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I find it funny to come across this topic because yesterday I spent almost all day looking up videos on trying to make sense of masculine women. Talk about synchronicity. Thank you for bringing this up. I was a bit aggrevated and frustrated too because it is a complex problem. Understanding henpecked husband's Daddy complexs Oedipus complex Overbearing mothers Cat ladies Hypermasculine women Overly sensitive men Single mothers Workaholic parents. Cowardly fathers Weak men Dysfunctional families It's all connected in a strange way. I agree, traditional relationships aren't bad. I do see how it can create added stress for women to meet certain expectations and standards. That's a good point. Especially regarding traditional caregiving responsibilities. Society doesn't exactly have healthy outlets for people to get things off their chest in a healthy way. I mean, we're living in the emotional dark age where emotions are dismissed and invalidated in hundreds and hundreds of ways constantly. Especially on this forum the amount of dismissal and put downs points to it too. Both subtle and overt. Then the only safe place is with a therapist. Yet most therapists lack the emotional competency to understand the value of validating emotional states. I mean, in the traditional family it's common to see how much is being dismissed and lack of respect of emotions. Women are more adept with emotions than men. Society can only run from their core emotions so far before the problem gets too big. As a society we have collectively devalued the validity of emotions for far too long which is the reason the social fabric of society is so fragmented. All the collective coping mechanisms are getting too loud to deny and dismiss.

Feminism has made women more masculine. Some of it can be good and some of it can be a bit off putting. Some of it I don't mind. I've been on dates with a few women who insist on paying for dinner dates which I don't see as a big deal. I'd end up tipping which made it feel mutual. Also, I've worked with multiple women who were aircraft mechanics. It can be off putting at times to be around hypermasculine women. Doesn't really change the aspect of the job all that much. It's simply a job. People do their job and go home. What gets confusing is in leadership positions with men being led by a woman. Mainly because the Overton window. If anything the woman could be better at leading yet it challenges the social image of what is seen as normal. Which I guess creates cognitive dissonance and anxiety. Because then it challenges the value of men. What gets odd is when some women can be standoffish and come across as aggressive in public. Yet at the same time behind closed doors after truly getting to know them things are different. When the mask comes off they tend to be a completely different person when open and vulnerable. They want love. Whether it be masculine or feminine energy. Love is love. Even people with masculine frames can struggle to open their heart from past bad experiences and create resentment with all men. Insecurities get in the way. Yet by the end of the day they mainly want love. I think it's about fear and repressed shame. People want to feel accepted and loved. It's tough to face these aspect of the shadow. With femanists using terms like toxic masculinity. It gets men into an aggressive position against seeing their own insecurities and admitting them. It's all about shame that shuts down the conversation. Deep down people need love but the expression of it has become conditional and stifled. The femanists use such terms out of their own shame. To spit shame at men that hurt them. Creating an endless loop of shame. Hard to let down defenses and feel safe. If a women carries a more masculine energy find the positive aspects and see the benefits. If there's more feminine aspects find the positive and acknowledge the benefits. 3rd wave feminism has shaken up the social dynamics in the world for a reason. It's confusing and complex. Men on the other hand simply want to be loved too. Yet shame gets in the way and causes us to act out. Not feeling good enough. Whether someone is lazy, broken, and down truly everyone that is alive is worthy of love. If only society could find compassion to understand others and theirself to set aside judgment.

