Complementing a hot girl on her beauty is preaching to the choir. She already knows she's hot. She's been told that her whole life by everyone. It's like complimenting a billionaire for being rich. It comes off so cringe. Jeff Bezos does not need you to compliment him on his wealth.
I would never compliment a hot girl on her looks. It just makes you look like a desperate chump.
This sounds good in theory but in practice hot girls get hit on a lot more than average girls. They literally have dozens of guys orbiting them, desperate to get in their pants. This notion that hot girls rarely get approached because they are too intimidating is a fairytale. Guys are not stupid. They target the hottest girls first. Not all guys are struggling Incels. Plenty of guys got natural game.
1) Stop trying to flatter girls. Especially hot ones.
2) Stop complimenting girls on their appearance and compliment on their unique traits and personality.

My IQ is probably not too special if I was tested.
But my actual intelligence is shockingly high. And I would not trade it for a higher IQ.
I would not trust any human with testing my intelligence accurately.
The true measure of intelligence is holistic comprehension.

Oh God I love these libertarian videos:
Just goes to show how stuck the mind can get in stage Orange ideologies.
The notion that a human can survive independent of society is a complete fiction. There has never been such a time in 300,000 years of human history. Less developed government means MORE dependence, not less. In tribal cultures humans are totally dependent on the tribe. No one is a lone libertarian wolf there.
Even chimpanzees cannot survive on their own without a tribe.

Face difficult situations head on, expose yourself to challenges and massive experience. Live on purpose and make your purpose significant.

@Emerald There is a direct correlation between the capacity for barbarism and narcissism, sociopathy, and violence.
It's a two-sided lightsaber. Women are attracted to it like moths to a flame, and then act surprised when they get burned.
If you want to sleep with a knight in shining armor, he will have some bloodstains and he will turn his aggression on you at some point.
Women are attracted to leadership, and leadership correlates highly with ego and narcissism. Don't have to, but often does.

Yeah, actually.
Fuck her with your eyes.
I'd had girls text me, "Omg, the way you looked at me when we met."
I've had girls tell me, "Woah! Way too sexual eye contact" and break it with her hand.
See through her soul.
With brilliance and love behind your eyes. Fearless eyes. The eyes of God

It's actually your vibe and frame.
She can smell a beta vs alpha frame within seconds. Your eyes give you away. She will read any fear in your eyes. Develop the eyes of a predator rather than prey.

Attraction is a very specific trigger.
Empathy does not trigger attraction in highly feminine women. Strength does. A highly feminine woman does not need empathy from a man, she supplies that. She needs strength and dominance, which is inversely correlated with empathy. She needs a guy who can fuck you up when shit hits the fan. That's what makes her wet. She does not want to have children with a pussy who cannot protect them.
A feminine woman basically needs a gorilla who will fight to defend her when things get heavy. If she sizes you up and you seem like you would crumble in that situation, she will not let you fuck her.
No, sociopaths have strength and dominance. They can lead decisively and unapologetically.
Girls in London are attracted to exactly the same thing.
Most girls in Vegas are from everywhere but Vegas. The girls here are tourists who represent every state and country in the world. I meet girls from all over the world.
Your London day girls fly to Vegas to fuck. And they fuck the strongest guys they can find. Whether he is a sociopath or rapist is of little concern to her as far as attraction goes. Attraction is not a logical choice.
If you see a girl with perfect tits, you are attracted even if she tortures puppies.

Finding your Life Purpose.
Honestly, after you have done this everything else falls into place... You are now playing life on "easy".
Having a Life Purpose to me is the Ultimate Shiny Object you can attain.
 
Once you start to align yourself with your potential you will have it easier to start to fall in love with reality.
Then you are on your path for Love and grounding yourself in reality.
❤️

Once you open the psychedelic portal, you won't need books much any more.

Small talk
Game
Humor
Marketing
Deep sex
Visualization
Public speaking
Writing
Sales copy writing
Conscious communication

Is there a common thread that unites self-actualization, emotional mastery, physical health and spirituality? What is the basis of integrity? Which mechanisms underlie healthy emotion regulation? What is the opposite of being dependent or addicted? What is the goal of all therapy, all psychedelic drugs and all meditation? One answer to that is vitality and resilience.
 
