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For years personal help masters have given their advices on maintaining eye contact, How it is a powerful way to convey confidence and power. This post is quite different, I'm writing to express the power of breaking eye contact, to convey certainty and the power you have over your attention. Here are some scenarios , where breaking eye contact could be useful. break eye contact when you feel the other person is wasting your time break eye contact when the other person tries to mess with your emotions , taking your attention away will benefit you in this case break from eye contact when someone is trying to be sneaky or play a game on you break from eye contact in a situation where you feel your attention is being wasted, by nonsense, this shows you have dominance over your greatest and most valuable currency: Your Attention. Finally , I just want to highlight that breaking from eye contact can be a sign of weakness. But that is not what we are discussing here in that post. This post was about the benefits of breaking from eye contact, How you choose to apply that in your day to day life is up to you. But I just realized lately that breaking from eye contact does not only promote confidence, but dominance as well. When you show the other person you don't have interest when they try to get under your skin, you weaken their ability to dominate you. The more control you have over your attention, the more powerful you become. This was one if not the most valuable lesson I have learned in social interactions. I've never thought that taking your attention away from someone , can make you THAT powerful. hopefully this benefits all of you reading this post. Thanks for reading.

Hello, This post is one of the most interesting post you will see. I'm trying to do the opposite of what actualized.org teaches. I'm trying to quit meditation, I can't. I've tried to lie to myself and follow a belief system , I couldn't. I tried to quit the work several times , but every time I come back to either Actualized.org or Meditating. I'm posting this to ask you how to quit ? and why can't I ? I'm tired of not reaching Awakening, and at the same time being interested in Spirituality. I sit and watch my Breath every day, why do I keep doing it ? I thought like I've chosen this path at conscious will , but it seems now that the path got me in its trap.. I spend everyday at least a while meditating or contemplating about the nature of existence. I don't have problem doing that ,in fact my problem comes entirely from being tied to wasted effort. If I spend this time worrying about my future or my career , wouldn't I be better off ? The problem is I keep coming back to it , I come back to meditating , I observe my thoughts and don't engage with them , i try to contemplate. But at the end I'm not an awakened being , so Why am I wasting all this effort ? Did I choose the path , or did the path choose me ? I don't know. Does anybody suffer from the same problem ? I just want to live like a normal guy , but I can't ! I always come back to meditating , it's a form of addiction to me its embedded to my personality. What do you think my future will be ? Will I reach any kind of spiritual understanding ? Did you ever get stuck like that ? Is this a part of the process ? Sorry for the long rant, I am looking forward to see if someone relates.

I was contemplating today and became aware of something interesting. What if taking the spiritual route is choosing the route of least suffering ? Because maybe ultimately that is the END goal of everyone. But my question is now how is that the right choice to make in our current life. We live in a crazy world, a world full of possibilities. But I see myself here in the forum the last few years taking the route of least suffering. Which means I want to attain the spiritual enlightenment , but that's because I don't want to suffer anymore. The question here is .. in today's world , is that the right choice ? We all have experienced being in a state of deep contemplation, that state is blissful compared to a routinely programmed life. We feel that we suffer less. But what if that choice is not the right choice to do in today's world ? What if the point is to suffer , but find the right logical route to follow? This post is for us to adjust our orientations. Should we choose the route of least suffering ? Or should we Pursue something else? I don't know. At the end of the day , Who knows ?

Thanks for your reply. Just to clarify, my goal here is not to underestimate his value or minimize his worth by any chance, I'm just trying to understand Why Not ? Why not if you have access to a the higher dimension, the dimension of insights. Is he only successful in one sport ? Why didn't he prove himself in other branches and areas of sports as well. The same mechanism that got him an insight into judo , can work to get him an insight into Tennis ? No ? If I had this ability I would go subscribe into the tennis world and Beat Nadal, Federer , Djokovic combined just to prove my point that I can have insights into multiple areas of life. Again , I might be missing something huge here. But I'm still looking for clarification just to understand. Why didn't he do that ?

