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.. well I'm french, I'm just living in Germany.. don't know if it matters and of course I told them that my purpose is to understand us better.. But well as maybe this is the key.. Thank you

I totally agree with this.. but I don't think you can make other people change, it happens only if you change and in this case, if you feel ugli it's exactly the image you produce to the others. So the way is from inside out, once you accept/love/honnor yourself in a sane manner the rest will follow. Concretely speaking, if you think you're ugli, you stop caring that much for your body, don't make sports, don't eat vital food maybe you drink alcohol smoke what ever and the things go worse.. In the opposite If you look lovely at yourself (physical, mental or intelectual self) you may easely dicover your strengths and build them.. and maybe find the right salve for a nose if it still be so important.. If you want to be loved, you have to be the very first one to do so.. The paradox is that the more you acknowledge yourself, the less important it becomes what other people think of you. And than the more interesting you get for them (but don't try to fool your mind with a technique, it doesn't work)

@An actualizer Most of the christians would tell you the same.. In my opinion, the problem is there.. Most of religious people still stand for the signpost instead of going in a direction, metaphorically speaking.. Or not? PS Even if we don't speak about religion.. Look, how many people meditate as an end in it self..

@Draconis Chaser My intention wasn't to iniciate a fight (me against the bad others..) rather to achieve a high degree of acceptance of what is

@Henri I know what you mean, but sometimes it tastes like an excuse, doesn't it? And what should you do, when you remark that your relation with some family members turn to boredom because of much unspoken mess.. When everyone only tries to stay polite and speaks about platitudes.. Would you stand the boredom ? Quit them ? I tried the first, it didn't suit me, so I was about to quit them and all the "family celebrations" but, before doing so, I wanted to give it a chance.. ..and I think I was very kind in my writing to them.. a week has passed.. no answer

Hi Mohsinuddin, Interesting theory but what should be the alternative? Stay with the person? Not to accept the facts when your partner wants to leave you? For my share, I went through several breaks and I feel more alive than ever.. Sometimes it's necessary to give up, be it, relationships, paradigms, thoughts, things, everything changes. The key is : letting go, in peace. In my experience, the best is when you stay fair, all the way long even if the other doesn't.. You have the chance, first of all, in so called "bad times" to learn a lot about yourself and grow. You have the chance to meet yourself in a deeper level and you can experience that pain doesn't kill you, you don't have to resist anything, even the pein is enrichment for your life.. Take it fully.. you surely need a certain time to realign before a new begin, But, you don't have to forget anybody, you can remember every person, in love, it's ok, it's live

@Henri I didn't mind to tell what ever goes through my mind, but rather kind of things one has to speak out (carefully) in order to have a better relation. I think all the unspoken stuff poisons the contact to your friends, your loved one etc.. Don't you think so? @The Son Yes I absolutely recommand it.. even if you possibly lose a few folks arround you by practicing it..

@An actualizer@Henri First of all thanks for sharing But how could it be really different from an other meditation? They all point to the same, you can use them as support in your spiritual growth. It's more a matter of mentallity which you will prefere, don't you think so?

@Biomech I'm really impressed by your statement.. You must have done a great deal of way to see it that clearly, didn't you? Maybe you just miss the final step, maybe you have to love yourself just a little more in order to be able to accept yourself fully, the average people will follow.. they always do.. if you know what I mean.. It's the reason why they are average : no need to envy them

correction : I meant "want now" sorry my english should be better..

Fear needs thoughts, if you stay concentrated in your body, your feelings, it has no chances and if you get fearless and you will (!!) it's the paradox of this "strategy".. Nobody and nothing can stop you anymore.. You will be free even from the things you absolutely want know

@WHOAMI Don't we first have to define "face the fear"? What does it mean? What does it mean for you? For me it means stopping to ignore the feeling in my stomach, acknoledge and honor "it" and by doing so "it" doen't have any power anymore and "it" becomes a friend of mine: I feel it in me, sometimes stronger, sometimes weaker and I'm grateful for the warnings "it" gives me

you're wellcome

quit the rules we really have enough of them, surrender and stay in touch with yourself. Do you feel like mixing is good? => try it. Do you need a clock for calm down? Let one in front of you.. But take the responsability, don't let other make the decision for you. Every kind of meditation you start can be helpful.. if you observe your inner reactions in order to find the answer(s) you need Have a nice trip

Hi Pallero, It really seems that your mind is overpowering you. It's a like a severe parent, a persuasive guru, or a dictorial boss in your head which always accompanies you everywhere, isn't it ? The problem is that your mind battles again itself and so, like playing chess against yourself, so "it" becomes ever stronger. "Why?" is a good question but it still be intellectual "How passionate do I feel about what I'm doing right now?" (no passion => senseless) is less conceptual, so no battle. Do only things you feel at least acceptance for, so you can flow with your energy. (hope it makes sense?) Do you know Adyashanti, Eckhart Tolle, Gangaji? If not, you could watch some of them videos and observe how you resonate with them. I would observe my mind while staying aware that no thought is true, you don't have to take them seriously, you can play with them, discuss gently with them or go back to the source and lead them, consciously, to a funny solution. You know the phrase : Mind is a really good servant but a bad master? And.. (Adyashanti quote) enjoy yourself

Just a few words to express my gratitude: Thanks to everybody who shared his difficulties, a new vision, an idea, who tried to help in different ways and so much more.. And thank you Leo, for all the work you have done for this site in order to make an exchange possible for each one of us And of course for the inspiring videos you've made and still make

I'm absolutely by you, when you say this : and yes it's maybe hard work but an agreeable one Concerning this site. I feel like a guest here, in an enjoyable place where I'm sometimes challenged, some times amused or surprised or where I often can learn a lot, here as well as by Leo's vid... And I really thank him for all the work he has done for this. Even so I would never worship him (or any body else), believe something without experience it or buy something I don't want..

@light18 my current opinion : all and none.. In each one there were some enlightened leader who may have seen and maybe have lived the truth, after this, tried to show it their followers, who than unfortunately began to worship the leader instead to try to experiment what he said.. What do you think?

@zenny you're wellcome.. If you read the book or watch the vid., maybe you can give me a feedback, it would interess me

for me.. the diference between Belief/fantasy and Truth/reality is easy: all what you directly experience now, without labeling, judging or conceptualizing is the only truth you can live I actually doubt if it's helpful to search extern informations through videos articles whole books or other teaching Maybe they only occupy our mind and keep us away from the actual truth you should experience by staying alert

Eckart Tolle is a phenomenon he has an answer to every thing.. But yes, of course you can - we all can - It may seem to be a long way, but every step you go deeper into yourself is an amazing journey so one day you will surely wondering why you tried so hard to change something or even to attract somebody else you're already absolutely complete, you just have to notice it, this is the good new. Don't be affraid, I'm not preaching for staying alone => in this state you just aren't needy anymore, you can love and be loved without any fear

@abrakamowse it's also a lie because either you have experience the "real" reality => so you see it or you assume it by hearsay and this is worthless I'm currently reading a book about lying which is inspiring : "Radical Honesty: How to Transform Your Life by Telling the Truth" by Brad Blanton .. and thanks for the link, I'll check it

@abrakamowse even thought i recognize that it may work when you mention the lies we use to fool us self

@abrakamowse it surely does if you have the balls, after having recognize it, to go and tell it the folks you lied to.. It seems to easy to put it here and gratulate yourself for your sincerity or do you think, it is just the first step and the real one will follow ?