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I'd say when dealing with deceitfulness or a hypocrite: Be connected to your gut feeling. Observing body language and things that seem incongruent or off. Observing the context of how things are being said. Observing the core beliefs. So a person with more rigid beliefs tends to be a hypocrite. Observing for black and white thinking. Inability to hold dichotomies indicates they will be hypocritical. Keeping a written record of instances with the individual and attach the emotion you feel. Find similar patterns that indicate a hypocrite. Keep an image in your head of these patterns. Ask questions to dig deeper. Watch for defensiveness or defense mechanisms. Observe their actions and see if the words match up. During conflicts or arguments people tend to be most hypocritical to save face. Winning at all costs. Not about being right or honest. It's not about logic.

@Clabber Girl Thank you for mentioning it was spot on! Kinda just entered what google suggested @YarcoTrying to make up my mind which occupation to go into partly was the reason I've been working on this. I've got a finance degree. Haven't applied it yet. Finance being so broad it kind of gets overwhelming all the different options. Any recommendations on stuff you find interesting? Especially with this evolving global marketspace.

So I got bored.. started typing in random words in the search bar at the top to see what I could randomly find. Joking with myself. Came across an interesting find. Website is pretty simple. Not much too it. Talk about an odd use for a domain name. I like the domain name. selflove.com nonduality Attempting to find more stuff similar to it. Thought it was an interesting find.

Pissed my blue jeans in 1st grade on accident. Everyone laughed. Cried and made fun of. Got shamed by the whole class. Ostracized. Held back and swapped to a different school multiple times in formative years. Called on the intercom to leave the room. Then being labeled quiet by peers on group class assignments. That should do it. Plus, many many many layers of invalidation. Then being told to be quiet frequently by teachers. I mean, suggestion is pretty powerful. Telling someone that they are something creates that self-belief. I've been called shy. Personally, I wasn't born that way. I don't believe that is my "I am".

I've got it setup so anyone can edit or add if they wish So if I did something wrong, welcome to fix it. Truly don't care. I just figured some people might find value and help using it for quick glance

Yes, I recognize there's going to be rules, guidelines, restrictions, covenants, building codes, bylaws, constitutions etc. I recognize the responsibilities. Depends on the quality of people. Some people are easier to work with and some are more difficult. Even in the military I had a roommate that stole my debit card which he did the same thing with acting oblivious. Which this ended in a dishonorable discharge. I mean, even within an organization with the max number of strict rules, you can't stop people from doing something that causes problems. For him, stealing was a compulsive habit that he learned. Took him stealing from me twice to end it. Does that mean it's a flawed system. No, problems are a fact of life. It depends on how the structure is built and the quality of the system to the degree of the problems. If people are given their needs, treated with respect, and allowed to speak what's on their chest without being contradicted or shut down it's less likely people will resort to manipulation. If we're talking about a personality disorder, then that's an entirely different discussion. @Tyler Robinson I recognize that you have some really good points, yet it comes across as playing devil's advocate. Playing devil's advocate isn't all that bad for intellectual growth, however, it can also be a little disruptive/competitive. Seems like you desire more of a debate rather than a discussion. Personally, I don't mind a healthy debate and pointing out mistakes on both sides. I'll admit if something seems flawed or unrealistic. However, derailing a discussion seems a bit more reaction seeking or attention. No desire for a zero-sum game. I was mostly curious on direct experience from those that have lived in such places or owned/managed one. I guess I will have to go on a forum that focuses on such groups to get a clear picture of what's possible. I'm just tired of sitting back. I want to create some drastic change. My main intention behind this topic is about finding community and a sense of belonging. Being on this site gives some sense of that for intellectual stimulation but still it's not the real deal. I spent the past two years traveling around the country living off-grid and going place to place to get a feel for what's out there. Most Americans live to their selves with social exclusivity. Literally traveled about 20 states. Even going from town-to-town people are pretty closed off. A bit unreceptive/disconnected/preoccupied. Only been a handful of places where people lead with a sense of inclusivity/openness/attentiveness. Kind of rare to find because of how stifled most people are these days. @Yarco I watched the first link on Vice you sent. I see what you're saying, seems like a great deal of idealistic thinking vs practicality. Especially how she mentioned this at 10:00. It is kind of funny watching the idealistic bubbles being popped. I mean, even that cat eating the national butterfly (23:14) seemed a bit symbolic for the whole video. I'm sure that's the main theme they were aiming to frame it as. Considering the title of the video. Overall, they make some good points. 2nd video I thought it was funny the two kids saying it was funner having more people. Right now with the RV I have pretty much all my needs ready. Solar/generators/shore power/Gas & electric powered fridge/ Gas & electric water heater. I've camped at locations near rivers and built a pump system to allow for living without city water connection. The main problems has been with food management, water, and weather. When I was in the Rocky Mountains there was about 4 feet of snow at times. This creates difficulties with the amount of watt hours an oil radiator heater & floor heater puts out not being grid tied. Powering 1500 watts continuously. Now I've setup with lithium batteries & 2000-watt inverter 40 A MPPT controller & 400 watts solar. So technically I have the flexibility with being tied into a community and leaving if I see things not working out. I'd go put the RV in storage for like $70 month and work at a hostel to meet people. With people that have this option then I could see caravans working together as intentional communities. Leaving the person room to leave as they choose. Truly all I need is a bed to sleep in & a place to store food. Finding a community is the difficult part because people are locked to rents & fixed to one location.

