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I did the personality test, hahaha and guess what... I got INFP ‘mediator’ ? It sounds a lot like me for sure, it also sounds like my Libra traits. I used this website https://www.16personalities.com/personality-types the results also grouped me with the ENFP ‘campaigner’ There’s so much stuff to read on this. What else do you know about this type? Lol.

Just out of curiosity, does drinking vegetable juices cause the same problems? Is it the fibre that is the problem?

Well exactly. it’s all objectifying and fake. as a high status man how do you know the hot woman is not only with you for your status or money? as a hot woman, how do you know the high status man is not only with you for how you look? I’m rooting for people finding real honest connections.

Just one example of how women are viewed already at the age of only 36 as being past it. @Brandon Nankivell women are well aware of the impossible beauty standards that society sets for them and they play into that game. Some play the game more seriously than others. Some just have some fun with it and don’t take it too serious. Today.. Make-up and skin products are marketed directly towards the insecurities of women. Magazines, Instagram etc etc are there precisely to feed people’s insecurities, leading the beauty industry and plastic surgeons to profit billions every year off the back of people’s negative self image and feelings of inadequacy. It’s all very toxic stage orange and superficial. There is no denying that.. It’s programmed from an early age, most of it is unconscious and woven so deep into the fabric of society that it’s just normal. Your mother wears makeup so then you do, your friends use makeup so you do, shops are selling it, you see it on tv and in magazines. Then without realising it, it’s just a part of your life. I think this is also more prominent in countries where there is a heavy media influence. Even more so now with Instagram, makeup artists have now became advertisers for beauty brands. Now you see girls wearing more makeup than ever, there is now a different product and brush for each fraction of the face. There are thousands of colours to choose from. Consumerism driven. Personally I think women in this game are in fact judged more by other women for how they look. Women try to outdo other women. At a certain point, is that even about trying to attract a man or just trying to get validation for oneself and prove you are better looking than another girl? So yeah, ego trying to survive. I feel like men on an individual level really aren’t that judgemental about women’s looks, Of course they are to some degree... they want to be attracted to their girl. But I don’t think most guys are constantly judging their girlfriend for having some acne breakout, or for not having perfect hair or a perfect body...Unless they are the very superficial/ bitchy type. .... Makeup can be enjoyed in a non toxic way though. It’s not all survival of the fittest. There is still a very feminine aspect to it all, which is also natural and not only survival driven. Maybe you want to express your mood by wearing a bright eyeshadow or a bright lipstick. On a day when you aren’t feeling expressive then just a natural look might appeal more. Some people rarely wear makeup, but then use a little bit for a special occasion to feel nice. Yes there is a feel good factor to wearing makeup and dressing up, it’s also a girly trait. All the colours, sparkly and shiny things are attractive to girls. Actually my best friend, who never wears makeup, at age 27, developed a curiosity when she saw me applying lipstick one time. She then wanted to try it and now she owns 1 colourful lipstick that she uses if we go on a night out. She was a tomboy growing up, always hanging around with boys and was never around typical girly things. But there is a natural curiosity around it. you can scream it’s for men all you want, and maybe sometimes it is, but it can be used in other unique ways too that aren’t just attraction oriented.

Interesting. I’ll try doing the test again. But how do we know that those types don’t have ADD if they have the same symptoms?

@integral how accurate is this hair testing, have you done it? I don’t know what my personality type is, I did the test a while ago but I don’t remember. But yeah I was thinking at what point is this just because I’m bored of the conversation? Lol I mean, that’s not the only symptom, I basically have all the symptoms except for hyperactivity - which isn’t as common in girls as it is in boys. Although I am always fidgeting. I started testing for adhd, but then at the time I decided that I didn’t need a diagnosis or a label and that knowing it wouldn’t change anything and i didn’t want to be medicated, so I didn’t complete the final test.

@Karmadhi @Rilles lol basically the forum brings out people’s true colours

@Ima Freeman thanks ? I figured that my ADD symptoms are coping mechanisms developed in childhood for survival, the brain doesn’t fully develop when certain psychological needs aren’t met, particularly between the age of 0-3. I think these toxins could also be playing a part then, could you elaborate on what environmental toxins I should be wary of.. Are you talking mainly about heavy metals or something else ? I use mostly natural products, eat plant based diet, don’t buy canned food, filter my water, avoid processed and sugary foods.

It’s all very surface level stage orange stuff. Only caring about appearance and material things.

Exactly a man wants to get a hot woman mostly so he himself looks good

yes status and lots of money gets you hot women but we already know this. take away the status and the money, will she still be with the dude? I doubt it!

Some reasons people wear makeup.. Because they want to Boost Confidence Acne/skin problems Emphasise features Creativity experimenting with different products/colours Look better on camera - men also wear natural makeup to go on TV and do photo shoots To look older Or.. to look younger It’s fun to apply and practice with - Being able to do makeup well is a skill Fit in to social beauty expectations to be accepted by both women and men by looking more attractive Culture or friend group - whether or not your sisters/mother/friends wear makeup to dress up and feel pretty or cute women aren’t wearing makeup for the purpose of going out and meeting a man. It’s much bigger than that.

There is no one truth. Women use makeup for many reasons. It’s a form of self expression.

And knowing this helps you how exactly?

Yeah actually you are right about that. Yeah of course if you have money it’s easier to pay your way out. When it comes to schools, allegations have to be taken seriously though. It’s a safety breach. I know what you’re saying, I don’t think anyone is denying that it’s a horrible thing to be falsely accused and can ruin a persons life.

Hmm I dunno about that. The accuser gets just as much backlash for accusing. For example when women come out in the media about being abused by some celeb, so many people don’t believe them and say it’s a lie. like recently with Marilyn Manson. A lot of people were on his side and calling Evan Rachel wood a liar.

