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Ive been wanting to start my own business for a time now, I really have been dreaming about it. But when me and my two other partners actually is about to make it real by buying a place to have the business on...i hassitate. Im scared and I dont know if I want it, but I know for sure that if I dont do this I will regret it for the rest of my life . I dont know why im scared, if it is of all the work that has to be Done or the fact that if I go into this im stuck at this business. Im thinking thoughts like " what if I dont want this in the future". If I go deep I actually want this but im so unsure because of this odd feeling of beeing scared and unsure. Now its like im trying to hide from it, that I dont have the guts to fulfill my dream. Im scared its gonna take to much time of my life, after I saw Leos video on minimalizm it made me think. But on the other hand, if I dont start this business i will just go back to my old 9-5 job and go home watch some tv. I dont know how to put it to words but maybe some of you Knows what im talking about or have been in this situation.

@Piotr I cant describe how much your word did to me right now, very well written. Thank you so much for reaching out! Im gonna save these words somewhere and look at it when im struggleing. Once again, thank you! PS, im gonna watch the movies you sent as well

I recently broke up with my GF that I've been with for two years. I 've been wanting to break up three times during the relationship because of different reason but never had the gut to fully proceed. now I really took all my power to get through with it. It really really hurts, its the worst feeling I ve EVER felt, I can barely take it because its not what non of us wants but I think its needed. I wanted to break up because of different reasons, In my opinion she was so dependent of having me around. She has some issues with her self confindece, for example she never wants to be in pictures. We've been togheter for two years and not a single picture togheter. I even had to take her package from the postoffice because she got anxious going. It was not that she used me, even tho I felt like that a couple of times. Its that she was so mentally undeveloped. My reason to break up was because I want both of us to be for ourself for a while and really work on yourself. I didnt want to be in this relationship because she needs me for some of the above reasons, just simply to be with me because its me. I thought alot about that, if she really loves me for who I am. We lived togheter so I packed up and left, now I want to try to be alone for a while and work with myself. Im thinking of traveling and maybe working on getting a business. I want her to work on herself and I really hope she tries to love herself for who she is. Eventually we both see a future togheter and probably we'll try again seeing each other slowly because we still love each other really much. Have anyone here some experience of this? Whats your opinion? maybe it is bad getting back togheter? Please share your thoughts

She got into working with her problem with a therpist. And thing were getting better, thats why im kinda regretful. I just wanted for one time to really show that something is not right.

I've been thinking about starting a fitness and lifestyle youtube channel for quiet some time. Its not a matter of being sucessfull and famous, I just think I have content that can help some people that are struggeling with weightgain or people that dont like to train. However, I "need" a camera to shoot the videos with, I've looked up a Gopro I can buy. I can afford it but it is on the expensive side tho. But my issue here is if im just trying to misslead myself with all this, that this will make me happy or fullfilled. Something like " now I got a purpose" or "Now I have something to make me busy". That if I buy this camera my life will be awesome and Im gonna shoot some great videos. My life will be exciting and I will deliver great content to those who needs it. When I think about it I get excited, because I really do belive in this. I train and eat well so why not film it and show it to the people. If they like it im glad. I refer back to the video Leo posted about minimalistic lifestyle, maybe thats the way to go, the opposite. Not getting more busy with hobbies and youtube channels. I would like to hear from you what your thoughts on this matter is, maybe someone has the same experience? And how do you interpret a minimalistic lifestyle?

@Corte thank you for the reply, that was really good!

I suddenly feel afraid of getting in to things, thinking it is just distracting me towards whats really important, the "reality"

@Wouter Yes, you have a point. Im just courious if I want to do this beacause I want to run away of something else. Instead of exploring the possible pain I look the other way.

This question poped up, Any thoughts? Lets say when my body dies, does awereness go to just being or does it "attach" to another object?