Curious to hear experiences with living in an intentional community. I was wanting to look into some kind of lifestyle with: Intentional Communities Eco villages Communes Cohousing Shared housing Hostels

I was curious what others see as potential jobs in the future. Considering: Robots smart phones AI automation smart cars 3d printers spacex fiber optics teleportation? time machine? solar panels electric generators drones etc.

@Tyler Robinson I feel ya. You're the meaning maker @mr_engineer Yeah, I mean getting back to the basics. Coming up with alternative forms of living. Like some form of parallel system. I'm having to brainstorm ideas to truly think outside the box. Divergent thinking. As of now, rent is the biggest obstacle for most people. If people would come together and stop dumping $1000+ per month on rent to landlords that don't really care about the wellbeing of their tenant. All they care about is receiving the payment from them. Now, build tiny villages. Work together and build a collection of tiny homes. Storage systems for people who are living out of their car because they have no better options. Then add on from there to local meet ups. People don't need much to live on. Eventually the whole housing market would crash because no one is willing to pay $1200+ a month in rent when they have alternative options for a fraction of the price. Leading to a pickle where there's a domino effect in the market. Loads of vacant properties. No longer is most of their income going towards rent. Single family home.. Yeah, that's been a big problem for a while. I could see a system similar to hostels. Build like a self-serving hostel village or something. I think people would truly stay in tiny cabins if they were properly built. Then create a network across the country where people can live on the property. Focus on volume. Then do something similar to Earthships or habitat for humanity. Also, similar to how Thousand trails works. The question is with all of the logistics and planning the layouts. Thousand trails is literally $500 for a year access to like dozens of RV parks. Unlimited access. Unlimited 30 amp utilities. 100's of campsites. Literally the lowest way to cut rent and travel in this country that I'm aware of. Tons of people live in the system for nearly less than $50 a month in rent. The only catch is you can only stay at one place for 2 weeks at a time. Unless you have some kind of advanced membership. SOoo some kind of system simlar. Still thinking of ideas. Yeah, it takes a village to raise a child so I could see it being a helping hand for single-mothers who feel completely socially rejected by society. Heck they are raising the next generation and most men don't recognize the consequences.

@Tyler Robinson yep, Ethan means strong. Again, not sure the point of the topic was to presuppose cult mentality to distract. The intent here is not to use presuppositions that's not cool.

@mr_engineer Amen to that brother, if I ever get the funds to create some of this stuff I sure as heck would. Create an environment focused on inclusivity. I took many classes in real estate and had my license a while back. This stuff gets me excited... Truly love the systems thinking behind all of it. Bad ass! I was thinking about getting on google my maps & creating some kind of system of data points. I've been playing around with ArcGIS for a few years too. There truly needs to be some kind of system out there for the public to help connect all the dots and access it. Also, theres a cool site called iOverlander if youre ever traveling. That has helped a ton! I've got a pimped out RV I'd be willing to contribute so I'd sure welcome anyone who wanted to come crash over at it or go on camping trips at no cost as long as they were respectful and fun to be around. Built a hydroponic system inside it too so I could grow stuff in the winter.

Yeah, I feel you on that. Comes down to due diligence and clear boundaries. Good points, still distracts from the original topic at hand I was intending. I was looking for firsthand experiences. I'm not sure all communities and groups are cults or intend to enforce mind control tactics. ( Btw even if you were ever in a cult, gang, MLM, military, witchcraft, etc. I'd still treat you with love & respect. Knowing healthy discernment at the same time. )

I feel ya, I was mostly curious to hear 1st hand experiences. The good, the bad, and any cool cult related stories too. (Hippies are cool. Probably he is right in a certain context of hardcore hippies. Probably are some decent loving, compassionate, and emotionally attuned people too that don't fully identify as the label hippie too.)

Was that from your firsthand experience?

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@Devin I'm the same way about the acceleration of technology and social detachment. However, at the same time can't deny that things will continue to change. I'm mostly curious how to adapt to the changing environment and create a simpler world too. Literally got a dumb phone last week to create more simplicity. Light phone 2 & Punkt MP02 are two phones on the market encouraging what you're saying with focusing on simplicity & mindfulness. Over priced phones but takes away from being glued to the phone 24/7.

