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Hello everyone, My wife and I are on a hopeful journey of trying to conceive, and we’d love to hear from anyone who has been in a similar situation. I’m 36 (5’11, 230–240 lbs), and my wife is 41 (5’0, 160–170 lbs). We’ve taken some steps to prepare ourselves, including visiting a fertility clinic, getting all the necessary tests done, and understanding where our levels stand. While my wife did not freeze her eggs, we’re both committed to doing everything we can to improve our chances. We’re both taking prenatal vitamins, and we’re actively working on improving our overall health and reducing weight to optimize our fertility. If you’ve been successful in getting pregnant in your 40s, we’d love to hear your story! • Did you conceive naturally, or did you need assistance (IUI, IVF, etc.)? • Are there any specific tips, tricks, or advice you’d recommend that helped you along the way? • Anything you wish you had known when you started trying to conceive? We know this can be a sensitive topic, but we’re so grateful for any insights, encouragement, or advice you can share. Thank you so much, and wishing the best for everyone on their own journeys!

@Nahm @Roy @Elton Thank you for your comments Namaste. I will come back and read these if I need a gentle reminder.

@Elton No, I haven't but I will - thank you. I have been doing the affirmation Leo recommended in another video though - "I am independent of the good or bad opinions of others" every day. Shooting for 90 days as recommended. Do you do a lot of affirmations? Did you see a difference in your life?

@Pira Thanks for taking the time to respond. It's comforting to know that I am not the only person going through these things and feeling what I'm feeling. I like what you said about contemplating what it would be like continuing to internalize my thoughts and feelings as I have for the rest of my life, or simply giving them up and accepting who I am. The latter is a much wiser idea even though it is not easy. Everything is hard until it's easy. Wishing you all the best.

@cypres Thanks !

@Jai Hey man, thanks for taking the time to write that out. Congratulations on quitting pornography and best of luck on finding a new job!

Hey guys, I was hoping to get some advice + your thoughts and experience on how to accept myself. Ever since I was a child I have been insecure about my body and many other things that I will talk about in another post. My ears protruded outwards, I have beauty marks and freckles that I don’t like, I have a white patch of hair on the back of my head that never had pigment, my penis curves upwards and is an average length, I sweat way too much and it stains my shirts, etc. All of these things have caused me massive anxiety in my life. My “big ears” really caused me a lot of embarrassment when I was younger due to some kids teasing me about them. I avoided cutting my hair too short, I would wear hats and headbands to cover them and bring them closer to my head, and I would also grow my hair out really long so that they would be covered. I am a good looking guy and have received a lot of validation from others regarding my good looks, but the few people who made fun of me really crippled my inner-image of myself. In 2005 at the age of 17, I had an otoplasty surgery that pinned my ears closer to my head. This surgery helped me tremendously with my confidence for a while until after a few years I started to notice my ears protruding outwards slightly again. 10 years later in 2015 I decided to do a revisionary surgery to once again pin my ears closer to my head. 5 years later, my ears look different then they did in 2015, however, I can live with them now and am more comfortable with them then I was after the first surgery. Another thing I think about once in a while is my penis size. I know that I am an average size but I still feel insecure over my size sometimes. My girlfriend loves me the way I am and is completely fine with me. Most of my other exes have been totally cool with me too and I know for a fact that I am able to make others orgasm, turn them on, and have even made one woman squirt which was very sexy. I have been sexually promiscuous with both women and men in my life and have lost count of the number of people I’ve slept with - I’m guessing probably 40 or 50. There have been a few people who have talked shit behind my back to other people saying that my size was small, and even some people have mentioned it to my face. Once again, the comments of a few have really damaged my inner-image and emotional well-being. I label myself as straight now even though I have had sexual experiences with both men and women. Why? Because I don’t feel comfortable with the bi label and I don’t have any interest in romantic relationships with men at this point in my life. Also, I am insecure about it and have been judged in the past by others for saying I have hooked up with both genders. Basically, a lot of this stuff still haunts me to this day and I am here because I don’t want to live like this anymore. I am self-aware enough at the age of 31 to want to change myself for the better and accept myself. I am tired of people-pleasing, lying, feeling scared, being overly emotional, feeling insecure, not accepting myself fully, hiding, caring too much about what others think, playing the victim, passive-aggressiveness, etc. Watching Leo’s videos is helping me a lot but I thought I would throw this out to the forum and see what you guys think. Looking forward to your responses.

