Tristan12

"Some day our souls will be one and our union will be forever. I know that everything I give you comes back to me, so I give you my life, hoping that you will come back to me." - Rumi

Anger doesn't respond to rationality. It just wants to be seen and felt. Exactly

I would focus more on emotional work for dealing with anger issues. If you try to use spirituality as a solution (depending on specifically what you use) you will most likely just end up bypassing your anger or cutting yourself off from it and not actually healing or resolving anything. Let yourself feel everything you're feeling, and know that its completely okay. Don't try to make yourself change. Once you become fully allowing of these emotions and minimize your resistance to them, they will become much easier to deal with.

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That’s literally nothing like what I said. You don’t have to be God realized or a mystic to be able to access love

I’m just saying its way more common for people who are INxx to be into this stuff. You’re probably not going to find any ESFP mystics

@Yali @integral said that, not me

INxx is the ideal personality type for inner work and spirituality so it makes sense that most people on this forum would be that way

Emotions are just messengers - they are information, but they work much differently than the thinking type of information. You understand things at a much deeper level through feeling. Emotions are just a result of your perceptions/thoughts. Whatever you perceive to be going on in your present experience is what your emotions will react to. If there is something that is affecting your survival but you're not taking it seriously, such as unhealthy eating, that probably just comes from how you're perceiving it and your beliefs about that thing, which can come from a whole bunch of different reasons. Try not to think of an emotion as needing to be fixed - I know you just mean for the emotion to go away or change state, but there is nothing wrong with the emotion, and every emotion good or bad has its purpose, so there is nothing that needs to be fixed, and you should try not to think of it that way. Because emotions are messengers, if you allow yourself to fully feel and surrender to the emotion without needing it to change, that is how you receive its feeling-based message, and once that message is received, the emotion will naturally resolve or change state as it is no longer needed. You don't need to change something externally to get the emotion to change, although that can work, the more direct way is to listen to the emotion directly and receive its message and it will naturally go away on its own. Can you elaborate some more on this? Dissociative trauma happens when an emotion from a traumatic experience gets so strong that your mind can't handle it and your consciousness fragments itself and basically breaks that emotion off of itself by making it unconscious with the hopes that it can be revisited at a later date and processed and integrated. This is necessary for your survival in the moment of trauma to allow you to cope if the emotion gets intense enough. This severity of trauma rarely happens in adulthood, but it is very common in childhood and all of us go through it to some extent, because children can't process their negative emotions on their own, so if they don't have a loving caregiver there to help them through it, they will fragment and break off that part of themselves as they have no other way of dealing with it. When an emotion gets fragmented through trauma, it basically gets stuck in the moment of trauma, in that heightened emotional state, and then it continues to live inside you in that state until it is revisited and a later date and released (which barely anyone in society knows how to do today, even therapists, not at the depth that's necessary). This is the core cause of all mental health issues and emotional dysfunctions. Parts of yourself are stuck in a traumatized state, and so of course they react in extreme ways to things that seem to not be a big deal. This is why you have emotions that seem unnecessarily strong and overbearing. The reality is, every emotion you feel is completely valid, but you don't always see why or where its coming from. A perfect example of this is self-worth issues. Shame is an emotion that can only be brought up in childhood. if you feel it as an adult, you are holding on to blocked shame from the past. A part of you is stuck in shame from a time where you felt shame in your childhood, and it lives inside you, and that is what creates self-worth issues. To heal self-worth issues at the core, all you need to do is process and released your blocked shame.

Emotions are crucial pieces of information for your overall functioning and survival so they need to be strong and handicapping for them to be able to convey their message properly. If you could just easily brush off fear when getting chased by a bear in the woods for example, you would be dead. Of course it can feel like they are overpowering in unnecessary situations, and like they are a lot more painful than they need to be, but that just comes from blocked emotions deep within you created from trauma that need to be released. In a fully balanced psyche where all the emotions are integrated and functioning in a healthy way, emotions will only ever be as overpowering as they need to be and they end up being a huge asset to your survival and overall wellbeing.

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Okay. I remember hearing in your what is God episode you said both strong concentration abilities and radical open-mindedness were crucial for reaching God. I know there's a lot of spiritual purification work to do as well. I think that along with general work to raise my consciousness could be helpful and then once i'm ready to pursue awakening i'm hoping it would be much smoother and faster. Was just wondering if you had anything else to add.

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@Leo Gura not sure if you missed my question but I’d really appreciate if you could answer

@Leo Gura I'm not planning on pursuing awakening until some years down the road as I am young and still have a career to build and more basic development to do, but in the mean time I want to do some basic practices to give me a head start once I am ready to pursue awakening. I currently meditate an hour a day and plan on getting into retreats soon. I'm wondering if because you say that meditation, self-inquiry, etc. isn't enough to fully awaken, would you recommend me to do anything different than that kind of stuff over the next few years to prepare for pursuing awakening? At this point in your development, what would you say are the most helpful things I could be doing right now in my life to make awakening easier once i'm ready for it?

I personally think its completely reasonable to charge for anything involving spiritual or emotional work, because it requires a lot of expertise to be able to navigate and troubleshoot these areas effectively, and for a person to have that expertise, they need to put a lot of time into learning and practicing this stuff. If they were able to make money by doing it, then that would allow them to put so much more time into this work and developing themselves further, whereas if they had to get money some other way, they would have a lot less time for that and they would be a lot less developed/provide much less value than they could. Everyone needs to make a living, and I think there is nothing wrong or unethical about getting that need met through this work if it allows you to grow yourself so much more and as a result help others so much more. As long as you're not abusing that power and exploiting people for their money.

I don't know every video with a worksheet but I have the worksheets saved from the videos "building your infrastructure for success" and "money psychology"

Interesting. Thanks for sharing

Keep in mind that everyone has different preferences for what they're attracted to. Personally i'm a lot more attracted to ass than boobs so if a girl has a nice butt I don't really care what her boobs look like. Even though boobs are generally considered an important part of a female's attractiveness, I think a lot of guys will be willing to overlook it if they are attracted to the rest of you. Its not as important as you might think. Unless a guy specifically has a thing for nice boobs and its really important to him, most guys won't care that much. Sure its still considered a flaw, but lots of people have lots of different kinds of flaws and accepting the flaws of your partner is a natural part of relationships. If a guy was to love everything about you but then leave you just because of your boobs, he would be a dick, and that's certainly not the norm for what you would expect from most guys. That would be his fault and not yours. If you are hoping to find a really deep and fulfilling relationship in the future, where your personal connection with the guy is the most important thing, any guy you develop that with who really loves you for who you are isn't going to leave you because of your boobs, he would be willing to overlook that. Ultimately you're just going to have to keep working on your relationship with yourself and being able to love and accept yourself as you are. It's not this flaw itself that makes you so insecure, its that you are already insecure and lack self-love and self-worth, and then having this flaw just triggers it so much more because you feel like it's confirming how you already feel about yourself. Loving yourself comes from your internal relationship with yourself, and if you fully had that you wouldn't have a problem accepting whatever flaw you have, because you know you deserve love regardless. That's what you want to work on long term to really overcome this insecurity, but for now I can at least assure you that boobs aren't as important as you think they are to guys and most guys will be willing to overlook it if they're already into you, and that alone certainly won't prevent you from getting the kind of man you want.

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I'm glad to hear that That could be cool to do, all i'll say is if you do that try to do it from a conscious and level-headed place rather than using it as an outlet for any built up rage or resentment from your own experience, as it sort of seems that that's what you're alluding to. But yeah something like creating an ethical guideline could be cool