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Go back to IT. Make your money. If you break away, you need a goal, plan, a mark to aim for. I have a job. Its not my purpose. I have elements i enjoy but politics, the lack of progression, and overall go nowhere is soul sucking. I seek refuge in knowing that each day moves me closer to the end goal. Do the same. I heard a podcast say, "sometimes you gotta eat shit and grind." unfortunately, we're in that place and time. Try LinkedIn. Tap into your network. Try employment agencies. I did years ago but I still couldn't find a better job. I have seen a lack of productivity and a lot of nonsense but I have to stick with it for now. You might want to talk to your network about what you want. Its 8hrs of whatever. Then, you are free. I wish i stayed in IT. The pay is great. Less contact with idiots. The grass is not always greener. There's no job security. What is your goal?

Grocery shop. Buy less. Not more food. Go 1x a week. If i don't buy it, i won't eat it. No junk food. Pick nutrient dense macro and micro nutrient foods. Get sleep on point. 8 hrs minimum. Cook from home. Don't eat out. Its costly and usually not very healthy. Weigh in once a week, empty stomach, and the same time each week to get accurate results.

My cousin and friends do keto. High fats, protein, and little to no carbs 50-80g. You can also amplify the results by adding in fasting. You can find routines online and watch vblog.s.

I watched 1109 JRE and I bought the book, why we sleep by Mathew Walker. Try your library but honestly the book is a life charger. I cut out coffee after dinner. I workout earlier instead of later. I dim my tv and phone after dinner. I bought blinds. I have a sleep mask. My room is pitch black. I have been dedicating time to maximising my sleep. I have felt better. My training is going well. The quality of my life is 100x better. Read the book. At least, watch the podcast and do the work. Good luck.

JRE1109 podcast with dr Mathew Walker sleep specialist is a incredible watch. Its life changing. The metric by which you measure sleep and the analytics are telling. The best remedy to change your life is sleep. Its free. Lock in that time.

You can't serve two Masters. Get lean. Lose weight. You can gradually gain size but get the abs first. Do it in incremental segments. My favourite youtube channel is AthleanX Jeff Cavalier. He's like almost fifty and he looks like statue of hercules. Former nfl strength trainer abd physio. World class. He doesn't do cardio but he's a outlier, kept body fat to 5%, natural, and spent a lifetime training it. He has maybe a single cheat meal a year. The lowest I've ever been is 8-10% at which point, you have abs visual and no flex. Lastly, abs are made in the kitchen not the gym. Good luck!

Keep going. Two weeks seems like a long break but, i am the sort of character that goes on vacation. Potentially, look at doing 45min to an hour session 3-4 times a week. Its manageable and gives enough time for recovery. I'd highly recommend getting your 8 hrs of sleep down. You will maximise gains and recovery. Furthermore, its impossible to lose weight with crummy sleep. There's certain things released in the body to spark cravings and hunger associated with sleep. The Walker podcast 1109 with rogan is a superb one to watch. Everyone wants to quit the gym lol. Keep it routine.

Get testosterone levels checked. Eat a leafy green high micro and high protein diet. Sleep 8 hours a night. Drinks 3L of water. Start working out. Start jogging. At your age, I was fapping 24/7 lol. SRIs kill libido. Look into counter balance the drugs. You might be off it now but remnants probably are still there. Jon Jones still pops by usada due to the amount of gear he took between breakfast and brunch.

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Live your truth. I enjoy Jordan peterson and Shawn T Smith. The recent APA nonsensical crap that's anti masculinity would steer me away. It is anti science and i can only fathom the indoctrination. How far away from graduation are you? Buddy dropped out of software engineering with a semester to go? Imho its foolish but he is not very motivated. Maybe you will achieve this but really consider the path. I smoked a powerful psychedelic and it was life changing. I have seen some stuff and I wanted to share with the world what it gave me. I am still trying to integrate the experience. For me I want to create a new channel and path rather than the beaten path. Good luck.

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Vet hard. There's far too many fakers selling you on how to sell on a beach mucking donuts and drinking martinis. Tai lopez for example who yes is miw rich but was couch surfing selling programs when broke with rented lambo on garage or Airbnb mansion posing if its his. Eben Pagan is good. Its not easy. I have a few buddies doing e-com. None are rich. They live the digital Nomad lifestyle. I think ones around 50k usd. They got rich ass mentors. They self learned to code. Self learn. The technology keeps changing. One would be rich but government regulations changed. On the solo-preneur path. The struggle is real lol. What are your strengths? Stay in your lane. Network. Play to your talents. Read Seth Godin, Naseem Taleb, Tim Ferris and others. Execute. 9/10 businesses fail. My buddies do 16* hour days. Others have done all nighters. I've seen it kill his health, hair, and social life. Its not free. If it goes tits up, he has no backup, retirement, cv work history that's relevant or any government education. Its all or nothing. And i have a day job lol.. Good luck man.

