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Thanks! It's coming together slowly. You know there's also an outline format in the top left corner. So you can toggle in and out of it to see the entire map in like a paragraph format. Also, it's kind of a mix of learning the skills of operating the system. Then it's more about creativity, knowledge, and organizing skills. It can quickly become a system of chaos if there's no structure to the map. Entropy.

I've been doing RV life for the past two years & traveled from AL to WY. I mean, it's pretty similar yet not as flexible as van life. Pros of Van Life : Better gas mileage Flexibility to get into more places*** Ability to mobilize - Leaving campsites Ability to meet more people being in smaller towns/ more social Easier to travel longer distances Less gross weight on the vehicle A large community of people doing it Ability to cut costs on rent Ability to live extremely frugally (depending on your tolerance) Work in some of the most remote places Cut costs of visiting prime location / vacation locations Cons of Van Life: Can get expensive (without a plan) Can get super lonely*** Can be taxing on yourself emotionally constantly moving to new places Can get in situations where things break and you're responsible to fix Juggling all the responsibilities Limited amount of resources ( water & electricity ) Limited amount of space for storage Frequent visits to the grocery store Showering & taking dumps in odd locations Not getting much sleep from outside noises Waking up in the middle of the night from sounds Being away from family & friends There's also pros and cons compared to vans vs RVs and other types of vehicles. Really just depends on how long you plan on doing it. Also depends on your budget with what you can afford. I have a 27ft RV which is way to big for one person. However it's really nice to be able to get up and walk around. Being stuck in a van would drive me insane after a few months. I'd highly recommend looking at like a smaller sized trailer that has a shower & everything built into it. Some vans get be stupid expensive unless you build it out yourself. Either a small pull behind trailer or a truckbed style camper. Those things would be a blend between van life & rv life. However, you're still dealing with limited space. I would highly recommend you look into getting an electric bike too. Look for a light weight E-bike. This would help on saving gas & you could get exercise. I've been able to meet a ton of people having an ebike. Truly depends on your travel goals. Long term goals vs short term. Will you be staying in locations for a few days, weeks, months? Gets expensive constantly being on the move. For me I spent a few months driving & camping out. Then now I'm basically negotiating rent in prime locations for long term stays. Right now I'm in Estes Park which is near the rocky mountains. My rent is extremely low per month in a Prime location! However, in a van it would be uncomfortable with the extreme cold weather. In my opinion, if I were to do it again I'd go with a less than 20ft rv that has a slide out that you can stand up in. Shower in. Take a crap in. A nice bed. A stove. Propane connection. Water storage. A decent A/C system. Get the E-bike(light weight). An extra battery. A simple foldable solar panel system to charge the battery. LED lights. Call it a day. Then other than that download the app ioverlander. By far the most useful app I have found yet. I basically travelled over a thousand miles and camped at hundreds of places for free with that app. Plus places that had water connections and 30amp hook ups. Plus some really awesome views.

@integral I'll play you in a game of chess. Also, You'd have to give me an example of what you have in mind for me to get on board with that. Btw I couldn't access your mind map because it was locked or something. Main reason i'd say explain the video in a mind map.. The videos are like 3 hours long. Most people barely have an attention span from all the stuff these days. I figured a shotgun effect would wake someone up. It's a different way to digest a large sum of information in a fun way. Plus watching every video in the categories is super time consuming to watch. Most people would get distracted after the first few pages of watching. Pretty much have all the points loaded out just need to add images and sort them. Stage orange has an absurd amount of points. What's hilarious is I've done all of these mind maps below on my hotspot (phone). I'm kinda surprised my phone hasn't caught on fire yet. Not gonna lie, I could use some help

@Logan Yeah its awesome man, with the ability to zoom out and in to see the big picture of dynamic ideas and systems. You're more than welcome to join in on the current maps with us. Mind maps have kind of a dynamic way of visualizing ideas. I'd be interested in collaborating on ideas that you're working on too OneNote is amazing in it's own way for sorting & filing ideas with the Commonplace book. I've got a pretty robust system in OneNote. Primarily focusing on the Spiral dynamic stages right now

@Barbara Kinda wondering if this should be a new topic for a spiral dynamics mind map crowd source... Wasn't really planning on making this thread the main page for all mind mapping stuff.. Yeah, a mix of visual and kinesthetic learning is my preference. I'd also assume mind mapping is kind of a yellow way of thinking considering it's more systematic type of thinking. In conjunction with collaborative style thinking seems very yellowish/greenish.