@Parththakkar12 So isn’t this pretty much what the falsely accused should also do? Try and understand the false accusers perspective and understand why they are doing it? best thing you can do is be more wary of the type of women you hang around with. Try and be a better judge of character. If you have the perception that women are manipulative and only out to get you then chances are you will attract that type of a woman. women have to learn to avoid dangerous types of men, dangerous situations, and be careful who they decide to sleep with. So men can also learn more awareness about who they are sleeping with, and wonder why they are attracting toxic women. If you want to sleep with many women then you should be even more cautious since you don’t know them well enough. Of course none of this stops a crazy person making a random accusation for no reason.

@Parththakkar12 that still doesn’t stop crazy people from saying crazy things. btw, there are times when a girl comes forward about rape, but she gets a lot of backlash so out of fear she withdraws the rape claim, then that is seen as a false accusation even if it was true. This is also a problem. How do we know if something was really false or they dropped the charges out of fear. How do we know something didn’t go down and now it’s 1 word against the other because there isn’t enough evidence?

I get what you are saying, you want to shine a light on the men who have been falsely accused, and acknowledge their suffering. I can imagine the hurt that might cause. For anyone to have lies told about them, or to not be believed about something is a terrible feeling. But understand that these women are acting from a place of hurt, or plain crazy and toxic. As @Gesundheit said earlier, for a woman to make a false rape accusation is probably because she wants to get money, for example from a celebrity. Or, she has been hurt by the man and wants revenge. Or simply crazy and has a warped world view. Of course, none of this makes it right or is a valid reason to make a false accusation, but that is generally where it comes from. I once had a crazy guy tell lies about me and even attacked my family home. He was an old friend of my brother so we knew eachother as kids, but then I never saw him again. Years later he went off the rails. He basically made up a story in his head that I was working in a bar and had spiked his drink with drugs, and he was messed up from it. I didn’t work in a bar and hadn’t seen him for 10 years. He threw bricks through our window with a message attached, with lots of abuse and my name written. He also threw bricks through my mams car and sisters car windows. The whole street knew what was going on and were suspicious of me and assumed these messages were true. He told this whole story to the police. The police came questioning me, believing that something must have happened between us. I was afraid to go out and we had to get extra security measures on the house like cctv and a lock on the letterbox. In the end it turned out he had mistaken me for someone else, but he somehow painted a picture of me in his mind. He was taking a lot of drugs. In the end he went to jail and did a few months for damages and harassment. Some years later he went back to prison for almost killing a man. But yeah, that is an example of someone crazy making false accusations against someone. Of course i wasn’t accused of rape, but I imagine how it would feel. But the question is, what exactly could be done about this? How can a crazy person be stopped from making up a lie? And what can be done about the women who are raped but then nobody believes them and the rapist gets away with it?

The thing is, how can we know that they are changing their ways? Big companies can’t be trusted to evolve so it’s in the power of the consumer to not buy that product. We saw this with the dolphin friendly label. They depend on consumers being wilfully ignorant to the bigger picture. Unless you personally witness or meet the fisherman who caught your fish then nothing can be certain. The way to make a change is to first decrease the collective demand for it. As long as people keep buying and the demand is there, then big corps and government won’t do shit.

Think of it from the perspective of your mam. you were her baby who grew up... now you’re leading your own life in another city and she feels she’s loosing connection to you. Her way of still feeling close to you is that telephone call once a week. My mam is the same, I live in another country, we talk on the phone about every 1-2 weeks but we text a lot. She’s told me before that she feels sad that we can’t see eachother and feels disconnected when we don’t talk often. I used to be annoyed by her a lot over the years! but now that I’ve grown up a bit, I feel more compassion for her. The way I see it... if staying connected and making a phone call will make her happy and brighten her mood, then I will make that effort. By sending 1 text that feels like a pain in the ass to you, will give her peace of mind. Is your mom too dependant? Maybe, and probably feels lonely. I don’t know how likely she would be to change now so it’s your job to work around it. Human connection is important and especially once you get older and your children are gone you feel more alone. People can start to feel invisible and forgotten the older they get, loneliness is an epidemic.

hahaha, found this amusing because my boyfriend would say in the beginning that i would test him, we laugh about it. they are subtle emotional tests... just to see how resiliant you are

Out of these 2 examples of egos which has most resistance to change? One type of ego and the most stereotypical... the ‘big ego’ .. this may be the type of person who has a very high opinion of oneself, appear very confident, believes they are better than others, they are always right and get very defensive if someone questions them. Another type of ego, let’s call this ‘small ego’ they basically think the opposite of the ‘big ego’ they have a low opinion of themselves, lower self esteem, blame themselves for things, are also defensive, they may have victim mentality. It’s still ego but a different degree. I think the ‘big ego’ is the one that is harder to change. For that type of person to change they would first need an ego death, and it’s harder for them to look at themselves. they would need to go through what the ‘small ego’ is going through. For the ‘small ego’ they only need to go up to break out. Whereas the ‘big ego’ must first go down and then up. I think. Of course it’s possible that both types have an awakening of some kind and that makes them change course. Thoughts? The reason I’m asking is because I have these 2 types of people in my life. They are both stubborn and closed in their world views. One is ‘’I am right and I don’t need anyone to tell me nothing ‘’ the other is ‘’I am doomed and that’s how it is’’ which ego has the most resistance in these 2 examples ?

I grew up in stage 4 - financially stable but scarcity mindset. My dad made a lot of money, paid the bills etc. but it wasn’t shared with his family. He became a miser. I basically grew up thinking we couldn’t afford things, but my dad was low-key hoarding a lot of money. Kind of small scale what’s happening with the rich and the poor. The top rich are hoarding all the wealth.

Thanks for this explanation! Makes sense to me.