I have some questions regarding peter ralston and I hope that someone enlightens me. Ralston Claimed and Leo recently quoted that you can save 10-20 years of your life learning something if you just get an insight into its nature. Ralston claimed that this can be achieved if you seriously contemplate into the nature of something specific. So my questions are, if you really possess this ability to gain insights into different fields of life , and your whole goal in life which I assume is Ralston's goal , is to make people reach that. Why wouldn't you go ahead and prove it to people. In other words I mean. Why isn't Ralston now the best rapper in the world ? Why isn't he the best kickboxer in the world? why isn't he the best Tennis player in the world ? Why isn't he the best table tennis player in the world ? why isn't he the best basketball player in the world ? why isn't he the best Golf Player in the world ? What 's stopping him from achieving that. IF I ever possess this ability to get insights into the nature of something , I will do contemplate each day, gain new insights and implement what I learned. and More importantly Prove to people that I'm legitimately a Man with Superpowers. Because I have access to higher intelligence. So my Question is .. Why isn't he proving what he is talking about? Am I missing something here ?

First of all , thanks for taking the time to respond to the post , really appreciate you. Second thing is , if I am misunderstanding the concept , that's on me or on you ? I have no vehicle to implement the work outside from the words that you are saying. I read your words , your blog and other spiritual teachers. Your word guided me to do practices, at the end it didn't flourish. but the question is that's on who ? because if there is anything more I could've done I would've done it. I did the practice where ralston said you contemplate on what are the sensations of your fingers and not focusing on your thoughts but your active sensory experience. I did that 1000 times. Not one time I've gained any insight. I'm still doing this practice till this day and nothing. I'm just a human chimp, I'm programmed to "think" , Emote, and Respond to what I'm being prompted with from a second to second basis. I tried to dodge this ideas from my mind and focus on the Sensory Experience. Still nothing occurs , I have a limited attention span which won't allow me to focus on something for forever , Who can focus on something for forever ? Which words are you going to choose to guide such a student(me).

Hello, this post is for you leo & I'm sorry to sound disappointing. But your work isn't making impact. neither you nor the other spiritual people like peter ralston and even the Buddha. I've read ralston's book at least 3 - 5 times. It's not working bro.. Trying to explain infinity or god or consciousness or anything like that I've spent a lot of time trying and meditating and doing all sort of things like contemplating and meditating. Bro.. The net effect is negative .. What's the point of this work , if it doesn't help people gain any insight ? I'm still to this day not understanding anything of what you guys are saying.. so what's the point of teaching it ? Maybe it would be better if you decide to live normally like us, eat , sleep , work , repeat at least you will be more relatable to people around you. I've read ralston's book several times and man , I can't tell you how much i tried to dodge the obstacles the book is pointing at. I sat staring at the sky for hours trying to get to the "EXPERIENCE" ralston is talking about.. it's just not working.. so my question for you now is why do you guys keep leading people for this work even tho it's not going to work for most people.. and even worse it is going to be interpreted in the wrong way.. what's the point and I don't have access to psychedelics. I've read too many of your blog posts and still I'm not getting ANYTHING. Even worse I get the wrong thing each time I read because I don't have any sort of experience to relate to. So What is the Point why don't you decide to give it up and call it a day and live by any other moto than trying to explain to people the unexplainable. As it is not working for me I believe it is not working for millions of other people wasting their time to reach the "IMPOSSIBLE". We don't have access to psychedelics it is not sold in the store. So unless it becomes for sale to the public anywhere in the world we can debate whether your work is worth it or not. At the end , I apologize for sounding disappointing to you. But I'm a reflection to you Leo.. Your work.. I had huge will to figure out what you were pointing at.. and Failed.. which means your work isn't allowing a Person from reaching anything other than confusion. I don't blame you on anything. But you should question your work.. it's not reflecting.. it's not making people's eyes open but in contrary , it's making us more confused and at the end reaching nothing. Especially Peter ralston.. who wrote a huge book I read from the heart I swear.. and at the end after doing all the practices in the book.. life didn't reveal to me anything. Disappointing.