Back to nature or more connected to technology? Or integration of both to a degree.. What is nature? What is technology? If you had a choice.. Which would you choose : Back to nature or more connected to technology? Why? Technology : AI, sex robots, Unreal engine 5, starlink, gigafactory, tesla YouTube, IoT, Facebook, Twitter, yahoo, snap chat, tickertock, MySpace, Google, machine learning, human augmentation, metaverse, surveillance systems, bioengineering etc. Endless scrolling, personalized algorithms, 5g cellular networks, personality/identity mapping, big data, geo tracking, cloud computing, fiber optics, geomapping, LIDAR, A/B split testing etc. Amazon, Walmart, Sam's club, Costco, Target, concrete jungles, etc McD, burger King, KFC, Starbucks, etc DJI Drones, dynamic supply chains, factories, Fast food, bars, clubs, gmo foods, "natural" flavors, etc Smart Phones, Smart watches, smart fridges, smart Television, irobot vacuum cleaners, robots, self checkout, self driving stuff Video games, VR head sets, Destiny 2, runescape, secondlife, Call of duty, elders rolls online, Eve online, final fantasy online, neopets, battleon, gunz, guild wars 2, lord of the rings online, star wars the old republic, ad finitum... Or Nature (neature) : Trees, rocks, flowers, etc. Animals, squirrels, cats, rats, nats, bugs, insects, dogs, rabbits, deer, elk, birds, humans, ducks, ants, cows, bees, Misquitos, ticks, spiders, etc. Rivers, lakes, waterfalls, fish, seas, islands, streams, creeks.. Etc. Farming, crops, etc. Mu-shrooms, etc. Mountains, hills, etc. Home grown food, etc. Hippies, local communities, etc.

The hidden curriculum is there for a reason. If humans had to break down every social context and norm then it would be overwhelming for finding a solid common sense of meaning. Which goes into schemas too. Humans are meaning making machines that are constantly looking to create ideas, stories, and beliefs to make sense of reality. Humans receive vasts amounts of information, it's easier to listen to peers. People only know what they know from direct experience or from word of mouth. It's easy to conform when someone else tells you something vs having to experiment & sort things out on your own. Intellectual dependency. A formal curriculum creates a solid path for people to think within. Hidden curriculum isn't taught explicitly because it's too abstract and context dependent. Your brain understands context from direct experience and observations. It's way too much information to break down every situation and explain the differences. Most people don't consciously even understand why they do what they do. It's like comparing all the shades of every single color there is. Most people just want obedience and rule followers. The hidden curriculum is what teaches superficial rule following and institutionalized conformity. Which creates a framework of un-critical thinking. Which schools do teach indirect rules however most aren't broken down explicitly. Soo since no one explains every case by case situation to each uniquely different child then people just do generalized thinking. Therefore conformity or neurotypical thinking? Hope that some what answers your questions.

Probably is trolling.. Yeah. On a serious note I'm curious the real social implications of her passing. Reminds me of this Monty Python video.

