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Why do you post here if you're not a fan? Do you mean you're not a groupy?

That's awesome man! Mine is about music as well,, what kind of music do you make? Who are your influences?

Hey guys, A few nights ago on a coaching call I had with my dating/life coach, he and another coach gave me some pretty anxiety-inducing life purpose advice. For context, I work a fairly standard 9-5 in the day and am working on my life purpose on the side of that with my intention of being able to eventually transition into doing that as my full-time career, been doing that for a few years now. My purpose is based around expressing myself through music and making people laugh/entertaining people but it also seems to be as much to do with connecting with others because I want to enjoy creating music and entertainment in collaboration. I am about to turn 28 years old and they told me that I should quit my job, move back in with my parents or try and survive on a part-time job (in London) and pursue my purpose for 6 months with the intention of starting to make money off of it by the end of it. They said that if I fail at that then I should just give it up and have it as a hobby. The point they were stressing is that if I am spending 8 hours a day at a 9-5 then I am heading towards getting complacent and not living my life purpose because I will eventually be promoted at my 9-5 and then in my dating pursuits (I go on a lot of dates) I will likely meet someone I really like in the next few years and will get more complacent because of them. My feeling is that while I do know that I really need to focus on one thing to actually be successful at it and I'll probably never feel 'fully ready' to make the switch, this is way too risky and is actually unnecessary. I don't ever want to give up on pursuing/doing my life purpose so I don't understand the idea that I should quit if I don't make it after 6 months… My parents are also not supportive of my life purpose stuff and living on a part-time job in London would be very challenging, almost unmanageable. With music particularly, you can make really good art but if your marketing isn't on point then you likely will have 0 success. My approach right now is focusing on healing trauma so that I am, crucially, much better at connecting with others and expressing myself authentically/creatively and just mastering guitar/bass and music production, as well as learning marketing. I want to get clearer on what my product actually is and then work on getting a lot of views for it on social media. I also think a lot of work can be done while having a job and many, many artists have made it on the back of working an 8-hour-a-day job. I don't plan to ever quit working on healing myself from trauma and achieving mastery of my music skills. I rarely hear about creatives going hard for 6 months on their dreams and then blowing up. What do you think of this? Do you think their suggestion is a good move? I'm having a lot of trouble with it. @Leo Gura and/or anyone else currently living their life purpose on here?

I agree with a lot of your points, I am happy to switch my focus to my purpose and work on that every night after work instead of going on dates, even to take 6 months off work to live with my parents to focus on it but I don't understand this idea that if I fail after 6 months I should give up completely and just have it as a hobby, never living my life purpose. The approach that seems more sensible is to focus on executing small bet after small bet while still having an income and come to understand what my purpose tangibly is that way, keep trying new 1 month - 2 month projects until I find what I am truly passionate about and am able to make it into a product or service.

Thank you so much for your responses guys, I will keep this all in mind

for how much I'm working on it right now, most days but more working on my trauma and connecting with people in general because this appears to be what I need to work on the most for my purpose

they didn't say but just to be starting to make money from it I think. The beginnings of being able to live off it.

yeah this is what frustrates me, if some of this stuff is put another way for them, related to certain experiences they've had in life or just put in specific language that they have a preference for then they would probably be like 'oh yeah, obviously.'

yeah I agree with this as well, if you haven't done the Life Purpose course yet, make sure you do that and if you don't have some sort of healing/spiritual practice set up already, also find what is most important for you to be doing there instead of just wanting to watch more videos.

exactly ^ - I think it does help a lot that I have been doing meditation and mindfulness stuff since I was 19 but I've never done any practice similar to this one. Highly recommend having it as a daily or 6 day a week practice, it definitely has made me happier but like most of these practices, it can't be your only practice. You'll need to do some sort of trauma healing work as well and/or whatever else needs work in your life.

@Leo Gura thank you so much for the satisfaction meditation and the root solution for loneliness videos, they really have had a big effect on my life. Sometimes I just feel soo good and I can't believe it, I just can't believe it. I've only been doing it for 20 mins 6 days a week as well, I'll be changing that to an hour at some point in the near future as well and I can't even imagine the results I could have with that, especially as a way of starting my day.

@Ayham I just practice focusing on and amplifying the good feelings in my body, gently nudging myself towards feeling of satisfaction and enjoyment. It feels more like a letting go doing it though rather than trying to force a feeling of satisfaction. After I'm done meditating, the feeling of happiness generally hangs around in my body for a bit, sometimes for a long time. Because I practice being happy/satisfied 6 days a week, my default setting is just naturally higher as a result and this is with only doing it for 20 mins a day. Any other questions, let me know

I second this

This interview is nuts, I don't know why Piers had him on, he disagrees with most of what he says. Seems he's hoping Chomsky will agree with him at some point. I can't imagine Piers' audience enjoyed that either..

that is true to be fair, you don't have to watch it if you don't want to, I just think it's a very informative interview about the current times

Anyone got any experiences with Iboga/ going to Iboga retreats? @Leo Gura you ever tried it? This guy who I did a trauma healing course with me recommended that I go to one in the Netherlands but I want to be cautious and adequately sceptical about it because it does seem pretty nuts

thank you for your thoughts guys

Anyone have any experience with drying and storing mushrooms you've picked? I'm wondering whether to trust this video or not but if this does work then it would be very practical.

thank you Yarco, I appreciate it

I am going to try them but there are some things I don't understand still. It seems to me the main reason people and @Leo Gura recommend them is because they show you what's possible for your life, show you the truth etc. My primary goal is healing a big trauma that appears to be blocking me from everything I want in life, can Psychadelics actually help me with that and help me truly overcome that or are they better for if I want to become enlightened? In truth, I just want to sort out my trauma, which affects my ability to connect with others, my ability to have and enjoy sex, my freedom to express myself, which is extremely important for my Life purpose. If I get those things sorted out then maybe I'll think about enlightenment but I don't feel I actually am interested in that right now at least. I'm sure this is asked all the time but I am still confused

which test do you rely on for testing 5 meo?

thanks, appreciate your thoughts, looking for different views on it. Have started healing already, I journal to understand my trauma and do exercises around that, I do a forgiveness journaling exercise, I have a daily satisfaction meditation practice and another shorter breathing exercise for feeling grounded and safe. So doing a lot of stuff but was astonished at how much Leo started stressing psychedelic so am intrigued to try them to see if they can help me heal my main trauma.

appreciate it, when you say let it happen, do you mean feel everything as much as you can or just sit normally and role with the punches

Appreciate this guys, I think I'm gonna go get some soon and start at tiny doses. So in practical terms, would you recommend just using trauma healing techniques - journaling, contemplation, forgiveness etc. and do them on psychadelics for an enhanced heal? Obviously I would start very small with my doses. Still trying to understand practically how they help me?

I was going through the habits vid on the life purpose course and there is a visualization that gets you to imagine yourself 20 years in the future 'acing' your life purpose. This stopped me dead in my tracks because to me it felt not right to be involved in popular music in my 40's, I've been holding this idea that the time I'll be really acing my life purpose is in the next 5-10 years because I'll be young enough to be easily involved in popular music (I'm 26 now). (My life purpose is to essentially create groundbreaking, genre-defying music). I obviously see how ridiculous this is and that it is a limiting belief to think I can't be acing my life purpose at this age but I dunno what are people's thoughts on this? I always want to be making the music I want and naturally when I'm in my 40's that will differ a lot from what is popular with the younger generation who's tastes will have a big impact on what music is successful and what is not, on the other hand I could still be successful with another age group or just have a particular fanbase. Just wanted to know people's thoughts on this.