@Barbara I really like that idea!! I'll add the videos in the center & if anyone wants to watch & help with the below mind maps that would be cool to see a crowd sourced mind map on Spiral Dynamics. Spiral Dynamics Stages: ?Stage Yellow Mind Map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/e417fcdf6d894fe3b17d07996fd6d2cc ?Stage Green Mind Map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/92b3de16d2ee4e4bb2fc955a215110d5 ?Stage Orange Mind Map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/96ed693862764e91bcf110b0e38ffeb6 ?Stage Blue Mind Map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/147eda63c60147ddab879971914cc937 ?Stage Red Mind Map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/a535773c36964b2e8a8502d124ea77e4

@Barbara I agree, it's way easier to rearrange the final notes to make it appear more organized. I kinda started it off in a disorganized way by just doing a rough draft. Especially the mind map about beliefs. That's a pretty chaotic map that has zero structure. I just aimlessly started spitting out ideas. Free association style thinking I guess you could say. For a more pragmatic style of thinking it could be in stages to create order. Pretty simple! ? It's kinda like a sandbox for thinking. Has a small learning curve to get the hang of it. Kinda like typing for the first time but in a different way. Luckly the video is in the center of the map so that kinda helps I guess. Basically I can create unlimited amount of maps and it gives you free access to them. With an actual account I believe free accounts only get access to 3 mind maps. So there's like a pay wall. Could focus on Leo's videos and have ideas structured around the videos. Then create a segment for new thinking to add on to the current video. I'm kinda about just free association and finding certain topics and connecting the dots. Or could create a mind map for coming up with mind maps.

@Barbara Thanks! I'm just going clockwise around the video in the center. Watching while typing in new topics. If he continues to go down a line of thought I just create new topics. Yeah, pretty much like a big visual notepad/workshop Yeah, they are all linked to the center but it's easily disconnected and rearranged. You can edit it as you like too if you want. I probably messed up on a few of them because I was distracted while typing. I see it no different than typing out in like a word document. Pressing enter creates new topics. Tab button goes further down to sub topics. Cool thing is the link is easily sharable and anyone can edit. Reminds me of like google docs where multiple people can type in the same word document together. What I really like is the ability to go to google images and drag the images to the mind map with ease. Helps add visually. Making the ability to do deep thinking more entertaining and fun.

@Oliver Saavedra I played around with Coggle once a few years ago. I ended up using Mindomo bc it seemed more fluid with how things worked. The ability to drag and drop was helpful. Seemed easier for me to create mind maps too. I'll have to double check Coggle and compare the differences to see what fits. I'm all about doing collaborative work! I went to homedepot once a while back and purchased huge sheets of whiteboard to do creative thinking. Having a room full of whiteboards to Mindmap ideas on the wall. However, bringing together groups of different people I think adds to new ideas and ways of seeing things.

@Barbara It's really not that much work once you get the hang of creating maps. I did this map below while watching the video. Whats hard work is coming up with new ideas and stepping outside the box. Thinking for one's self & one's own biases. Yeah, I see how being able to go meta is important! Thanks for sending the video! I actually created a mindmap while I was watching it. Still have about half the video to watch. https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/1ee6e49b437e4bc7891c1931b52efbf3 Not being to rigid in thinking.. Bringing out a playfulness to thinking.. Allowing different ways of seeing things is important + being multi-perspectival and zooming out to see the big picture. Seeing the trees and the forest for what they are. Not for how we want to see things to be. Asking the right questions really helps to break apart paradigm locks. Welcome to edit the mindmap if you feel there's something I messed up on or should be added. Thanks again!

@Oliver Saavedra Sweet! Mindomo is one of the best one's that I'm aware of. It's fairly easy to use. Guest access should have all the premium tools too which is nice. I've been playing around with it for a few years. I'd be interested in hearing what ideas you have in mind to collaborate.

Any one that wants to join in on a collaborative mind map let me know. Open for new topics to discuss and build visual maps together. I have access to the Professional version so it allows up to 5 people to access a map at once without having to create an account.

