Kid A

Everything that ceases to exist is a failure?

I have long wondered why Yugoslavia isn’t focused on more in discussions like this. To me, it’s an obvious contradiction of the claim that socialism/communism has always failed. The war didn’t change that.

This is probably something all men in long-term relationships struggle with. Living in a big city full of young people certainly makes the problem way worse. The fewer attractive women you’re exposed to, the better.

Yes. I sure didn't fint it boring. I did my best. Also, cold approaching during daytime is pretty exciting and not boring in itself, so I don't really see any problem with pretty basic get-to-know-topics in that setting. This was your problem, not native women. Do you have any limiting beliefs about attracting native women? I've approached around 800 women here. Over half of them were natives. I got a date with around 20 of them and none of them were natives. That's simply evidence enough for me that cold approaching is ineffective on native Norwegian women. Especially when other guys with much better game than me have identical results with them. I guess it's a limiting belief now, but I had to go through that process to get it.

It was only for one year. I quit and I’m never going back. I’m in a relationship now, but if I’m single in the future, it’s online dating and more hopefully social circle ftw. I haven’t had Instagram since 2014. I find that and TikTok as toxic as it gets, but no doubt that has hurt my results badly. I would say I had optimal clothes and a pretty good body (still do). Career wise, I dedicated that year to writing. In dating context, my social circle has been shit for many years, so there haven’t been opportunities there for probably 8 years. I guess that’s not unusual when you’re my age (31). That was daygame. At clubs and bars the interactions were of course much more playful. No idea what I did wrong… No. That’s not the case.

Preach!

When I started, I came from a couple of years with almost no socialization, partly because of the pandemic but also because of voluntary isolation, barely doing anything other than watching Leo’s videos and doing personal development. That, combined with autism, made for one hell of a foundation. Pickup and game theory were probably the last things in the world I needed at that time, but I still went all in on daygame. I basically operated like a robot. Nearly always opened the same way, saying that I would have regretted it if I hadn’t said hi. The conversations were often about the basic boring get-to-know stuff, what they were doing out, their work or studies, etc. The conversations usually lasted 5-10 min. I definitely improved and got way more comfortable and confident. I got fewer and fewer quick rejections and more and more frequent numbers (always numbers, never Instagram or Snapchat), but the numbers were usually flaky, of course. The more we had in common, the better, but you could never really tell which ones who would actually date me. Some of the women I went out with, I had really quick and boring/bad interactions with. The interesting thing about the natives is that the interactions with them were just as good, if not even better, than with the foreign ones. The big difference was what happened afterwards: they would often reply when I texted them, sometimes in a really positive way, but when I finally asked them out: Silence. Every single time. I had two wingmen at the time, and they were much better than me. They also had the exact same results with the natives, so I’m pretty surprised you have different experience. Is your experience from daygame or nightgame? I’ve done some nightgame here too, but that has been a complete disaster. I can’t dance, and it doesn’t seem any more appropriate to approach in clubs or bars than during the daytime here, and they’re also way more hostile and defensive then, especially on behalf of their girlfriends. If I ever hit it off with someone and things look promising, you can be 100% sure that one of her friends will think I’m a rapist or a serial killer or something, and drag her the fuck away from me.

Not nearly enough places, unfortunately. You’re probably right about international law. I just think it’s wrong to portray it as though the world only cares about Israel’s actions and not Russia’s, when it’s only Russia that has faced considerable resistance from the world.

I’ll give you a detailed answer in a couple of days, as I need to focus all my attention on an exam before then.

800-900. What I learned from those approaches is that cold approaching doesn’t really work on «native» Norwegian women, especially not during daytime. All the dates I got from those approaches were with women who were foreigners to some degree. I bet it’s the same in the other Scandinavian countries as well.

In my experience, online dating is by far the easiest way to get a date, while «real life» is nearly impossible, especially after early twenties. I guess the explanation in my case is a combination of looks, autism and where I live.

Indeed.

Well, doomers have never struck me as a particularly happy bunch… The question is: Are they unhappy because they’re doomers, or are they doomers because they’re unhappy? I think the answer is yes.

Easy for you to say. You're still young.