@Bittu Great advice, will do. Many thanks !

@Nahm What you wrote was very profound for me to read. I agree with everything you said and will try using the dream board. It's early days for me still but I know I can do this. Thank you! I look forward to trying your shake as well .

@Nahm @ivory @inFlow Thank you all

@Keyhole Brilliant information, thank you very much I like what you said about posting the pictures on the cupboards, fridge, etc. Thank you!

@Aaron p @DivineSoda @Eph75 Thank you all for all of the information.

@crab12 Hey man, Thanks for taking the time to reach out. I like what you’re saying regarding getting into a mental state of not wanting it. I have reached that point with all other addictions that I had before and know that I can do it with my food addiction as well. I am also going to do some goal setting today and get back on track in that regard. I can also relate to what you’re saying about pleasure and escapism. Food has comforted me my whole life, especially sugary, flour and wheat-based food, comfort food, fast food, etc. I have strong associations of these foods since childhood and whilst eating them they initially give me a sense of comfort and wellbeing, however when I crash, well, you know how that goes. I as well have general anxiety and all of the other anxieties you mentioned. Food helps mask those things, especially at social gatherings or parties when there are a lot of people. It’s time to own up to my feelings, really feel them, and stop these destructive eating behaviours once and for all. I like Leo’s addiction video and how he talks about just sitting in a room for one hour and feeling the cravings course through my body. It’s time for me to be mindful and tackle my inner demons and face them head-on. This food addiction is a massive impediment to my well being. Congratulations to you by the way for overcoming your shortcomings and dealing with your addictions, it’s very inspiring to me. @kossondulola Wise words, man! Congratulations on facing your fears and living life the way you want to. What you've said has struck a chord in me and it's inspiring to know you've accomplished and that I can too. I'd love to visit China one day after COVID-19 has been resolved. Who knows, maybe we could meet up one day and eat some delicious Chinese food. Wishing you the very best on your journey. @intotheblack Thanks! I just watched this now I love Dr. Mate's work.

@Flowerfaeiry @wordsforliving @Eph75 I'm not sure whether or not you saw my response questions because I didn't "@" you guys. I'm new to this forum stuff and only "quoted" you guys. Feel free to respond if you are able to. Thank you!

@kossondulola Thanks for that - I know that you're right about this and I am going to stop as soon as I finish the last of my ice cream and coke later tonight. Tomorrow is a new day. Did you by chance read "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle? Lol. The present is all we have, the past only exists in our minds, and the future hasn't happened yet. Besides eating cleaner, what other habits, activities, and pastimes have you implemented in your life that have benefited you? @Elton Dude, thank you so much for your response. You are an inspiration to me to have cut out the junk food, wheat, and sugar. Do you still eat meat? What do you eat now? Believe it or not, I have been doing yoga on and off since 2007. I absolutely love yoga and the benefits it provides me. The mind, body, and spirit connection is incredible. Focusing on the breath is key and the flexibility it provides makes me feel limber, strong, and overall very happy. Hot yoga (any type) and kundalini yoga are my favourites! Much like fitness and going to the gym, yoga has been a struggle for me to practice consistently. Failing to be consistent has been the hallmark of my life and something I know I need to change to be successful/attain mastery in anything. Is Kriya yoga the same as Kundalini yoga? If so, then you're right, it is a must in my life. Beneath you will find a link to my favourite Kundalini yoga kriya/class. You're right - 2020 is a new decade, a new leaf, a new time - time to change and live the life I have been dreaming of.