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I don't intend to go back and forth etc. etc. and whatnot but what intrigued me the most about this is the clear (at least to me) dynamic of "Orange" vs "Green" in Spiral Dynamics. Patrick Bet-David clearly (perhaps heavily biased) in favor of Free Markets & Capitalism, etc. ("Someone who is struggling financially is because its THEIR OWN fault") Sam Seder in favor of "Equality" and "Ethos-Efficiency", etc. ("Someone who is struggling financially is because the system could be better balanced/favored") Quick little generalizations I made but these conflicts/fights/debates are always interesting to me given the obvious presence of self-bias and lack of integral/systems/holistic thinking.

Confidence. Absolutely impeccable and genuine confidence. How do you get there? Up to you, but I would generally advise: Educate yourself (not the surface level BS provided by society by DEEP pursuits), Take care of your appearance (Fitness & Styling), Find yourself (What interests and motivates you? What gets you talking and in ACTION?) and lastly Social Intelligence (understand cues, norms, cultures, etc.) What "happened" that creeped them out?

Salvia? (o.o).........

Life is about Exquisite balance ;D

What do YOU want? Lol, sound like you're outsourcing your Authority of preferences to us (o.o)

*Speaking from someone who is developing software/building a product* Speaking freely as I have little idea about you but: I'd suggest either lead with passion (I love what I am doing) or venture (this product will explicitly earn money). Personally, I would advise looking into "Web3" as there are many opportunities to tackle HUGE markets as the space could be seen as a frontier. Another unique quality about Tech is that its always evolving and you should try to stay on the cutting-edge as much as possible (seeing that you want to refrain from "mercenary work"). Lastly, with the release of ChatGPT and all other AI tools......there has never been a better time in the history of the world to solo build software. You want to be a product owner? Ok. Get off forums. Stop asking people who don't have "skin in the game", research the current technologies, evaluate what skills you currently have and languages your are familiar vs what will need to be learned, etc. You can't be an (original) OWNER and outsource the vision to someone else, it should be YOU selling IT to OTHERS. Good luck

+1. "People are peopling. It's like a human zoo."

Very solid advice by Leo per usual. As for "courses", nope. Whats the business idea? Conventional wisdom says to tackle ventures within the means of your resources + ambition.

"Rationally", sure..but Marriage/The Family Unit is certainly the best environment to raise kids and the actuality of "We are together but I don't want to MARRY you because of the risk I would endure"......well....one could imagine how something like that would end up.

"high-quality women can really push you to be a high-quality man." +1

To complement the rest of advice here, Patrick Bet David made a similar remark "Marry with a 3, not a 2" (30s > 20s). Some quick points I'd like to add: - Modern society is pretty damn easy in terms of brute survival contrast to what our ancestors went through, so "lets team up early so we can survive" appears to be less prominent as DATING standards as risen since LIFE standards have risen. - Conventional wisdom says: Choosing your spouse is THE MOST impacting economic decision you will ever make in your life; you don't have to look far to see men that have been RUINED by Divorce but can just as easily see Men leading marriages so deep in love and prosperity that would be something out of a fantasy. - Again, "modern day", assuming that your are taking your health/vitality serious, not much sense in expecting that you would have significantly less energy all things going well - Lastly: Keep growing, broaden your worldview with diverse experiences, DEEPLY find yourself and be grounded like a mountain, and choose WISELY. Good luck man

As a (for simplicity sake....) black person, I don't "systemic RACism" is mostly deteriorated thus pretty much some horseshit that victim-minded people may occasionally throw around. Does it exist? Perhaps/Probably, but I think its DOMINANTLY more about Culture/Class above else

No lol. YOLO

I like this metaphor, nice. But to OP, Leo touched on this topic in one of his older videos ( iirc ) about "in a sense, you are 'higher' than your fellow peers, etc." "But at the same time I don't feel like I've achieved any real success yet in life. Getting a high paying job is really hard for me. Starting a business is hard. Going to grad school is hard. Finding my purpose is hard. It's weird. " ~~ I would advise to double check your priorities. It is easy to get lost in philosophy/Truth while neglecting your SURVIVAL. MATURELY develop through EVERY stage; The same way you feel that you are "recognize the idiocy" of those ignorant to truth, others could do for your survival. Humility is the key.

Noted. I'm going to have to fly to another state (legal reasons) to do so and not leaving until I breakthrough (on my first time :D). Keep us updated with a trip report!

Recheck the post, but to that, I would say....Balance. Minimalism is the counter to recent developments in society that propel 'activity/stimulation/consumerism' to which Minimalism is essentially the polar opposite. Each end of the spectrum has their benefits but up to you to discover what fits you best

Of course! Anyone that understands the "industry" all hop in and collaborate with one another. Is this not obvious?

+1 But passion is CRITICAL, being talented/proficient also helps perpetuate motivation; kinda hard to want to do something you suck at (which is why passion is the primary fuel. "Because you WANT to" (because you LOVE it))

Survival --> Self-Actualization --> Spirituality; I would reference Spiral Dynamics as a model to consider.

I am: ENFJ/ENTJ/INFJ/INTJ/INTP/ENTP..lol seriously. Which type you are typically depends on "how you are processing information" (how you are being, etc.) and though I deeply understand each profile/archetype, I don't consistently fit into any single one. I typically roll with ENTJ/ENFJ because its most necessary for my Purpose

2 powerful realizations I have had regarding "note-taking" that I would like to share: 1) "Just because I wrote it down doesn't mean I learned it" - Context being: You can come across information or even derive truth for yourself via insight but it is borderline pointless if you don't INTEGRATE it (Learning = Behavior Change, by Leo) 2) *Particularly within HIGH states of consciousness, such as tripping on LSD/shrooms or VERY deep meditation* - I become aware of the frugality of "writing something down" because....why would I? Lol. I already know it. This second point bring an interesting notion of Duality; you wouldn't write something down that was obvious to you in the same way that you wouldn't take a picture of something you may see all the time. Like many things in Life, it is how you take it to be.

+1

Ill let you know in some months after my FIRST go ;D

Amazing, I immediately intuited that the poster must be a woman when I saw the title. I experience something very similar (although I have observed that I have a "switch"; I can feel EVERYTHING or NOTHING) but I have moved on this as a kernel for my life purpose, if you will. I wouldn't say that I am nihilistic but I am IMMENSELY more motivated to "go out and do things" by holding these understood negative feelings of others. Perhaps masculinity & femininity may play a role in regards to mobilizing based on the pain of others. I'd definitely recommend trying to channel the emotions into contributing back to society somehow that best suits you.

@mr_engineer Yeah OP, I think this guys first message has a great theme that I think would work best for you. My quick ass summary: You weren't (sexually) attractive enough and didn't "catch the hook". Girls tend to make these decisions VERY quickly upon MEETING you so if you want her, GO FOR it, otherwise it will likely stale out (into the "friendzone")