Looking to contemplate any of the topics : Complex Trauma + Poly Vagal Theory + Nervous system + Self-Identity Theory + Ego + Parts Work + Transactional Analysis + Inner Family Systems(IFS) + Shadow work + Childhood Development + Self-Talk ? If you have anything you feel is valuable to add go for it. How trauma connects with the mind, body, emotions, beliefs... Impact on the entire nervous system + living in a chronic state of hyper-arousal. Escape reality to cope with unprocessed pain. Coping & dissociation. Methods of recovery & healing. I think the concept of Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is slowly becoming a more popular term. That people are realizing the impact of developmental trauma and the consequences of having unmet needs during early childhood. Also considering that most family systems these days are highly dysfunctional and typically lead to divorce. That most people live with emotional immature parents that emotionally neglect their children. Then these children become adults not realizing that they were emotionally abused/traumatized by their parents programming/conditioning/ignorance. Most people are aware of PSTD from combat veterans coming home from a war. Being triggered by the sound of fireworks. However, CPTSD is ongoing exposure to stress that is more subtle. From early exposure to forms of toxic shame and being conditioned to believe one is not good enough. Trauma is a complex topic to discuss considering how multifaceted it can be. Here is a link to the topic mind map: https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/41a802ff6da24165a72078538b33a362

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@Preety_India You're welcome! What you're describing here is called Ethnocentrism. Sociological term for preferring to associate with similar people. Ethnocentrism denotes a positive orientation toward those sharing the same ethnicity and a negative one toward others. Basically it's an attitude based on belief of cultural superiority about ethnicity. Think of attitude as a chain of thoughts based on emotional understanding. It all depends on who you're talking with again. That's a pretty stubborn cognitive bias that most people have. It goes across for any ethnicity and culture. Look up the term Looking Glass Self. Sounds like you're referring to that too. It's nearly impossible to dodge judgement. I mean, it goes back to a discussion I had a while back about shame. People will negatively judge people for just about everything. Height, hair, clothes, tone of voice, posture.. Everything. You have to factor in gender differences, age, & ethnicity differences with communication which can be out of the norm for most people. For me personally, it's s hard to completely understand your point of view because I've never been female nor a different ethnicity. I can see how that really mixes up interactions with others online especially in a more male oriented medium. Also, respect is a tricky word.. (Especially love vs respect.) Respect typically is aligned with one's own value/belief system. What one understands. Most people have very limited belief systems because of lack of exposure to new information. What you want is cultural assimilation. However assimilation doesn't happen overnight. We have to be accepting of others differences and invite people to be exposed to new things slowly. For example, inviting a white person to India and socially assimilating. There's an awesome book called the five levels of attachment that talks about attachment to beliefs w/ Identity. Highly recommend it. Back in the 60's and 70's with the counterculture revolution social inclusion was becoming wide spread in America. The older generations tend to be reluctant with the evolution of acceptance. For me personally, I had to estrange myself from my whole family system because of the level of disrespect over values disagreement. Especially my father who doesn't understand more nuance ideas. Who sadly would prefer to watch Fox News over reading a book. He loves me as his son but does not respect me as an individual. I tried my best to win his respect and frequently failed. Not being true to my self to win his approval/respect. Comes down to not tolerating disrespect or having self-respect from anyone. Boundaries. Which going estray from family is not easy. Especially going no contact and cutting off all support to rebuild one's own sense of self. It's not just ethnicity differences. It can be political views too. Gender roles. Many other variables. People tend to respect what they emotionally invest into and determine familiar. If you grew up in a family where certain values were represented, then that is your imprint for selective appreciation. For my own family... conservatism, authoritarianism, and religiousity were the core values. I went against all of that and question it at the core. Previously that was what I held esteem to or respect. Which messing with beliefs and values is not easy or fun to do. Talk about alientation and ostrasisim. That's why I spent sooooo much time trying to understand shame. I felt ashamed because I wasn't receiving respect from those that I was taught to love unconditionally. I felt a great amount of disdain and contempt. "Not being good enough." Which is the opposite of receiving respect and love. All of that is a lie I was taught growing up. Truth of the matter is that is their view of me. What matters is how I view myself. Having a strong self-image, self-respect, self-affirmation, and self-love. How I treat myself with self-care raises my attitude on life. Which raises the vibration one puts out to others. People feel that and mirror the emotional state.

