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@Henri funny how an "s" can change everything thank you for answering

@Henri what kind of happy end would you imagine ?

... and do you recognize yourself in it? Do you agree with the results?

@Sukhpaal i feel exactly this too.. for more than a year now.. and it seems even to increase.. It's amazing isn't it?

so simple, so clear, so true.. thank you for sharing

@7thLetter @shouldnt can it be a sort of homeostasis..? Every habit we form can turn in a homeostasis, because when we do always the same, we feel save without judging it.. It's the first idea that came into my mind as i read your messages.. Maybe it helps ?

I wish, no i hope, you change this soon.. Even if your main purpose is that the people around you feel good.. It won't work in the long term if you don't care for yourself first.

@OceanJjb I think i watched the video but i don't remember it so good .. so i can only tell you the way i think currently: you can't knock you fear out if you try to fight or suppress it. .. but here the good new: if you still present in yourself you will recognize that fear can't damage you, it almost always come from old stories, but even this doesn't really matter.. Thoughts aren't real, give them up or at least don't follow them and meanwhile they still have some power on you, you can, nevertheless, decide to do the things you want, accepting that you are frightened. Feel it in your stomac (or wherever), acknowlege your fear because it only tries to protect you .. and go ahead, it's ok All your feelings are ok, it's what makes you feel alive.. every single feeling!

@The Son i see it very simple: till a certain point we are all able to heal ourself.. It just becomes difficult as soon as one isn't present enough at the beginning to remark it and rectifie the issue (it doesn't matter if it's physical or psychic). And even more difficult as the crucial point isn't easy to determine: it changes with every situation and every person

@Donnie how do you know that you attract women because of the colour of your skin?

.. Don't know what to say.. I surely not at that tear.. But i can remember that Adyashanti said something like: "when you become enlightened, you feel absolutely lost, because everything is still the same but completely different at the same time and there's no instruction book you could use" Well, even i'm not sure if you are jocking (in this case you are anyhow very inspiring) Maybe a good way could be to meet other enlightened people.. Don't you thing so?

@cnorhistorian Thank you for sharing Maybe i just like it because it's the way i'm feeling to.. Who knows.. Who cares? But above all thank you for the freshness you use to express the things you are convinced of, just the way you do, regardless of the opinion others. It's sometimes funny, but most of the time inspiring

@Derp ?? Didn't you wrote a few lines abow this: Are you possibly overburdened? It's so difficult to give a good advice when you don't really know the person and his life situation.. Maybe it's always difficult.. You could, for example, watch some videos from Eckhart Tolle, he was depressed for years before he became a spiritual teacher and his statements are so profound.. He uses to say that the mind needs stories in order to feel bad. The idea is to tell yourself no stories but stay present with what really happens in the moment(even if it's for just for a while) and appreciate what is. It means, use your senses, look around you, hear the sounds, feel the air, your body. When a thought comes up, look at it but don't follow it, it's only a story.. it isn't true! Go back to the present (not to what you think about the present) Step by step you may recognize by coming what your real goals are and come back to a vital life. Because when you start to listen to the voice of your needs it becomes louder so that you can hear it much better after a while. I wish you the best

@David has just posted this: She also claim the same in a different context.. Beliefs are ok as entry points, they may open doors but don't stay there.. Experience it you can be anything, just don't take it that seriously, everythings still be a game

Why does it matter so much to you ? .. Maybe you're not so sure about your value ?

@Why? is it possibly enough to practice self development just (??) in order to learn how to acknowlegde, appreciate and enjoy ourself in the present moment.. whatever happens in our life situation ?? For me it is worth Maybe even better will flourish out of that ??

It doesn't seem that bad, does it ? maybe all the fights you're bearing out inside yourself make you weak.. You said, it's easy to find a job as a waiter.. So if you need a break, it's surely good to rest a time. What if you take a few days, (you can call them vacancies) in order to come down, relaxe and see the things differently Are you able to make a list of all the things you would like to do ? Do this, imagine how it would be, it will motivate you to stand out of your bed (where you don't want to stay, right?) Besides, working as a waiter is a good job, not only one you have to execute because you haven't study !! You have contact to people, you can help them having a nice time while being served by you, it can be amazing.. really If you take care of you, you will really give a f.. of what people think, not only as a provocation, this is liberating, a good feeling.

@Murtaza I'm not that involved, so i assume that "plateau" means, you have the feeling you don't grow for the moment, right? Is it possibly a good time for practice at different levels the development you went already through ? A time to rest in order to grow more quickly and wholesomely after this. In my opinion the one goes with the other, work and rest, development and plateau(?) and it works extremely good when you goes with the rythm.. Does it make sense?

@Argue you really described almost everything a man shouldn't do, so maybe you try the opposite by staying attentive of her.. and communicate.. this may help a lot because the most everybody loves (not only women) is someone who cares

@Olafur Thorsteinsson here you put emotions, thoughts and instinct in one pot.. your examples illustrate instinct.. For this of course no thoughts come in (a mouse would also run away) But try to be sad or angry without a story... @Rob I'm not sure if it's healthy to avoid all the feelings you don't like.. Doing so you may miss a lot.. I'm either not sure that it will function in the long term.. Maybe it's better to observe your thoughts, notice where they come from, i'm sure after this you won't take them that seriouly. And so you'll be able to acknoledge all the different colours of your feelings and enjoy them .

@carlo Perhaps it comes from a quiet other direction.. You alone know, in what kind of situation she asked, how she asked, how she looked like as she asked etc.. Could it eventually be that she only miss something which you would be able to give her too? Is she or are you both a little to shy to speak openly about what you like.. you know what i mean..? I think, no sensitive person would ask his/her partner for a threesome, just like that, without thinking about how he or she would probably react.. Find the reason out, i imagine it's surely crucial for you.. and where ever it leads you would at least have the opportunity to grow thanks openess

@Argue you're kidding aren't you ?

@wasabelll I think I have a good quote about this Ram Das said: "if you think you are enlightened go and spend a week with your family" But what if you take them as the best spiritual teacher you can met.. You can learn so much about yourself: - You can observe the emotions that come up - You can try different options as reactions of what they say and feel - Meanwhile you can feeel what happens in your body by doing so - Breath and feel it conscientiously (in and out and how deep and quickly or slowly you breath) You can become very creative . For my part in such situations the worst is to still stuck in the same situations over and over again. It is surely harder to take the full responsability for all what happens arround you, but I think it's the only opportunity you have in order to change this issue.

@abrakamowse doesn't seem to fonction that bad.. Maybe I can borrow it for a while

Has somebody read the book "Radical honesty" from Brad Blanton and tried the technique out? It would badly interest me My current experience is : after reading the book, I became more and more convinced that it was a good way to manage different relations. So I mailed a few people in order to say each other the absolute truth in order to have better basis.. The result is they don't want to!! They seem affraid!! PS: I'm a woman.. and not that strong.. I never knocked anybody.. What are they affraid of?