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What is the primarily difference between the two? I am preparing to start my life coaching practice Q1 2022. I plan on charging for coaching services and learning materials/products. However, the coaching is grounded in high consciousness ways of parenting children, and would like to partner with similar organizations in the future.

Nope.

I like visualizations better. Something about affirmations seem very gimmicky, almost like wishful thinking to satisfy ego-ic needs / convince yourself of an alternate reality through words. There is something more pure, organic, present and spiritual when it comes to visualization.

The how is sheer imagination, it has no mechanism whatsoever. It just happens, this is how intelligence and creativity works.

No way lol. Say no to cigs.

Wise words! Speak truth to power. yes

I am working on improving my friendships after years of being taken advantage of by narcissist, who used the friendship for selfish reasons. The goal is to be more conscious, emotionally intelligent, intuitive and holistic about opportunities for friendships. Thanks.

@Gabith Nice profile pic man, looking sharp. There is no clear answer. Some people are able to smoke weed everyday and get a lot done. I had to cut down because it would make me somewhat paranoid and less social. I’m also not as sharp mentally, although I can still have some profound insights while being high. If you are at a point in life where you need be active, pursuing business and out socializing with people, weed may not be the best bet. It’s great to be a stoner when you have the majority of survival goals handled to where you can just chill and not have to hustle as much.

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@Harlen Kelly I needed to rigorously challenge you on any biases towards polygamy...you seem to favor it as inherent to humans from your earlier statements. What needs to be realized is that what's considered "inherent" changes with evolution. Truth be told, there are a lot of folks on this forum that project their personal issues with relationships and sexuality on those around them. Misery loves company, and there are those of us who will challenge those projections.

Don't weasel your way out of this lol. Your statement above is what warranted a proper and rigorous challenge. The claim that humans are not monogamous is not observable, measurable, factual...or truthful in any absolute sense. What's factual is that humans have the ability to choose, what's inherent is the choice itself. Do you also agree that polygamy is not inherent? Nothing in your comments alluded to it, as you seem to have a bias in favor of looking at polygamy as being more inherent the monogamy.

@Jacob Morres @hoodrow trillson @Preety_India this great, thank you

Ok...since we're using definitions...I will use the definition of 'inherent' to make this more clear to you. Neither monogamy or polygamy is permanent or essential, thus not inherent to any human. If either were, they would have no opposite, which is clearly not the case as they both exist in the realm of sexual relationships. What's essential is the need to reproduce as animals, monogamy and polygamy are just a means to an end. Even the need to reproduce is questionable, as birthrates are decreasing in the U.S. and globally. There is nothing in the dynamics of evolution that says things need to stagnate and be permanent.

No one is denying biological needs. Humans can get those met in exclusive relationships or through screwing multiple people. Your statement makes absolutely no sense. You want someone to validate that monogamy is not good for the human species, which is your biases again. Get it through your thick skull that there isn't just one way to live life.

@Harlen Kelly You are missing the point. It's not about marriage rates, I am conveying to you the large numbers of humans that have chosen to be monogamist through marriage. They can also choose to be monogamist without the institution of marriage as shown below: There are 112 million unmarried Americans, representing over 47% of the adult population (ACS, 2012). Since 2005, the majority of US households have not been headed by married couples. The number of non-married-couple households continues to grow (ACS 2005-2007). There are more than 51 million households headed by unmarried Americans, representing roughly 44% of all households and the majority of households in 23 states, plus the District of Columbia (CPS, 2007). It is quite arrogant for a single human to claim what they feel/value is inherent to all other humans. The reality is it's all relative, humans have the capacity to be monogamist (in marriage or not), or not monogamist. One is not more inherent than the other.

Happened to a few of us today, I think it's a site wide issue that will hopefully get fixed soon. @Leo Gura any update?

Physical attractiveness (relative to the woman...but good hygiene helps in all cases), and confidence.

Then why are you posting about your worries in losing freedom to exclusive relationships? If you were truly satisfied being alone, you wouldn't even ask the question in the first place. In 2020, there were 62.34 million married couples in the United States. This is an increase from 40.2 million married couples in 1960.

@WokeBloke this is all word games. Ground yourself in your direct experience, you cannot get to Truth through a bunch of words.

You most likely lack the maturity / knowledge to create and sustain a healthy and fulfilling relationship. This is a personal issue, so saying that humans are not monogamist is a bias you have to keep from looking at the work you need to do on yourself. This isn't an attack on your character, many of us are not mature enough to forge healthy relationships. It's beneficial, however, not to be in denial about it.

A part of this work is distancing yourself from the expectations of your parents. Self actualization requires having an independence of mind, and not be influenced by those who don't live in your shoes...even family. You can tell your parents, but there's absolutely no reason why you should.

Awesome, i'll put this on my to-do list.

Of course, but it really depends on if you are asking yourself very deep, high quality questions. You have all the answers in your pen, but you have to be willing to be radically honest. Book recommendation: Radical Honesty by Brad Blanton

Pay attention to how you may be contributing to the toxicity. I have fallen into the trap of judging others for being toxic on this forum, only to have realized that judging others as toxic, is actually toxic

Thanks for sharing.