Because I see them approaching others in my space like office/classroom. But the same people don't approach me. The people who make friends are generally always the ass-licker types I've felt the same way in certain work environments where colleagues would build their own social circle then I felt left out. Basically ostracized. Most people are only looking for small talk, banter, vibing, and less serious talk. Social vibing. "It's not what you say, it's how you say it." Again perception. How people are perceiving you. (tonality, body language, facial expressions) Attitudes are contagious and people tend to drift to those that act the same way. Ass-licking sounds basically about power hierarchy's. Could be a toxic social environment if that's the case. I tend to stand out because of my opinionated nature. Sometimes I feel like I should just shut up and I will be liked more. But that way I lose authenticity Sounds like you're already self-aware of the situation reading that. Try to put your self in their perspective in order to build rapport. Socially calibrate and be aware of who you are talking with. Too much self-disclosure can turn people off. Have to determine signs of when people are receptive to authenticity and vulnerability. Most people shutdown when there's too much openness. That's the social norm that most people unconsciously follow unfortunately. Social masks. "Seek first to understand, then to be understood. not really that I can think of.. I don't go out much as a result. Sounds like you might want to switch up the environment. Come up with a list of places you want to go visit. Determine what fits you best. I feel constantly opposed and attacked and I can sense a general dislike. Most people assume that I'm being cheap if I'm being flirty. But when I go quiet, people assume that I'm rude. Also I don't like the culture of conformation. It's like I'm accepted within a group only when I'm sweet natured and conform to their opinions. The moment I disagree with the general consensus, I immediately get outlawed and treated badly. Hated. Again, you have to be careful about who you talk with. Generally speaking, most people don't like to debate. Typically, people like to go with the flow and have their opinion mirrored and acknowledged. Cognitive biases create ass-lickers. Depends on who you are talking to and the social setting. Most people are communicating simply to just raise their emotional state and sense of social status. If you can master those two then people typically associate social value to you. It comes down to understanding r-messages. Showing people respect and they will show it back. Which begs the question... What is respect? How do you feel respected? How do you show other people respect? (Respect is a tricky word.) If you show people that you don't respect their opinion it comes off as rude or contemptuous. Which is the opposite of your intent. Ask others what respect means to them. Different people feel respected for different reasons. I feel constantly opposed and attacked and I can sense a general dislike. Most people assume that I'm being cheap if I'm being flirty. But when I go quiet, people assume that I'm rude. Also I don't like the culture of conformation. It's like I'm accepted within a group only when I'm sweet natured and conform to their opinions. The moment I disagree with the general consensus, I immediately get outlawed and treated badly. Hated. People are quick to sense an attitude. It's hard to be self-aware enough at all moments to detect when our attitude is being perceived. It's very difficult to moderate or hide one's own attitude. Comes across even in micro-emotions which people are able to pick up on subconsciously. Recording yourself talking out loud helps. For whatever reason, in our head we may think we are coming across in one way but misperceived in another way. (subtle sounds such as a voice intonation can set people off). If you don't like the culture then try searching for a sub-culture that you find like minded people. "within (that) group" Depends on how much rapport breaking you do. If you break rapport too much you will get rejected. Has to be at some limit of conforming to keep social ties. ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING - What does this mean? PERCEPTION IS EVERYTHING - What does this mean? ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR PERCEPTION - What does this mean? PERCEPTION DETERMINES YOUR ATTITUDE - What does this mean? People who are not looking to start a fight or argument. People who are open minded to accept new opinions and thoughts. People who respect boundaries and respect each other's space. People who are humble and sweet and don't feel the need to one up each other all the time or play games of "who is popular. " 1-upping(superior) and 1-downing(inferior) is all about transactional analysis (TA). Only way to find someone who isn't looking to one-up is to identify ego states. R-messages is something that is critical in TA. It's usually sent and decoded unconsciously. Even me typing this can exchange R-messages. Which I'm trying my best to hold you at equal respect. I am no better than you and vice versa. My intentions are to share knowledge hoping that you gain from it. However, what gets tricky is when a part of ourself is wanting to get a need bet by 1-upping. Why do we communicate? Understand what people want To feel respected by ourselves and others... Give or get information (so we can understand and make informed choices).. Cause change (and feel impactful, vs. powerless).. Vent - i.e. to feel empathically understood and accepted).. Create excitement (avoid boredom and numbness).. *** AKA SOCIAL VIBING & MOST PEOPLE *** Avoid discomfort, like a social silence, conflict, or a painful awareness. Maybe they want to see me as a demure girl and I don't fit that mold. The same people tend to like me when I'm acting dumb, silly and extra demure, feminine or submissive. But I can't be something that I'm not. I'm not dominating, but I'm vivacious and child like, I can't be exactly demure. If we lived in the 1950's in America then being a demure girl would seem more socially appropriate. However, being demure isn't completely bad these days (unless you live in a developing country). Maybe if you lived in the deepest southern states out in the woods then that could be expected. (Personally, I grew up in lower Alabama where women were not necessarily soft spoken. Which is more a stereotype of southern women) It could be that people feel a sense of discomfort when being over-spoken on a specific topic (not necessarily outsmarted). All goes back the R-message and how you are being perceived. Knowledge is a form of power and it can shake up the dynamics in a relationship. Especially between masculine & feminine polarity. Not to say that's a completely bad thing. It just depends on who you are talking with. Lastly, I'd like to address the self-talk because using such words as nobody likes me is coming from an inner critic sub-self. Being able to identify this self-talk and address it at the core. Last thing you want is the inner-dialog to repeat these words over time and reinforce such ideas. Below is a video that kind of helped me be aware of how my voice tone came across to people to perceive me in a certain way. When I was going through basic training with the air force they beat this into me. "It's not what you say, it's how you say it!!!!" I had to learn the hard way.

