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Reframe: My ability to earn relative to my accumulated debt is hindering my position.

Nothing makes me cringe more than seeing "e-commerce guru/coaches" and all alike. I've seen "Coaches for Consultants" lmao. I implicitly/intuitively feel that MANY of them are just full of sh*t given how easy it is to sell high-priced digital products but I would imagine some are pretty credible and great. In all seriousness, it is what is is, If you THINK you need it then you probably don't...but I my approach (bias) stems more along of what Steve Jobs once said:

How about........instead of theorizing/reading, go out and try to sell something and see what happens #DirectExperience

Yeah, this reminds me alot with a line of reasoning of: "Rent can be an asset as you have freedom from debt" - "Mortgage is the LEAST you will pay, Rent is the MOST you will pay" - Focus on building an asset/cash flow until you can buy what you WANT in CASH

Meta: This is ONE financial philosophy, not the BEST nor "the one TRUE perspective". For example. someone (as some people I know directly) may create wealth via building amazing credit to get fantastic loans and leverage their CREDIT for positive ROI against the interest on their loans. Don't get lost on these mere naive notions of: "the banks want to trap you in debt!" or "buying house with a mortgage IS a scam", etc. The BEST perspective IS.....educate yourself, determine what life you want to live, then execute on THAT vision.

Sounds like "the typical person" - Stuck in wage slavery and insecure about their creative ability/passions. I think this is MUCH more important: If you are uncertain to the degree that you are creating a thread and asking strangers on a forum.....what success COULD you imagine for yourself? (Literal question) If you REALLY want "it": Get DEAD F***ING SERIOUS and COMMIT.

Monkey see Monkey do. Do NOT underestimate how powerful aping is among the human mind....

Hint: Imagine you are wearing swim shorts and walking up to someone standing at the edge of pool then asking them "Hey, how do I start swimming?" TAKE. ACTION. "Eventually I want to provide AI solutions to businesses: such as AI controlled help desks" Just do it ~ Nike

I go along with the conventional advice that dating within the workplace or a coworker is not really a wise decision, but if you ARE going to follow through with it then STEP. STRONG. This is always missed by so many guys: If you WANT the girl, then behave accordingly. Typically, the more time that passes with a woman and you didn't "shoot your shot", the less probable that will be. * Every day you spend "not closing the deal" is another day missed with her * Uncertainty within you, as a man ("The Leader" in relationships, conventionally speaking) will pour over into the relationship; Relationships don't SOLVE this, it must come from YOU. (External does not change Internal) * Here a brutal truth (I love hitting this point of view): So....if you are "emotionally disrupted" by the pitiful idea of "will you get a reply or not".....what do you think would become of the relationship? (I am being dead f****g serious here, do this thought experiment). Lets assume that "she does reply", this won't solve the root issue but only "kick the can down the road" to re-open the same problem with a different pitiful idea (example: she has some errand/activity that involves another guy/friend). Good luck my guy

Oooh, this may be a dagger: Should you be in that line of business then? Business is hyperpractical and impersonal, it doesn't care "what you want" outside of the transaction.

"Nothing is awkward until you make it awkward" , The Law of State Transference if you will. Simply put: I think you should focus more the internal than external, otherwise .....uh, "it will be very mechanical", not genuine

I haven't read what the other vermin that are replying in this thread have said (jp all jokes), but: To save you some time/improve your efficiency 1. How is your physique? Not to say you need to follow the Alpha Male/Red Pill notion of "6 pack = 6 bishes at the same time" but appearances certainly make a mark 2. How is your ENERGY? Quantity is peanuts if your Quality isn't worth a damn. Are you TRYING YOUR BEST and EXERTING yourself with each women are simply throwing a mere "Uh...Hi, my name is X..and I...uh, think you look nice......" What are you offering? If a girl meets you, what experiences can you imagine having with you? Being a LEADER & CREATOR. Otherwise, its like a sh*t business offering a sh*t product then complaining about no customers lol...Change your offering! 3. Bro, **** the numbers. Focus less on the numbers and more on the experiences/growth/Truth. This is not a video game lmao, its not like the Universe is going to say "Ok, you've accomplished 200 approaches, you have unlocked: 1 free bl**job" LOL. You're looking at this like an "event" with a deadline rather than a "process/vision" that you are consistently cultivating, refining and improving. 4. Lastly, keep your head bro. I have no idea who you/what you look like/what you do/etc. but the vibe from your message seems...."weak". You gotta be comfortable BEING yourself first.