Soo if a person owns land or part of a floating rock out in nothingness then they can claim ownership? Lease or rent out this land to another person for invisible numbers called money which you own? If a person owns all of this floating rock (earth) or land then how can another person claim ownership? Can you own the ocean? Can you lease out the ocean? Or own air & oxygen? Owning outer space.. Owning stars & planets? Owning the weather? Owning a metaverse? Owning nature? Can you build your own internet or your own youtube platform or your own database hub thing? If you build an island can you own it? Can you turn said island into a country? Owning an invisible idea such as a country? Creating your "own" country. Your "own" military? Say you wanna start your own country and own the entire place. How would that work? Do you own humans if they live on your country? Lease the human out to another? How do people come up with this? Considering slavery wasn't abolished but.. 157 years ago? Or ~6 generations. What about with making and creating a currency and claiming it as "your own" money. Such as claiming paper money or invisible numbers or crypto? Making up your own numbers? Lending money for money? Creating your own rules? Such as creating the idea of inflation or using influence to alter value metrics? So a group of people (pilgrims) came to America and simply claimed ownership? So a group of people (migrants) travel out west and gain free ownership of land? Does ownership depend on.. military power? Hard power? A belief? A narrative? Who determines ownership? ______________ Mine vs yours vs ours. Toothbrush A. Private ownership (Mine or Yours &/or ours) B. Public ownership (Ours) C. Collective ownership (Mine & yours or Ours) D. All of above E. Depends on use Toothbrush 1. Cleaning teeth = collective ownership? Nah 2. Cleaning dogs teeth = private ownership 3. Cleaning toilet = public ownership 4. Cleaning floor = Depends on use __________ Ownership appears to be connected with responsibility too. A person whos an owner tends to be at the position of cause. Taking full action of creation. Putting that person in a position of power? So ownership is connected with the perception of power dynamics in this reality. Seems a little bizarre how this is. So our words create images and concepts that shape the fabric of reality. So our beliefs and words are what create ownership. Without speaking words and creating beliefs its hard to declare ownership or MINErship. Owning a business or "My business". Owning the workers for the business. Owning the products. Its amazing how social constructs such as shareholders makes ownership even more abstract. Investors and estate ownership. Owning majority of a companies collective shares? Owning a supply chain? Owning a market? Owning a niche? Owning commerce? Owning money. Invisible numbers on a paper that is lent out by banks by fractional reserves. Who comes up with this crap. Owning a job? This is my job!! Stop doing my job. Americans identify mainly with their jobs? This job says me. I'm the doctor. No, you're a human that helps other humans.. I'm the therapist. No. You just listen to people and give advice. I'm the lawyer. No, you're a person that sits around talking about rules. No sugar coating identity. Call it what it is. Essentially giving people jobs in trade for time in trade for money.. In trade for ownership of stuff. Owning a house.. owning a box to put stuff in. "I own this property. You can't tell me what to do in my house." Owning a mansion. Owning a movable house. Owning a car and using it as a dwelling. Owning a tent vs owning. Feesimple ownership vs leasehold ownership.. Owning a wife... "This is my wife! She's not your wife because she's my wife." I claimed her as my wife because I got on one knee." Are you single? "No, I have a boyfriend". So you own your boyfriend? To have like property? So the boyfriend is property? Owning 100 cats...... ? + ? = ????^5 Owning children... Having 10 kids? 100 kids? 1000 kids? Is there a limit? Literally, grandparents can have like +70 decendents. If they have 10 kids. Those 10 kids have 5 kids each. Say a person moves to a different country and gets someone pregnant at a club then moves to a different country. How exactly does child ownership work? If the parent doesn't want to be the "owner" (parent) because they didn't want a child. Owning.. Intellectual property.. copy right information. Trademarks. Branding information.. Word marks. Graphic design stuff.. Owning logos.. Google logo. The cross. The peace sign ✌ Owning data? Your information and choices. Financial data.. Interests.. Do you own your phone? Do cellular companies own you? Owning the frequencies? Owning Bluetooth? Owning radiation? Owning resources? Food, water, and shelter. Owning sunlight & electricity? Owning energy? Owning or domestication of animals.. or pets.. Owning a pet store (animal store). Owning Livestock.. Owning the things that derive from animals. Eggs, milk, feathers, meat, and their own offspring. Owning a grocery store? What does the grocery store do with all the food it doesn't sell? Giving ownership of food away? Owning a robot? Owning artifical intelligence? What does that even mean to own an army of robots? Owning automated systems? Owning time? My time zone is.. "Don't waste my time." How much is your time worth? Owning your own mind? My mind is typing this? Am I typing or is my mind typing this unconsciously? Owning your own thoughts. These are Mythoughts™ or does this website claim my information as its information? Get your own thoughts! Stop stealing my thoughts. Actually, these thoughts are worth $2,000,000.99 I'm going to create a course and charge people for "thoughts". I have to let people know these valuable thoughts were my thoughts so "I" gets proper admiration & recognition. Joking. Owning your own body? Donating a heart? Wait, thats my organs.. Owning your arm, your leg, your teeth, your hair. Donating your body to science? Wait, so you can give your body. Selling your hair? Selling blood. I mean, donating blood. Selling sperm? If I'm sleepwalking. Do I own my body? Where am I? Who owns the body when we die? Apparently people want the ashes of their dead parents or pet hamster. Owning a small amount of land to bury a person or a grave? Huh Owning your own soul? Not sure what this means or how this works in this reality. Under mind control? Being possessed by a spirit? Owning everything? I guess that's God? Owning nothing? (And you will be happy...?) I mean, we eventually die & literally can't bring anything with us. Who's to say anything even exists if its all a dream or an illusion or just floating particals. I mean, nearly everything we "own" fades away. Or do these words that are typed on this device on to this website exist forever? I mean, who's to say the internet will be around forever. I mean, 200 years ago all humans were dead (that I'm aware of). Even then thats based on this 3D reality if there is a different dimension of reality then does ownership work on different dimensions? Or is ownership only a thing of this 3D reality. https://youtu.be/QOTVpGfEdqQ