@Devin Water vending machines & oxygen generators? @thepixelmonk So automating labour-type jobs and creative jobs will be more dynamic. So artistic jobs and right side of the brain thinking will become more common? @Cat_eyesum depends on how advanced these robots are. I question what will happen to all the common jobs that will be eliminated with automation too. truck drivers insurance companies police garbage men malls farming grocery clerks real estate agencies lawyers judges Yeah... I see what you're saying as I try to think of jobs that won't be eliminated or deeply impacted. Seems like every job is on the table. What jobs can robots not do as good as humans?

I plan to eventually populate more of the cells with job occupations and add more categories. Also, I plan on adding more for the other categories such as online jobs. With interest rates being as low as they are, anything is possible. Yeah, that would be both funny and unfortunate for the person who thought they were covered. Still I'm sure when 30 year mortgages started to become normalized that people were thinking that's a long stretch of time. 1920s 3 - 5 year mortgages 1930's 15-20 year mortgages 1940's - now. 30 year mortgages 2022 + Sell your soul for that damn mortgage. I guess people What's odd is the word mortgage technically means death pledge in like french or spanish or something. Mort = Death? Age = Length of time? I question how time perception works. How the internal clock functions with regards to awareness. Like doing a super boring task it feels like time moves extremely slow. Working a fun task it's like time slips between the fingers. Yet time is supposed to be a linear thing. I know there was some movie called In Time about time being a currency. Instead of cash they were literally trading time. Talk about a paradigm shift. Where literally time is being bought and sold. Selling your life force energy.

Thanks Yarco, here to grow and help other like minds too. Free information to share. Yeah, I mean the earning potential with a job is limited. Yet higher status jobs tend to be higher earning jobs in most cases. Only a few outliers.. Welders can make over a $100s an hour. Literally paid some guy over here in lower alabama $250 to weld a frame. 2 hours & material. That's low here apparently. It's funny because if you ask the average student why they go into debt for a particular degree for a particular job it's usually for the projected earning potential or chasing women. Yet most don't really factor in the total cost and present value of future cashflows then discount it back to a present value. Let alone the accrued debt and time invested that later locks the person in with golden handcuffs. Sucks but it is what it is. Yeah, that is kinda bizzare whole the market value in one location can be so vastly different. I mean, where's the real value behind the property. The value of the wood & fixtures stuff on land is probably the same value in other locations. Yet the idea of owning the land in that location. Just the idea of the geographical location and space. What's stupid is how the amortization schedules work towards paying on that $1.6M alpacha farm and how 30 years is normal. I mean, why can't I get a 40 year mortgage or a 200 year mortgage? The long term total amount of interest when paying on the note ends up being double the cost. Yet I get the whole concept of the time value of money. Still blows my mind that $1.6M farm could be $3M from all the interest accrued. The real question is the value of time? How much is your hour worth? I'm still trying to make sense of the concept of measuring time. What happens if time slows down or speeds up. Say earth starts orbiting faster around that big ass sun. Will people still be compensated the same for their hour? Say that hour felt like 5 hours. Would people even have the awareness to know that time is moving differently. If one minute becomes different. Or being frozen in a time loop. Time is an illusion? I mean, it's all a mindset. Just based on how determined and the price to be paid. All opportunity costs for the pursuit of wealth.

Yeah, it is pretty much cancer of a video lol and not really an objective view on all women. It does prey on emotional reactions at points and looking for something ignorant to be said. It's raw entertainment material and hardcore orange at the max. At the same time it does have some informative aspects. They do point to some serious issues that aren't going away. Which can't be denied for much longer. I'm mostly curious to see both sides of the table. Both with the feminist convention and the Good Ol' boys Club. Both have partial truths and pretty big discrepancies. Clearly, there's a lack in the emotional maturity department with both. @KH2I do think you have a good point about not spreading more hate. Hurt people hurt people. As long as we can have a level of detached perspective and not get consumed by the information I see no issues. Whereas someone who's deeply suffering could get consumed into bitter hate with too much of it. How to integrate polarization? Blacks VS whites Rich VS poor Ugly VS purdy Simp VS pimp Old VS young Women VS men Tech billionaires VS little old ladies LGBTQ vs Mega Churchs Old VS new Yes, probably listed false dichotomies.

Yeah, I mean they aren't afraid to speak their mind. Blunt responses. I mean, it's all about disrespect. The real virus in society is disrespect. Here's a pretty insightful video on disrespect. I spent a stupid amount of time watching videos on disrespect. Love her voice and how she describes disrespect throughout society. Yeah, Self-deception, double standards, and cognitive biases all together are fun stuff.

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Overly sensitive and hystrionic personality disorders can be draining. Still on the other side of the coin of apathetic emotionally blunted people who have an affect phobia. Same thing.

Yeah, this stuff can be frustrating. I'll acknowledge that. We can complain about it which I've done plenty of which only adds to the collective pain. Is what it is. By the end of the day people want to feel loved. They're still human as much as it doesn't seem to some.