At the most basic level, vitality is the ability to exert force, and resilience is the ability to withstand stress. To be vital is to be full of life, energy and strength, and to be resilient is to be able to tackle various challenges that life throws at you. They're two sides of the same coin, and you can refer to both as "internal regulatory capacity": the ability to control your internal and external environment. I will probably make multiple threads on this topic and how it relates to everything from cognition, emotions, neuropharmacology, addiction, therapy, psychedelics and meditation, but as an introduction, I will start with emotions.
 
Firstly, why are these concepts useful? In psychology, vitality and resilience are part of an overarching approach in psychology called "salutogenesis", which essentially tries to answer the question "what causes health?" This contrasts with the more common approach of "pathogenesis": "what causes illness?" This might initially seem like a weird distinction to make. "Isn't the mechanisms of health simply to eliminate the mechanisms of illness?" Here is the central point: the way you define a problem (epistemology) dictates the way you solve it (methodology).
 
This creates crucial differences between the two approaches: salutogenesis tends to be holistic and bottom-up (multiple, organic solutions), while pathogenesis tends to be reductionistic and top-down (singular solutions, symptomatic relief). Pathogenesis tries to assess and correct negative symptomatic deviations from the norm while salutogenesis tries to identify and facilitate the underlying principles and basic requirements for health. For those interested in self-help and optimizing one's life, especially those without chronic illnesses, salutogenesis is in many ways a project description.
 
Now, on to the main point: how does one maximize vitality and resilience with respect to emotions? The concepts of vitality and resilience are taken directly from the multi-disciplinary paradigm of "Attention Control and Cognitive Emotion Regulation", and therefore I'll simply give a presentation of that here:
 
 
Attention Control and Cognitive Emotion Regulation

This paradigm unites aspects of developmental psychology, clinical practice and neuroscience research on emotions and cognition. It's primarily used in clinical work with children, but it's nevertheless a crucial framework for understanding basic emotional and cognitive functioning.
 
In this paradigm, emotions are understood from a functionalistic perspective, in the sense that emotions exist to serve a purpose, generally a survival function, but more specifically as a means to direct attention and exert force towards a challenge in the external environment. The emotion creates a level of physiological activation (sympathetic nervous system; power) and initiates a set of appropriate behavioral patterns (e.g. direction of attention towards a threat), which when performed, eventually reduces the physiological activation, and the emotional state subsides.
 
Self-regulation is not an ability that is built-in from birth and is strongly dependent on age-specific conditioning, which is why early childhood neglect is so extremely damaging. Young children notoriously rely on the care and comfort of their parents to reduce their physiological activation. As the child grows up, it internalizes the external regulation patterns of the parents and gets increasingly more able to self-regulate its emotional state. Even as the child becomes an adult, it may utilize various non-vital coping strategies that rely on the external environment, and these may overshadow some underlying issues that the child needs to address. The different factors of external emotional dependence can be described as "non-essential external regulators", e.g. cyclical behavior of drug-taking, over-eating or social neediness, which can potentially lead to addiction.
 
Development and coping strategies aside, the core of emotion regulation has to do with how emotions are actually processed and expressed (the "dynamics" of emotional energy), and we can view this through a general dichotomy of expression vs. repression:
 
Vital emotion regulation

The dynamics of a vital/healthy emotion regulation pattern is one where the person engages in so-called expressing/externalizing patterns (again, not to be confused with coping strategies), i.e. focusing the power of the emotion outwards towards the environment in a structured and goal-oriented manner. Let's say somebody insults you and you start to feel angry at this person. The key here is "at this person", because what the emotion wants you to do is to deal with this person somehow, and an appropriate response could be to confront them and tell them how you would like to be treated (with respect). If this doesn't somehow lead to an escalation of the situation, the emotion will quickly reside and you'll regain a state of relaxation: the emotion served its purpose as you were able to express the physiological energy in the type of meaningful and goal-oriented manner that the emotion intended.
 
Non-vital emotion regulation

A less vital dynamic pattern is where the person favors an internalizing style, i.e. one of repression and rumination (shying away and retreating into your own head). Instead of focusing the attention and energy out towards the environment, the focus goes inward, into the mind and towards the subjective feelings caused by the physiological activation, which remains unresolved. Circular patterns of thought arise (fear; what-if scenarios, feelings of inadequacy, insecurity), which in turn causes the physiological activation to be reignited, which results in a state classically referred to as anxiety.
 
