Shiva99

Not just masturbation. It's the combination of masturbation and watching porn that is causing most, if not all problems. Life actually does get better if they stop, because they stop running away from their problems. Masturbation and porn are used as a means of escapism and numbing down pain. It's literally like alcohol abuse.

What are you trying to say? Your reaction is exactly what i'm talking about. You seriously have no clue what negative and detrimental effects compulsive masturbation can have on once life.

Why so? What about monks? Do you think they are not normal and crazy? Smoking was okay and natural in the 50s and 60s too.

You really need to get into Dan Peña if you are interested in buying existing businesses. This guy preaches by it. He's quiet a figure though, so i gotta warn you.

Oh yes, it does tremendously. Leo has a good vid on it:

Have you ever tried abstaining for a long time (1-3 months), so you have a framefork of reference to base this conclusion on? I thought the same thing, untill i abstained for a month and "relapsed".

Nope. I'm still having problems with porn myself. I get the same hangover after watching it.

Pushing yourself to be someone you're not is the worst thing you can do. What's wrong with being introverted? You can meet people or get a girlfriend as an introvert through other means if you hate going to bars etc.

Get rid of all social media. Only use LinkedIn for professional purposes.

Hello, I need some advice on how i can best move forward from the position i'm in right now. At the moment i'm unemployed, and i will be starting a new job in about 2 weeks. I will also be moving out of my parents house in about 2 months time, and I know what direction i want to go in, but i'm not sure how to execute my plan from the position i'm in right now, as i don't have any saved up cash. I want to move to a city 4 hours from here, that has a college which i can attend at evenings for 3 days per week. For my situation this will be perfect, as i'm planning on working a dayjob at the same time. This will give me the opportunity to get a Bachelor's degree in Psychology, which i will be using to get an entry level job in the field i want to work in. All of this, is of course related to my Life purpose, and it's my only reason for doing this. The problem however, is again the fact that i don't have any saved up cash, which i need to get a place over there. I've been trying to get a job over there to make the transition easier, but i would have to travel over 4 hours everyday to get back and forth between my house and the city, until i permanently move there. The only solution i see right now is doing a minimum wage job ( i don't have a good degree ) in the area i'm in right now, but this almost doesn't give me the possibility to save up cash, as i will be paying for rent and other expenses at the same time. I'm also scared that i will get stuck and in a rut, just working all the time to make ends meet. For example: today i went to a job interview which is minimum wage, and as i discussed the salary with the boss, it became clear that i will only be getting 1.4k a month at that job. I've been calculating how much i would be able to save up every month, and it's only going to be about 150$. At that rate it will take a long time to get a decent amount of money to move to the city i need to move to. This doesn't feel like the right choice, and it will take too much time ( already 27 and i don't wanna waste more years in the wrong direction). I've also been thinking about getting a loan (5-10k), but this might be a stupid thing to do, as i'm going to be paying this loan of for at least 3-4 years every month. Maybe this will become a burden over time. I'm also not sure if i'm going to be accepted to get a loan, but if i do, this would obviously be a huge leap forward and almost an instant fix to my problem. Any advice is welcome.

Yes, pretty common phenomena. You might want to read the book: "cupid's poisoned arrow", by Marnia Robinson. It explains the "hangover" in detail, and why it's happening. The fix for this would be Karezza ( sex without ejaculation ).

Damn dude how do you watch that stuff for 3 hours?

I'm trying to do the same for a long time now. First few days and up to a week/month are not too hard. After this phase my extreme horniness basically becomes the main focus of my day, and i just can't stop thinking about it at that point. This is why i keep failing. Not sure how to fix it. It's kinda funny tho, cuz sometimes i get into these weeks of falling back into full fapping mode, only to come back and realize i'm rationalizing a serious addiction by telling myself it's not so bad. Disgusting.