Ready for a lovely, humorously ironic/paradoxical question? Yeah? Awesome! Let's get started
So. Chris Bale. Masculine Intent. Heard of this? Basically, this guy is telling men to be them selves, and instead of trying to impress women, just "express your desire authentically". This makes sense doesn't it? he goes on to say that instead of coming from a place of neediness, you should be fully accepting of your self, and meerly share the feeling a woman is giving you, while being detached from any outcome.
See, this sounds great, and to me this really does make sense. However:
..."detached from any outcome"
How. How does one detatch from outcome? Obviously I want to have sex with women I find sexually attractive. How can I NOT come from a place of wanting this?
Some of you might be thinking "You just have to see her for more than sex, try to appreciate her feminine energy, just be okay with a no, you're good enough as you are, etc". This advice is nice (really, it is), but it doesn't give any action steps. It doesn't give a practice, just more concepts to moralize and judge my self from.
If anyone has any experience, sources, or ideas on how to detach from the need for sex and validation, please, do let me and anyone reading this know!