@AnimoLet me know what you think... This sounds like what you were talking about. @soos_mite_ah I like the video that you posted. Fear is a big obstacle to taking action. I'd also add shame and low-self esteem/self-belief can also get in the way too.

Humans are needy creatures. Depends on the type of environment this person was raised in. As for attachment styles.. Sounds like you are referring to a Preoccupied Anxious Attachment Style. Most relationships in American society are typically dysfunctional because that's the norm. Especially men because we aren't given much room for emotional reciprocation and to mature correctly. Most men these days are taught that women are attracted to Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Styles. Especially women that grew up without a father figure around because it is familiar. The baby boomer generation was taught certain parenting styles that contributed to this mess. If parents were held accountable for the developmental needs of children then the norm would likely be functional & secure relationships. However, that's not the case. Divorces and emotional baggage is the norm. B.P.D. seems to be what you're talking about if it is stalking behavior. BPD people think in black and white. They tend to have a fear of abandonment. Some kind of form of abandonment trauma. Soo many BPD people will play passive aggressive games inorder to get their needs met. It's a form of control because they weren't shown healthy ways to get their needs met. To "reject" is to create a form of chaos and loss of control + retriggering of abandonment. I highly recommend a book called CPTSD by Pete Walker. I listened to it on Audible a while back. Talked about the 4 F's. Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. How most people live in a state of hyper-arousal from past events growing up. Also, I recently read a book called Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson. Really really shows how most people are extremely emotionally immature. How people that are in adult bodies can act like 3 year old's because they haven't developed into an adult. I mean, I see this even with people who are in their 40's & 50's. Who literally cognitively still behave like children. On the other side of the coin. There are plenty of women that have "daddy issues". That are quick to hook up and have sex yet are extremely emotionally unstable and reactive to small things. Solution to the problem is to become aware of the types of attachment styles and try to become emulate a secure attachment style. Also to be cognizant of very broken people. BPD is very difficult to deal with. One minute they see you as perfect. The next minute they only see the bad. It's like walking on egg shells. Literally another book called walking on egg shells too about this stuff.

Wherever I go, I feel like people hate me. Why do you feel like people hate you? What are some better environments for you to go to? How do you feel when you are around people? What type of people do you feel accepted around? Why do people hate me so much? Nobody likes me. Sucks. Why do you believe people hate you? What would cause people to express hate? What could be done differently?

@Jacob Morres True that, it sure can be embarrassing to admit how many hours one spends on the app! Thanks for saying that lol I once told a buddy of mine how many hours I spent on youtube.. It was around ~40 hours. He kept giving me a hard time about it being my full time job to watch videos on there.

