't even ask the question in the first place. In 2020, there were 62.34 million married couples in the United States. This is an increase from 40.2 million married couples in 1960.

@WokeBloke this is all word games. Ground yourself in your direct experience, you cannot get to Truth through a bunch of words.

You most likely lack the maturity / knowledge to create and sustain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This is a personal issue, so saying that humans are not monogamist is a bias you have to keep from looking at the work you need to do on yourself. This isn't an attack on your character, many of us are not mature enough to forge healthy relationships. It's beneficial, however, not to be in denial about it.

A part of this work is distancing yourself from the expectations of your parents. Self actualization requires having an independence of mind, and not be influenced by those who don't live in your shoes...even family. You can tell your parents, but there's absolutely no reason why you should.

Awesome, i'll put this on my to-do list.

Of course, but it really depends on if you are asking yourself very deep, high quality questions. You have all the answers in your pen, but you have to be willing to be radically honest. Book recommendation: Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

Pay attention to how you may be contributing to the toxicity. I have fallen into the trap of judging others for being toxic on this forum, only to have realized that judging others as toxic, is actually toxic

Thanks for sharing.

Totally, I'm working on implementing this more as well. It requires me to be open minded so I don't judge people for their unique interest. Often times, we can learn a lot from our friends just being themselves. Instead of trying to shape them into what we want them to be.

I don't even ask (it's really none of my business). But if you do, and get an answer that you don't like..pay attention to those feelings. They may be a sign of deeper insecurity in your psyche.

Totally, it's hard to stop when you are on a roll. I often find the less breaks I take in between my insights, the more severe my ego backlash is.

@FlyingLotus my goodness, this is sooooo helpful. Thank you !! @Moksha Yes, I am trying to become present to my self-recrimination after backsliding. Working to be more compassionate towards my impurities each day.

Lol, my blood aint free. I wouldn't crush the little fella though.. I've been blessed to have never enjoyed seeing bugs squished, always felt there was something not right about it.

Both..solidifying strengths tends to give more immediate returns. Improving weaknesses can be painful, and takes way more time. However, the return on it more life-changing.

Hard to predict, as this is something way far out in the future. I can see a complete dissolution of nationalism, with worldwide globalization at the forefront. Basically a more connected society, centralized governments with a single currency that expands across all countries. Also, a global / world ethic that all humans abide by...principles in which we all follow to ensure sustainability and well-being for all planetary lifeforms. We are no where near close to this lol. Humanity is way too selfish.

Few key fundamentals to get you started: Make sure the money you get every month exceeds that money that you spend Save 10 - 20% of your monthly earnings, get a savings account Have some cash to invest in building skills to add value (taking a course, reading books, seminars/workshops, etc).

I find that weed, just like with other psychedelic / semi-psychedelic drugs, that the intent of use is everything. It helps to distinguish a genuine intent for use from recreational use. Weed can be good for contemplating solo, getting into body work. (Different strands have different uses). Anything outside of this is considered recreational, more chance to develop into an addiction...which can be counter-productive. Also make sure you getting quality bud, there's a lot of low quality stuff out there.

Why wouldn't it allow war is the real question.

Bullshit

^ When Zen devilry and reactivity meet.

Mushrooms are for sure.