Nathalie

@Hero of Time yes you're totaly right.. I just think that if I ask him I will never know the truth.. Maybe I first need more informations and ask him than.. Thank you :-)

@Ether you Seem to be absolutly bored by my asking.. Why do you answer?

@Ether maybe just the need to speak with somebody neutral because I don't find the answer on my own..

@Ether don't know but even if it's so I would like to know the Raison, at the Moment I feel like in my own detective Story.. I just would like to understand Why.. ANd I ask it in this Forum because maybe it's a typical men behavior.. and someone could exlain.. But maybe I waste my time?

@Ether we are living together for years and in many aspects we are really happy and and do a lot together. In many occasions he's also a challenge for me (and I suppose he feels the same) I even like the arguments we have because afterwards I have the feeling that we both transcend and grow.. So it isn't an easy relationship but somehow always exciting in different ways..

@Spiral At the Moment, he would surely accept if he can manage it with his job. We are Living together and on the one side he really seems to care about me and this is exactly what is so strange. So maybe he wouldn't see her than but it wouldn't exclude that he dates her (or try to) a few days or weeks later.. Should I always try to controle him? Seems silly..

@Ether I would if I thought he would tell me the truth, but he often tells "people in general can't cope with the truth".. I mean he's telling stories all the time. And so I'm afraid it would take me the last chance to know what's going on..

hi every Body what would you think, say or do if you found a message from your boyfriend, telling a woman you don't know, that he his in Germany next month.. Knowing that she has a german Name and a german tel number.. and we are living in Germany and just leave it for vacation..? So I think he's lying to another Woman, but what for? Dating? Testing his attraction?? How would you react? PS: I watch his phone after he reacted strangely as I wanted to download something to mine (Things we often do normaly)

Why not give it a trial like you already do (without buying anything).. I think the error would be to give your life (so to speak) in Leo's Hand, like one would do with a guru.. Just keep the responsibility for your doing and try the things which feel good for you. Finally you have to find your own pad, nobody can do it for you.. there's no short cut for nothing if you want to do it well.

I start to make exercises to practice foreign languages writing them down with my left Hand (I'm normally a right hander..), just because it always seems to be so boring to write all this things with the only objective to learn the vocabulary better ..and now it's really fun :-) so I can also apply here the fact that: "the journey is the reward"

@kieranperez What about the rest of the day, do only "bad things" happen to you or are you just more fixated on them ? Could you perhaps give little good things more importance and give them your attention and your gratitude ? Forget what other people say, conscient and intelligent persons would never call someone an asshole.. It's just stupid, no need to think about it..

don't let a test tell you if you're intelligent or not, the most IQ tests are nothing but bullshit really !!

@haai14 I also think you can't stop judging, you can't stop thinking either (at least for a Long time..) but you don't have to believe the judgements and the thoughts which pass through your mind you can sort of pat them on their head (figuratively speaking) and tell them it's just irrelevant you'll see it lessen them a lot

@Pure Imagination It's surely not the american way of life, but as the quote goes :" the way is the goal (Confusius)" if you're just looking for the possible achievement, you'll probabliy miss it all. To achieve something isn't bad.. but it's just ego stoff.. and the ego will tell you all the time that this Meditation thing will get you nowhere, that you're just wasting your time..

@Wicked according to Paul Ekman who researches for years everything about emotions: -they are per se neither good nor bad.. - they never last for a long time (just a few minutes) - every single one is necessary for our human survival, it is absolutly impossible to get rid of them even if you want to.. But.. what do you think is happiness? Do you think you can reach it running after some emotions and avoiding the others? Wouldn't it favor suffering more than ever?