I have similar shit I've experienced in the past with the workplace. Read the book on Japanese minimalism. There's other books but, I found that one valuable. The point is to get expenses way down. Dave Ramsey says, "rice and beans. Beans and rice." Wake up earlier. Start your hustle once you wake up. Break after work and then jump back on. Space repetitions. Is your business making money? If you get expenses way down, it will be easier for you to pull out of your day job. The biggest factor being that, it must produce and make money. Not be a hobby. Furthermore, your business will not out produce your day job. With expenses down, once you make more than enough to pay for expenses, you are free. Acquire remote work twice a week. At least once. Do 100, more working remote then in the office. Read 4hr work week by Tim Ferris. Click bait title. Don't let it put you off or on. Just read it. No commute or less commute. If they want let you work remote, move on. Look for another gig that will. Even 1day a week working remote is excellent. The sec you minimise expenses and you make even a dollar more, you can move on.

I picked up a girl this year. I ended up in her bedroom. Before I got there, I met a kid about your age who was slightly younger and on the rocks with the gf or ex. It made me extremely cautious lol. Speak with family. You can still live your life. It just will be harder. Its not about you or partying and friends. It's responsibility and night school. Do you have anything or anybody in your church or guidance you can seek? Family or older friends?

You have been domesticated lol. Its one of the things that most annoys me with society and man hating. I am with you on no pornhub. I use to think it was lefty jargon and trad con nonsensical moralising. With age, my perspective has changed. I don't think porn should be censored. Obv age restrictions etc for viewing and partaking obviously. I just note how much wasted time is pissed on porn. Worse, its cuckoldry. You fap to other people which is nasty. You not fapping means higher T. Not lower. There's a lot soy boys. The world doesn't need more. It's a shift. Meditation is great for a hyper active mind but it is best used for action taking after. If you are not fapping, WHY? WHY NO PORN? If you make the conscious choice, hood on you. If you got soy boy guilt tripped this won't end well lol. You need to workout, have more sex, get into jui jitsui or mma. Utilise testosterone. Its superb you get IOIs (approach invitations) from other girls. Likely, you won't have to handle attention seeking behaviour from your gf online. You don't have to cheat. Being wanted by other women is attractive in ways that not being wanted isn't. Utilise the testosterone. Get into yoga with your girl. Learn kamasutra together. Be unapologetic about masculinity, your testosterone, and your truth. Lmfao have sex before yoga. You don't want to be walking around with a semi lol. Use the testosterone. Pound weights. Pound her lol.

Be still and know, i am god.

The fear never goes away. I am reading way of the superior man by David Deida. Where there is fear, you must lean past your edge. People talk fight or fright. They forget FREEZE. Its the medusa mythos. Freezing. Fear paralysing you. I heard elliot Hulse say, breathe into your balls. Grounded. Note shallow breathe when afraid. Deep breathe when. Go past. Train to be a cleaner. Glover wrote about MJ. He felt likr everyone but he acted like nobody else. Learn from the greats before you read about the overcome of fears and obstacles. Autobiography like Nelson Mandela or gandhi.

Do both. Get mentors and self learn. Learn hoe you learn. Learn how you think. Its held me back not knowing. The sooner you know the better.

Read way of the superior man by David Deida. He speaks of purpose, living at your edge and penetrate women and world. I don't know you or where you are at. Its been my experience that after being rudderless or in a haze of ambiguity its where your breakthrough will come.

How do I like your post? This forum is great. Username is in reference to the coffee shop. I feel shame having had to learn game but, again what's the alternative? Leo does it so it must be ok lol. Thoughts on the Scotland pua who was arrested? Torrero and most channels shutting down? I predict it go underground which is not good imho. At least on YouTube it can be monitored. The next iterations will be underground and likely not pc lol.