Hi Im in a relationship with a woman who has really bad personal development, she has been very depressed. Now she has been seeing a therapist and it all seem better and better now for her. When she is feeling good she is an amazing woman and thats why I love her. I am like you all here very interested in personal development and enlightenment, I can by my self actualization see how she is feeling and why she sometimes reacts the way she does. She is very fragile so I have to watch how I behave and such to not cause any drama. And when she gets anxious (very often) she takes it out on me. I know what is going on and im trying to just be with it and not getting angry at her. But I feel there has come to a point for me were I dont want to take it anymore. We have been togheter for 2 years now and for me it feel like its not a mutual relationship. I dont get anything back, I always have to give kisses and hugs first, I always have to take the first step to sex and intimacy. It is only me who cooks and grocery shop,I even serve her food beacause I am of that nature that I want to be nice in all possible ways, I mean why not? She dont give a damn about if im stressed or tired. I have told her this 5-6 times over the years and all she gets is really angry and thinks i am dorky. The same time I say this and we argue I have said I want to break up, but I never pulled it through. Now she just makes me feel silly and I feel she is taking me more and more for granted. And thats my fault. I know that a man shouldnt be this needy but it sucks that I feel so exploited and ignored. Now I just feel that I myself has ruined this relationship because I was showing my needyness and that I cant break up. It feel that we are togheter for the wrong reason, she uses me for stuff she dont want to do herself. And I am foolish enough to do those tasks. She even told me once when we argue that I have to suit myself for doing all. I dont even get a thank you. Sorry for my english but I hope you can read it! I actually am not a needy person but it seems that way because I love her and I would anything for her. I would problably be like this in other relationships as well and thats fine for me, I just dont want to be taken for granted or exploited.

@TivoliBob thank you for sharing that. It might be so that I to am submissive in nature. The question is why, like Leo mentions in one of his video that he was a people pleaser. Is it something wrong with being that? Am I not looking deep enough to see the core of the problem? Its not that I Agree on everything, I just rather do stuff right away than argue about it

As enlightend, do you get fearless? Like if someone is afraid of heights, does that go away or stays as usual?

@agnosis thank you for the answer. Yes I am aware that I have to make that decision. Probably im scared and thats why im not deciding to break up. On the other hand I also dont think that my life will improve by changing relationship. I really have to work on myself and maybe that is easier when beeing alone. You got me right on point that im kinda loosing myself when trying to comfort her

Dont run away from it, accept your reality, all of it. Accept your wife and kids, let them just be..while you stand on the sideline knowing whats going on. You can still do "ego things" like watching a realityshow with your family. That way you can use the moment to remember that you are awake and to keep beeing awake. Like you can still go make alot of money and still be enlightend, but you are aware that money dont have that value to you as to others who are asleep. You can still enjoy them as to speak. Show everyone your love and compassion, dont interfere and try to change reality, just watch it happen, let it just be. Enlightenment is as @Emerald Wilkins wrote "in the moment", there is just one moment. It is so deilcate, you dont need your life to change, you need your perspective to change. Nothing in reality needs to be changed, thats just ego mind.

I saw this video on youtube. In the end part he talks about "the right path" is directed with either an adrenal rush in the body(EGO mind) and bliss(the right way). I want to hear from you, any insight on this topic? I myself tried this but it´s really hard for me to know the difference. Im planning on starting a buisness and when I think of it I sort of get an adrenal rush in the body, but it can also be because Im a little scared and nervous for the task.

Hi, First of all, thank you Leo for your youtube channel and for making this forum! My question is, are we born enlightened? With that I mean, are we humans supposed to be enlightened but we screwed up? And how can you see and define if an other person is enlightened?

Why do we have this suffering (ego illusion)when all we want is to get rid of it? I have so many questions, this forum is really a great next step for me and for us who's on this path. Ive always been trying to search for a sensation in my inner head but I can see now that it is much more than that. When Leo talked about that you shouldnt be the director of a movie but just to be the person watching it, in life it made all the difference for me. I got a whole other perspective of life, mindblowing.

@walt in this exampel I mean enlightment as a flow, troubleless life were the ego isnt in your way.

good points @Ayla @Arik Because I think alot about the purpose of it all, and to be honest I dont see any purpose to life more than just the being. All other purposes are ego thinking, man made. But on the other hand we have this that I call "the human protocol", we gotta have that built into us. How to act human, i mean, a lion gotta have its protocol to act the way its supposed to do. or am I wrong on that? Then im thinking,, if all comes from this "nothingness" and we cant control it the way we want. why bother? Thoughts come from nothingness so our realisation about enlightment and all must come naturally beacause thats the new step of evolution. Its getting us where we need to go. Sometimes I get so scared thinking about where we actually are, like really, where are we? and where am i going? If not on this earth for example then where? Those thoughts has scared me since i was very young. I remember first time, i got so scared I just fell to the floor, trying to grip my mind togheter. It happend in just a few seconds then it was like my ego came back and "saved" me. I have had this a few more times after that, but I really have to go meta on it. we think we humans are special in a way more than other species but we are not, its just the ego telling us. Hope you have my bad english in consideration when reading this (: