Frankie
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Frankie replied to Jonathan's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Okay, if this is the case it could be beneficial. But I think most people who are working with affirmations are simply pumping their ego up to feel good. -
Frankie replied to Jonathan's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
In my case the first thing is the case. More and more stuff is being seen as ego related and not really necessary .... Why the heck think people that enlightenment would be easier with an healthy/rich/good/big/fat/whatever ego? From a logical point of view the complete opposite seems to be far more plausible. Why would you drop your ego when it's sooooooo healthy and good? -
Several weeks ago I saw a interview with Shinzen Young on Buddha At The Gas Pump (I was recommending this channel already in another thread ). They talked a bit about enlightenment, awakening, realizations and stuff. I can't recall the main message here but Shinzen mentioned something like this: If you go through the awakening process towards enlightenment without any teacher or teachings you can easily get to an point where you just feel okay being a bad guy .... ^^ I simply wanted to note this in this context.
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Frankie replied to Jonathan's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
For me it seems to be very counterproductive. With one technique (self-inquiry) you get to the essence of things. Maybe to a point where you get in touch with the pure consciousness and (referring to Mooji) "true self". But with affirmations you cobble some new stuff around your ego which already should be perceived as a construct .... congratulations - now you've come round in a circle! -
Looks like the German Actualized Meetup should either take place in Berlin or BW.
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Hi Folks, as an follow-up to my other relationship thread in this forum I'm wondering if it's possible to have an relationship when being enlighted or on the path to enlightenment. The question arose on the simple sentence: I love you. You all know that this isn't true. At least intellectually we know that neither the "I" nor the "You" exists. So maybe there is love around or not but it cannot be fixed at one person. When your partner is saying "I love you" and you respond the same to him/her you're faking it or you know that you are still attached to him/her and must let go this attachment to get further on your path. So having a partner appears to be not a really good starting point for achieving enlightenment or am I wrong?
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@Boss You can also try to trick yourself: If it's an task which takes i.e. 30 minutes or even longer until it's done I convince myself to just try it for about 5 or 10 minutes - if it still doesn't feel well I have the opportunity to stop the task then. After working on this task for 5 or 10 minutes it usually doesn't feel as worse as before so I finish the task almost always.
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With all our scientific knowledge it could never be proved that a life after this one exists. There maybe some references which could be a sign that there could be a kind of an afterlife - but it's very vague. Even near death experiences could be explained with the release of dissociative drugs in our brain. My personal conclusion is that I want to achieve a non-dual state of consciousness - so in any case it doesn't matter what happens because I know that all is one. ;-)
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Frankie replied to Ross's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
You could question who is it who has this feeling? To whom it appears this way? Look deeply .... it depends on the feeling but some are just melting away under the light of awareness ..... -
In der Tat.
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- Using f.lux on my PC (also available on other plattforms) to adjust the color temperature to the current daytime. Before I've been using this I got some problems with my eyes after long periods of work in front of my computer and I think that my sleeping problems also improved because of this .... - Taking some vitamin D3. (I wasn't ill since that and it improves mood as well.) - Doing physical exercise at least 2 times a week. (I believe it doesn't really matter what you do as long as you do something.) - Using the time-management / task planning methode "Getting Things Done". (I'm using the app "remember the milk" for this but I believe there also other good ones.)
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@wasabelll I'm also in the club. I'm a bit older (36) and have long hair (even some girls get envy ). But I've lost already a huge amount of hair in the last years and it still continues. It's a slow process so I can adapt my self-perception to it which makes it currently no big thing. Already before I started with meditation and the spiritual path I've simply modified the sentence from "Fight Club" which goes like this: My addition: "You are not the hair that you've got". So everything is fine.
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According to this excrept from the SAND conference IT DOES:
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Thanks for your answers @werlight @Rufus ! I think I understand your point but isn't love = attachment = suffering ? At least if I think of "romantic" declarations of love ("can't live without you",...). In the buddhistic sense Nirvana is the state where all suffering ends - so there can't be any holding on to attachments of any kind. If the equation above is true then there could be no love in Nirvana as well ....
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Frankie replied to Emerald's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
@Emerald Wilkins In this video there are some (different) techniques described which aren't limited to thoughts they work also with emotions and feelings. For me personally the Sedona technique works best but maybe you'll get to another conclusion: -
Gyokuro. In general every green tea which is cultivated in the shadow produces a quite higher amount of caffeine....
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Good question. I don't know if there was a similar thing in my life so far. At least not to this extend. I've noticed this urge about two years ago so it is nothing I've noticed recently and now I need to act upon this immediately .... however after this period of time I can probably say for sure that it will not go away on its own. (except I'll manage it to ignore this for 10 or 20 years until my testo level drops significantly or I get enlightenend ) Of course this is possible. Feeling lonely, insecure, having social anxiety, no friends, ... I came exactly from this place 20 years ago. During the last 10-15 years I've made giant steps forward. So the only thing which IMO could be a (additional?) reason is the longing for a certain kind of approval. But then you could trace back my will to succeed in my business (I'm an entrepreneur) also to this "approval thing". Also the pursuit of having success with my music (I'm a musician as well) and so on .... I think the need for recognition, for approval, gives me the drive to do things and to be successful. From my point of view this is not bad. Lately the thought came to my mind that it's not really the urge to live a promiscuous life in general but that I've just outgrown my gf....
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Thanks for the answers so far! It gave me some input ... This is a good point. We're sharing some interests (music, festivals, traveling....) but besides this there's no common goal. We both don't have the urge to have kids. Regarding my journey into meditation and self-optimizating is her opinion rather that this is humbug... So probably the distance between us rather grows than shrinks. The experience itself could be fun. Just kidding: The main reason is that the urge for having these experiences could stop. At least I would hope that it'll do. In the past I've taken very many different drugs and accumulated different experiences with them. I've had the impulse to test them all, to expand my mind and blah-blah .... Afterwards I can say that I would have not really missed anything if I hadn't these experiences. But this is only a knowing which comes afterwards. Okay, I'll browse Leo's video archieve again for some inspirations.
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@Gerhard Have taken Piracetam for a long time (not continuously but over many periods of several months). I took also Oxiracetam a few times .... Besides the general side effects of this drugs I think there is no negative influence on self-actualization in general. I think meditation works a bit better but you shouldn't be dependent on any drug to meditate at any time at all ....
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Cheating is just happening because free will doesn't exists at all. ;-) (^^ Inspired by Paul Smit who said the sentence "Hitler was just happening".)
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Minimalism rocks. I.e. I can say, that I own only three pair of shoes: One pair of leather boots which I wear all year long and two pairs of running shoes (there are two because I wanted to trash one pair but walking with this shoes seems still possible so they are in grace period yet). It makes things easier. Just have only one single item of a special category which is doing the job great is absolutely enough for me. In addition I like to trash or sell one thing when I come home with a new one (irrespective if it's a new computer hardware, a piece of clothing or something else).
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@Ranojoy Dutta You could also benefit from starting meditation. Just a simple breath counting meditation (you can find a bunch of videos on youtube about this). No special thing just count your breath from 1 to 10 .... you will probably lose the count in the beginning but for me my ability to concentrate increased noticeable after practising meditation for a while. Just 15 minutes per day or something like this ....
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Frankie replied to Nathalie's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
According to Gary Weber there are different thought types: You got the "problem solving thoughts", which might contain a I/me/my but that is only for the solving of the problem ("How do I get there?") and then you got the "ego-related I/me/my thoughts" ("Why is this [always] happening to me?"). You can cut out the last category unnecessary ego-related thoughts completely. Some folks might get to this state by using plain mindfulness meditation. Gary Weber recommends self-inquiry. My personal experience is also if your mind gets still enought (i.e. during meditation) self-inquiry in addition can be very useful. -
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I think this makes all sense: If someone stops masturbation while having a GF he benefits probably from better and/or more sex. If a single quits masturbation he should get laid at least once a week. If this is the case he can profit from an higher testosterone level. If not according the data we have (chinese study) the testosterone level will surely drop after one week. If you don't know it - Dave Asprey has made also some experiments with sex abstinence: According to another study I've recently read the testo level drops after having sex (AFAIK not as much as after long periods of no sex or sexual stimulation at all) irregardless if you ejaculate or not. I just want to mention this fact because according to Dave's experiment the best result for him was to have sex often but to ejaculate only once per month or so ....