I currently live up in Estes Park, CO right now which is not too far from Boulder. From my understanding this stuff is just a complex problem from many angles. I'm kinda playing around with a concept map to come up with ideas that are at the root of the problem. https://www.mindomo.com/mindmap/5fe332d1f21045aca2aefa79e99af3e3 I'd say a big part of it has to do with shame/acceptance, social solidarity, and power dynamics in our society. People have a need to be respected, loved, and valued. If we had better ways to connect communities and bring people together. This would help people co-regulate in a healthy way. The normal way to connect with people in our society today is with alcohol and going to bars. This basically dysregulates the entire body. Which is not exactly the most healthy ways to go about getting needs met. Ideally speaking, there needs to be like small groups where people can go to connect & get certain needs met. I like the idea of meetup.com where people can host gatherings which in my mind is the most functional & healthy way to connect. If there was like a non-profit brick & mortar center similar to meetup. Closest thing I can think of is a 12 step program. However, I'd consider something more normalized as if a coffee shop in smaller communities. Something the helps educate the general public about well-being and encourages emotional regulation. Emotional dysregulation is truly at the core of the problem. Co-regulation and healthy attunement is what people need. Something that has a setting similar to a yoga class or a massage therapy vibe. You walk into a massage therapy room and they set the room to be inviting & relaxing. If there was a public setting that had such a vibe that would be amazing. As if like a Natural Hot Spring where people can connect in a comfortable way. Hot springs naturally bring people together in small towns. A mixture of like the YMCA & 12 step programs. Not to make it a formal class but a gathering where people can go to hang out. There aren't many free places for people to go and feel a sense of relief. Libraries are about the only places to go in society. Rather than people feeling they have to go to bars & get drunk to be seen, felt, and heard by others. In reality, public shootings are a cry for attention to be seen and heard. To forcefully reclaim a sense of power, coercion, and authority. Rage is deeply deeply rooted in shame. A person who is shame bound will become more prone to snap and vent their closed off anger. However, shame is a common root in our society where expressing certain emotions in public settings is not acceptable. Have you tried crying in public or expressing anger at a grocery store as an adult? Or anywhere? Normally little children are the ones that rage in grocery stores because they haven't been socialized to know its unacceptable/taboo.

@mw711 Just wanted to let you know that I created a discussion over in the serious emotional problems category today to discuss YouTube addiction. I spend majority of my time on Youtube w/ my phone and have been addicted for years. Decided to completely disable the app today and try to go without it for a few weeks. If I ever plan on using youtube it will be on my laptop because this creates more of an obstacle to use it. Plus, there's more extensions/tools that are available to prevent becoming addicted with a laptop vs a cell phone. Cell phone apps are Determine which apps on your phone you are using the most. Delete as many unnecessary apps on your phone. Go minimalistic. Less distractions. Make it clean Use less colorful backgrounds. Less attractive to the eyes. Keep only essential apps on your phone. (Maps, google sheets, texting apps, camera) Delete bloatware to make app less distracting and less friction to find what you need. Track your time on each app. Set alarm to go off at certain times. Morning a& night time. Especially at night time before going to bed. Keep your charger in a different room than your bed room. Disable YouTube on your phone completely. Only use YouTube on a laptop to prevent using it all the time. Delete all social media sites - They are rigged to get you hooked. Including SnapChat. Delete any dating apps - Tinder & bumble. Meet people at coffee shops or go to meetup.com to get involved in your community. Delete any and all games on your phone. Games are designed to be addictive & a major distractor. Especially Runescape. Change the screen color to grey. Making it less attractive to use. Use timer apps like Forest. To intentionally create obstacles from using it. If still using YouTube add time use notifications within the settings. Turn off all notifications except texts & phone calls. Get a blocker app if you find yourself watching porn to block images & sites. Become more intentional with your time. Use Google calendar to time block for certain tasks you have to do. Also, the book atomic habits talks about breaking habits: 1. Make it less visible. Out of sight, out of mind. 2. Make it unattractive. The more boring looking the less your brain will build habits. 3. Make it hard. Create obstacles to using the phone. Put it in another room.. Create road blocks. Timers + passwords to access. 4. Make it unsatisfying. Take away the rewards that you get. Dopamine rewards such as notifications. Whatever triggers a reward. Certain sounds. Colorful lights. Whatever to make the rewards less. Create a punishment attached to use if necessary. Budget your time like you budget your money. Allocate certain amount of time to each area of your life. Back to what I was talking about with the Google Calendar. You only have 24 hours each day to spend. Become intentional with what you want to do. Integrate your to do list with you calendar. Really sit down and determine how to use your time each day. 7-9 hours of sleep. A few hours for eating. Time for a shower. Time for whatever. Keep the calendar opened on your laptop whenever possible in a place you can see it. Bring more awareness to how you allocate & spend your time. Hope you found some value from a few of the bullets. Also, I recommend reading the book atomic habits if you get a chance. Great book!

Speak of children with shotguns... This is about green making fun of orange ideas. Orange ideal world view.

Nah... I'd argue that the first pillar is pretty higher than orange.. Talks about consciousness a bit and asking questions to be more conscious/self-aware. I read that book a few weeks ago. In some context it is orange from a shallow perspective but for the most part this is deeper. Depends on the perspective of the reader and other prior knowledge to see the depth of this book.