Yes. Its more complicated than black or white. Regrettably, i learned game and pickup. Girls liked me before but, i was chode and beta. I met in college or high school and from friends. It was social circle or coincidence. I wanted to find a wife, I wanted to date more, get laid more before settling down. Unfortunately, I have learnt game, it can make you jaded. I like sasha and James but I enamored over Mystery and rsd. I never had the attention span of routines and i never dressed up like a idiot. I just seen a whole new world of what is possible. For that, I am forever grateful. Hell, rsd put me onto ecky lol. Rsd helped me with social skills. Tyler. Jlsix, julien, especially. Its a bit too woo woo now and i miss the original stuff. Anyway, aim for self actualization. Purpose, lifestyle, gym, diet, and game or whatever you want to call it. Know thyself. Free tour is free BTW. Its self amusement, no reason you're not enough. Nobody is cut from a fiff cloth. Obv, pending height, looks, resources, lifestyle, SMV, etc its easier or harder. If i was rich, better looking, taller, more game I'd do better. Its a black pill to swallow. Society annoys me. Its the demonising of men, masculinity, etc that led to the pickup, manosphere red pill. A Scotland pua was deplatformed and arrested so, be intelligent. Don't do anything stupid. Watch Swingers. Vincent Vaughan - "i don't like everyone. Everyone doesn't like me. Its cool." ^^^live that. My friend dij told me here. I like it already. I shared with her my experiences and dating. The good, bad, the ugly. Enjoy your journey. Say hello. Make small talk. Take numbers. Just know the noise in your head and reality differ. I got the girl, we went out or hookup and its nothing. I got head from a girl who later ghosted lol. Its that stuff than get at you. You aren't valuable based on your game, who you date or don't. Its knowing on my death bed i did it. No regrets. No wondering what if? Good luck.

I come from a Christian background though far from the model citizen lol. There's the holy trinity. God the father, son, spirit. There's different sacraments like baptism, communion, marriage, etc. The creation story tells a tale about God making woman by removing a rib from man. The unity in marriage is man and woman (2) becoming 1. In keeping with the mythos, its the closest to being like/with God. Furthermore, you create life with the act. I meditate and pray. I am learning about Taoism and Zen, Buddhism, and shinto. Unfortunately I don't know enough about the following to share with you about it there. Should be enough food for thought to play with. I hate the debauchery and degenerate society we have with apps and high body count. The consequences usually is infidelity and inability to pair bond. Ironically enough, the same sexual chemistry that's breaking headboard and furniture is spectacular but counter productive in a marriage or long term relationship. The same man who is delivering that sort of thing is likely not the best hubby or father given the priority.

Its not your situation to deal with. Stay out of it. Be supporting on both sides without investing in the drama. When I was blue pill, I'd think what an asshole a cheater is. After game, red pill, and seeing the world its not black or white. A significant amount of men get cut off from sex especially after the kids come. Its not ideal to cheat but I don't know the circumstances nor is it my business. My buddy is married. He had to have a convo with his wife. He comes from a long line of womanisers. He's chosen monogamy but he explained to his wife that he needs it. That if he's made the commitment of marriage and he's not getting it, its going to happen. He said he picked her. She's his first choice but if she's switched off he's going elsewhere. Needless to say, problems solved.

I don't know how to like your post. I am new lol. My friend broke up with his gf. She's beautiful. I am scratching my head about it honestly. He didn't see a future so, he ended it. I respect that. Some guys are ruthless. They will drag a woman through her twenties and drop her off at 30. My buddy's ex is pretty, she's young, and can meet someone else. You've taken a great attitude. You can leave space for someone else when the right person comes along. In the meantime, reconnect with friends. I notice my guy friends are tight but thr girls ditch each other when a bf comes along. I have no use for guy friends or people like that. So, spend time with friends.

I am no don Juan. I learned game and pickup to avoid decade and not talkie to a crush. Its not like the movie. It is not easy. Even more off putting is seeing the girls sleeping with all the same men. Seeing girls i had a crush on become a single mom. Shocker to get red pilled and see how it really goes on in the world. Nevermind pickup or game. Cultivate a life worth living. Similar to dating and fighting, hesitation never ends well. Uber was originally Magic Cab. One executed. The other is a fantasy. The solution imho (for what its worth) is options. Date. Actually approach someone. Start a convo. You immediately see who you like, make a friend or get a date. More importantly, what's the alternative? I sure have not figured it out yet lol. I am single. I had a weird experience where a girl gave me head then ghosted lol. I use to get angry. I use to mental masturbate about it. Its not worth the mental capacity nor time. You are the constant in your life. Start here. If i were to guess, your anger is likely being projected onto her when she got a bf and you failed to step up. I met a new girl. I may get rejected. I wont be shy in my pursuit. I don't recommend hesitation in your future.