Pritpal Singh

@Derek White if one person is sober and the other one is not, no it is not consensual. It's great school is teaching you that. That is a very dangerous and slippery slope and it's a good principle to just avoid it all together. Personally I will very rarely have sex with my girlfriend if she's had anything to drink (I don't drink) and she's literally a consent educator lol! Of course if you are BOTH under the influence that changes things, but you have to realize people are quite easily manipulated while drunk (or on most drugs for that matter), and their intentions/wants are not completely transparent or aligned with what they might have wanted if they were sober in the same context. Devils will selfishly exploit this for their own pleasure. They think someone being drunk is explicit permission to advance. Don't be a devil. Be smart and respectful. That's a very authentic way of dealing with matters pertaining to sex. I myself don't drink but have heard many from PUA community as well as PU coaches recommending drinks to improve success rate for full closes. I am sure it works but for some reason its not my thing.

That's awesome. In fact I too had came to know about pickup through an indian forum itself around the year 2011-12. It was pickup cum self-improvement forum. It was an ocean of gyan (knowledge). There were times when for me internet was synonyms to that forum. I used to turn on my computer just to read and post on it, really miss those days. It bought so many capable but suppressed individual together and today many of them are doing something beyond normal and most are successful.

@The Don I once did badly in a campus placement interview and was sitting with classmates waiting for results. Obviously I was frustrated. I told my friends I am so damn frustrated that I want to drink. Knowing that I don’t drink, they asked me why you want to drink. I said because I am suffering right now. One of them replied with golden words that I still remember after more than a decade, “If you will drink alcohol it will increase your sufferings”. Yes most people including me are in constant state of suffering but alcohol will stop the sufferings only temporarily and once intoxication is over you will come back to normal state of suffering. You began to rely on alcohol to escape from suffering which is okay to an extent. However this very reliance on alcohol will stop you from becoming a strong and self-reliant person who does not require on alcohol to deal with his or her sufferings. Meditation, yoga, exercise, reading, writing, singing, playing musical instruments, painting, dancing, in fact pickup itself are examples of activities which one can indulge in, in order to escape from this cruel world that makes everyone suffer constantly.

@Inder You haven't mentioned about what your intuition tells you do. Is it telling you to: Quit 9-5 slavery and become self-employed, Quit current job and find another better job expecting it do provide better working conditions and salary, Quit current job and go for higher studies or Anything else We will be in a better position to address your problem, perhaps if you provide your inputs on above points.

@rnow You probably need to find your One thing. Now you will ask what is this one thing? I am currently reading this book called “The One Thing”. It is based on the concept of finding out the most important thing which will have the strongest impact on what you are trying to achieve in your life. A very important phrase in this book that goes like “What is the One thing you can do right now such that by doing it everything else becomes easy or unnecessary”. The author has explained this with a very good example. A person let’s call him Mr. X, had started a business it was doing fine but was not growing as per expectation. Mr. X consulted the author for overcoming stagnation. After the meeting author came to know that Mr. X has not yet hired heads of various departments like HR, Accounts, IT etc. and managing it himself. Thus he advised him to hire all department heads for and it will have maximum impact on your business profitability. In other words, “hiring all department heads” was the One thing for Mr. X at that moment such that by it everything else will become easy or unnecessary (meetings, planning, development) etc. Basically the idea is to zero down one One thing that will make the most amount of difference in the form of results you are trying to achieve. Hope you got the my point

@Melinda75 Firstly, sorry to know what you had to go through. Get few points clear in your head: What she did is nothing but molestation. No one has the right to do so to you, not even small, poor or weird woman. Unlike some third world country, US, has a strong Law enforcement system so make the most of it. It is your life, so no need to change your plans and relationship with your friend because of some weirdo. I understand that you are afraid to retaliate probably because you have not done so in the past. But it is important to take a stand for yourself and there is always first time. You will have to step out of your comfort zone because no one else (people noticed her acts but hardly any one took action) is going to do it for you. You are losing sleep because of her weird behaviour. Again I feel sorry for you but you need to understand no one has the right to destroy your peaceful sleep. Possible Actions you can take: Talk to your friend sternly about her behaviour one on one, in person. Make it clear to her that next time her cousin repeats this weird behaviour you will call 911 and she would be not only broke but behind the bars as well along with a possibly heavy fine, which her friend might have to pay from her own pocket. Remember it is she who is doing wrong in fact she is breaking the law, not you. Thus it should be she, who should be worrying about what she has done to you rather than you worrying about coming across her in future. Take proactive action. If there were CCTV cameras in any of the 2 venues/gathering (I am sure they must be there) you can complaint about her to police, right now. It will be evident from CCTV footage that she had been repeatedly molesting you. Next time you come across her immediately take out your mobile and start recording a video while warning her that I will record you stupid act and share the same to cops and you will spend rest of your life behind the bars. Be stern. Trust me she will not dare to even walk near you in future. These weirdos think they can easily get away with their shitty behaviour because they are poor and broke. Such molestation happen quite often in India (and I am sure in other countries as well) within the families by cousins, relatives etc. and sufferers are none other than innocent children. Unfortunately in most cases when child report the same to their parents they ask them to stay quiet about it for the fear of creating a scene, destroying a relationship with molester’s family or fear of retaliating (as in your case). But such acts impacts child’s psychology in a bad way. I can understand it must have had a bad psychological impact on your mind as well but shit happens. But truth is you and no one deserves it. So, no need to take shit from this shitty woman, anymore. Do let me know what action you took. Feel free to PM me for any support or suggestion. And as you have mentioned in one of your reply in this thread about "she dominating and bullying you". I don't think she has that intent. Bottom line is she is just a bi-sexual or lesbian and satisfying her lust. She has nothing against you it could have been any other attractive woman as well. Perhaps she must have molested other women as well in the past and got away with it because of which she has the courage to repeat same behavior with you again. So its high time you fix this shitty woman once up for all. All the best.

Thanks @Preety_India for your inputs but I was already well aware of pickup. However when i read the word "approach" in your reply i was not sure if you are referring to cold approach itself. Yes, over the last few years pick up has became a reality in India but still it was quite unexpected from an Indian girl to suggest it to a guy In fact you are the first girl I have came across who is not only aware of pickup but also suggesting it. Having said that percentage of guys doing it is very low as in any other country. It is something that requires a lot of homework in the form of reading, practicing, self improvement, courage, mentors, coming out of comfort zone etc. even to begin the journey which is completely worth it. By the way I am curious to know how you came to know about it from this forum itself or from some other source?

@Preety_India good inputs I am sure @Mongu9719 will be able make the most of them to find the partner he is looking for. I have a question based on your quoted reply. What exactly do you mean when you say approach. How will he be able to approach unknown people with the intention finding perfect partner? Kindly elaborate on this, thanks in advance.

@Preety_India Its not the tinder app which is scamm but its our culture which is so. Social media platforms like Facebook and Instagram too suffer from presence of these very shady and scamy people waiting to trap vulnerable guys and girls all the time. Even matrimonial apps like Shaadi and Jeevansathi suffer from exactly same drawbacks. Reason being scam is very much a part of our culture we scams everywhere all the time be it governments, stock market, IPL (Indian premier league) cricket, PSU banks, scam by taxi apps like Ola, Uber or Auto Rickshaws for that matter. And unfortunately things are unlikely to change unless we change ourselves and take a stand to bring about positive change in the society starting from our very families