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Maybe you can save money for a major face surgery. I mean really, at least it would give you hope. Or try to concentrate on career, become enlightened etc. Shift priorities.

It just feels that way. Like I am preconditioned. Experience has shown this is the case. And I am talking about hardcore things not just a breakup or something.

For every negative occurrence it seems like there need to be 100 positive ones to correct this.

I see friendships as something not necessary, but good to have and which can lead to great and wonderful experiences. The same applies for having a family with childs, dogs or whatever. Now there is a trend of people saying having e.g. children is absolutely necessary to really develop as a human being. For me this doesn't feel right. In addition. if you have children you are forced to develop yourself or pushed/gravitated towards. This is easier than just do it from your own without external motivation. Because, having children is a huge responsibility and something is on the stake so to speak. I also recognize people getting families to fit social standards and then they compare each other. E.g. an old friend called me and he wanted me to know that he achieved more than me. And that my university degrees and academic employment is nothing worth but having a family is. I find this comparison stuff comes from a place of worthlessness and for me it seems weird. In this case, I find he uses his family as a compensation strategy. What do you think, are relationships not a can, but a must? Did you also had situations where you completely felt like you are not understood by e.g. talking about how you see things and then they called it subjective and crazy? With me, this happens almost exclusively and I have the feeling that really no one understands what I am saying. And this leads to circular discussions and it is always like the other person already know whats true and that I have to understand it. If it gets too long they try to escape the discussion by either saying "this is stupid" or "lets leave it like everybody has its point and we don't come to consens". What do you do in this situation?

There are highly intelligent, educated people with much money and status who tell you ghost stories or paranormal stories. I know them personally. Like the day before yesterday a friend of my godmother talked about paranormal experiences.

If aliens would exist, they would certainly be good, because they haven't destroyed us so far. So I hope they will beam me up, so I can ask them to pay my bills and buy me this new Bentley. Even if they are probably stage green.

Did you visit a mental health professional? Sounds like schizophrenia.

Analyzing, trial and error, influencer, connecting with experts, get the best resources using Google and books. I guess this is a skill itself. Ask Leo

Could also be a hologram projected by a spotlight or something. I also saw an UFO in a park in Munich up in the sky above the height of airplanes. It turned out there was a concert nearby. It could be anything else but just assuming these are real alien spaceship as the most probable occurrence sounds weird lol Wishful thinking comes into mind.

I don't know why you are interested on evidence that I have a dick lol

Nope https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unidentified_flying_object There is no evidence at all that this is about extraterrestrial life.

It is still about UFO's and not extraterrestrial life.

I mean other ways

There are also realistic ways to achieve this. And in addition I am not talking about being rich in 6 months. I don't say your approach is lesser. Always depends on the goal.

So there is a possibility to speed up the process? Because I mentioned time not effort. There are faster ways also with low risk to become financially independent.

Again, it is about close relationships with other people. Again, it is about close relationships like friends or romantic ones. From my experience, most juice of life comes from spending time with ones own. And do something one loves to do.

Seems like a disproportionate high time-consuming project.

There are enough historical records that prove it. If they exist, then it's possible. I e.g. did make a coding retreat for business reasons for about one year and I didn't feel lonely or any other unconfortable feeling even if I usually have friends. That is why I wonder so many people seem to be dependent on close relationships, as if love would come from the outside.

This is also an extreme example. You don't either. Fact is, they didn't die and if they weren't satifsied they probably wouldn't do it. If someone does something like this, there must be a strong reason behind the act. I think it is clear from what I have written that the whole thread is about close relationships.

So your opinion is that because we live in a relative world, interpersonal relationships are a must? That would also mean that without them you would physically die or not be satisfied throughout your life. Why are there so many examples of the opposite in this case? And why are there examples of enlightened masters who live in a cave and experience absolute bliss? Do you feel empty and lonely without people around you? Again, my desire is not that I want to live in a cave or whatever alone till I die. It is about the answer of the question.

If you imagine you have a soul mate, it is real.

First of all thanks for the comprehensive advice! What you say about grounding resonates, because it also applies to a unique life in terms of mainly concentrating on a craft etc. . I don't feel like I am avoiding them. I just tried to cut off relationships which didn't really serve me, but it doesn't work so far as I am in a situation currently where being completely alone would be kind of heavy. And I don't mean emotionally. And I would be open to new ones but I could also have none. However, currently this is for me not at all something to pursue because of higher priorities. I completely agree ?

You always say death is wonderful, but harming the body not. But you don't explain why, only that one would regret it. So why would someone regreting harming a body which would then no longer exist?

What happens if someone commits suicide? Why is this a bad thing? From my perspective, life offers too much beautiful things not yet discovered. But from an enlightened perspective?

If someone had no mental illness and was happy the obvious question arises if it was suicide. Even if the case was closed you can not know it 100%. However, the case of someone falling down a bridge is hard to close even with witnesses. Because, if they would be too close they would help and would not go to police if it wasn't successful or if they didn't tried it because of fear being arrested. If they would be more far away they probably haven't seen important details like what he said e.g.. I ever saw cameras installed on bridges. He could also be forced to do this etc.