@Buck Edwards Thanks for sharing

@Buck Edwards There was a time in my life where talking with these people has caused me to feel judged, social judgement so to speak. Even tho it was their best intentions it still came about to me as judgment. That is the best I can put into words. Do you think that can help free me ?

Hello Everybody, This is a seriously interesting post. I've been experiencing the emotion of hate a lot whenever I encounter some specific people. I've been so patient with this emotion as a spiritual practice, but I'm afraid my reserve of patience reaches its end. When will I be Free ? I am an experienced in meditation Person that till now has not realized what people talk about to be Onnes , Love , God .. Etc even tho I've been very patient with the whole process. I think about seriously giving up. Every time I meet these specific Person or People , I witness the emotion of Hate, or a form of suffering. I keep witnessing it and witnessing it , Hoping that one day the Door will open and I would realize what spiritual teachers have Promised. Do I Consider Give Up? If I do give up I will leave a room to manipulate my emotions and make these experiences less painful. Did anybody experience Phenomenons similar to these ? Did you ever become Seriously Free ? Have you ever been trapped before in Hating someone? What would you advice me in this situation ? Still a part of me is not allowing me to give up.. I can not turn a blind eye on this somehow. But feeling stuck is the worst part, especially with such a painful emotion. Seriously Who would ever like to hate someone ? Before you mention it .. I considered questioning my assumptions regarding hate. I'm seriously doing the work. But still.. Stuck in that.

@Hojo maybe that’s also part of it

Nothing especial is going on. But just maintaining the practice in General, watching your thoughts , watching yourself , not letting yourself sink with the flow of your ideas. All that has to do with waking up from your current state is a little bit emotional baggage, it’s like hiking a steep mountain while having sore legs. Still do not know how to create a possible break.

@Yimpa @Ishanga my gut says “take a break”. But I don’t know how to take a break. Because my conscious outlook through life is embedded into everything I look at, but at the same time it’s becoming overwhelming (the emotional labour) . I hope i communicated myself better this time.

Hello, Since a while I felt it's a little bit overwhelming, keeping an open eye during tough time. Is that a sign that I need a break ? and if Yes , How do I approach taking a break through this journey ? Meditations are embedded into my life , the way I approach life is a little bit more spiritual than mediocre, I don't imagine what a break would look like. Or maybe I don't need a break, and that's a normal part of this journey? The main point here is How would I approach a break from spirituality ? How do you approach taking a break? What would be different in the way you approach your life situations ? Do you have any good ideas of how to take a good relaxing break? I feel like life is pressing, and I can't take this wide breath I usually am able to take. How would you calm yourself down and not drift away , or maybe I do need to drift away a little bit ? I can not identify If I need a break or not , and if yes, how would I take it ? I'm deep into the journey , I can't imagine what a break would look like, at the same time keeping with the same pace is a little bit overwhelming. How can I carry less weight and plough through?

Hello , I'm recently unable to Gauge the direction of which I am going to within my spiritual practice. I live in a third world religious country so attending ceremony and meeting other people who practice this stuff regulary is not an option. The problems I'm facing are regarding Orienting towards the right spiritual direction or falling into another delusion or a trick , I sometimes find it hard to Gauge if my meditations are straight forward , or not. This post requires someone with direct experience to answer so please speak from Experience. If I played music and challenged myself to not feel emotions while the music is playing , is that considered a spiritual practice ? , How would you alter its description so it can be simplified to a better spiritual practice from your point of view ? What I mean is when you play music , especially when is it a music you already knew ( for example a music that triggers your memories , or your simplest simplest emotions ) , if you let yourself alert enough to not feel and fall into these emotions , is that considered a valid spiritual practice or Bullshit ? Again if is it the latter , how would you reorient this to explain in a better way a spiritual practice. Do your best through explaining , I will not try to "understand your answer" , I will just listen to it , that will help me adjust my orientation. 🐔Thank you 🐔