Ownership is an illusion. Ownership is an idea. Ownership is a social contract. Ownership is imaginary. Ownership is egocentric focused? Ownership is essential for capitalism. Owning assets & liabilities. Ownership is the ability to purchase. Ownership is control. Ownership can be a source of power (depends). Ownership is define business entities. Ownership shapes society. Ownership is our claim on reality? Ownership is socially conditioned. Ownership connects with survival instincts. A dog protecting its food. A bear protecting its cub. Ownership creates value metrics. Social value or worth. Ownership is self-expression? Ownership is a form of self-describtion. "This shirt says me" lol Ownership is both invisible & visible. Ownership is both tangible & non tangible. (a toy car vs imaginary ideas) Ownership is connected to action & nonaction taking. Ownership is connected to responsibility. Ownership is connected with accountability. So being accountable for a pet or a child. Ownership creates rules. Ownership creates laws. Ownership is what we value. Ownership is what it is. Ownership is a choice & sometimes not a choice. Flip side of the coin.. I might be wrong about this. Disowning? Leasing? Borrowing? Relinquishment? Letting go? Non possession? Surrendering? Not wanting to own is to not wanting to have. Then what defines true ownership vs true non-owning? Question : What is self-ownership? ...

We can type you up a professional certificate of Human Rights with Gimp or Adobe and go get it notarized. With professional looking signatures and stuff. Now, getting people to recognize and respect it.. I have no clue. Maybe if enough people buy into it then it might be legit. Possibly, with enough social proof it might work. People like golden stickers stars apparently.

Curious to hear thoughts & opinions on independency. July 4th 1776 was the declaration of independence. Now it's been.. 246 years since. Modern day society hasn't been around that long. Questions.. What does it mean to truly be independent? What does it mean to be interdependent? How do we resolve traditionalism vs progressivism division & fighting? How can we respect opinions and ideas to create discussions? How do we bring people together and create a more functional culture founded on truth & love? How do we free ourselves from corporatism, corruption, and division? How do we get people from different backgrounds and cognitive biases to come together? How do we reunite a divided country and world? --- Open for more questions. Open to more ideas. Open to solutions to problems. ---

So Im getting to the point I'm done with having a smart phone. Especially with 5G. The endless amount of information to grab attention. Endless amount of games that are more addictive than runescape. Even runescape is on the app store which is wild. Growing up addicted to it. Seeing children growing up with Mindcraft is a bit disturbing. I mean, the kids get commercials that shouldn't be marketed to. Distractions everywhere. Endless scrolling on shopping apps. Split testing to make more addictive content. Unlimited amounts of information. Social media scrolling. Click bait content. More addictive content.. Videos and pictures that are being improved on daily. Sitting inside all day. Not getting involved with communities. Giving companies all your personal data. Ads on YouTube are nearly porn and extremely targeted. Impulsivity. Instant gratification from watching content. Binge eating information and not taking time to process because the constant inundation of information being subscribed to dozens of people on YouTube. The apps are designed to keep you on the app. People prefer to be on their phone to pass time. Less connected to nature. Less movement and energy flowing. Distracted in conversations. While at restaurants people hide with their head buried in their phone. Less social interactions. Living vicariously through others. Taking pictures at concerts to talk about the experience later rather to be in the moment. Collecting all of your locations. Google collecting information on maps to know your every movement. All it is a little black screen that we stare at. Little pixels on a screen the glow. I want a phone to be a phone. Not too long ago they were meant for only calls and fixed to the wall with a cord. Then texting. Now days people don't even use them for their primary purpose. Video chating. Snapchat. Instagram. Facebook. YouTube. Amazon. Yes, discipline and self-control are important. Yet at some time there's deminishing returns and opportunity costs for going without one.