Internalizing people tend to use various non-vital coping strategies to reduce activation, most commonly avoidance of said anxiety-provoking situations (as well as drugs, over-eating and social neediness), which can lead to social isolation, loneliness and other cascading emotional effects (depression, pent up anger and violent outbursts etc.). All in all, there is an obvious lack of vitality and resilience here, and to simply become aware of these patterns within your own life (excessive internalizing and subsequent non-vital coping strategies) can start to unwind various neuroses and evil spirals. The goal would be to maximize the ability to externalize emotions and facilitate a meaningful pattern of activation and relaxation.
 
With that said, there are situations where an internalizing style is preferable with respect to various social and cultural norms. For example, it's probably not such a good idea to openly express anger during a church sermon. It's probably a better idea to wait until later before you potentially confront the person about it. Here is where the cognition aspect of emotion regulation becomes more pronounced, because merely externalizing an emotion when you feel like it is a rather intuitive and straightforward process, but on the other hand, to be able to know when it's socially appropriate to externalize vs. internalize requires more cognitive finesse and is nevertheless an important part of healthy emotion regulation. There are also other positive cognitive patterns like reappraisal and refocusing that contrast with generally non-vital cognitive patterns like rumination (CERS = Cognitive Emotional Regulation Strategy):

https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Figure-The-hypothesized-model-CERS-cognitive-emotion-regulation-strategies_fig1_299415064
 
I touched briefly on how problems with emotional regulation can make you dependent on so-called "non-essential external regulators". When (or if) I'm writing more on vitality and resilience in the future, it will probably be about how the reliance on hedonic drugs is a reflection of underlying problems with one's general internal regulation capacity, and also how things like therapy, psychedelic drugs and meditation all go about addressing this in their own way. Until then, I'll leave you with a prescription: try to become aware of the ways in which you deal with emotions in your daily life and maybe consider changing some of them. Do you carry a lot of emotional baggage from moment to moment? Do you mainly express/externalize or repress/internalize your emotions? (or vice versa) etc. Things like that

Political thinkers and intellectuals are generally very poorly grounded in consciousness, epistemology, or metaphysics. Which will seriously limit their political vision and understanding. And most nondual teachers are not very political or intellectual in their thinking. This leaves a sort of vacuum..
If you want a deep understanding of politics you should develop it yourself. Study developmental psychology, epistemology, sociology, psychology, consciousness, spirituality, metaphysics, holism, systems thinking, and all the political ideologies. Then form your own models and ideas.
I will be adding a lot more political books to my book list in the future. But none of them offer a full picture. It's all bits and pieces you must assemble for yourself.
The politics in the Conversations With God books are excellent. Turns out that God has excellent politics
I have developed a very simple solution for that in my work: 5-MeO-DMT
Why do things the hard way when there is an easy way?
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I want to caution you guys: all the symbolic stuff Langan is doing, all the models, all the theories, all the language, all the explanations -- it can sound smart and wise and great. But NONE of that is the same as DIRECT CONSCIOUSNESS or AWAKENING.
DIRECT CONSCIOUSNESS is NOT a language.
Go for DIRECT CONSCIOUSNESS of yourself as God.
Language is still part of the dream. Awakening is about transcending the linguistic, symbolic domain.

@Vladz0r It takes several years to really hone in on your values. You don't need to get them perfect. Just do the best you can for now, and then re-evaluate them at least once a year as you get to work implementing your life purpose. Clarity will come as you grow and do work.
This course is a launching point. All of this stuff has to be implemented and practiced.

The safest pans are generally:
1. Cast Iron
2. Stainless Steel
you wanna spend hours researching and experimenting with replacing all the toxic household items you have in your kitchen with safe and effective non-toxic ones. This also goes go things like soaps, detergents and household cleaners. 
 
there are many factors to take into account:
1. Price and procurement
2. health claims fact and fiction 
3. accessibility 
4. functionality (for example I may have overlooked that this thing doesn’t filter out mercury… but the website implies that it does but the third party report didn’t include and mercury. I am clarifying this with the company. I may need to find an additional filter for mercury. 
You may also need to develop your decision making and procurement skills when it comes to buying things. 
 
Create a wish list and be sure you have developed your personal finance administrative systems to keep track of your spending as you work on things like detoxing, fixing your diet, and replacing household items. 
 
no sense in beating yourself up, simply note the mistakes and refine.
 
I personally realize mistake making is a Normal thing… just refine refine refine and choose to see yourself as you really are.

They have dodgy chemicals on them. Teflon is the worst one, if you have a pet bird you can kill it by cooking with Teflon pans because of the fumes. Teflon also makes you sick if you put the temp too high. And it can flake off into your food too

You don't need studies. Maca works like crazy.

I can vouch for this too.