"do the necessary to not get fired" ~ Its called Game Theory, I recall from source however long ago along the lines that "Aim to be the top 30%, thats high enough to not get fired and be on the good side while not try-harding". But yeah, you're attitude sucks. Here is a challenge (speaking as a self-learning Software Engineer): A beauty about software is that the limits are nearly fucking limitless, you say "most projects are nonsensical"....well ok......do you have a better idea? If you do, then you can literally get to work IMMEDIATELY from ANYWHERE as long as you don't have a computer. If you don't have a better idea....well then you found what you should be doing rather than venting a forum. Good luck bud ;D

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Here is a perspective/experiment: You're creating a imaginary scenario where that may happen. If it does, and people see it, so what? I like to think that Shame stems from a rejection of Truth.

I think, Truth is Truth (lol). "If you are serious", then that is the ONLY thing that matters, else is just a distraction or unnecessary deviation. Here is a simple analogy: Do you think Michael Jordan/Kobe Bryant would a SINGLE fuck if you "harshly" (but truthfully) criticized their game??? REALLY think about that. Some more context that I would like to add that may be enlightening, (using MBTI/16 personalities as a model) - Leo is a self-claimed INTP (aka The Thinker/The Philosopher), INTP's strongest quality is their "Introverted Thinking" with their weakest/repressed quality being "Extroverted Feeling" (the exact feature you're complaining about). You must understand something for what it is, and for what its worth, Leo may be one of the most actualized INTP's I have EVER come across and its fitting because thats exactly what you get. The. Fucking. Truth. INTP's don't prioritize "delivering in a emotionally-tolerable way" or "cushioning the message" (that something an ENFJ or so would do).

Sup peoples, I personally like to spend time everyday in what I call "grace" by broadening my worldview to incorporate a bigger picture for some context. I live in the USA (as I imagine many of you may as well) and try to communicate as much as possible how fucking "easy" life is here; it is so easy (for the most part), that the difficult part is NOT getting too comfortable. Appreciate what you have and strive to improve the quality of life (of others) as much as possible. - A WHOLE FAMILY has been WORKING (not sitting down in air-conditioned office job that they drove to, but creating bricks in a desert) for 23 YEARS, giving up half their pay in order to "pay a hospital bill debt" (which happens to have no record). Can you imagine that? No customer support line. No brand to threaten against. No legal system to protect you. No wealth or power to fight back with. No one is coming to save them. etc. Damn.

Hm, a comparison: You can eat as many calories as you'd like, IF....you know how to burn off the calories. Money is psychological. IT does NOT think (anything of you). Also, I think money advice highly correlates with your intended lifestyle. If you want: To create wealth quickly, (10 years or less) then "saving and investing" into the stock market initially is terrible as investing into a business or your personal skillset/knowledge would probably be a much higher ROI, make sense?

1. How is your physical health? You in good shape? 2. How do you FEEL when you look at yourself in the mirror? 3. Hows your sexual psychology? Think you may be watching too much Porn? 4. Since you evidently "already have" opportunities to get some play, you're clearly doing something right and think you should compound that. Leo has some videos in regards to sexual-advice topics that I think could be helpful to you and my last 2 cents would be: Sex is a dynamic and as a male, you are the LEADER and CREATOR; it IS what YOU make it to be. This is a big pointer to why the "best sex" is not mechanical and can't be instructed because its like Creative/Fluid/Dynamic, you give to her based on how she is FEELING about it. Not to be too ideological or whatever but I'm speaking from EXPERIENCE: "Being within this Masculine way" should give you a "certain energy" (Full of *** and "at full mast"); Almost like...."When the student is ready, the Master appears".