Yeah, it gets super confusing when people say one thing but the actions and nonverbal communication may have multiple interpretations all at once. Leading to a ton gray nuance situations. Especially when some people aren't even aware they do certain behaviors. Such as in certain contexts when people cross their arms when they're uncomfortable. Sending all sorts of social cues but when addressing the gesture directly people go to plausible denability which is super confusing. Eventhough it's common knowledge. Leading to situations where people "act" and follow silly social scripts. Humans are silly. As if a mental ping pong. Atleast that's how I feel with some small talk. Then group ping pong is too much. So I simply observe. Having to wear a silly social mask and follow certain social scripts to not be considered awkward to keep the flow steady. I feel ya on high sensitivity to social complexity with picking up all the information. This stuff gets confusing having to break down so many contexts. Then use inference.. Like the brain is connecting dots with irrelevant information. High context communication is super taxing. Dang nail gets confusing at times..

I'd just leave and find a place where you can get clarity of mind. RV will only complicate the process. Rv living on your father's property will create space and a boundary. However it depends on the location of the RV on the property. The more distance the better. Also consider with the rv you can move to different places and if you choose to rent a place. Put the rv in storage for like $50-$100 a month. Gives flexibility and options with living situations. Keeping all your stuff in the rv for storage too helps with moving out of apartments.

From my experience I've been called autistic by multiple people because of misreading subtle social cues and not understanding the "Hidden curriculum". In my opinion, it's just a difference of brain cognition and what makes us uniquely different. I mean, even using terms like "high functioning" is hard to put a finger on. Describing someone as a low functioning neurotypical disorder seems odd I don't think it would hurt to get more perspectives to get clarity. Neurodiversity is becoming more common knowledge online so I do believe its easier to chat with others with similar situations. Wouldn't hurt to connect with a community of individuals that have aspergers or autism to feel validated on your experiences. Wouldn't doubt that a large amount of people on this website have a form of neurodiversity and are misunderstood. Especially to get clarity in regards to executive functioning. Relationships. Social skills. Should I get a proper diagnosis, would it help somehow? It depends on your adaptability and ability to function in day to day situations. It could help you better find tools to adapt to a neurotypical society. Especially if you're struggling with simple tasks. Are you able to keep intimate relationships? Yeah. I think it depends on the individual and their personal circumstances. Every person is different on emotional attachment & commitment. I've seen plenty of committed humans. Let love come and let love go freely. Lastly, I've had experiences where the brain does synchronize. Having the ability to interpret complex social cues automatically and emotions. Whereas having to manually interpret innuendos, implications, or subtle social cues are super taxing. Psycholingustic shenanigans that a neurotypical takes forgranted because it's like driving an automatic car without a clutch. Its like being born without knowing a foreign language in a country full of people that intuitively know the language. Which others don't take the time to understand your own unique understanding. I have been working on a mind map for autism & indirect communication to better visually conceptualize Autism and aspergers.

Contemplating the meaning of Freedom. What does true freedom mean to you?

Wanted to say Thank You for all that you have taught over the years. The truth in the words that you speak. All the love that you give. All the hard work you have put into helping us. Creating this forum for everyone to learn & grow. Sharing your videos and ideas. Giving. You mean a ton to me even though I've never met you. In hard times when I'm sitting in bed alone watching your videos. I search for deep answers to this life. You have helped me on my path a great deal. Makes me cry to recognize this. Love you man. Love is everywhere. I see how we mirror the world. All the reflections. I see the connection. Letting go, opening up to love. Wishing Love, Joy, Peace, and Kindness. Thank you.

I'm curious your thoughts on marijuana. I have a friend that smokes all the time. I have never smoked pot before ever. I've lived in lower Alabama most of my life where weed wasn't around as much. Never really put much thought toward using it. I personally don't see it as bad or good. It's more relative to the user and their unique situation/circumstances. Story to give context: As of right now, I'm living in a RV full time and want to move out west soon. Goal is to pursue self-actualization and focus more on growing internally. I've basically invited my friend along the journey too. My childhood buddy who smokes all the time is likely to encourage me to smoke. Seems as if he's using it as a way to escape though. He has been suffering with health issues and is financially broke. Kinda skeptical about bringing him along on this journey but at the same time we have extremely deep conversations and relate. However, I see that he has become more complacent and isn't really going anywhere with life. Not many opportunities in his life. My concern is he's looking at me as a crutch to smoke more. That the weed is creating too much idealism and escapism. Reminds me of the green spiral dynamic. Deeply curious. Is this plant worth messing with or avoiding in the process of self-actualization? What is your experience with this plant? What are your thoughts about those that smoke vs don't smoke pot? Curious to hear different perspectives.

