Whatever you have said here every word makes sense. You are absolutely right.
There was a time in my life when I had a few people around me (not friends someone else whose opinion mattered to me) and they used to say such harsh words that it used to hurt me a lot. I used to feel about about myself. Then I realized that the people who genuinely care about me never say harsh things, so I realized its time to take these toxic people out of my life. It took me a lot of time but I did it. Now whatever those people say, I just feel sorry for them and not for myself