Funny enough your system doesn't seem to remove mercury.
Be ware of gimmicky consumer products for water filtration. And RO filters usually need to changed much sooner than 2 years. 6 months is typical.
You also want a system that remineralizes your water.

The greatest human will not be on any magazine cover and the public will not even know her name.
Because the public doesn't know how to recognize true greatness.

The problems you solve, the people you touch, the live you affect are the things creating impact. Nobody cares about your dreams or life purpose.

Observation openers work so well that I've transitioned all outside-the-club openers to observational.
The key is to realize your observations don't have to make a lick of logical sense.
"Hey! Girl in the pasta dress. Stop!"
"Hey! Elf girl. Stop!"
"Hey! Girl that looks like a fishing lure. Stop!"
"Hey! Girl in lingerie dress. Stop!"
"Hey! What the fuck kind of dress is that? What do you call that thing? Where'd you find that fucking thing?"
"Hey! How many alligators did you have to kill to make those boots, girl?"
"Hey! Pocahontas-looking girl. Stop!"
"Hey! Leprechaun girl. Stop!" (she's wearing green dress) This one will take some recovery work. Apparently girls don't like being called Leprechauns.
"Hey! Lizard girl. Stop!" (she's wearing green dress) This one will take some recovery work, Lol.
"Hey! Sparkly boots. Stop!"
"Hey! Cowgirl. Stop!"
"Hey! Why are you so short?" (she's extra tall)
"Hey! Girl that looks like a disco ball. Stop!"
"Hey! Bubble-gum shoes. Stop!"
"Hey! Woolly mammoth purse girl. Stop!"
"Hey! Goldilocks girl. Stop!"
"Hey! Tinkerbell girl. Stop!"
"Hey! Gold fish girl. Stop!"
You can make up this shit endlessly. Infinite observationals

Dude, this is so dumb.
Stop consuming this fear porn. That's all that is.
I told a girl at the bar that my friend and I have herpes and that since we are such generous guys, we would be happy to share it with her. That was my opener. She told me that I am unusually friendly for a Russian (she was part Russian too). I told her that she is gullible and that if I was a rapist I would take her to my rape van. I told her I am taking her to church to confess all her sins. She asked, which church. I said, the one that molests the most children. She was an attourney. I asked her if contracts make her wet. I told her I will have my attourney draft up some contracts for her. I told her to give me her fax number so I can fax her a black and white pixelated dick pic. She said she actually had a fax number. She gave me her biz card. She asked me what I do. I said I scrub toilets at Taco Bell and that I would scrub the shit out of her toilet. When I said that, I said it like I was talking about fucking her pussy out. She said, Perfect. I told her I am Asian from the waist down and that her ass was too much for me and that she needs a black dude for that ass. But that luckily I am actually black from the waist down. She said, Perfect. She asked for me to take her number. Finally she gave me permission to squeeze her giant tits in front of her friend.
I told another girl: "Damn, you have a nice body. I want to sell you into sexual slavery, like I did my mother." She giggled but that one blew me out. She still left laughing. It's hard to make that line hook because it's so purposefully outrageous. Still, I like to see how far I can push my verbals.
Be a fucking man. But be socially calibrated and non-creepy. This was all said in a cool and calibrated way.
I am not saying you noobs should go that far. But if you think you can't go that far with a girl all into it, you don't understand girls. I am telling you this so you understand what extremes are possible and that you are nowhere near the edge.
On the other hand, the fear in your eyes alone is enough to creep a girl out. It's not what you say but how you say it.

If that was true, that would actually be very high value and attractive.
A high value guy will enjoy his sushi more than a rando girl.
The paradox is that the girl wants to sleep with a guy who cares more about his sushi than her.

The whole point is that homeless people have tons of trauma, abuse, drug addiction, poor health, mental illness, low consciousness, lack of education, lack of skills, and deep victim mentality.
Of course if you have all that solved, rising out of homelessness is easy.
These kind of experiments make light of how seriously fucked homeless people are. A normal healthy person cannot even begin to comprehend the mental hell that homeless folk are in. They are not merely normal people who are acting lazy and need a motivational speech.
Many homeless people cannot even think a straight chain of logic. That's how fucked their mind is. They would not be capable of showing up to a job on time, let alone running a biz or the like.
Plenty of homeless have levels of consciousness closer to animals than high-functioning successful humans. Which is why even if you give each homeless a million dollars they will destroy themselves. The help they most need is education, truama healing, and addiction recovery. Not infusions of cash.