Curious how to handle dismissive avoidant type people that emotionally shutdown with closeness. Seems like bringing up emotional topics create some kind of triggered response. As if this is attached to certain attitudes or beliefs about relationships. ... So from what I understand they were raised by two parents that were emotionally unavailable & no emotional needs were met. Making them phobic of any intimate emotions because of some kind of negative association. Curious to learn how to bring down the wall and allow emotional vulnerablity & self-disclosure. Extremely confusing figuring this one out.

Curious thoughts on the amount of information on the internet. How much information is uploaded to YouTube daily. Plus other websites. Even this forum. Seems a bit wild how society has evolved over the years. People are dependent on the internet these days. If not addicted. Not too long ago it didn't exist. People would have to meet in person to talk about these ideas. The amount of information a human digests these days compared to 50 years ago is insane. It's insane to think how much information is uploaded daily. The implications of opening up the internet for humans. Once VR becomes more high tech people will be living in a different reality going to class in VR worlds. Not sure how to make of this. Having access to the vast amount of information on Google is just really bizarre to think about. How we can literally search anything in a split second. It's like Google is god and you can ask it anything and find answers. As if the internet is pandoras box or something. Especially now with smart phones giving us direct access to this much information is a bit mind boggling. We used to only have flip phones. Now everyone can't get off their phone for 10 seconds. Glued to their body. Some times I'd rather not have this much information but at the same time its awesome way to learn and know. I couldn't imagine going back in time to let people know that this exists. Imagine going to ancient philosophers back in the day to tell them about such a tool for access to unlimited information anywhere.

Curious to better understand the dance of energy. The momentum of energy. The flow of energy. Flowing attention to the seeds of intention. Where we focus our energy it gets louder and stronger. Where energy goes, energy flows. Where energy flows, energy grows.

@StarStruck Oh I see what you're saying. I've heard about doing that but seems above my skill level. I mostly just grew it out of a $2 bag of rice. Then used Reddit for help & suggestions from other people.

Yeah, that's pretty scary to think about. Depth vs shallow pools of information.. People like their kiddie pools and being self-deluded in them. Jumping from kiddie pool to kiddie pool without going deep on any real topic. Information pile only gets deeper & sharper with split testing. More and more cherry-picking information & misperception there will be. Wonder how far the cherry picking will go. Internet needs an overhaul and a way to dump the junk & limit garbage information before the whole internet is saturated. I'm being too idealistic.

Yeah, that's pretty scary to think about. Depth vs shallow pools of information.. People like their kiddie pools and being self-deluded in them. Jumping from kiddie pool to kiddie pool without going deep on any real topic. I feel sorry for kids that are being born into this reality these days compared to 20 years ago. Not much guidance on information dieting... All you can eat buffet of information daily. Information pile only gets deeper & sharper with split testing. More and more addictive, cherry-picking information, & misperception there will be. Wonder how far the cherry picking will go. Internet needs an overhaul and a way to dump the junk & limit garbage information before the whole internet is saturated. I'm being too idealistic.

Entire field of psychology is a new philosophy. DSM 5 isn't perfect. DSM 1 was published in the 50's.. DSM 3 was published in the 80's... Which was a huge reform to allow for descriptive diagnosis. Since the 80s it's been pretty much the same. There's been a ton of debate on BPD. It was actually supposed to be renamed as emotional dysregulation I believe. Yet they kept the name. .. I'm not a therapist so don't take my word for it. Um I've been around people that have that type of split. Personally I think IFS is the best thing to look into. It doesn't focus on pathologizing or labels. It's more seen as a fractured self or a protective part that is activated to defend the self. I've never done IFS therapy. I've done a bit of research on it. Looks legit talking to different parts of ourself. I could see in the future it directs toward IFS. I would love to be trained in it but the cost is extremely expensive & there's a huge list of people that want to get trained. Not enough instructors to teach it. The protector subself seems to be really dominant from a BPD perspective. Kind of like a DID episode where there's a flip in the self & a locked attitude with people. ... Talking about personality disorders is tricky. There's a ton of debate on this stuff.