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It sounds very much like you have an anxious attachment style and with that comes a fear of abandonment. You can work on this, but an important thing for you is being with someone who has a secure attachment style. Does your partner seem secure or avoidant? does she reassure you when you need it? try and figure out if this is the right relationship for you. I had a similar situation with an ex boyfriend, he was liking girls pictures and secretly messaging girls. So when I was upset about it, it seemed like I was the crazy and insecure one. But I was really naive at the time and blamed myself for being too needy, so I tried to ignore it for a while. But that just made things worse and I ended up an anxious mess. so the important thing is having a compassionate and secure partner who you can open up to and talk about your fears with.

The Beckhams. Because they have stayed together through the ups and downs when they would be attacked by the media and faced a lot of scandals. David was accused of cheating, Victoria has always been criticised for her appearance etc. Now they are older and the kids are grown up and they seem to be a lovely family and always doing things together.

Not this again lol there is already 5000 threads on this..

The way I see it is there are these options: 1. you continue as you are and accept him 2. you have an intervention with him, tell him exactly how you feel and what you don’t like about his behaviour. Tell him he needs to step up and take responsibility. See how he responds. 3. Distance yourself from him and eventually cut him out of your life if he’s not willing to change. usually this type of person needs a wake up call.

Placebo? sorry I had to..

Start showing interest in others, ask people about their life. Learn about others and you will in turn learn about yourself.

If you don’t want to go, don’t go. Tell the truth to your other family members about why you won’t be attending.

Is this going to be a pickup/male dating related course or is it for everyone?

Great news ? Also just notice how your post was instantly met with negative comments and assumptions. I wish you well in your new relationship!

I think also if you look around, most advice about love and relationships is tailored towards women, so I think women deal with this stuff easier because there is so much advice out there for women. Whereas men are expected to already know what they’re doing, so they have more confusion about everything and they would be more likely to come to an online forum anonymously and vent their feelings. Especially because they also feel shamed for opening up, and if they might be embarrassed talking about it for fear of not ‘being a man’. And it’s only until fairly recently that men are asking for help in this area. They also learned to keep quiet. So basically both sexes get shamed in different ways for opening up. Both are told not to be needy. They just look for help and deal with things in different ways.

We only don’t see women complaining here because this is a male dominated forum and I think many women don’t want to post because of that. And just in general more spiritual women won’t be complaining so much about men, they are just working on themselves and avoiding toxic relationships. But in the ‘real world’ women complain about men all the time. All my life I’ve heard girls complain they can’t find a nice boyfriend etc. If you go to another female dominated forum you will probably find a lot of complaints. The thing is that women usually talk to their friends about this stuff, or they keep it to themselves, so they don’t come accross as needy. You won’t find as many women discussing it in online forums. They would more likely google a problem and then read some article for advice. Remember it’s women who have been the ones who are told they are too needy for the longest time. (At least in my culture growing up) I never heard of a man being too needy until I came to this forum. I was always told not to be needy or clingy to men or they will leave. So I think this is deeply ingrained in women so they go the opposite and try not to ‘make a fuss’ when they’re needs aren’t being met. women do get depressed, lonely and unhappy they just hide it well. women are told they are being too needy when they’re needs aren’t being met. So they learn to keep quiet.

Depends on who it is and the context/situation.

I'm a Libra and the traits sound like me. My boyfriend is also a Libra and we match well.

As long as it’s homemade and organic you can eat it with a clear conscience lol

Lol I just remembered, when I was a kid I had a friend who said she was a vegetarian but she would still eat the chicken nuggets from McDonald’s. I was like I thought you were a vegetarian? She told me ‘yeah, but the chicken nuggets aren’t real chicken so it’s ok’

@BlackMaze Oh yeah totally, It’s not filling. You have to eat 20 nuggets, 2 double cheeseburgers and fries to feel full. But it’s cheap and that’s why it thrives. Although I did hear that many McDonald’s have closed now because they aren’t busy enough. They are literally everywhere. I went to the smallest random village in the Philippines and there was a McDonald’s.

@BlackMaze mcdonalds was pretty cheap though, I don’t know how it is now because I haven’t been there for about 3 years. But it depends where you live, in my home town McDonald’s was the only place open late night. These days I live in a city with many posh junk food places, I would never choose McDonald’s. Posh junk places are more expensive, many don’t have the money to eat at such a place, so Donald’s is affordable for teens, students, poor people etc. They can’t be paying 15€ for a hipster burger.

The only times I went to McDonald’s was when drunk and it was the only place still open. Usually taking a taxi to the drive-through. Good times.

I’m missing travelling so much and looking for inspiration for when I can travel again freely... this was in the Philippines a few years ago ?

Another thing is that with the rise of dating apps and social media, there is now way too much choice. You meet someone but think maybe there is someone better so you ditch them. People have became way, way more disposable. Because of dating apps it’s made guys see girls as literally just a number, how many matches can they get, how many girls can they sleep with. Literally just a number. and because of how glaringly obvious this has become, girls have become much more cautious about who they go out with. It’s always been known that men want sex, but because of social media etc. It’s much more out in the open and girls are more aware about being used and what red flags to look out for. so it seems they became more picky, but really they just got more aware.

Bring back singles nights and blind dates.

Dates back to the 1600’s when prostitutes would use the name to refer to their pimps. the pimps would be somewhat of a father figure to the prostitutes.

Update: I found a man who specialises in trigger point massage. Was amazing. I have so many painful trigger points in my neck and shoulders, and knots in the back of my head, and this is where all my tension is getting trapped. I will continue with him every 2 weeks. The masseuse also told me that I should do Qigong so I have started with some YouTube videos to get into it, then I will see if I can find a studio. I found this nice little old lady

I am going to have my wisdom teeth removed in a few months.. the ones on the bottom need to come out because they never came through properly because there isn’t space, so every 6 months or so they are giving me pain and sensitivity. But they also remove the top ones otherwise it would affect my bite. I’m a little bit scared, the thought of pulling teeth out when they aren’t causing a huge problem is freaking me out, and also having a gap where they used to be will feel weird. I heard that wisdom teeth aren’t necessary to be taken out and it’s more of a money making scheme. anyway, the process will be done with local anaesthesia and that if I want they will offer me a Valium before the procedure is done. What else can I do to make sure the whole thing goes smoothly and heals correctly? Does anaesthesia contain heavy metals? I’ve had it before some years ago. they also offered me to have an additional treatment with blood platelets, where they remove some blood from my arm, and then add that to the wound to make it clot, and It’s supposed to increase healing. It’s an extra €80 (health insurance covers the removal) but I don’t know if this is necessary.

Create a new friendship group outside of school. They sound like the typical flakey people of today who put no effort into their relationships. Go meet new people.